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Is there any excitement in long-term relationships?

  • 24-04-2014 7:59pm
    #1
    whirlpool
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,574 ✭✭✭


    In long term relationships, there can be love, joy, comfort, intimacy etc etc etc....

    My longest relationship was two years long and that was in my very early 20s, so the "adult" me doesn't really have any experience with LTR's. (I'm 27 now.)

    Is there much chance for excitement, or is every day just a really comfortable groundhog day?


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  • #2
    AnonoBoy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,559 ✭✭✭✭AnonoBoy


    If he or she don't know that they're in a long term relationship with you it can add a certain frisson!

    Of course living in an attic has its downsides but that's the give and take of a long term relationship I suppose.


  • #3
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    What you lose in happiness and joy you make up for with bitterness and resentment.


  • #4
    SaS7
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6 ✭SaS7


    no


  • #5
    Freddie Dodge
    Closed Accounts Posts: 194 ✭✭Freddie Dodge


    Excitement: No.

    Groundhog day: Yes.

    Sure tis grand.


  • #6
    fleet_admiral
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,750 ✭✭✭fleet_admiral


    After a few years of marriage, my wife's found out I'm having an affair

    She caught me smiling


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  • #7
    Muise...
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,512 ✭✭✭Muise...


    Deleted User wrote: »
    What you lose in happiness and joy you make up for with bitterness and resentment.

    well then maybe you could devise painful pranks to play, as a sort of bittersweet excitement?


  • #8
    Pwindedd
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,301 ✭✭✭Pwindedd


    Yes - you create excitement - weekends away, date nights, surprise gropings in the frozen goods aisle. Just find whatever it is that floats the others boat and make a bit of effort.


  • #9
    GenieOz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 892 ✭✭✭GenieOz


    I'm in a LTR and there's plenty of excitement. Just gotta put the effort in and not get lazy about it or fall into a routine or habit.


  • #10
    Gran Hermano
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,330 ✭✭✭Gran Hermano


    Cheating keeps things interesting.


  • #11
    Cantremember
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,305 ✭✭✭Cantremember


    Pwindedd wrote: »
    Yes - you create excitement - weekends away, date nights, surprise gropings in the frozen goods aisle. Just find whatever it is that floats the others boat and make a bit of effort.

    Floating a boat in the frozen food aisle? Good icebreaker?


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  • #12
    Cantremember
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,305 ✭✭✭Cantremember


    Gran Hermano wrote: »
    Cheating keeps things interesting.

    "Yes it does" Mrs Gran Hermano.


  • #13
    Pwindedd
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,301 ✭✭✭Pwindedd


    Cantremember wrote: »
    Floating a boat in the frozen food aisle? Good icebreaker?

    If he can break ice with it, he must be excited :D


  • #14
    Lou.m
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,532 ✭✭✭Lou.m


    whirlpool wrote: »
    In long term relationships, there can be love, joy, comfort, intimacy etc etc etc....

    My longest relationship was two years long and that was in my very early 20s, so the "adult" me doesn't really have any experience with LTR's. (I'm 27 now.)

    Is there much chance for excitement, or is every day just a really comfortable groundhog day?

    Long term relationships are where the passion is. :)

    Life is exciting if you are bored by life you are boring.


  • #15
    Maphisto
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,014 ✭✭✭Maphisto


    Pwindedd wrote: »
    Yes - you create excitement - weekends away, date nights, surprise gropings in the frozen goods aisle. Just find whatever it is that floats the others boat and make a bit of effort.

    Agreed but what if OH finds out?


  • #16
    Lou.m
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,532 ✭✭✭Lou.m


    Gran Hermano wrote: »
    Cheating keeps things interesting.

    Ugh...no

    Clichéd.


  • #17
    Legs.Eleven
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,987 ✭✭✭Legs.Eleven


    Exciting! Eh.... Maybe not exciting but definitely fun. Tbh exciting doesn't feature much in my life generally anyway these days for a few reasons. Saying that, I haven't seen him in over a week (I was away then he went away) and he's back in 2 hours and I'm really excited to see him.


