What you as a woman like in women.

Ambersky

I thought this might be interesting. I know there is a thread about what we like in men but what do we like in other women.

I myself am Lesbian, so maybe I have a bit more to like about women than some of you, but whatever you like about other women is welcome in this thread.

Growing up, women or other girls have been my main confidants and my main support.
I loved the way the girls I grew up with not only wanted to do things but to talk intimately sometimes in groups but especially on a one to one and a best friend was a thing to treasure.
I liked the way my girl friends could often sense when something was wrong or when something was right even before telling them and that we were interested in one anothers lives.
Adult women told me how they coped with life, encouraged and supported me to be able to have a better life than they did. There was great humour and a sense of camaraderie among the older women I knew. I was educated by women when free secondary education came in and one of the nuns gave up her friday evenings for several months, for free, to prepare me for college, no one in my family had made it past primary school untill then.

Now as an adult I still share my inner life with other women and I am still supported by women who understand empathise and tell me how they handle various life crisis and achievements as well as simply what they make of it all.
I love the softness of women, the strength of women, the beauty, the vulnerability, wisdom, laughter and shared understanding of women.
How about you?

Lou.m

I'm BI.
Can I join in?:P


Chats at midnight. Things that might sound crazy in daylight hrs.

The emotional response. The empathy and knowledge of what to say and how I might feel or what I might need to hear.

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Lou.m

Ooh I just got another one.

Helping women choose outfits and doing the fashion show bit.

Just did that !!

I love doing that with girlfriends.

Mc Kenzie

I think its nice that girls tend to connect easier and discuss wether private or confidential things. I know not everyone is the same and not all people are like this as im quite private myself. But even with the girls in work, its great to be able to share problems, chat and banter about close, celeb gossip, ect. I think there is an understanding in some of us girls also.

I love when you meet a another woman for the first time and find yourself laughing your heads off together because you hit it off so much. I just started a new job and I've met one woman who I know is going to become a good friend, even though I've only known her a week.

I love the silent intimate knowledge we have of one another, and how those common threads of womanhood are acknowledged. I love how you can have conversations that start off about the comparative size of dark matter in the universe, but end up about the comparative hotness of Channing Tatum and Chris Pine. I like women who don't take themselves seriously and are comfortable with themselves, and from that point of view things just get better as we get older and more confident.

I love the insights, the differences, the shared experiences, the unquestioning support and most of all, the laughs.

ETA: One thing I love about women is you can tell them a problem and they don't try to 'fix' it or you. Women are less likely to tell you what you 'should' do. I'm not saying all men do either, but they're more likely to look for solutions and offer them than let you just let it all out without interjection.

iwantmydinner

The best people in my life are women. I'm attracted to men, I'm a huge fan of men, I am looking forward to finding the man I want to partner up with for life and am lucky enough to have some close male friends, but it's women who have been my rock. My mother, my sisters, my best friends. I genuinely couldn't begin to list the qualities and attributes they possess.

ETA: what Candie said about not fixing

baby and crumble

Just to drag the thread down slightly, I love womens bodies. I'm not saying "rwaaarrrr BEWBS!" or anything, but every woman has a beautiful body, no matter what they think. They way we move, smell, react to touch (hugs just as much as sexy times...)... Women are amazing.

To mirror the other thread, what I appreciate most in women is a fiestiness... those kind of women that just will not put up with your bull****, thank you very much. The ones that seem like "the office bitch" but are actually so sweet underneath. I guess a velvet glove in an iron fist, to misuse a phrase.

Dark hair, beautiful eyes and a smirk do it for me every. single. time. And glasses and I'm a gonner.

Intelligence. I find women who read to be incredibly beautiful. (I get dangerously distracted in bookshops and libraries...). The ability to have a full, deep conversation about the nature of good, and then to suddenly start talking about how certain insects built their shells out of leaves.

I like women (personally) who look like they know how to cook, or at least how to eat. Nothing is a bigger let down than a woman who can't enjoy food. I equate food to sex, and if you have a good appetite for one...

Das Kitty

I'm rather partial to a nice tummy.

