Is it bad to sell gift?

LegacyUser

Not a serious issue, but my bf got me a gift voucher for a designer outlet place last Christmas. Thing is I haven't used it and haven't seen anything there I need. Thought i'd have an excuse to buy a nice dress but didn't work out that way. Would it be bad form to sell it on, I would only lose a small amount. I'd love to have the cash and go on a Penneys binge, can't justify spending a fortune on something I don't need. Haven't said this to him obviously, just wondering if its a bit insensitive?

Sleepy

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest. The way I'd see it would be that he bought you a voucher so it's hardly a personal gift...

TBH, I'd be more annoyed if my wife got me a voucher as a gift. Hate the things.

moochers

If you are not going to use it, sell it. Just explain to your bf that while you really appreciate the gift you didn't see anything you liked. You can always say that you need new clothes for work/college etc and that the high street has more variety

heretochat

Not much thought goes into getting a voucher in the first place so can't see that you would be thoughtless for selling it on and getting something you wanted yourself.

LegacyUser

moochers wrote: »

If you are not going to use it, sell it. Just explain to your bf that while you really appreciate the gift you didn't see anything you liked. You can always say that you need new clothes for work/college etc and that the high street has more variety

That's it we're thinking of travelling soon and wouldn't mind get a few bits to take with me.

Canard

Vouchers are so annoying and pointless, they're just restricted money. I'm sure he won't be offended if you sell it if you just explain the situation.

LegacyUser

Surely there's something in the whole
Of the outlet place that you'd like?! Personally I wouldn't sell it. It's from
Your boyfriend, he obviously thought its be a nice idea and was letting you choose what you would like.

December2012

Would he know if you sold it?

freshpopcorn

Just an idea, have you looked into getting a coat or a good pair of shoes/boots for winter? You might be able to get a really good quality coat or boots for winter their!

Toast4532

Personally I wouldn't see anything wrong with selling it, but your boyfriend mightn't like the idea of you selling it as it was a gift from him.

I know of a few people who would be offended if the gave someone a gift voucher and then that voucher was sold on/given away etc. it all depends on the person who gifted it.

Meauldsegosha

A gift voucher is really the same as giving someone cash. So if the OP can get cash for the voucher and use the cash to buy something she wants then there shouldn't really be an issue.

However I would agree with some of the other posters. If my boyfriend/partner gave me a gift voucher I wouldn't be too pleased.

Sometimes I much prefer receiving a gift voucher or money from someone. I can't remember the last time my parents got me something physical for my birthday. I'm generally quite hard to buy for sometimes, so they find it much easier and I get to use it on exactly what I'd like.

In this case, it wouldn't really bother me that somebody might sell the voucher. However, you do know you'll likely lose money off of it though as why would someone buy a voucher for facevalue when they could just get it from a shop? I'd look into whether there is genuinely nothing else (like someone has said, a winter coat/good boots/winter clothes in general would be a great investment!)

Santa Cruz

Sell it and buy some nice "garments" in Ann Summers. Then tell him you bought them with the voucher. He won't complain

ArtyC

Would he even know if you sold it and bought clothes elsewhere? Your doing no harm... It's not like selling a well thought gift. ( not trying to sound like he's a bad guy or anything )

LegacyUser

Deleted User wrote: »

Sometimes I much prefer receiving a gift voucher or money from someone. I can't remember the last time my parents got me something physical for my birthday. I'm generally quite hard to buy for sometimes, so they find it much easier and I get to use it on exactly what I'd like.

In this case, it wouldn't really bother me that somebody might sell the voucher. However, you do know you'll likely lose money off of it though as why would someone buy a voucher for facevalue when they could just get it from a shop? I'd look into whether there is genuinely nothing else (like someone has said, a winter coat/good boots/winter clothes in general would be a great investment!)

I've already mentioned the losing money bit in my OP. I wouldn't lose that much.

hardCopy

ArtyC wrote: »

Would he even know if you sold it and bought clothes elsewhere? Your doing no harm... It's not like selling a well thought gift. ( not trying to sound like he's a bad guy or anything )

Believe it or not, some people do put some thought into vouchers.

It can be a nice way to encourage someone to treat themselves. If you give someone cash they may just end up spending it on groceries, as opposed to buying a nice item that they'll be able to point to and "I got that with a voucher from X".

LegacyUser

Yeah I had wanted a nice dress which is why he got it, but turns out I didn't need it in the end.