  • #18
    The Backwards Man
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,299 ✭✭✭✭The Backwards Man


    Legs.Eleven wrote: »
    Exciting! Eh.... Maybe not exciting but definitely fun. Tbh exciting doesn't feature much in my life generally anyway these days for a few reasons. Saying that, I haven't seen him in over a week (I was away then he went away) and he's back in 2 hours and I'm really excited to see him.
    Someone's getting teh sex tonight!:pac:


  • #19
    Ihatecuddles
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,986 ✭✭✭Ihatecuddles


    I don't find new relationships particularly exciting, I find them a bit awkward and you're still trying to mesh together.

    I like the stability and safety of a LTR. I like that we can be really comfortable with each other. Obviously romantic gestures and weekends away are nice, but so is looking forward to a cuddle on the couch.


  • #20
    GenieOz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 892 ✭✭✭GenieOz


    mauzo! wrote: »
    Obviously romantic gestures and weekends away are nice, but so is looking forward to a cuddle on the couch.

    And being able to fart in front of each other.


  • #21
    Gran Hermano
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,330 ✭✭✭Gran Hermano


    The Backwards Man wrote: »
    Someone's getting teh sex tonight!:pac:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZPs1ggt6O_w


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  • #22
    Stavros Murphy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,440 ✭✭✭Stavros Murphy


    Pfft. Excitement?? We had cod tonight for dinner. Fresh Cod! Who saw that coming?? It is literally impossible to say what might happen tomorrow. I'm on tenterhooks. Could even be steak.


  • #23
    Legs.Eleven
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,987 ✭✭✭Legs.Eleven


    The Backwards Man wrote: »
    Someone's getting teh sex tonight!:pac:

    I suddenly feel a headache coming on....how peculiar...


  • #24
    Gran Hermano
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,330 ✭✭✭Gran Hermano


    Legs.Eleven wrote: »
    I suddenly feel a headache coming on....how peculiar...

    That's why he'll arrive with a bouquet of roses and a pack of neurofen.


  • #25
    Ihatecuddles
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,986 ✭✭✭Ihatecuddles


    GenieOz wrote: »
    And being able to fart in front of each other.

    Getting married next month, he still hasn't heard me fart :D


  • #26
    Czarcasm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,076 ✭✭✭✭Czarcasm


    whirlpool wrote: »
    In long term relationships, there can be love, joy, comfort, intimacy etc etc etc....

    My longest relationship was two years long and that was in my very early 20s, so the "adult" me doesn't really have any experience with LTR's. (I'm 27 now.)

    Is there much chance for excitement, or is every day just a really comfortable groundhog day?


    I find groundhog days easier as I equate the word 'excitement' with drama, drama wrecks my head. I'm getting too old for all that excitement stuff I did in my teenage years and I haven't the energy for dealing with that shìt any more.


  • #27
    MayoSalmon
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,338 ✭✭✭MayoSalmon


    Try anal


  • #28
    Maphisto
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,014 ✭✭✭Maphisto


    mauzo! wrote: »
    Getting married next month, he still hasn't heard me fart :D

    Because they're silent?


  • #29
    Legs.Eleven
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,987 ✭✭✭Legs.Eleven


    Gran Hermano wrote: »
    That's why he'll arrive with a bouquet of roses and a pack of neurofen.

    Oh dear. What a shame. That's my allergies set off then. Bedtime. NIGHT!!!


  • #30
    Muise...
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,512 ✭✭✭Muise...


    mauzo! wrote: »
    Getting married next month, he still hasn't heard me fart :D
    MayoSalmon wrote: »
    Try anal

    there ya go mauzo!


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  • #31
    Ihatecuddles
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,986 ✭✭✭Ihatecuddles


    Maphisto wrote: »
    Because they're silent?

    I rarely fart, usually go months without doing one. Im sure I do it in my sleep but he hasnt noticed.


  • #32
    Legs.Eleven
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,987 ✭✭✭Legs.Eleven


    mauzo! wrote: »
    Getting married next month, he still hasn't heard me fart :D

    Saving that for the Big Night then? PAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARP!


  • #33
    Maphisto
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,014 ✭✭✭Maphisto


    mauzo! wrote: »
    I rarely fart, usually go months without doing one. Im sure I do it in my sleep but he hasnt noticed.