Merkin

I love women who don't try and keep up a pretense of being perfect/everything being well all the time. I think some women can be ridiculously competitive with one another and it makes for them being quite uptight whereas women who are very candid and upfront appeal to me because I'm quite like that myself I suppose.

I've always been of the opinion that there will always be someone brighter than me, someone prettier than me, someone funnier than me, someone with slimmer thighs than me and consequently it's great to meet women who are secure in themselves and don't get jealous or feel threatened.

I love sharing confidences and experiences with other women. I love with my Mum or good friends being able to share "a look" and it speaks a thousand words as women have this innate intuition which is like a secret language. I love the kindness and empathy (decent) women show one another. And I love being able to have a really good giggle with other women as well, you know when only another woman will "get" where you're coming from?

Also, since being pregnant, I find other women are hugely supportive and generous with advice and help.

--LOS--

Well I like girls and boys :P But women are a lot more physically attractive, personality wise I don't think I could say something about women that is just unique to women. Guys are easier to get on with I think, I don't really meet girls that I get on well with I think probably just coz of what I do, usually surrounded by guys. With guys it's sometimes awkward, you can't be friendly without somebody making silly assumptions, doesn't really happen with women.

pwurple

Merkin wrote: »

I love women who don't try and keep up a pretense of being perfect/everything being well all the time. I think some women can be ridiculously competitive with one another and it makes for them being quite uptight

Uptight is a bit harsh on competitive women. I'm competitive. I always try to do everything I attempt to the very best of my abilities, don't think anyone has ever called my competive streak "uptight" before though.

I love women who are strong, ambitious, and above all else, ferociously competitive! The women who push themselves to improve things for themselves, their families, other women and their communities. The amazing way loads of women can keep multiple tasks going at the same time... Like running their own businesses, keeping a family happy, having friends, a good laugh, and keeping in good health.

baby and crumble

pwurple wrote: »

Uptight is a bit harsh on competitive women. I'm competitive. I always try to do everything I attempt to the very best of my abilities, don't think anyone has ever called my competive streak "uptight" before though.

I love women who are strong, ambitious, and above all else, ferociously competitive! The women who push themselves to improve things for themselves, their families, other women and their communities. The amazing way loads of women can keep multiple tasks going at the same time... Like running their own businesses, keeping a family happy, having friends, a good laugh, and keeping in good health.

I think the point was though the women who are competitive with each other as opposed to in general. I not understand that kind of competition, why compete with another woman for resources or companions? Doing your best is grand, but I get what she means about competing with each other.

A small example that I come up against occasionally is not with other women in general, but with other butch women. Since I have started embracing that side of myself, I have very much noticed a certain 'bristling' of other butch women when I'm around. A puffing up of the chest, or something. Particularly from younger women and some of the more insecure butch women. It's like they want to enter a pissing contest. Very odd. So when I am around women who aren't like that it's very nice!!!

Dolbert

baby and crumble wrote: »

I think the point was though the women who are competitive with each other as opposed to in general. I not understand that kind of competition, why compete with another woman for resources or companions? Doing your best is grand, but I get what she means about competing with each other.

A small example that I come up against occasionally is not with other women in general, but with other butch women. Since I have started embracing that side of myself, I have very much noticed a certain 'bristling' of other butch women when I'm around. A puffing up of the chest, or something. Particularly from younger women and some of the more insecure butch women. It's like they want to enter a pissing contest. Very odd. So when I am around women who aren't like that it's very nice!!!

Yeah I took it to mean that too. Women who are constantly competitive with other women about appearances, family life, keeping up with the Jones' etc.

The things I love most about women are their supportiveness, empathy and ability to share! Women are ace.

I love having a laugh with them, had a great night with two friends of mine from my teenage years one night a few weeks ago, there wasn't even much wine involved we were mostly drinking tea! its funny but it is different when its all female company different conversations, a sort of easy familiarity, not that mixed company is not fun as well but it a different kind of fun.

pwurple

baby and crumble wrote: »

I think the point was though the women who are competitive with each other as opposed to in general. I not understand that kind of competition, why compete with another woman for resources or companions? Doing your best is grand, but I get what she means about competing with each other.

