How creepy are you?

beks101

Just had a chat with a single friend of mine who told me she's been doing the Tinder thing for the last few weeks but hasn't committed to a date yet because 'on researching the guys I was chatting to, I lost interest'.

'Researching' meant subtly acquiring a surname and going to town on google, facebook, twitter, linkedIn and whatever you're havin yerself sir.

It reminds me of a time a few years ago when I met a guy on some dating website, might have been OKCupid or something and we arranged to have drinks. During the date he asked me all the token questions, where are you from, what do you do etc, and as the drinks rolled the conversation suddenly took a sharp turn -

He told me that he'd already known the answers to all of my questions because he'd found me on facebook (which is private thank jesus), checked out my linkedIn ('which was how I knew that you work at X as a Y') stalked my Twitter for a bit (which was 'disappointing because it was all work updates, not very personal' :eek::eek:) and had found a couple of articles I wrote online.

At the time I didn't know whether to be appalled or impressed: that's some commitment. Plus it takes a distinct set of skills and intelligence to connect the dots in a complete stranger's life in that way.

So my question to you, good folks of AH - is how creepy are you? If you're single and internet-date - have you ever done a full background check on a perspective date? How far have you gone in the name of internet stalking?

ScumLord

beks101 wrote: »

So my question to you, good folks of AH - is how creepy are you?

Is me 13 creepies me is.

recyclebin

Eh, is that not the point of facebook?

voz es

Tinder.... it had such promise at the start. now all it is, is an ego boosting app. How many like me... oh no i'm not going to date somebody I meet online blah blah blah.

Do everybody a favour if you just want to chat dont go on a dating website, the hint is in the name

recyclebin

recyclebin wrote: »

Eh, is that not the point of facebook?

So....you're going with "very" then?

D1stant

Fairly creepy if it means taking risk out of online dating

castletownman

I wouldn't consider myself creepy at all.

Although your new sofa looks lovely from the bushes in your front garden.

beks101

castletownman wrote: »

I wouldn't consider myself creepy at all.

Although your new sofa looks lovely from the bushes in your front garden.

There's no bushes there and the sofa's as old as myself. You must have the wrong Beks, that's embarrassing.

kumate_champ07

define creepy?

Foxhound38

Sometimes curiousity gets the better of me, but generally no

AnonoBoy

On the Synesthesia Scale of Creepiness I'd say I'm an azure.

MonstaMash

Total creep

Part of my employment duties is doing security background checks on prospective employees :cool:

Oink

beks101 wrote: »

At the time I didn't know whether to be appalled or impressed: that's some commitment. Plus it takes a distinct set of skills and intelligence to connect the dots in a complete stranger's life in that way.

I am not surprised that he looked you up, or found out so much.

I'm just not sure what made him think it was a good idea to TELL you about it... Risky move.

pundy

not very. dont care about other humans at all or what they're up to. couldnt give a sh!te

beks101

Oink wrote: »

I am not surprised that he looked you up, or found out so much.

I'm just not sure what made him think it was a good idea to TELL you about it... Risky move.

The conversation veered towards my job and how that allows me to be 'professionally nosy' and that's when he launched into it.. "well if nosiness impresses you, you might be interested to know that..."

Lucky for him he was a handsome b@stard and had a bit of a fling with him for a few weeks before the whole thing kicked the bucket. But ya, that could've ended pretty badly..

voz es

add a creppy or impresive poll

RayM

I'm not even on Facebook. That's how creepy I am.

Too busy sitting in my car outside people's houses, compiling a dossier on their movements.

Wazdakka

voz es wrote: »

add a creppy or impresive poll

My Poll is both creepy AND impressive...

kumate_champ07

MonstaMash wrote: »

Total creep

Part of my employment duties is doing security background checks on prospective employees :cool:

re: online dating

sometimes its good to check if the person is real or just gonna string you along as a joke, like a guy pretending to be a girl

I think its ok to do a quick search just to confirm the person is real, without going into details on the person even tho its publicly available online


you dont wanna be on a first date and already know the answers to the small talk questions!

I Heart Internet

I'm not creepy. I'm sure you'd agree if you got off your high-horse and answered the door when I ring the next time. It's not easy to get to your place at night with a bag full of offal. ANSWER THE DOOR NEXT TIME!! :mad:

anncoates

I thought people just sent instagran pictures of themselves soaping their tits on Tinder?

maguic24

I love getting my creep on...

It's a hobby of mine.

thefishone

I was told I was creepy because I don't have a FB/Twitter Ac and how would anyone know I exist without them.:pac:

Muise...

beks101 wrote: »

He told me that he'd already known the answers to all of my questions because he'd found me on facebook (which is private thank jesus), checked out my linkedIn ('which was how I knew that you work at X as a Y') stalked my Twitter for a bit (which was 'disappointing because it was all work updates, not very personal' :eek::eek:) and had found a couple of articles I wrote online.

Amateur! What's the point of stalking if you're going to blow your cover?

Quin_Dub

This reminds me of a joke from Frankie Boyle a while back..

Guy knocks on a womans front door late one night.

