Where do you move out when moving out from parents?

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For instance, I am from Dublin, I live with my parents in the suburbs here and I want to move out. I have looked on sites such as daft.ie, myhome.ie, gumtree, property.ie etc but I really don't know what I should be looking for. I want a place where I can bring girls to as I've been unable to do so living with my parents. I'm having a lot of difficulty figuring this out. Is it normal for people to have no idea what to do in this regard? I'm professionally diagnosed with autism. Is that the reason?

Typer Monkey

Usually either close to where you work or close to where your friends and family are and where you socialise. As an example I grew up in D15 and the vast majority of my friends have settled in D15, either having bought or renting. I have some friends who preferred the buzz of town rather than surburbia and so rent there. It really depends on what makes sense for you

wirelessdude01

You have two options, 1 rent a place with people you know or 2 rent a room in a place.

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wirelessdude01 wrote: »

You have two options, 1 rent a place with people you know or 2 rent a room in a place.

I don't really know many people so I guess option 2.

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Typer Monkey wrote: »

Usually either close to where you work or close to where your friends and family are and where you socialise. As an example I grew up in D15 and the vast majority of my friends have settled in D15, either having bought or renting. I have some friends who preferred the buzz of town rather than surburbia and so rent there. It really depends on what makes sense for you

I wasn't aware it was common for people to move out to a location so close to where the previous location is. Isn't that like relocating to the same place?

Really, the is that women I meet while on a night out sometimes want to go home with me but I have nowhere to bring them. I guess that means town would be ideal.

seosamh1980

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I wasn't aware it was common for people to move out to a location so close to where the previous location is. Isn't that like relocating to the same place?

No, it's moving out to a place where your parents don't also live. It's not the area that you want to change specifically, it's the situation of still living at home. So living in the same area but in an independent house has nothing to do with location.

Tigger99

You could live near where you work, maybe near your parents or maybe where good pubs/restaurant are.

Its your choice. You could look and see if there is a particular bus route you'd like to be near, or maybe the luas or dart. Where you work is a big factor for people usually.

Penny Tration

Just something to bear in mind - from my experience, many people in a house share would be far from happy at the thought o one tenant bringing home ddifferent women regularly. It's quite a bit different to having a steady girlfriend over on the weekends.

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seosamh1980 wrote: »

No, it's moving out to a place where your parents don't also live. It's not the area that you want to change specifically, it's the situation of still living at home. So living in the same area but in an independent house has nothing to do with location.

Yes that makes sense.

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green_screen wrote: »

Just something to bear in mind - from my experience, many people in a house share would be far from happy at the thought o one tenant bringing home ddifferent women regularly. It's quite a bit different to having a steady girlfriend over on the weekends.

So how will I change my approach and flat decisions based on this? Bringing home different women regularly would certainly be a thing I'd be doing.

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Tigger99 wrote: »

You could live near where you work, maybe near your parents or maybe where good pubs/restaurant are.

Its your choice. You could look and see if there is a particular bus route you'd like to be near, or maybe the luas or dart. Where you work is a big factor for people usually.

The ideal location would be town since it's near all of the clubs but the places I've seen are really expensive.

hardCopy

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So how will I change my approach and flat decisions based on this? Bringing home different women regularly would certainly be a thing I'd be doing.

It kind of depends on your age and the mix of people in the house.

It wouldn't be a problem in a house full of young lads.

Do you work or go to college?

Chattastrophe!

What kind of income do you have ... can you afford to rent your own place instead of sharing?

Tigger99

You seem to want your own place to bring different women home. Are you sure you'll get lucky regularly enough to justify moving out? Also could you not go to theirs?

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hardCopy wrote: »

It kind of depends on your age and the mix of people in the house.

It wouldn't be a problem in a house full of young lads.

So basically, find a place full of young lads?

Do you work or go to college?

I am close to finishing college.

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Chattastrophe! wrote: »

What kind of income do you have ... can you afford to rent your own place instead of sharing?

No, I can afford sharing.

hardCopy

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So basically, find a place full of young lads?

I am close to finishing college.

Look on daft for house shares near your college, you'll probably find rooms where someone has dropped out after Christmas exams. It should be easy enough to find a group of lads this way.

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Tigger99 wrote: »

You seem to want your own place to bring different women home. Are you sure you'll get lucky regularly enough to justify moving out?

Yes, this is partially based on several situations I've been in where I could have had an experience if I had had my own place to bring them back because they were willing, but I could not do so.

Also could you not go to theirs?

Many girls live with their parents and sometimes they are living with other people that they don't want to been seen by bringing me into their place or their bedroom.

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hardCopy wrote: »

Look on daft for house shares near your college, you'll probably find rooms where someone has dropped out after Christmas exams. It should be easy enough to find a group of lads this way.

My decision is based on bringing women from the city center back. I think I'm going to look for a place near a luas stop because the luas goes into the perfect area. Do you think this is a good idea?

