Bored with it all?

Witchie

Anyone else just feel totally bored with their lives and want to just sell everything and go travelling?

I have another 5 months of a college course to do and 2 more years of being "mammy" at home until my youngest heads off to college and I just feel more and more frustrated and trapped. I want to go off on my life adventures NOW.

Thinking of planning a trip to celebrate end of college but then no one is there for my young lad while I gallavant for a few weeks around America so don't know what to do.

Anyone else feel like that? Anyone else want to come to New York, San Francisco, Vegas and Orlando with me? I have free accommodation in all but SF!

Thinking of driving across the states either. In fact I just don't care what I do as long as I do something before I go insane after 20 years of having my life on hold raising my kids.

Agggh.....Help!

DEFTLEFTHAND

A dream of mine would be to rent a ford mustang in NY and drive it cross country to LA taking in all the sites along the way.

You should think about doing something mad if its your first time free in years.

Witchie

But I am not really going to be as free as I would like coz my poor lad would be left home alone for 2 weeks with no one to look after him. Is it wise leaving an albeit sensible 16 yr old boy home alone?

obezyana

I'm not bored at all La Liga football is just about to start and there is Boxing on the TV later it's gonna be a good night Happy days one might say.








* Yes I'd love to pack up and tour the world. 3 kids a girlfriend a house 2 dogs all put brakes in that idea.

Tin Foil Hat

Witchie wrote: »

Anyone else just feel totally bored with their lives and want to just sell everything and go travelling?

How much would I get for two kids?

batistuta9

Witchie wrote: »

But I am not really going to be as free as I would like coz my poor lad would be left home alone for 2 weeks with no one to look after him. Is it wise leaving an albeit sensible 16 yr old boy home alone?

you're only going for 2 weeks :pac:

wait till he goes to college & head off for years.

orangesoda

I finish university next week, I don't even have the money to go to Cavan never mind New York

endacl

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

A dream of mine would be to rent a ford mustang in NY and drive it cross country to LA taking in all the sites along the way.

You should think about doing something mad if its your first time free in years.

I have two friends doing that at the moment on their honeymoon.

Lucky gits.

pablo128

16 is a grand age. He'll have a few mates over all right, but get someone you trust like a friendly neighbour to drop in every night and it'll be alright. We were left at home most summer weekends at that age while my folks brought my younger brothers and sister down to Wexford.
He'd be delighted being left at home to be honest.

D1stant

Witchie wrote: »

But I am not really going to be as free as I would like coz my poor lad would be left home alone for 2 weeks with no one to look after him. Is it wise leaving an albeit sensible 16 yr old boy home alone?

Go for it. I can see a movie script (picture a blend of Ferris Bueller + Thelma & Louise)

Temptamperu

In my professional opinion you should take some drugs. It makes doing nothing, something!

Witchie

batistuta9 wrote: »

you're only going for 2 weeks :pac:

wait till he goes to college & head off for years.

That is the intention. I am going to sell my house and live my life. Looking at buying a small apartment in our town so they always have a home to come to but really want to get the hell outta here.

We had the chance about 8 years ago to move to Florida, and despite their dad being barely in their lives they wouldn't move coz they wanted to stay in Ireland to be near him.

My boys are my world so I stayed. Just feel frustrated and feel that when he does go to college I will probably get cancer or some such and not be able to live my life. I feel that putting it on hold is asking for trouble. Maybe if had some excitement in my life here would feel less like this but my life is a bland mix of college and mammying with the odd good night thrown in.

I am the only member of my family in Ireland at the moment and just feel trapped.

grrr.

As for being able to afford it Orangesoda, I have been saving like mad for a few years now, putting €20 a week into the credit union so that I can have a holiday and then when the house is sold, emigrate.

Pedro K

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

A dream of mine would be to rent a ford mustang in NY and drive it cross country to LA taking in all the sites along the way.

You should think about doing something mad if its your first time free in years.

Better yet. Do it on a motorbike.

NegativeCreep

Just dump him on some relatives for 2 weeks. Be grand.

Witchie

pablo128 wrote: »

16 is a grand age. He'll have a few mates over all right, but get someone you trust like a friendly neighbour to drop in every night and it'll be alright. We were left at home most summer weekends at that age while my folks brought my younger brothers and sister down to Wexford.
He'd be delighted being left at home to be honest.

