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Christmas Wedding

  • 21-10-2013 07:00PM
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    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19


    Hi all,

    Myself and my partner are planning a Christmas wedding for 2014. It seems to be a popular time of year for weddings, as the dates between Christmas Day and New Years Day have already been booked! We wanted this particular week as people are off work and the stress of Christmas shopping, dinner etc is over Just wondering how people feel about a wedding a week or two before Christmas? Would it be a hassle for people regarding money, work commitments and Christmas parties or is it still nice to attend a wedding amongst the other festivities?


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 23,862 ✭✭✭✭January


    We're having a New Years Eve wedding and anyone who has heard about it is delighted that it's NYE, they say that it takes the hassle of having to find somewhere to go New Years Eve and to pay through the nose to get into a venue.

    I'm not sure how people would feel about trying to take time off work and stuff in the run up to Christmas, it'd probably be a bit bothersome especially if you were planning on having it on a weekday instead of a weekend.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19 Cas86


    January wrote: »
    We're having a New Years Eve wedding and anyone who has heard about it is delighted that it's NYE, they say that it takes the hassle of having to find somewhere to go New Years Eve and to pay through the nose to get into a venue.

    I'm not sure how people would feel about trying to take time off work and stuff in the run up to Christmas, it'd probably be a bit bothersome especially if you were planning on having it on a weekday instead of a weekend.

    I'm actually quite jealous, NYE was the day we wanted but the venue we've chosen has NYE 2014 and 2015 already booked! We'll be engaged 4 years this NYE's and I'm not willing to wait another 3 years to get married :-) we were thinking a weekend wedding in December but I'm thinking it might be inconvenient for guests as it may clash with last minute shopping, Christmas parties etc. I don't want our wedding to be something my guests are dreading but I really want a festive wedding! If guests had plenty of notice, I wonder would it make a difference?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 23,862 ✭✭✭✭January


    We've given our guests plenty of notice. Everyone was notified the day after it was booked and we've also negotiated a special two day package for guests who are coming from overseas with the hotel. Most of our rooms are already booked up!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,913 ✭✭✭clint_silver


    Cas86 wrote: »
    I'm actually quite jealous, NYE was the day we wanted but the venue we've chosen has NYE 2014 and 2015 already booked! We'll be engaged 4 years this NYE's and I'm not willing to wait another 3 years to get married :-) we were thinking a weekend wedding in December but I'm thinking it might be inconvenient for guests as it may clash with last minute shopping, Christmas parties etc. I don't want our wedding to be something my guests are dreading but I really want a festive wedding! If guests had plenty of notice, I wonder would it make a difference?

    very popular dates for these very reasons.

    theres strong arguments for and against having it 2 weeks before. crimbo coming up, lot of people may not want or need the added expense and it really does put 500e on a couple between clothes accommodation, pressie, drink, makeup and hair.

    Then again, enough notice and they should save up for it. Personally Id rather not have the expense but each to their own on that.

    If you had it mid january you could do some serious negotiating with suppliers but some couples might not be able to attend due to time of year post crimbo blues, in which case Id be having it local to majority of crowd and let it be known no cash presents and run a bus home, now all they gotta do is buy drink.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,818 ✭✭✭jlm29


    We're hoping to plan for dec 2014 too- but obviously we really need to get a move on. It's prime Xmas party season, so a band might be difficult to come by.

    think well try to have a small wedding for family only, and then a bit of a knees up that evening for friends. I'm hoping that that will take some of both the inconvenience and the expense out of it for people.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 727 ✭✭✭prettygurrly


    I would definitely have my wedding pre christmas rather than January. After having my birthday in January every year for the last nearly 30 years it's a dead time of year and no matter how much notice you give people they always have their money spent by NYD. So, loads of notice so your guests can work it into the Christmas expense and do it pre-Christmas. You could also go a month earlier and get good prices for a November wedding. My friend had hers in England in Nov a few years ago, planned it in 7 weeks so got loads of last minute offers, it was magical...sadly I didn't go but the pictures were unreal.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,332 ✭✭✭tatli_lokma


    I know for me and many of my friends, getting time off prior to Christmas simply won't happen. A lot of places close between Christmas and New Year and these are the days you have to take your holidays. Trying to get extra days on top of this isn't easy, particularly if Christmas is a busy time in your work place.

