Going to private school?

kealb14

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Princess Consuela Bananahammock

kealb14 wrote: »

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If you want for one term and didn;t like it, how easy would it be to quit? It doesnt have to be permanant and what the hell am I saying? this is bloody after hours - shag one of the footballers wives and report back.

Kylo Ren

Go for it. Just make sure you get into Gryffindor.

kealb14

Keno wrote: »

Go for it. Just make sure you get into Gryffindor.

Haha I dont think ill be going to that school

J_E

Are you happy where you are?

kneemos

700,000 house?

HA.

Dozen Wicked Words

Private school or not, would it not be very hard to start a completely different syllabus so late in the game. How would it work, go straight to A levels? The exam systems are so different it would be a pain in the hole imo.

Eoin247

Premier league footballers living on a housing estate?

ColeTrain

kealb14 wrote: »

(Im not sure if this is the right place to post this)
Ok,
so back in August my aunt and I were talking and she asked me would I like to live with her near Newcastle in England (I currently live in Kerry) and attend some exclusive private school after I complete my junior cert, she is very wealthy and works as a scientist and her husband is a surgeon.I know it is probably a great opportunity for me but im not sure if I would fit in.They live in an exlusive estate with premiere league footballers, and even one of the judges from the dragons den! They have a big £700k house and fancy mercedes and audi cars, and I come from a small town town and a not so wealthy family.

I was just wondering what other people would do in my situation?

You should write down the positives for each option. I done a rough draft based on your post.

1. Mercedes
2. Premier League Footballers
3. Dragons Den Neighbour
4. Audi
5. 700k house
6. Exclusive estate
7. surgeon/scientist Auntie and Uncle
8. Private school
9. Fantasy world

vs

1. Small town in Kerry
2. Plebeian lifestyle

TBH it's a tough choice. You should have stuck a poll up.

harryr711

kealb14 wrote: »

(Im not sure if this is the right place to post this)
Ok,
so back in August my aunt and I were talking and she asked me would I like to live with her near Newcastle in England (I currently live in Kerry) and attend some exclusive private school after I complete my junior cert, she is very wealthy and works as a scientist and her husband is a surgeon.I know it is probably a great opportunity for me but im not sure if I would fit in.They live in an exlusive estate with premiere league footballers, and even one of the judges from the dragons den! They have a big £700k house and fancy mercedes and audi cars, and I come from a small town town and a not so wealthy family.

I was just wondering what other people would do in my situation?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hBe0VCso0qs

ColeTrain

kealb14 wrote: »

Well it isnt just about money and neighbours. I will be leaving my family and friends.

Stay in your dark cave then. The grass isn't always greener etc etc

kealb14

ColeTrain wrote: »

Stay in your dark cave then. The grass isn't always greener etc etc

And the fact that the school there will probably be IMPOSSIBLE

Eoin247

Since you just finished the JC, why not go there for transition year and see what it's like? You can always start 5th year without any problem afterwards if you don't like it.

kjl

kneemos wrote: »

700,000 house?

HA.

Premiere league footballers are slumming it these days.

MadsL

You have the opportunity to have a top class education paid for. If that is the Royal Grammar School in Newcastle it is in the top 50 private schools in the UK

You will mix with people who will be very useful to you in later life if you decide to pursue a career in the UK or indeed across the world.

Newcastle is a cool if tough city.

Cons: You will need to study like a mofo. You will probably take a fair amount of bullying, so consider if you are thick skinned enough.

kealb14

Eoin247 wrote: »

Since you just finished the JC, why not go there for transition year and see what it's like? You can always start 5th year without any problem afterwards if you don't like it.

Thats not a bad idea, thanks

kjl

kealb14 wrote: »

(Im not sure if this is the right place to post this)
Ok,
so back in August my aunt and I were talking and she asked me would I like to live with her near Newcastle in England (I currently live in Kerry) and attend some exclusive private school after I complete my junior cert, she is very wealthy and works as a scientist and her husband is a surgeon.I know it is probably a great opportunity for me but im not sure if I would fit in.They live in an exlusive estate with premiere league footballers, and even one of the judges from the dragons den! They have a big £700k house and fancy mercedes and audi cars, and I come from a small town town and a not so wealthy family.