A small example that I come up against occasionally is not with other women in general, but with other butch women. Since I have started embracing that side of myself, I have very much noticed a certain 'bristling' of other butch women when I'm around. A puffing up of the chest, or something. Particularly from younger women and some of the more insecure butch women. It's like they want to enter a pissing contest. Very odd. So when I am around women who aren't like that it's very nice!!!

Yeah I know what you mean, but that's either a lack of confidence, or figuring out where you lie in the group. I sometimes accompany a woman who has an impressive career behind her. I often see groups bristling when she arrives first, sizing her up, plenty of people being intimidated. She takes it in her stride, almost as a compliment. Embrace the bristles, take it as a sign that you are possibly what they aspire to be.

Naturally competitive women are insecure sometimes of course, but not all the time, because they know they are doing their best. They have more of a "like it or lump it" attitude, rather than starting meaningless pissing contests.

Edit to add, I guess it's hard to post in a thread about what you love in women, without it starting to turn into what you don't like in women... But competing with eachother can be really good too! Would Sonia O'Sullivan have gotten to the olympics if she didn't directly compete with other women? Perhaps what was meant was vanity and materialism. I really do love competitive women. I think they are awesome.

Neyite

pwurple wrote: »

Embrace the bristles, take it as a sign that you are possibly what they aspire to be.

Thats an inspirational quote for a sig right there. I like it.

Merkin

I meant competing with each other on ridiculous issues, not actually being competitive.

ShiftStorm

I love brave, real women. Sometimes, it's not easy to be a woman because of ridiculously high standards that are placed on us. Women who will look at those expectations and say "I'm me and that's just perfectly alright with me." They are inspiring to me.

I love the safety I feel when I'm with women. When I can bemoan sexism and no one jumps in to belittle my experience but is compassionate and understanding instead.

I love being able to act the clown, use toilet humour or be open about bodily weirdness with other women and there's no one turning up their noses and saying that it's a 'turn off' :rolleyes:

Most of all, I love the empathy, warmth, humour, vulnerability, kindness and honesty that I experience in my female friendships. I used to be one of those women who would diss female friendships and say that men were "simpler, less bitchy or easier to get on with" or whatever. I've since realised I had simply been trying to be friends with the wrong women! Men are great of course. But so are women

10 minutes ago a woman I've only met twice brought in a potted plant in a lovely ceramic pot for my new office. She's made my day.

You can't beat the ladies for the spontaneous thoughtful gesture.:)

LostGirl88

For me, it's very different even just kissing and holding a girl than a guy..
It's more sensual, I like curves, and a sparkle in the girls eye.. It's hot and I'd defo like to be with some girls before I hit the bucket lol

Vojera

I like the squidgy bits of women! They're so cuddly.

And I love hugs. I find women in general are better huggers and also more free with their hugs. Got a new job? Have a hug! Relationship broke up? Have a hug! Going home, see you later? Have a hug! So many different types of hug and it costs nothing to give.

beks101

Kindness above everything. I love a woman who is generous in any way - with her time, with her possessions, with her words, with her compassion towards others, with her support of her female friends.

I think that kindness can lend itself to this wonderful, joyous comradery between women, a sort of affinity that is unspoken and so special.

I love when it happens with random female strangers. When I think of it, that was how many of my own female friendships got off the ground. A colleague at work who took time out of her day to give me advice, tips, side-notes about other colleagues when I first started the job. A random girl ahead of me in the queue at Topshop who turned around and gave me a 20-pounds-off voucher "because I have one spare and sure it's about to expire, you may as well take it!" who subsequently became one of my best friends. A random group of women who lifted my ridiculously heavy luggage up a flight of steep steps in the subway station when I first arrived in Toronto - who became some of my closest friends over there.

I think that sort of regard and respect for others shows a real strength of character, a sort of quiet confidence and comfort in herself that she's so open and embracing of friends and strangers alike. And it immediately draws me to someone.

WellThen?

Women don't make you feel stupid and correct you as much. They will listen and find a common ground rather than give you a "logical" explanation for how you are feeling. A lot of the time you need somebody to listen, not to tell you why you are wrong and what you should feel in a certain situation.

Also there is a different closeness that is between two women, a kind of "we're both in this together" bond. I don't get to spend that much time with women and it's something I crave a lot.