Chattastrophe!

You're close to finishing college - is this your final year?

Would you not just stay at home for these last few months? Surely it would be better to focus on getting the best degree you can rather than getting women ... once you're finished college and have a job, it'll be a lot easier to find a suitable place to rent.

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Chattastrophe! wrote: »

You're close to finishing college - is this your final year?

Would you not just stay at home for these last few months? Surely it would be better to focus on getting the best degree you can rather than getting women ... once you're finished college and have a job, it'll be a lot easier to find a suitable place to rent.

I have no problem with college. This will have no effect on my grades whatsoever.

TeletextPear

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My decision is based on bringing women from the city center back. I think I'm going to look for a place near a luas stop because the luas goes into the perfect area. Do you think this is a good idea?

I think when choosing a location you should think about more than where would be handy for bringing women home. For example, would it be convenient for college? You say you're almost finished college so I presume you'll be finishing in summer - would you have a prospect of getting a job in the same location? You will more than likely find yourself in a year-long lease so you won't be able to up and leave if your circumstances change. It might be better to wait until after college when you're in a job before moving out.

strandroad

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My decision is based on bringing women from the city center back. I think I'm going to look for a place near a luas stop because the luas goes into the perfect area. Do you think this is a good idea?

The luas finishes fairly early for a late night pull.

Chattastrophe!

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I have no problem with college. This will have no effect on my grades whatsoever.

You don't know that until you've actually lived in a houseshare, though. It all depends on your housemates, but some can be an absolute nightmare to live with. E.g. if you end up in a house where you're regularly woken up by noise during the night, it can easily have a detrimental effect on your studies. Also it can be stressful living away from home for the first time and dealing with bills, cooking, arguments etc.

If I were in your position, and if I was happy enough living at home apart from this one issue, I'd be inclined to stick it out at least until the end of this college year.

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TeletextPear wrote: »

I think when choosing a location you should think about more than where would be handy for bringing women home. For example, would it be convenient for college? You say you're almost finished college so I presume you'll be finishing in summer - would you have a prospect of getting a job in the same location? You will more than likely find yourself in a year-long lease so you won't be able to up and leave if your circumstances change. It might be better to wait until after college when you're in a job before moving out.

Like I said, college is not a problem, I get high grades regardless, so none of what you wrote makes any difference apart from the 1 year lease part, which does seem to be a problem. Most of the listings seem to require you to live there for at least 12 months. Why is that?

hardCopy

It might be easier in the long run to just ring around a few hotels for a late room whatever you pull

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mhge wrote: »

The luas finishes fairly early for a late night pull.

Alright then I'll just try and find somewhere as close to town as possible.

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Chattastrophe! wrote: »

You don't know that until you've actually lived in a houseshare, though. It all depends on your housemates, but some can be an absolute nightmare to live with. E.g. if you end up in a house where you're regularly woken up by noise during the night, it can easily have a detrimental effect on your studies. Also it can be stressful living away from home for the first time and dealing with bills, cooking, arguments etc.

If I were in your position, and if I was happy enough living at home apart from this one issue, I'd be inclined to stick it out at least until the end of this college year.

Actually, there is a lot of noise and stress in this house, but it does not affect my grades.

TeletextPear

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Like I said, college is not a problem, I get high grades regardless, so none of what you wrote makes any difference apart from the 1 year lease part, which does seem to be a problem. Most of the listings seem to require you to live there for at least 12 months. Why is that?

I didn't mean in terms of your grades, I meant it would be handy to find somewhere near college so you don't have a very long commute to and from there each day. But you would have to make sure there were job prospects in that location too for when you finish college.

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TeletextPear wrote: »

I didn't mean in terms of your grades, I meant it would be handy to find somewhere near college so you don't have a very long commute to and from there each day. But you would have to make sure there were job prospects in that location too for when you finish college.

My college is already a long commute but I don't go in anyway. I just study the material instead.

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Another question about the minimum leases: often the listing says "12 months or more", but the text after this says that they accept short term or long term. What does this mean?

wirelessdude01

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Another question about the minimum leases: often the listing says "12 months or more", but the text after this says that they accept short term or long term. What does this mean?

They are open to shorter stays than 12months.

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wirelessdude01 wrote: »

They are open to shorter stays than 12months.

Why would it say 12 months or more then?

wirelessdude01

Because obviously the preference is for someone who will stay a long time. Reduces the times they have to view the place and interview people.

CaraMay

There is an Accomodation & Property forum which may help answer your questions About leases etc

MagicMarker

Dude, you're in your last year of college and you're smart enough to not even bother going in and get good grades.

Are these questions you're asking not a little bit obvious? Can you not utilize a little common sense here?

Typer Monkey

MagicMarker wrote: »

Dude, you're in your last year of college and you're smart enough to not even bother going in and get good grades.

Are these questions you're asking not a little bit obvious? Can you not utilize a little common sense here?

