Etiquette when shortening peoples names.

Lando Griffin

So I was walking down the stairs at work a short while ago and I met a work colleague who incidentally has the same name as I, and he greeted me "Lando" to which I replied "Hi Lans"
He seemed to take offense to this as he turned around and requested that I call him his proper name.
I find this quite odd for a person to take offence to a shortened pet name or is he just being a snob.
I myself don't mind being called anything ( as long as its not early in the morning!:mad:)
Anyway do you mind a shortened name and if someone you don't really know calls you a shortened name do you take offense?

BBDBB

do you know why he would prefer to be called by his full name?
perhaps he has his reasons

seems a harmless enough request regardless

anncoates

Your everyday life always seems to be crammed with trivial incidents that appear tailor-made for strange AH threads.

Hoop66

I had a mate growing up that was an inveterate name-shortener.

My real name is Steven most shortened it to Steve, I can live with that. That wasn't short enough for this guy, he didn't have time for vs, he shortened it to Ste. He also shorrtened another friend, David/Dave to Day.

True story.

kneemos

How many Lando's do you work with?

bringupthebook

I wouldnt take offense personally but dont like when people add an 'o' or 'ie' to the end of every person's name. If your an Edward, William, Charles or whatever you are going to hear all kinds of names thrown at you.

anncoates

kneemos wrote: »

How many Lando's do you work with?

Cloud City is a big place.

Legs.Eleven

The guy in question obviously wasn't much of a hepcat. :cool: Only hepcats have nicknames.

R.F.

Lando Calrissian?

Lando Griffin

kneemos wrote: »

How many Lando's do you work with?

Just the 2 of us now since my father Lando Snr retired last year.

Ciaran_B

Can't shorten Ciaran. Well, I suppose you could use Ciara. Although that would be ridic.

touts

kneemos wrote: »

How many Lando's do you work with?

I'd say both of them.

ruthloss

Everyone in my family are called by shortened versions of their names, it's a form of endearment.

Hiya Kev, Dave, Steve, Andy.:)

N.B:
If you are ever called by your full name, it's a sign you are in trouble with one of them.

AnonoBoy

My friend Cauntarian from Cambodia hates when people shorten his name.

Dravokivich

First sylybal is usually where its at. Sub a pair of r's for a z, like barry to baz. If in dublin, add an o.

Muise...

Only one friend gets to call me a shortened name, and he's from Liverpool so he can't help it - my name doesn't sound right with "our" before it.

New people who try to give me a shortened version get politely, yet scornfully, asked not to do it again.

petes

Muise... wrote: »

Only one friend gets to call me a shortened name, and he's from Liverpool so he can't help it - my name doesn't sound right with "our" before it.
.

You sure he isn't from Dundalk :pac:

My name is Peter, most at work call me Pete, some family members call me Petes.

I call myself Peter but I don't mind people shortening it.

anncoates

petes wrote: »

some family members call me Petes.

While pinching your cheek, I assume? :pac:

kneemos

petes wrote: »

You sure he isn't from Dundalk :pac:

My name is Peter, most at work call me Pete, some family members call me Petes.

I call myself Peter but I don't mind people shortening it.

Pee me old mate.

Legs.Eleven

I'm only known by my two nicknames and I wouldn't answer to my own name as I'm not used to anyone referring to me as it, which is a pity as I'd actually prefer my own name to what people call me but it's what my friends started calling me at school and it stuck.

Akrasia

In the west of ireland we don't do name shortening, we do name longening (or a mutation that's the same length but changed)

If your name is Sean, you become Seanie
If your name is Tom, you become Tommie etc

My brother named his son Dylan and he mutates it to Dillie
Which co-incidentally is the same mutation that would occor if his son had been named Dildo

MJ23

They're terrible for it in England. Lived there years ago and was never once called by my name. It was "dave davie day or d" all the time. Gave up correcting them after a few weeks.

stoneill

Calling somebody names Lando Lans is just silly.
Do you go to a Nans restaurant for delicious chicken?

Akrasia

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

I'm only known by my two nicknames and I wouldn't answer to my own name as I'm not used to anyone referring to me as it, which is a pity as I'd actually prefer my own name to what people call me but it's what my friends started calling me at school and it stuck.

Captain Spazmo?

cantdecide

Interesting topic, Landolophagus....

Ciaran_B wrote: »

Can't shorten Ciaran. Well, I suppose you could use Ciara. Although that would be ridic.

'Course it would, Ciar. I, on the other hand am truly exempt... .

Muise...

Akrasia wrote: »

In the west of ireland we don't do name shortening, we do name longening (or a mutation that's the same length but changed)

If your name is Sean, you become Seanie
If your name is Tom, you become Tommie etc

My brother named his son Dylan and he mutates it to Dillie
Which co-incidentally is the same mutation that would occor if his son had been named Dildo

Only the first name, mind, but you have to use all the names to save confusion. Otherwise all the Seánies would look up when it was Seánie Micillín Dinny Pat Máire you were calling for.

iDave

Hoop66 wrote: »

I had a mate growing up that was an inveterate name-shortener.