Actually he is the kinda kid would rather be home alone than have mates over annoying him and worrying him about wrecking stuff. That could change of course and he would be 17 a few days after I return. Ach Just don't like the thoughts of going off without him but as he will be in 5th year it wouldn't be right taking him out of school.

Reedsie

NegativeCreep wrote: »

Just dump him on some relatives for 2 weeks. Be grand.

Maybe don't mention the duration.

"Would you mind him for a bit?"

You don't even have to get out of the car.

weldoninhio

Witchie wrote: »

Anyone else just feel totally bored with their lives and want to just sell everything and go travelling?

I have another 5 months of a college course to do and 2 more years of being "mammy" at home until my youngest heads off to college and I just feel more and more frustrated and trapped. I want to go off on my life adventures NOW.

Thinking of planning a trip to celebrate end of college but then no one is there for my young lad while I gallavant for a few weeks around America so don't know what to do.

Anyone else feel like that? Anyone else want to come to New York, San Francisco, Vegas and Orlando with me? I have free accommodation in all but SF!

Thinking of driving across the states either. In fact I just don't care what I do as long as I do something before I go insane after 20 years of having my life on hold raising my kids.

Agggh.....Help!

I'll come!! I'd love to travel America, did California a few years ago and it was amazing!!!

catallus

The grass is always greener on the other side, and the bluest hills are far away. Forewarned is forearmed, but fine words butter no parsnips. Nothing ventured, nothing gained and it's a long road that has no turning. When one door shuts, another door opens, and you can't make an omelette without breaking eggs!

Witchie

NegativeCreep wrote: »

Just dump him on some relatives for 2 weeks. Be grand.

Only have older aunts and uncles around here now and he would hate that.

ratmouse

Id be up for it too! Nothing wrong with a bit of adventure!

smcgiff

Witchie wrote: »

Only have older aunts and uncles around here now and he would hate that.

Tell him they are considering including him in their will. He'll be as good as gold and think he's on a mission for the two weeks.

Narcissus

catallus wrote: »

The grass is always greener on the other side, and the bluest hills are far away. Forewarned is forearmed, but fine words butter no parsnips. Nothing ventured, nothing gained and it's a long road that has no turning. When one door shuts, another door opens, and you can't make an omelette without breaking eggs!

where are there blue hills?

catallus

They're over there, but they're far away!

caustic 1

We have the Bluestack Mountains up here in Donegal, other than that blue ridge Mountains of Virginia would be next bet.:pac:

SEPT 23 1989

I thinkl a torrid affair with a mystery toyboy would get you out of that rut

Legs.Eleven

I think he´d be grand for 2 weeks on his own, OP. I really think you should head off an enjoy yourself. I totally approve!! You totally deserve it and your son is at an age where he can look after himself (can you get someone to drop in an check on him every few days?). I understand you´re worried as any mother would be but from my POV, I don´t think there´s anything realy stopping you. GOOOOO!!!

Menas

endacl wrote: »

I have two friends doing that at the moment on their honeymoon.

Lucky gits.

We did that on our honeymoon in 2008. One of the top 5 holidays ever! We took our tome and spent 3 weeks at it.

mad muffin

Witchie wrote: »

Anyone else just feel totally bored with their lives and want to just sell everything and go travelling?

I have another 5 months of a college course to do and 2 more years of being "mammy" at home until my youngest heads off to college and I just feel more and more frustrated and trapped. I want to go off on my life adventures NOW.

Thinking of planning a trip to celebrate end of college but then no one is there for my young lad while I gallavant for a few weeks around America so don't know what to do.

Anyone else feel like that? Anyone else want to come to New York, San Francisco, Vegas and Orlando with me? I have free accommodation in all but SF!

Thinking of driving across the states either. In fact I just don't care what I do as long as I do something before I go insane after 20 years of having my life on hold raising my kids.

Agggh.....Help!

Your kids are your life, or don't you know?

Besides they wrote a song about you, so whatcha got to be complaining about? :pac:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xra9eg4SQ40

Witchie

Just off the phone with my brother and he is trying to convince me to not go to the States and come to Thailand with him and his finance who is Thai. They are not long back and planning another trip in October so maybe I should go there instead.