    Maybe he's just too much of a gent to mention it.;)


  • #34
    Stavros Murphy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,440 ✭✭✭Stavros Murphy


    I fart every morning, first thing. Sets the tone for the day - usually a b flat.


  • #35
    Gongoozler
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,263 ✭✭✭Gongoozler


    mauzo! wrote: »
    I rarely fart, usually go months without doing one. Im sure I do it in my sleep but he hasnt noticed.

    I once read that the average person farts 13 times a day.

    Just sayin


  • #36
    Gran Hermano
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,330 ✭✭✭Gran Hermano


    Maphisto wrote: »
    Maybe he's just too much of a gent to mention it.;)
    mauzo! wrote: »
    I rarely fart, usually go months without doing one. Im sure I do it in my sleep but he hasnt noticed.

    Probably too busy fapping whilst she snores.


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  • #37
    ElChe32
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,690 ✭✭✭ElChe32


    It's called slipping it into her butthole.


  • #38
    Robson Lobson
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 75 ✭✭Robson Lobson


    Monogomy tends to kill people's souls, similar to how a tiger's soul is killed in a zoo.


  • #39
    Stavros Murphy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,440 ✭✭✭Stavros Murphy


    Robson Lobson wrote: »
    Monogomy tends to kill people's souls, similar to how a tiger's soul is killed in a zoo.

    I thought it was MDF that was bad for you? No more hours in the library for me.


  • #40
    Aidric
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,591 ✭✭✭✭Aidric


    Stavros Murphy wrote: »
    I fart every morning, first thing. Sets the tone for the day - usually a b flat.

    Prelude in B-flat major (Rachmaninoff)?


  • #41
    Legs.Eleven
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,987 ✭✭✭Legs.Eleven


    Robson Lobson wrote: »
    Monogomy tends to kill people's souls, similar to how a tiger's soul is killed in a zoo.

    Ah! I see.


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  • #42
    Legs.Eleven
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,987 ✭✭✭Legs.Eleven


    Stavros Murphy wrote: »
    I thought it was MDF that was bad for you? No more hours in the library for me.

    Bidi boom ting!


  • #43
    Stavros Murphy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,440 ✭✭✭Stavros Murphy


    Aidric wrote: »
    Prelude in B-flat major (Rachmaninoff)?

    More the opening riff from Thunderstruck tbh.


  • #44
    whirlpool
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,574 ✭✭✭whirlpool


    Lou.m wrote: »
    Long term relationships are where the passion is. :)

    Life is exciting if you are bored by life you are boring.

    Jeeze. Way to blanket-insult a **** load of people!


  • #45
    Czarcasm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,076 ✭✭✭✭Czarcasm


    Aidric wrote: »
    Prelude in B-flat major (Rachmaninoff)?


    More like Crackoneoff...


  • #46
    Robson Lobson
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 75 ✭✭Robson Lobson


    Legs.Eleven wrote: »
    Ah! I see.

    It's also like anti depressants, it sedates you so you feel nothing.


  • #47
    whupdedo
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,513 ✭✭✭whupdedo


    How many years constitutes a long term relationship?, I'm in one for 5 years and I still feel like it's been a lot less than that, iv also been in a 6 year relationship and it felt like every day was a week, for a finish we couldn't stand to look at 1 another, i guess it all depends on who your with


  • #48
    Legs.Eleven
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,987 ✭✭✭Legs.Eleven


    Robson Lobson wrote: »
    It's also like anti depressants, it sedates you so you feel nothing.

    Right. Niccce!


  • #49
    Stavros Murphy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,440 ✭✭✭Stavros Murphy


    Legs.Eleven wrote: »
    Bidi boom ting!

    I think the correct form is Ba-doom-tish! :P


  • #50
    anncoates
    Closed Accounts Posts: 13,925 ✭✭✭✭anncoates


    Excitement would be devalued if it was constant. I like contentedness and space long term as much as I like excitement.

    I suspect the people that constantly demand excitement in a relationship are the same ones that think fighting all the time is symptomatic of passion.


  • #51
    Penny Tration
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,687 ✭✭✭✭Penny Tration


    mauzo! wrote: »
    Getting married next month, he still hasn't heard me fart :D

    Whoa. My boyfriend heard me fart within a week of dating. :pac:


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