Guy - Sorry to disturb you , but I just caught a dirty old man hiding in the bushes in front of your window staring in - I chased him away.

Woman - Oh my God , Thank you so much...

Guy - No problem...I told him.. Get out of there... That's MY F***king spot!!!

McChubbin

Lou.m

beks101 wrote: »

Just had a chat with a single friend of mine who told me she's been doing the Tinder thing for the last few weeks but hasn't committed to a date yet because 'on researching the guys I was chatting to, I lost interest'.

'Researching' meant subtly acquiring a surname and going to town on google, facebook, twitter, linkedIn and whatever you're havin yerself sir.

It reminds me of a time a few years ago when I met a guy on some dating website, might have been OKCupid or something and we arranged to have drinks. During the date he asked me all the token questions, where are you from, what do you do etc, and as the drinks rolled the conversation suddenly took a sharp turn -

He told me that he'd already known the answers to all of my questions because he'd found me on facebook (which is private thank jesus), checked out my linkedIn ('which was how I knew that you work at X as a Y') stalked my Twitter for a bit (which was 'disappointing because it was all work updates, not very personal' :eek::eek:) and had found a couple of articles I wrote online.

At the time I didn't know whether to be appalled or impressed: that's some commitment. Plus it takes a distinct set of skills and intelligence to connect the dots in a complete stranger's life in that way.

So my question to you, good folks of AH - is how creepy are you? If you're single and internet-date - have you ever done a full background check on a perspective date? How far have you gone in the name of internet stalking?

Not very creepy unless I feel threatened. If I feel someone is sus I will check them out.


If someone is a good sort then I will leave them be. I think we all have a right to do what we think we have to to protect ourselves.

In the states you can check if people have convictions.

I think for violent crime it should be allowed here.

MonstaMash

Lou.m wrote: »

I think we all have a right to do what we think we have to to protect ourselves.

In the states you can check if people have convictions.

I think for violent crime it should be allowed here.

There are ways & means of doing it here, you just have to know the right places to look :cool:

beks101

Lou.m wrote: »

In the states you can check if people have convictions.

'There's an app for that'..

http://gizmodo.com/5817209/not-at-all-creepy-background-check-app-hits-android-and-iphone

Vito Corleone

That stuff you mention in your OP is not that creepy imo.

I found a girls FB from her tinder by doing a custom search including her interests. Turns out she was quite fat which was not visible from her tinder photos.

But to answer your question, yes, I am extremely creepy.

kumate_champ07

Vito Corleone wrote: »

That stuff you mention in your OP is not that creepy imo.

I found a girls FB from her tinder by doing a custom search including her interests. Turns out she was quite fat which was not visible from her tinder photos.

But to answer your question, yes, I am extremely creepy.

they usually only show face or face with top boob, very misleading!

Vito Corleone

kumate_champ07 wrote: »

they usually only show face or face with top boob, very misleading!

Black and white photos taken at an angle is another common tactic. Everyone looks better in black and white photos taken at an angle.

beks101

Vito Corleone wrote: »

That stuff you mention in your OP is not that creepy imo.

I found a girls FB from her tinder by doing a custom search including her interests. Turns out she was quite fat which was not visible from her tinder photos.

But to answer your question, yes, I am extremely creepy.

I guess yeah, because the whole strategic 'myspace angle' can be a common thing on dating sites I'd probably be curious if a guy only had one or two blurry photos as to what he really looked like.

Or to confirm that he wasn't some sort of sociopath who wanted to wear my skin. Or you know, married.

beks101

kumate_champ07 wrote: »

they usually only show face or face with top boob, very misleading!

OT, I often wondered what the point of this was. Unless someone was going to miraculously lose 30 pounds before meeting up with someone, surely their cover would be blown inevitably anyway?

voz es

[QUOTE=Vito Corleone[/QUOTE]

What a user name, awww epic

Lou.m

Vito Corleone wrote: »

Most girls on tinder aren't looking to meet up with the person. It's just an ego boost for a lot of people.

I have fugly pictures up on facebook aswell as nice ones....get your fugly up out of the way....we all have bad days, we all have good days.

I don't do tinder or any of that stuff....

Cupcake_Crisis

I always ask permission before I go Internet creepin'. I'm nice like that.

Lou.m

Cupcake_Crisis wrote: »

I always ask permission before I go Internet creepin'. I'm nice like that.

I generally let people know in some way.

I just creeped myself. There is actually very little on me online.

maguic24

Cupcake_Crisis wrote: »

I always ask permission before I go Internet creepin'. I'm nice like that.

Yeah I do too........*walks off whistling suspiciously* :pac:

Menas

I am not single, so not too bad.
But every now and again I remember the name of an old flame or friend and will google them to see what they are up to these days.
Seeing pics of the old flames generally makes me realise I had a lucky escape. -8-

maguic24

Trigger Happy wrote: »

I am not single, so not too bad.
But every now and again I remember the name of an old flame or friend and will google them to see what they are up to these days.
Seeing pics of the old flames generally makes me realise I had a lucky escape. -8-

I'm a serial creeper and I like to do the same. I looked someone up from the past and thought 'God, what is with me going for all the weird ones?'. >.<

And better still, how are these people employed with half the stuff they have splashed across the interwebs??