Yeah my son will be grand. Will ask a mate or 2 of mine to look in on him and to bring him to town shopping when he needs to. Feck it I need a life!

Witchie

Just off the phone with my brother and he is trying to convince me to not go to the States and come to Thailand with him and his finance who is Thai. They are not long back and planning another trip in October so maybe I should go there instead.

Yeah my son will be grand. Will ask a mate or 2 of mine to look in on him and to bring him to town shopping when he needs to. Feck it I need a life!

Witchie

SEPT 23 1989 wrote: »

I thinkl a torrid affair with a mystery toyboy would get you out of that rut

Oh and this is always an option I am open to exploring!

Legs.Eleven

Witchie wrote: »

Just off the phone with my brother and he is trying to convince me to not go to the States and come to Thailand with him and his finance who is Thai. They are not long back and planning another trip in October so maybe I should go there instead.

Yeah my son will be grand. Will ask a mate or 2 of mine to look in on him and to bring him to town shopping when he needs to. Feck it I need a life!

Well go to the place you want to see most but make sure you go somewhere.



I understand your need to get away; feeling the same myself.

Pwindedd

Have you asked him how he'd feel about it. He might like some space too. We went to New York last year and left our daughter 17 at home for 6 days. She loved every minute of it, had a couple of sleepovers, nothing got broken or damaged. We know a few people on our road that kept an eye out so that helped.

Most teenagers love the opportunity to be proven responsible. They want to be treated like grown ups.

Just make sure your insurance is up to date and you have a back up adult on hand

Witchie

Yeah he is all up for it. I just feel bad coz have been sick for the past 2 weeks and he has had to do most of the cooking and cleaning and feel like it would be unfair to leave him for 2 weeks having to do that again. He is a great responsible young fella though and have no real worries, just feel guilty!

Pwindedd

Witchie wrote: »

Yeah he is all up for it. I just feel bad coz have been sick for the past 2 weeks and he has had to do most of the cooking and cleaning and feel like it would be unfair to leave him for 2 weeks having to do that again. He is a great responsible young fella though and have no real worries, just feel guilty!

Guilt is a wasted emotion - you've earned some "me" time. Don't feel bad for doing something for yourself. He'll benefit from your happiness and will see that Mum is a strong independent person with dreams of her own. Go for it.

Witchie

They know that, bar the moving to another country I have always followed my dreams. When I would think about changing jobs or going back to college they would be consulted but they knew I would do what I want really, the only thing I have never done is make them move from their school and friends coz they wanted that stability.

Yeah feck it gonna probably go to Thailand so!

Now....anyone want to housesit a teenager for a few weeks?

pragmatic1

I feel like running away almost every day of my life. Just can't afford to and likely won't for a very long time.

UCDVet

I feel like I've been there and done that. But if you stop and think about it, at the end of it all, what will be different? In my experience, nothing.

Go to the United States, see some sights. Yeah, it's cool. But on your way there, you'll pass plenty of Americans who feel the same way you do, only they grew up in the US so they're off to Ireland or the UK or France or whatever else. Thinking life will somehow be different there.

You'll spend a bunch of time driving on the other side of the road. And you'll get to see some American landmarks or whatever. Maybe you'll meet some people, or if you're looking for it, find romance. But all of those things could be found here. And whether it's a trip around the US or a trip around Dublin, in a few days, weeks, or months, it's over. And then it's back to regular life. And it'll be boring.

Even if you move completely and get a new job and start a new life in another country....at least from where I'm sitting, it's all the same. I moved 10 hours away from my family when I was out of university for a few years and after the initial 'wow this is sooooo different' feeling goes away, you realize it's all the same. Go to work, pay your taxes, sit around and do the same stuff you always do with people you know. In my case, I did that for five years or so, then moved again (to Dublin). And it was new and exciting for 2-3 months but really, it didn't take long. I had a job, an apartment, and I did all the same regular 'boring' things that everyone does.