    In addition, having to arrange hotel accommodation, child minders etc at an already busy and expensive time of year would really put me off. And then there is the whole 'chirstmas party' thing - a girl I work with attended a wedding 2 weeks before Christmas last year and said it felt very much like a staff christmas party mainly because of the atmosphere in the hotel, plus on the Saturday of the wedding, there were a gang of people who had attended the christmas party the night before and stayed over and they were all around the hotel up until about 3pm killing their hangovers and having lunch. There could also be a risk of your wedding having a 'christmas party vibe' if you don't get the ambiance right.

    Personally, if I got an invitation to a wedding within 2 weeks of Christmas I would politely decline unless it was a very close friend or family member. If the wedding was between Christmas and New Year I would possibly go, depending on funds and where the wedding was being held.

    Christmas is a very expensive time of year for a lot of people, and the last thing they can afford is a wedding as well.

    Also costs for the couple may increase, because remember this is the busiest time of year for beauticians, DJ's, bands etc so organising these services could cost more.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 90 ✭✭TAPA2012


    Do consider your nearest and dearest and if it will suit them. Then give everyone lots of notice. I did save the dates about 11mths before. Like every wedding ppl have to save. Try make it easy on ppl to attend like getting affordable accom will help out of town ppl. My only advice is be considerate. Have fun organising and congratulations!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,797 ✭✭✭sweetie


    December is very quiet for weddings for most of the reasons you have outlined. A wedding after christmas can be nice if there's not a great amount of travel involved.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28 XMASSmrstobe


    HI,

    We're having our wedding on the sat before Christmas this year. It means being a little more organised - we did save the dates 9 months before and invites are going out this week (hopefully have to finish diy). We're also doing hen and stags this weekend (again in advance to space cost). But most people are v happy and seem thrilled. I love the athmosphere at christmas!

    having said that:
    1. we are youngish getting married - mid twenties - so very few of our friends have children, I imagine this would make it more difficult for people.
    2. generation emigration - means a large amount of our best friends and bridal party away, this close to christmas means many are coming home and staying - so while yes it is one extra day off work (the monday) that they may not have taken, they're not paying for extra flights for a separate weekend home! Also means those coming from further can make it - cannot wait to see everyone together for the first time in YEARS
    3. we're one of the first weddings so the excitement is massive
    4. its not a crazy expensive venue for people to stay and plenty of B&Bs in the area.
    5. we're not expecting big gifts - or many gifts - just want company.
    6. from a selfish point of view, our date means htb can work until lunch on the friday and then be off for christmas. We can head on honeymoon just after and take two weeks for the first time in years - as there are so many bank hollidays etc. that it works out well with annual leave!
    7. having a wedding in december has been very cost effective for us, most places have been very willing to negotiate and saved nearly 20% on everything!

    ;) I love it and it works, but perhaps that's down to your guests and what suits them!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,110 ✭✭✭Electric Sheep


    Personally, if I got an invitation to a wedding within 2 weeks of Christmas I would politely decline unless it was a very close friend or family member. If the wedding was between Christmas and New Year I would possibly go, depending on funds and where the wedding was being held.

    I agree. And even if between Christmas and New Year, I would go only if it did not mean an overnight stay. Christmas is for my family - I'd rather spend the money on them then on attending a wedding.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 58,456 ✭✭✭✭ibarelycare


    Anyone who I ever hear talking about attending a wedding in the run-up to Christmas, or the week after (except NYE for the most part) complains about the timing. Let's face it, no one's going to complain to your face about your date chosen, but you can guarantee a lot of people will be giving out about it behind your back. It's a ridiculously expensive time of the year, and even with plenty of notice given, a lot of people will find it very difficult to factor a wedding into their December budget.

    If you're having a local wedding, where the majority of people don't have to pay for accommodation, then it's not too bad. But if people are expected to travel and stay over, then it's unfair to have a wedding so close to Christmas.