I was just wondering what other people would do in my situation?

I think you should go, it will serve you better than an education from Kerry, plus you should think about expanding your social circle to a more astute class. You may have trouble fitting in, but just be confident and people will love you.

sabat

1. Most towns in the UK, especially in the north-east, are total sh1tholes.
2. The Geordie accent is incomprehensible and your accent will be hard for them to understand too.
3. You'll be an outsider culturally, educationally and socially.
4. Does your aunt have ulterior motives? Perhaps this is being done to show up your mother and father? In my experience there's nothing bitchier than an aunt with cash.
5. Do you have ulterior motives? Is this a co-ed school?
6. Sharing a driveway with Shola Ameobi or John O'Shea isn't really that great.

If she really wants to help you she could spring for some extra grinds for the leaving cert and maybe your college fees and expenses.

kealb14

MadsL wrote: »

You have the opportunity to have a top class education paid for. If that is the Royal Grammar School in Newcastle it is in the top 50 private schools in the UK

You will mix with people who will be very useful to you in later life if you decide to pursue a career in the UK or indeed across the world.

Newcastle is a cool if tough city.

Cons: You will need to study like a mofo. You will probably take a fair amount of bullying, so consider if you are thick skinned enough.

Thats the main thing I worry about, not fitting in at school.I dobt imagine im going to be like the rest of the people there.

MadsL

kealb14 wrote: »

Thats the main thing I worry about, not fitting in at school.I dobt imagine im going to be like the rest of the people there.

Nope, but then neither is the Pakistani kid or the French lad...or the others who just joined.

Just be yourself, don't let any teasing or bull**** visibly upset you, and if they stress you out cuss them out in Irish, two languages are always cool.

Do a term and see how you like it. Is it boarding or will you be a day pupil? Day pupils get less hassle tbh.

MadsL

sabat wrote: »

1. Most towns in the UK, especially in the north-east, are total sh1tholes.
2. The Geordie accent is incomprehensible and your accent will be hard for them to understand too.
3. You'll be an outsider culturally, educationally and socially.
4. Does your aunt have ulterior motives? Perhaps this is being done to show up your mother and father? In my experience there's nothing bitchier than an aunt with cash.
5. Do you have ulterior motives? Is this a co-ed school?
6. Sharing a driveway with Shola Ameobi or John O'Shea isn't really that great.

If she really wants to help you she could spring for some extra grinds for the leaving cert and maybe your college fees and expenses.

HARSH.

kealb14

MadsL wrote: »

Nope, but then neither is the Pakistani kid or the French lad...or the others who just joined.

Just be yourself, don't let any teasing or bull**** visibly upset you, and if they stress you out cuss them out in Irish, two languages are always cool.

Do a term and see how you like it. Is it boarding or will you be a day pupil? Day pupils get less hassle tbh.

I would be a day pupil

dobman88

kealb14 wrote: »

I would be a day pupil

Go for it. Try transition year. Fit in/like it, great. Don't fit in/don't like it, come home to 5th year.

ButtersSuki

This is a massive opportunity not just for your academic education, but also in a more holistic life in general way too. Trust me, you will regret not at least giving this a shot in 20 years if you don't go. Do it. As you get older your regrets tend to be about things you didn't do rather than things you did.

On the other hand, the Geordie-Kerry accent mash-up will either be sweet music or (more likely) the most annoying sound in the world. :D

Edit: just don't turn out to be a complete bell-end like Gaz from Geordie Shore; or start wearing wearing tops or v-neck t shirts that show your belly button

R.D. aka MR.D

I know that this is Ah but i want to give you a serious answer.

Go for it. It will provide you with a lot of opportunities that you just wont have now or ever if you stay here.

I went to college with a lot of very rich people. They have a lot of connections and always get jobs more easily because of who they know. Also, they throw great parties!!