Maybe it's just me, and I don't mean to imply you shouldn't go, but when I felt 'bored with it all' I found that getting away (whether a vacation or permanent move) is a short-term solution at best. Two amazing weeks or months in the US, and then you'll come back and it'll be regular life again. Stay in the US and it'll become regular life again. You'll end up back where you are (only with less money).

At least, in my opinion.

If you feel bored you should look for why that is and address it.

mfceiling

Witchie wrote: »

Anyone else just feel totally bored with their lives and want to just sell everything and go travelling?

I have another 5 months of a college course to do and 2 more years of being "mammy" at home until my youngest heads off to college and I just feel more and more frustrated and trapped. I want to go off on my life adventures NOW.

Thinking of planning a trip to celebrate end of college but then no one is there for my young lad while I gallavant for a few weeks around America so don't know what to do.

Anyone else feel like that? Anyone else want to come to New York, San Francisco, Vegas and Orlando with me? I have free accommodation in all but SF!

Thinking of driving across the states either. In fact I just don't care what I do as long as I do something before I go insane after 20 years of having my life on hold raising my kids.

Agggh.....Help!

So you're single and looking for fun, and you've got somewhere for us to stay in the states, and you don't care what you do!!

Are you a MILF?

humbert

While it's tempting to be cynical I'll say go by yourself and for as long as you can manage. College is wasted on many (as a growing up experience) people because they are within arm's reach of home and you'll enjoy your travels just as much solo.

McChubbin

OP, I know the feeling of being caught in a rut. I'm doing a very lacklustre course in "employability skills" which generally consists of sitting in front of a computer from 9am to 4pm Monday to Friday searching for jobs on the world's slowest, buggiest computers. Every position that looks promising requires X amount of experience and it is utterly soul destroying. I've been desperately searching for places to have work experience and heard nothing back and it got to the stage where I just had to say "**** this" and take a week off for the sake of my sanity.
I'm dreading going in on Monday but it has to be done.
Someone give me the winning Lotto numbers so I can quit this dire course and go live in Spain, spending my days writing mediocre erotica and sipping Rioja on my villa terrence?

Witchie

UCDVet wrote: »

I feel like I've been there and done that. But if you stop and think about it, at the end of it all, what will be different? In my experience, nothing.

Go to the United States, see some sights. Yeah, it's cool. But on your way there, you'll pass plenty of Americans who feel the same way you do, only they grew up in the US so they're off to Ireland or the UK or France or whatever else. Thinking life will somehow be different there.

You'll spend a bunch of time driving on the other side of the road. And you'll get to see some American landmarks or whatever. Maybe you'll meet some people, or if you're looking for it, find romance. But all of those things could be found here. And whether it's a trip around the US or a trip around Dublin, in a few days, weeks, or months, it's over. And then it's back to regular life. And it'll be boring.

Even if you move completely and get a new job and start a new life in another country....at least from where I'm sitting, it's all the same. I moved 10 hours away from my family when I was out of university for a few years and after the initial 'wow this is sooooo different' feeling goes away, you realize it's all the same. Go to work, pay your taxes, sit around and do the same stuff you always do with people you know. In my case, I did that for five years or so, then moved again (to Dublin). And it was new and exciting for 2-3 months but really, it didn't take long. I had a job, an apartment, and I did all the same regular 'boring' things that everyone does.

Maybe it's just me, and I don't mean to imply you shouldn't go, but when I felt 'bored with it all' I found that getting away (whether a vacation or permanent move) is a short-term solution at best. Two amazing weeks or months in the US, and then you'll come back and it'll be regular life again. Stay in the US and it'll become regular life again. You'll end up back where you are (only with less money).

At least, in my opinion.

If you feel bored you should look for why that is and address it.

I hear ya and agree. I just feel that there has to be more to life than living in a small town. I lived in Dublin before but moved back to bring my sons up and would do it again in a heartbeat, just need a change of scenery now. I have always had a wanderlust, as has my dad, and find it hard to be "trapped" in one place. When my responsibilities to my boys are done with, I am going to try and fill the void with adventures and travels rather than stay for another 20 years in the one spot. Maybe I will find that boring after a few months and be glad to come home but I will never find out if I don't give it a shot.