My real name is Steven most shortened it to Steve, I can live with that. That wasn't short enough for this guy, he didn't have time for vs, he shortened it to Ste. He also shorrtened another friend, David/Dave to Day.

True story.

Hencefort you can call me iDay

kylith

The only thing I've come a cropper with over nicknames is when one of my mates asked me to stop introducing them to people by their surname. Threw me a bit because I've been calling them by their surname, and they've called me by mine, for years. However a person's name is very personal and I'm happy to call them whatever they want me to.

biko

I call someone their proper name unless they have introduced themselves to me as something else.
Or of course if they're a friend.

GLaDOS

Most people shorten my name, doesn't bother me, though can seem a bit odd form someone I've only met.

petes

kneemos wrote: »

Pee me old mate.

You know, someone people have actually shortened it to P!!

Legs.Eleven

Akrasia wrote: »

Captain Spazmo?

Boobie McTits.

Muise...

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

Boobie McTits.

stuck in my head now.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v1c2OfAzDTI

cantdecide

I am always sensitive to pronouncing someone's name properly. I know lots of non-Irish people and I would never shorten a Jacek to 'Jack' as some people think is perfectly acceptable.

I once worked for an elderly gent called Dermot. People in the organisation would call him as such but as it was a business to business organisation with lots of regular customers, we had lots of people that got it into their heads that calling him 'Derry' once they got know him was the done thing. It became a standing joke eventually- a customer would leave the office and he'd muse 'Derry? Who the fcuk is Derry? Did my mother have another son called Derry'!

Maximus Alexander

My name is one syllable so I am off the hook.

eyescreamcone

Any ideas for shortening Graham?

Maximus Alexander

eyescreamcone wrote: »

Any ideas for shortening Graham?

Hamo?

daRobot

Ciaran_B wrote: »

Can't shorten Ciaran. Well, I suppose you could use Ciara. Although that would be ridic.

You sure can, bud.

Al'righ Ciar (Keer)

bnt

When it comes to names, my attitude is to do whatever the owner wants. Getting the name right is a fundamental sign of respect for the other person. That goes for spelling, too - unless it's unavoidable, misspelling someone's name is completely unacceptable.

eyescreamcone

Maximus Alexander wrote: »

Hamo?

The "h" in Graham tends to be pretty silent (Grey-am) so I'm not sure if Hamo works.

Gramo as in Grey-mo maybe?

CardBordWindow

I work with a guy who NEVER calls anyone by their actually name. If he can shorten it, he will. (Sandra becomes San ; Pat becomes Pa)
But if the name is already short, he will make it longer, often in the most stupid way. Ed becomes 'The Ed' ; Chris becomes 'Chrissie Boy'

An irritating individual!

I get called

The first letter of my name
The first letter of my name, doubled
Half the first syllable of my name
The first syllable of my name with an s at the end

Also occasionally my actual name

Doesn't bother me in the slightest, I quite like them actually.

In work, I tend to call people by their full names unless I know them well.

Maximus Alexander

eyescreamcone wrote: »

The "h" in Graham tends to be pretty silent (Grey-am) so I'm not sure if Hamo works.

Gramo as in Grey-mo maybe?

I always deliberately pronounce Graham as Gray-HAM. I like to annoy Grahams for some reason.

Merkin

CardBordWindow wrote: »

I work with a guy who NEVER calls anyone by their actually name. If he can shorten it, he will. (Sandra becomes San ; Pat becomes Pa)
But if the name is already short, he will make it longer, often in the most stupid way. Ed becomes 'The Ed' ; Chris becomes 'Chrissie Boy'

An irritating individual!

He sounds like a twat. Maybe start calling him "twa" and see if he gets it....

wandatowell

Ciaran_B wrote: »

Can't shorten Ciaran. Well, I suppose you could use Ciara. Although that would be ridic.

Ya you can, I've a mate Ciaran who I call Cere.

irish_goat

English people seem unable to say "Thomas", it always gets shortened to "Tom". It's not a big deal but it's annoying. If I wanted to be called Tom I'd introduce myself as such.

wretcheddomain

eyescreamcone wrote: »

Any ideas for shortening Graham?

Gram

Doesn't help that my shortened name is Wretched...:(

ash23

My family and close friends use a shortened version of my name but I find it strange when work colleagues or people I don't know well use it.
For my family and friends it's a term of endearment or affection. So when used by someone I don't know that well it just seems slightly strange. Like calling a workmate "hon" or "babe".

I introduce myself by my full name so would expect it not to be shortened.

wretcheddomain

ash23 wrote: »

My family and close friends use a shortened version of my name

23?

ash23

wretcheddomain wrote: »

23?

Har har

pickarooney

cantdecide wrote: »

I am always sensitive to pronouncing someone's name properly. I know lots of non-Irish people and I would never shorten a Jacek to 'Jack' as some people think is perfectly acceptable.

I once worked for an elderly gent called Dermot. People in the organisation would call him as such but as it was a business to business organisation with lots of regular customers, we had lots of people that got it into their heads that calling him 'Derry' once they got know him was the done thing. It became a standing joke eventually- a customer would leave the office and he'd muse 'Derry? Who the fcuk is Derry? Did my mother have another son called Derry'!

I think you'll find his correct name was Londondermot.