  • Moderators, Education Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 19,021 Mod ✭✭✭✭Moonbeam


    I would only have a christmas wedding if you have a lot of friends and family travelling home at that time of the year.
    We discussed it but with christmas and then kids birthdays in January we would have been wrecked and super broke!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,644 ✭✭✭✭lazygal


    Funny this should be here. We've just gotten invited to a Christmas wedding (shortly before Christmas) and as soon as I saw the date I knew we'd be declining. We need babysitters, and there's already things on in December for those who'd be up for babysitting. It's an expensive time of year to be going somewhere for an overnight stay (distance would necessitate this) and the room rate I checked online is very expensive, and I doubt there's room to haggle given the time of year.
    It just doesn't suit us, even a local wedding would be tricky because of babysitters for the day and the expense of the day (gifts etc) so I wouldn't be keen on it if other dates were available. I can see how it suits couples (people home from abroad in particular) but I can also see a massive decline rate because of the time of year, especially if you have children.


  • Moderators, Education Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 19,021 Mod ✭✭✭✭Moonbeam


    I think at that time of the year you kind of need ot include the kids as everyone is to broke to afford going to a wedding and babysitters.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,644 ✭✭✭✭lazygal


    Tbh we don't bring our children even if they're asked because its just too much hassle bringing them.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,435 ✭✭✭Birdie086


    In this house we are in the process of organinsing a 2014 wedding either NYE or the day before.

    We are aware that christmas is already costly for people so we will be letting everyone know as soon as church etc are confirmed.

    We attended five weddings this year over the space of four months, and four last year. We went to great expense as most of these weddings were out of towners. We will be having a city wedding in modern hotel to contrast(we dont want ours compared as we dont have a massive budget). By having a city wedding people dont have to stay overnight if they dont want to.

    We are also hoping, church permitting to have the service later in the day rather than earlier, this gives people a little more breathing space. any one working retail wont miss out if they cant get the day off work etc, they can can come along without having missed much of the day.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,435 ✭✭✭Birdie086


    the main point I meant to make is that summer weddings can bu just as tricky for people attending as it is peak Wedding season and many like us this year and last can have mutliple invites over a short period of time.
    I had no official holidays this year thanks to having bits of weeks off here and there to attend weddings.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 23,862 ✭✭✭✭January


    Birdie086 wrote: »
    In this house we are in the process of organinsing a 2014 wedding either NYE or the day before.

    We are aware that christmas is already costly for people so we will be letting everyone know as soon as church etc are confirmed.

    We attended five weddings this year over the space of four months, and four last year. We went to great expense as most of these weddings were out of towners. We will be having a city wedding in modern hotel to contrast(we dont want ours compared as we dont have a massive budget). By having a city wedding people dont have to stay overnight if they dont want to.

    We are also hoping, church permitting to have the service later in the day rather than earlier, this gives people a little more breathing space. any one working retail wont miss out if they cant get the day off work etc, they can can come along without having missed much of the day.

    One thing you might want to think of with a wedding later in the day is the amount of natural light left over to take pictures. It gets dark very early in December!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,435 ✭✭✭Birdie086


    January wrote: »
    One thing you might want to think of with a wedding later in the day is the amount of natural light left over to take pictures. It gets dark very early in December!

    thanks for the tip, I hadn't though of that as we wont be having any photographs, culled from the budget, that plus wedding cars. Also no need for flowers etc for church as church will be all decorated for christmas.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,559 ✭✭✭Daisy M


    Having received quiet a few invites to weddings around Christmas time, I now consider them to be a right pain. I used to long to get an invite to a Christmas wedding so this is a complete turnaround for me. I personally find that going to a wedding takes a lot of organising, between childcare, clothes hair ect, Christmas is enough to organise without throwing a wedding in on top.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19 Cas86


    Thanks for all the advice guys! We've decided to book the 30th Dec 2014.

    A lot of our close friends and family love the idea of a wedding during Christmas week as it's a great time to catch up with extended family members scattered around the country aswell as family and friends home for the holidays. As most have suggested the pre-Christmas idea didn't suit a lot of people due to family and work commitments! We've told all of our close friends and extended families of the date so we're giving 13 months notice and hopefully that will help as we're well aware of how expensive the time of year is.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19 Cas86


    Birdie086 wrote: »
    the main point I meant to make is that summer weddings can bu just as tricky for people attending as it is peak Wedding season and many like us this year and last can have mutliple invites over a short period of time.
    I had no official holidays this year thanks to having bits of weeks off here and there to attend weddings.