He mentioned an autism diagnosis in the OP, I think that's most of the issue here

So the only reason the OP wants to move out is that he wants to get laid more? It has nothing to do with wanting independence or needing to be closer to wherever they are studying, or family issues at home, which would usually be the reasons as to why people would move out. Just because they're a horny person. Are you fully sure you want to move out for that reason alone? I mean really? Sharing with people can be a very tough experience, especially if you are diagnosed with autism. I'm not saying you can't manage it, but you really need to hold these other factors in your head apart from your libido.

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MagicMarker wrote: »

Dude, you're in your last year of college and you're smart enough to not even bother going in and get good grades.

Are these questions you're asking not a little bit obvious? Can you not utilize a little common sense here?

You're talking about apples and oranges here. Academic performance is completely different from this "common sense" you talk about. If you have a link to something that provides all the common sense that exists in the world, I'd be happy to study it as if it was college material. Otherwise, talking about "common sense" is and has always been completely useless to me because some people aren't blessed with the ability to pick it up all the time.

Boombastic

With all these one night stands you plan on having, i hope you know about preventing pregnancy and diseases.

You can move out of home to anywhere you want, but just focussing on being able to score girls, really? My priorties wouldn't be on how close to a disco/luas line it it is, but how far it is from college/work and how expensive. How do people who live in the country side manage?

Tigger99

OP that is completely understandable, however getting advice from strangers who aren't familiar with your circumstances mightnt be the best idea. Do you have someone a bit older like a family friend, that you could trust to ask advice from. It seems to me that this is more than just looking for advice on where to live.

Meauldsegosha

OP common sense would tell you that the possibility of sex should not be a priority when choosing somewhere to live. Cost, access to public transport, location for college/work, shops/amenities, housemates, facilities in the apartment/house - these are what you should consider when moving out.

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Tigger99 wrote: »

OP that is completely understandable, however getting advice from strangers who aren't familiar with your circumstances mightnt be the best idea. Do you have someone a bit older like a family friend, that you could trust to ask advice from. It seems to me that this is more than just looking for advice on where to live.

No, it's not. It's related to that and that only.

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Meauldsegosha wrote: »

OP common sense would tell you that the possibility of sex should not be a priority when choosing somewhere to live. Cost, access to public transport, location for college/work, shops/amenities, housemates, facilities in the apartment/house - these are what you should consider when moving out.

Sex may not be an important part of your life but it is an important part of mine.

Boombastic

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Sex may not be an important part of your life but it is an important part of mine.

Sex is an important part of most peoples lives

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moving out wrote: »

Sex may not be an important part of your life but it is an important part of mine.

If that is your reaction when people give you actual proper advice, then why should we try and help you?

You are obviously not mature enough to move out of home and I would even doubt you're mature enough to be having as much sex as you seemingly think you're going to have.

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Deleted User wrote: »

If that is your reaction when people give you actual proper advice, then why should we try and help you?

You are obviously not mature enough to move out of home and I would even doubt you're mature enough to be having as much sex as you seemingly think you're going to have.

My reaction was perfectly fine. He mentioned 6 things that should be important to me instead of sex and my reply was that sex is important for me. Why would a perfectly fine reaction like that imply a lack of maturity?

Meauldsegosha

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Sex may not be an important part of your life but it is an important part of mine.

I offered you constructive advice which you came on this site looking for. There is no need to be rude.

If you read my post again you will see that I never said that sex wasn't an important part of life but that it not a priority when considering where to live.

I understand that you have autism and that is why I based my first post on common sense which said you didn't have. Perhaps you should talk to your parents or another trusted adult before you make the final decision.

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Meauldsegosha wrote: »

I offered you constructive advice which you came on this site looking for. There is no need to be rude.

If you read my post again you will see that I never said that sex wasn't an important part of life but that it not a priority when considering where to live.

I understand that you have autism and that is why I based my first post on common sense which said you didn't have. Perhaps you should talk to your parents or another trusted adult before you make the final decision.

I was not trying to be rude. Please give a reason why it is not a priority, as I always take advice but I don't take it blindly.

Boombastic

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My reaction was perfectly fine. He mentioned 6 things that should be important to me instead of sex and my reply was that sex is important for me. Why would a perfectly fine reaction like that imply a lack of maturity?

You come across as a bit creepy if sex is more important to you than the things the other poster mentioned when considering moving house, just my opinion

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moving out wrote: »

My reaction was perfectly fine. He mentioned 6 things that should be important to me instead of sex and my reply was that sex is important for me. Why would a perfectly fine reaction like that imply a lack of maturity?

No, it wasn't. The way it came across was actually quite rude and I'm sure many others will agree with me. And it implies a lack of maturity because you're not willing to consider the other huge factors that come into play when deciding to move out.

Not being rude, but I actually hope you don't move out. I can't imagine many people would be happy to live with someone who is intending to be as disrespectful as you are.