If you feel like you don't fit in and they are giving you a hard time then remember that they usually do that because they have their own problems. Being rich isn't the answer to happiness. Some one told me that when i started college and i thought i couldn't handle it because every one was so snobby. When i started to look sympathetically at them it made it easier for me.

preston johnny

ButtersSuki wrote: »

This is a massive opportunity not just for your academic education, but also in a more holistic life in general way too. Trust me, you will regret not at least giving this a shot in 20 years if you don't go. Do it. As you get older your regrets tend to be about things you didn't do rather than things you did.

On the other hand, the Geordie-Kerry accent mash-up will either be sweet music or (more likely) the most annoying sound in the world. :D

Edit: just don't turn out to be a complete bell-end like Gaz from Geordie Shore; or start wearing wearing tops or v-neck t shirts that show your belly button

What did one Geordie say to another Geordie?

Something incomprehensible.

dobman88

Vito Corleone wrote: »

As far as I know they don't have TY in the UK.

I didn't mean go to UK to do TY. I meant treat the year away from Ireland as a TY and just pop back into 5th year if it doesn't work out. TY is a waste of time anyway so same thing really

stoneill

Newcastle night life vs small town in Kerry.

Maura74

My DiL was thinking of sending my granddaughter to a private school that is very near where she lives in UK, they are just ordinary people not wealthy at all. She spoke to her friend that has her daughter attending the same private school and was told her daughter did not enjoy it that much as she felt it was too difficult to make friend with other students there. They talk about things that she did not have such as swimming pools etc.

In the end DiL did not sent my granddaughter there and she is very happy in her new school local high school. However I feel that it is more important to send children to a private primary school rather than high school. That is just my opinion.

R.D. aka MR.D

kealb14 wrote: »

But I really dont know if I would be able to handle all of the hard schoolwork, im fairly smart but im not the best when it comes to doing homework

Didn't you say that your aunt would be willing to help with grinds etc?

Do you have any idea what you want to do for a career? That might help to motivate you.

You can do the schoolwork if you have help with it and are willing to try.

Do you know if the school has a placement test? To determine your level?

This might sound really harsh but there will be people there who are thick as 2 planks but are there because of their parents money/influence. You'll be a whizzkid next to them.

MadsL

Are we just going to ignore the fact that he will be beating the Georgie girls off with a stick?

Pat Mustard

I'm not sure why everyone is advising some kid to get a secondary school education in England.

If you go to university afterwards, apart from contacts that you might make, nobody really gives a fcuk where you went to school.

R.D. aka MR.D

kealb14 wrote: »

I do know that if I decide to go ill have to got to the school this february to do an entrance exam for september. But im not sure if thats for placement.

The only subjects im really good at in school are science ,history and computers, so id like a career in one of those as I also enjoy those subjects

The exam will most likely be for placement. I'm sure you've noticed in your school if it is big enough that not all honours math classes or english classes are the same. they tend to group students of the same ability together. Well, they did in my school. If they don't do that in your Kerry school already then you definitely need to move!!

I'm sure you're old enough now to realise that you need to work hard at school to achieve what you want. (you don't HAVE to but it makes life a hell of a lot easier!)

MadsL

The Mustard wrote: »

I'm not sure why everyone is advising some kid to get a secondary school education in England.

If you go to university afterwards, apart from contacts that you might make, nobody really gives a fcuk where you went to school.

Trust me, they do in England.

harryr711

MadsL wrote: »

Trust me, they do in England.

Having lived and worked there, I would say the vast majority don't.

R.D. aka MR.D

The Mustard wrote: »

I'm not sure why everyone is advising some kid to get a secondary school education in England.

If you go to university afterwards, apart from contacts that you might make, nobody really gives a fcuk where you went to school.

When i started college, that was the first question out of everyone's mouth.

People who go to super fancy private schools stick together and from what i've heard it's even worse in England. It's not like people are advising him to go to some random school in England. I think the contacts are the most important factor.

MadsL

harryr711 wrote: »

Having lived and worked there, I would say the vast majority don't.