    I completely agree, we've also spent a lot of money and annual leave on weddings this year! Summer weddings are not necessarily the most convenient time for guests either but I think the people who love and care for you will be there on the day no matter what time of year it is and I think Christmas is a time for family and friends in anyway so why not have a wedding where they can all be together in one room?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,913 ✭✭✭clint_silver


    Cas86 wrote: »
    I completely agree, we've also spent a lot of money and annual leave on weddings this year! Summer weddings are not necessarily the most convenient time for guests either but I think the people who love and care for you will be there on the day no matter what time of year it is and I think Christmas is a time for family and friends in anyway so why not have a wedding where they can all be together in one room?

    There will never be a time or location that will be convenient for all, just one that will be convenient for most if the B&G care about that.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,449 ✭✭✭✭pwurple


    Birdie086 wrote: »
    thanks for the tip, I hadn't though of that as we wont be having any photographs, culled from the budget, that plus wedding cars. Also no need for flowers etc for church as church will be all decorated for christmas.


    Cars and flowers are cullable alright, but photographs? Have a few photos, really. You may regret that one.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,435 ✭✭✭Birdie086


    pwurple wrote: »
    Cars and flowers are cullable alright, but photographs? Have a few photos, really. You may regret that one.


    My mam is great at taking photos, so she can do the honours, knowing this house and how is works all we need is one for the wall and the rest will end up in in album in a drawer.


    A friend is doing hair for the bridal party and one the bridesmaids sisters is doing tan and make up. The bulk of our budget is going on food and entertaiment, none of the rest important to us. But thats just us and what we like.


  • Moderators, Education Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 19,021 Mod ✭✭✭✭Moonbeam


    I would have someone there dedicated to taking photos,your mother is there to enjoy herself.
    Even ask a friend to do it,I have little interest in wedding photos but my kids will be the ones that look at them and enjoy them.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 70 ✭✭HelenT


    ~After giving it much consideration, we are having our wedding this year pre-Christmas. It is a very important date to us - and we have stressed to everyone that we fully understand if they cannot make it along. We will try to catch up with them over the Christmas instead. To be perfectly honest weddings are expensive anytime of the year and those that really want to be there will be there, those that choose not to come would probably have found it inconvenient regardless of time of year.

    We sent out our invites a couple of weeks ago and are getting a much better turn out than we expected. Everyone is saying it is a great way to kick off the silly season.

    Its just perfect for us besides the actual date we picked being personally very important to us, we also love Christmas, so the tree and decorations etc are going to give it an extra va-va-voom! And the Christmas songs :-)))

    Getting Very excited!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,302 ✭✭✭Gatica


    I consider the dates around xmas/new year's to be the time we don't have to rush anywhere, can relax and spend with family. I like having that time with my family and in-law family - sitting by the fire doing nothing, or making house calls to relatives to catch-up. I don't consider it the time to get organised to go somewhere for a whole day, for a cousin's or friend's wedding. New Year's likewise is for friends, whether at home or a party, it's the people that mean the most to me that I'd be wanting to meet up with. Not going to a wedding of a friend of my husband's for example.
    If it was a close friend, I'd still go to the wedding, but if I had a choice I'd rather it wasn't around xmas. Not all my friends would be from the same circle, so unlikely to be there.

    I would only consider XMASSmrstobe's situation to be appropriate to a Xmas wedding. It seems to put out a lower number of people that another more typical wedding, where most of the guests are in the country...

    just my tuppence...


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 269 ✭✭bellinter


    anyone giving out about a Christmas wedding... just don't go. When you are sending back the response and there is a option to tick a yes box or a no box, tick the NO and see what happens. If you dont really want to go (and at the end of the day thats what it boils down to, anything else is an excuse) then there is every chance the couple themselevs feel the exact same about your presence there, and the invite was more out of obligation than anything! Then everyone will be happy. The couple dont have to pay for your dinner, the other guests don't have to hear you whinging because you would rather be at home eating roses... and you yourself get to eat those roses.

    Weddings are for people who want to be there. Not people sitting there with a sour face on them for the whole day because of the "inconvenience" to an otherwise hectic life. Same goes for any time of the year, not just Christmas.

    I've been to 4 Christmas wedding in the past few years, 3 before and 1 between that and NYE and I've really enjoyed them all. The open fire at the venue, the bit of frost on the ground outside, the additional atmosphere that the christmas tree brings to anywhere, a few Christmas songs thrown in to add to the craic later on... all great.


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