I am actually quite content in my life as it is at the moment, bar this last 2 weeks where ill health has held me back, but when am better again I will be back to myself. I am quite enjoying my course and the thoughts that come September I will have finally gotten the degree I put off to have kids is keeping me going. Not having finished my education was my only regret in life.

I have some amazing friends and while my family are not there for me much I know am loved and they will have my back. I don't have a significant other which does bother me a little but at the same time I worry if I did that he would hold me back from going on my adventures so am happy enough to fly solo until my wanderlust is cured or I find someone willing to come with me.

I just feel like there is still so much I want to see and do in the world and while I am relatively young (40) I worry that time will run out so am impatient to get going.

mfceiling wrote: »

So you're single and looking for fun, and you've got somewhere for us to stay in the states, and you don't care what you do!!

Are you a MILF?

I wish I was a MILF! Well if you are into overweight-but-still-kinda-hot-mammas then yes I suppose I am!

McChubbin wrote: »

OP, I know the feeling of being caught in a rut. I'm doing a very lacklustre course in "employability skills" which generally consists of sitting in front of a computer from 9am to 4pm Monday to Friday searching for jobs on the world's slowest, buggiest computers. Every position that looks promising requires X amount of experience and it is utterly soul destroying. I've been desperately searching for places to have work experience and heard nothing back and it got to the stage where I just had to say "**** this" and take a week off for the sake of my sanity.
I'm dreading going in on Monday but it has to be done.
Someone give me the winning Lotto numbers so I can quit this dire course and go live in Spain, spending my days writing mediocre erotica and sipping Rioja on my villa terrence?

Who is Terrence and what has he got to do with it? You sound a bit like me. Writing is what I really want, and I don't mean the classic novel, more a bit of chick lit and/or webased journalism but am being more realistic and training in Digital Marketing which will still give me my creative outlet.

Menas

It sounds like you need a travel experience rather than a holiday. That is why I think you should go to the US rather than Thailand. If you go with the latter will things be a bit too structured as you will be with your brother and his wife?

Either way, get your ass on a plane and let you hair down. The young fella is old enough and I ma guessing that you have raised a sensible young man who can be trusted.

PizzamanIRL

Bring your son with you to the airport. Plant some drugs on him. Keep your distance while he gets arrested. Have a lovely holiday and come home and explain how it was a big mistake and get your son back safe and sound. He'll be well fed and have a roof over his head.

Thank me later.

CelticRambler

I'm inclined to agree with both TriggerHappy and UCDVet - I can't see how a two week holiday in either the US or Thailand is going to give you want you want. If you've got free accommodation in the US, I guess that means family/friends, so whether you go East with your brother&wife or West, you're going to be fitting in to someone else's routine. Two weeks is really short, too, if you're trying "find yourself" and have to fit the actual travel into it too. I'm one of those who prefers the travelling to the arriving, but for that to work best, you've got to allow time for "stuff" to happen on the journey!

Witchie

San Fran and Vegas would be family free and can just arrange to meet some friends for dinner or whatever if feel like I need it!

I think I just need a holiday at the moment coz have had non-stop and I mean only 2 weeks at Christmas and 2 weeks in the summer, of studying and college work for just over a year. Am doing a really intense degree in one year straight after doing a one year diploma so feel like am smothered with college work and just need to break free from it more than anything, yet spent most of last night looking at post grad stuff to do!

Aw I just need a mini adventure to keep me going until I can go on the real one when my son goes to Uni.

ToddyDoody

I'm quite bored with mine at the best of times. I'd love some time to be shut away somewhere and read, cook and do whatever... but I'd be too young for that craic

MadYaker

Kids = game over.

Donkey Oaty

Witchie, some cracking fares on holidaypirates.com at the moment to both West Coast USA and Bangkok. I reckon you can do both.

Witchie

Seems Thailand might be off the table now.....Thailand under martial law

whirlpool

I've never felt so bored with life as much as I have the past year.

My favourite part of your post, OP, was the twist where it turned out that you are a mother with a grown child, and that you weren't who these threads usually come from, i.e. annoying 23 year olds. :pac:

If I had the funds, I would be gone like a shot, but I don't. I'd love to be one of those people who just "upped and left to [insert big city here] with nothing but the shirt on their back and a fiver in their pocket" but I'm afraid that that is not really possible, and those people are liars.