Did you go to a private school? If no, then you have no idea how strong the Old Boys Clubs still are in England. Puts the GAA to shame

Pat Mustard

MadsL wrote: »

Trust me, they do in England.

Maybe you're right. That hadn't occurred to me. But that's not really a concern in Ireland, where he is now.

R.D. aka MR.D

harryr711 wrote: »

Having lived and worked there, I would say the vast majority don't.

I agree that the vast majority don't but the vast majority of people in England don't get to live the life of privilege that comes with having the connections and money that a lot of people in top private schools do.

There have been many studies that i'm too lazy to look up right now about how top jobs in England go to old cronies etc and how the governments are actively trying to stop that.

Pat Mustard

R.D. aka MR.D wrote: »

When i started college, that was the first question out of everyone's mouth.

People who go to super fancy private schools stick together and from what i've heard it's even worse in England. It's not like people are advising him to go to some random school in England. I think the contacts are the most important factor.

It's just a topic of conversation in college, amongst first year students.

In Irish workplaces, employers are not interested in secondary schools. They'd be more likely to ask what sports interested you, in my opinion.

MadsL

The Mustard wrote: »

Maybe you're right. That hadn't occurred to me. But that's not really a concern in Ireland, where he is now.

Will he live the rest of his life there?

harryr711

MadsL wrote: »

Did you go to a private school? If no, then you have no idea how strong the Old Boys Clubs still are in England. Puts the GAA to shame

I didn't go to school in England. I'm well aware of the Old Boys Clubs, that's why I said the "vast majority" and not "all".

Pat Mustard

MadsL wrote: »

Will he live the rest of his life there?

He is a schoolboy. Maybe you should ask his mother, instead of me.:D

Santa Cruz

MadsL wrote: »

Nope, but then neither is the Pakistani kid or the French lad...or the others who just joined.

Just be yourself, don't let any teasing or bull**** visibly upset you, and if they stress you out cuss them out in Irish, two languages are always cool.

Do a term and see how you like it. Is it boarding or will you be a day pupil? Day pupils get less hassle tbh.

If there is any bullying just bring your baseball bat and introduce the scum to kneecapping. One job should do it.

Frank Black

Maura74 wrote: »

her daughter did not enjoy it that much as she felt it was too difficult to make friend with other students there. They talk about things that she did not have such as swimming pools etc.

OP, you should look up some pictures of swimming pools on the internet before you go, or even try to go to a public one in your local area.

kealb14

Frank Black wrote: »

OP, you should look up some pictures of swimming pools on the internet before you go, or even try to go to a public one in your local area.

My aunt has a fishpond if that counts

MadsL

The Mustard wrote: »

He is a schoolboy. Maybe you should ask his mother, instead of me.:D

I think he will eventually make his own decisions. Quite a bleak picture you paint, living your whole life in Kerry, with your mother making decisions for you.

Then again perhaps this is normal for you.

MadsL

kealb14 wrote: »

My aunt has a fishpond if that counts

You'll do just fine me lad!

December2012

Definitely go.

It'll be a huge experience for you and you will still be with family. You can still skype and visit your mam at home.

If you really don't like it then you've lost nothing, you can come back home and do the leaving cert.

MadsL

harryr711 wrote: »

I didn't go to school in England. I'm well aware of the Old Boys Clubs, that's why I said the "vast majority" and not "all".

Oh sorry. Were you including the plebs in that, I had no idea, dear chap I do apologise.


*adjusts monocle*

harryr711

MadsL wrote: »

Oh sorry. Were you including the plebs in that, I had no idea, dear chap I do apologise.


*adjusts monocle*

Apology accepted.

MadsL wrote: »

I think he will eventually make his own decisions. Quite a bleak picture you paint, living your whole life in Kerry, with your mother making decisions for you.

Then again perhaps this is normal for you.

Nobody suggested that he spends his whole life in Kerry with his mother, you're some man for the straw man arguments.

OP, it's an opportunity to experience living in another country, which most people don't get to experience while they're still in secondary school.