Olive8585

beks101 wrote: »

Just had a chat with a single friend of mine who told me she's been doing the Tinder thing for the last few weeks but hasn't committed to a date yet because 'on researching the guys I was chatting to, I lost interest'.

'Researching' meant subtly acquiring a surname and going to town on google, facebook, twitter, linkedIn and whatever you're havin yerself sir.

It reminds me of a time a few years ago when I met a guy on some dating website, might have been OKCupid or something and we arranged to have drinks. During the date he asked me all the token questions, where are you from, what do you do etc, and as the drinks rolled the conversation suddenly took a sharp turn -

He told me that he'd already known the answers to all of my questions because he'd found me on facebook (which is private thank jesus), checked out my linkedIn ('which was how I knew that you work at X as a Y') stalked my Twitter for a bit (which was 'disappointing because it was all work updates, not very personal' :eek::eek:) and had found a couple of articles I wrote online.

At the time I didn't know whether to be appalled or impressed: that's some commitment. Plus it takes a distinct set of skills and intelligence to connect the dots in a complete stranger's life in that way.

So my question to you, good folks of AH - is how creepy are you? If you're single and internet-date - have you ever done a full background check on a perspective date? How far have you gone in the name of internet stalking?

No it doesn't. I can find all sorts of details on almost anyone with a few clicks and I don't think I'm particularly skilled with technology. People are often shocked to see what I can uncover and ask how long it takes - the answer is really not long at all.

My sister recently met a new boyfriend and I did a bit of research on him. His Facebook was first name middle name with no surname, but he had a girl listed as 'sister' with her first name and surname and several other relatives with the same last name on his friends list, so that was easy. I then googled his full name to get his LinkedIn, Twitter and other social media stuff to find out all about where he worked and what he's been up to recently. I also used a site to find out how old he was (public birth records) and whether he's been married before (public marriage records). Took me less than ten minutes for all of this. It's not hard at all.

The Diabolical Monocle

Im law abiding and dislike any creepy activity.
Support your local police.

catallus

The Diabolical Monocle wrote: »

We have a strict policy of silence for such threads, normally we just watch and t

Ixnay on the esilence!!!!!

I told 'em we shouldn't have let you join!

Thespoofer

King of the creepers

beks101

Olive8585 wrote: »

No it doesn't. I can find all sorts of details on almost anyone with a few clicks and I don't think I'm particularly skilled with technology. People are often shocked to see what I can uncover and ask how long it takes - the answer is really not long at all.

My sister recently met a new boyfriend and I did a bit of research on him. His Facebook was first name middle name with no surname, but he had a girl listed as 'sister' with her first name and surname and several other relatives with the same last name on his friends list, so that was easy. I then googled his full name to get his LinkedIn, Twitter and other social media stuff to find out all about where he worked and what he's been up to recently. I also used a site to find out how old he was (public birth records) and whether he's been married before (public marriage records). Took me less than ten minutes for all of this. It's not hard at all.

I agree, it's mindbogglingly simple, but it still takes a certain brain and a certain investigative instinct. A lot of people can't be aRsed and so wouldn't know where to start.

My job requires a lot of this stuff and I can spend an inordinate amount of time digging online with as little information to go on as a first or last name and general part of the world a person MAY be in - so having someone's full name makes things seem almost too easy at the offset.

But if I wasn't a professional creep I think generally I wouldn't bother to make the links or use the web as the invaluable resource it is in that way.

catallus

beks101 is a spy!

Karl Stein

I would call that profiling rather than creepy(ing) and I guess it's kinda natural enough if you're curious about someone.

I hate the way Googlie and Facepuke constantly nag you to sync everything up and divulge ever more information. I don't follow anyone on Twatter because I don't use it and I'm not that way inclined.

Has it got to the point where others will be suspicious if you're relatively anonymous in a social media sense? Will people say 'what's s/he hiding'?

Answers on a postcard to PO box 555-020.

cookiexx

Olive8585 wrote: »

My sister recently met a new boyfriend and I did a bit of research on him. His Facebook was first name middle name with no surname, but he had a girl listed as 'sister' with her first name and surname and several other relatives with the same last name on his friends list, so that was easy. I then googled his full name to get his LinkedIn, Twitter and other social media stuff to find out all about where he worked and what he's been up to recently. I also used a site to find out how old he was (public birth records) and whether he's been married before (public marriage records). Took me less than ten minutes for all of this. It's not hard at all.

Jaysus. The poor lad!!!

Olive8585

cookiexx wrote: »

Jaysus. The poor lad!!!

It's all public information and very easily findable.

maguic24

Karl Stein wrote: »

Has it got to the point where others will be suspicious if you're relatively anonymous in a social media sense? Will people say 'what's s/he hiding'?

Answers on a postcard to PO box 555-020.

It kind of has, to be honest. A few people have said it in passing conversation that they don't trust someone that isn't on fb. :eek:

As a creeper myself, I don't have a fb account. I don't want to be the creepee....:pac: