locating someone

lifeandtimes

hey everyone

Want your opinions

Just stumbled across an add for a woman looking to locate the dad of her child.

Hes from Ireland and shes from the us

Says the spent 3 months together in Australia,she got pregnant and he bailed...that was 5 years ago.

Shes built up a bit of an online presence and im just wondering would you guys help by making it go viral or would you just pass it by and say its none of your business? My heart breaks for her and her son but im not sure if its my place to do anything

any opinions will help

Wacker The Attacker

Tell her to keep her knickers on next time.

shopaholic01

Do you know her? I'd ignore it, you're only getting one side of the story.

Unless of course you think it might be you ............

Frosty McSnowballs

Wacker The Attacker wrote: »

Tell her to keep her knickers on next time.

Maybe they were just pulled to the side.

Also, I'm sure the bailer would love to be found. Go get 'em OP!

For Forks Sake

lifeandtimes wrote: »

hey everyone

Want your opinions

Just stumbled across an add for a woman looking to locate the dad of her child.

Hes from Ireland and shes from the us

Says the spent 3 months together in Australia,she got pregnant and he bailed...that was 5 years ago.

Shes built up a bit of an online presence and im just wondering would you guys help by making it go viral or would you just pass it by and say its none of your business? My heart breaks for her and her son but im not sure if its my place to do anything

any opinions will help

Sounds like someones getting done for five years of unpaid maintenance....

Wacker The Attacker

Senor Fancy Pants wrote: »

Maybe they were just pulled to the side.

Also, I'm sure the bailer would love to be found. Go get 'em OP!

It depends to what extent she put her fanny out there on the street.

sawdoubters

I hope it was not me,

lifeandtimes

maybe the mods can shed some light as I'm not to familiar with the charter/forum rules...am i allowed link to the adds/profiles she has set up?

Stone Deaf 4evr

Is the fathers name neo? Cause he dodged a bullet....

shopaholic01

lifeandtimes wrote: »

maybe the mods can shed some light as I'm not to familiar with the charter/forum rules...am i allowed link to the adds/profiles she has set up?

I doubt it.

Is it your sister? You seem very concerned.

Frosty McSnowballs

Stone Deaf 4evr wrote: »

Is the fathers name neo? Cause he dodged a bullet....

Worst joke ever.....

roadsmart

Regardless of anything else, the child has a right to know who his/her father is.

Electric Sheep

For Forks Sake wrote: »

Sounds like someones getting done for five years of unpaid maintenance....

I am not sure if a parent living in the US can enforce child support on a non-custodial parent who lives in Ireland.

However, I hope she can. Men who bail on supporting their own children are scum.

MadsL

Jesus quite some 'slut-shaming' going on here.

There are lots of reasons why a child should know where their father is, including medical issues.

Fr_Dougal

lifeandtimes wrote: »

maybe the mods can shed some light as I'm not to familiar with the charter/forum rules...am i allowed link to the adds/profiles she has set up?

Charter: http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055747615


One of the rules: http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=63135899&postcount=8

lifeandtimes

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

Charter: http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055747615


One of the rules: http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=63135899&postcount=8

thanks for the help,if i was to make an effort with this i wont start here then...so my question still remains.

Would you guys help find him or mind ye business?

I should point out im a dad myself and think parents who bail(like my father did) should face the consequences of their action

Feisar

If they spent three months together surely she has a name and a location of where he is from? County/town at least and the names of friends of his. Shouldn't be that hard.

Electric Sheep

lifeandtimes wrote: »

thanks for the help,if i was to make an effort with this i wont start here then...so my question still remains.

Would you guys help find him or mind ye business?

I should point out im a dad myself and think parents who bail(like my father did) should face the consequences of their action

I probably would. Not in a "bad boy, this is your punishment" sort of way, more "man up and be there for your child".

It's quite possible the man in question regrets bailing, and would be happy to be found.

lifeandtimes

Feisar wrote: »

If they spent three months together surely she has a name and a location of where he is from? County/town at least and the names of friends of his. Shouldn't be that hard.

that is all there yes...that why im asking,im sure if i did it would come to someones attention who knows him...turns out she doesnt know anyone and has started this adds in the hope of someone seeing and contacting here....im thinking about helping is all

Fr_Dougal

Why doesn't she look him up on Facebook/Linkedin?

whupdedo

lifeandtimes wrote: »

that is all there yes...that why im asking,im sure if i did it would come to someones attention who knows him...turns out she doesnt know anyone and has started this adds in the hope of someone seeing and contacting here....im thinking about helping is all

Go for it. If he has the balls to make the child he should have the balls to be a father, who knows maybe he might want to be found at this stage

lifeandtimes

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

Why doesn't she look him up on Facebook/Linkedin?

had a look myself,he isnt there...shes hoping people will know him and point her in the right direction im guessing

Feisar

lifeandtimes wrote: »

that is all there yes...that why im asking,im sure if i did it would come to someones attention who knows him...turns out she doesnt know anyone and has started this adds in the hope of someone seeing and contacting here....im thinking about helping is all

What info does she have?

Name?
Old phone no? - surprising what a google search or two will turn up.
Location? - He surely had a GAA jersey on at some stage!?!?
When he left Oz? - Visa records etc
Age?
Job type? - Professional qualifications etc. Like if it was me I'm a quantity surveyor, only a few places in Ireland I could have graduated from.
Receipts left behind from a Visa card or other?

Red Kev

Wacker The Attacker wrote: »

Tell her to keep her knickers on next time.

.....and if he isn't able to face the consequences of sexual intercourse he should keep his dick in his pants as well. It's hardly 100% her fault she got pregnant, is it.

For Forks Sake wrote: »

Sounds like someones getting done for five years of unpaid maintenance....

Hopefully. I know a few men who don't pay a cent of maintenance and like to brag about it as well. Shower of useless f*cks the lot of them.

I hope she finds him and screws him financially as well.

Muise...

lifeandtimes wrote: »

had a look myself,he isnt there...shes hoping people will know him and point her in the right direction im guessing

point her in the right direction and back her up in her guilt trip daddy-trap, presumably...

sawdoubters

http://www.theguardian.com/society/2013/oct/27/forced-adoption-mother-and-child-reunited

Feisar

lifeandtimes wrote: »

had a look myself,he isnt there...shes hoping people will know him and point her in the right direction im guessing

Did you try Bebo, everyone forgets to delete after making the big switch to FB.

lifeandtimes

Feisar wrote: »

What info does she have?

Name?
Old phone no? - surprising what a google search or two will turn up.
Location? - He surely had a GAA jersey on at some stage!?!?
When he left Oz? - Visa records etc
Age?
Job type? - Professional qualifications etc. Like if it was me I'm a quantity surveyor, only a few places in Ireland I could have graduated from.
Receipts left behind from a Visa card or other?

From her add she knows his town which is clonmel in tipp.
Does say she tried to contact him but hasnt been able to get through so that could be a land line or more likely a mobile.

It doesnt say his age but she has his employment but hes a self employed tiles man so that doesnt help i dont think.

I think im going to share the add on my facebook,if it helps find him all the better,kid should know his dad and she shouldnt have to do this on her own

Strumms

What's the fascination with this lady OP ? Do you know her ? Why the interest... I am sure there are many stories similar to this unfortunately... Dunno but I smell a rat.

she could try Maury Povich...

'whos yo' Daddy??

Feisar

lifeandtimes wrote: »

From her add she knows his town which is clonmel in tipp.
Does say she tried to contact him but hasnt been able to get through so that could be a land line or more likely a mobile.

It doesnt say his age but she has his employment but hes a self employed tiles man so that doesnt help i dont think.

I think im going to share the add on my facebook,if it helps find him all the better,kid should know his dad and she shouldnt have to do this on her own

So there's a tiler around Clonmel that can't be found???

Obviously she hasn't tried too hard.

Frosty McSnowballs

She has more than enough information there to find the guy. Less than an hours work in that!

shopaholic01

Is there a finders fee?

WilyCoyote

If only she'd given him a b/j. Only!

PucaMama

Hope he's found does she have a pic of him to share

lifeandtimes

Strumms wrote: »

What's the fascination with this lady OP ? Do you know her ? Why the interest... I am sure there are many stories similar to this unfortunately... Dunno but I smell a rat.

dont know,feel compelled being a person who had no father...who is a father...suppose it could be my random act of kindness

lifeandtimes

PucaMama wrote: »

Hope he's found does she have a pic of him to share

Ay...that she does

shopaholic01

lifeandtimes wrote: »

Ay...that she does

So she has his picture, knows his home town and occupation, yet still can't find him?

Worst stalker ever.

PucaMama

lifeandtimes wrote: »

Ay...that she does

Maybe try sharing in on any gaa club fb pages from his area. And some of those selling groups. Or any community groups

Fr_Dougal

OP, what is your connection to this woman?

lifeandtimes

Fr_Dougal wrote: »

OP, what is your connection to this woman?

i have no connection what so ever with this woman...that is why i asked what other people would do...but i have made up my mind and will be helping in whatever way i can...may not be my place id like help from someone if i was in the same position

Electric Sheep

shopaholic01 wrote: »

So she has his picture, knows his home town and occupation, yet still can't find him?

Worst stalker ever.

There is no guarantee that this man is still living in Clonmel.

shopaholic01

Electric Sheep wrote: »

There is no guarantee that this man is still living in Clonmel.

I doubt he erased everyones memories before he left.

MadsL

shopaholic01 wrote: »

I doubt he erased everyones memories before he left.

The Doctor is discovered...

weldoninhio

lifeandtimes wrote: »

dont know,feel compelled being a person who had no father...who is a father...suppose it could be my random act of kindness

Sounds like he's looking for a reward ride!!

PucaMama

Electric Sheep wrote: »

There is no guarantee that this man is still living in Clonmel.

But he might have family or old friends there. Make him do the right thing.

Muise...

PucaMama wrote: »

But he might have family or old friends there. Make him do the right thing.

we don't know what the right thing is for him.

PucaMama

Muise... wrote: »

we don't know what the right thing is for him.

It's about the child not him.

Auldloon

Can you be 100% sure she is who she says she is and this story is true?

Muise...

PucaMama wrote: »

It's about the child not him.

The child is 4 or 5 years old. I wonder what has happened that s/he suddenly needs a father/money? And I wonder if the child will benefit from seeing the mother's public search for the unwilling father on record in years to come?

weldoninhio

Auldloon wrote: »

Can you be 100% sure she is who she says she is and this story is true?

Exactly, it could be some lunatic that he testified against/ratted up, or something along those lines.