Toast4532

hardCopy wrote: »

Believe it or not, some people do put some thought into vouchers.

It can be a nice way to encourage someone to treat themselves. If you give someone cash they may just end up spending it on groceries, as opposed to buying a nice item that they'll be able to point to and "I got that with a voucher from X".

I have to agree.

My family usually give me vouchers (and I love vouchers anyway) because they know if they give me cash it will be spent on practical things like bills, food etc.

OP could you maybe mention in passing to your boyfriend that you've had a look in the store and there is nothing there that you want/like/can afford and suggest that selling the voucher and using the money from it to shop in shops you like and see what he says?

I know I wouldn't care if my bf wanted to sell a voucher I bought him if he wasn't going to use, and I would encourage him to sell it rather than force him into getting something he doesn't like/want and also so the voucher wouldn't go to waste.

Or do you have any birthdays coming up (friends/family etc) who you could buy something for using the voucher maybe? That'd way you're still using the voucher, but you (presumably) wouldn't need to spend any extra on the present?

jamesbondings

heretochat wrote: »

Not much thought goes into getting a voucher in the first place so can't see that you would be thoughtless for selling it on and getting something you wanted yourself.

I don't know. By her post it seems like it was a lot of money I presume for a nice expensive shop if so maybe he wanted her to have a nice designer dress for herself but not knowing exactly what type of expensive dress she would wear decided to give her a voucher...... If that's the case and it was me I would be hurt by it but wouldn't let the missus know. If he felt you were worth penny's vouchers that's what you would have got....

meeeeh

I don't know, I would certainly notice if somebody would buy a load of cheap stuff in Penny's instead of something more luxurious. Maybe he just wanted to treat you with something more special, maybe he is not mad about your current wardrobe, maybe they were the handiest vouchers to get. Only in the last instance I'd feel comfortable selling them. We can do what ever we want with gifts but gifts from those closest to us should be dealt with a bit more sensitivity. Because it shows them that we care.

LegacyUser

meeeeh wrote: »

I don't know, I would certainly notice if somebody would buy a load of cheap stuff in Penny's instead of something more luxurious. Maybe he just wanted to treat you with something more special, maybe he is not mad about your current wardrobe, maybe they were the handiest vouchers to get. Only in the last instance I'd feel comfortable selling them. We can do what ever we want with gifts but gifts from those closest to us should be dealt with a bit more sensitivity. Because it shows them that we care.

Nothing wrong with my current wardrobe, but thanks for that. It was for €100 and I thought I could get a dress in the Coast store, but don't need it now. I've expensive dresses hanging in my wardrobe that have been worn once/twice so can't justify buying another one that i've no use for. We both went over there and had a look a while back and I couldn't see anything.

freshpopcorn

PRESSIE wrote: »

Nothing wrong with my current wardrobe, but thanks for that. It was for €100 and I thought I could get a dress in the Coast store, but don't need it now. I've expensive dresses hanging in my wardrobe that have been worn once/twice so can't justify buying another one that i've no use for. We both went over there and had a look a while back and I couldn't see anything.

I think you should get the idea of getting a dress out of your head, since you mentioned Coast their I have a pretty good idea of the designer outlet your on about. Their are a lot of other clothes shops there.
Maybe have a look at a shop where you might get a nice designer jumper/blouse/jeans there are also sports shops their. You could also get something that might be piratical for the winter in the next few weeks!

LegacyUser

freshpopcorn wrote: »

I think you should get the idea of getting a dress out of your head, since you mentioned Coast their I have a pretty good idea of the designer outlet your on about. Their are a lot of other clothes shops there.
Maybe have a look at a shop where you might get a nice designer jumper/blouse/jeans there are also sports shops their. You could also get something that might be piratical for the winter in the next few weeks!

I don't think your quite with me. I can afford to buy a dress in Coast if I wanted one. I just don't need one. I'm not intending to buy a dress anymore, that's the whole point of selling the voucher and my OP???? I'd prefer to get some cheap bits n pieces in Penneys to bring travelling. It's not about affording it, i'm getting that's what you think I mean. Your post is a bit confusing.

Tramps Like Us

Personally I'd be a bit annoyed if my gf sold a present.

He gave it to you so you could get something expensive and nice, not a bunch of stuff from pennies. This is especially the case if you are one of those people who are reluctant to spend money on themselves. Gift giving is not all about the recipient, just buy yourself something nice.

hardCopy

PRESSIE wrote: »

Nothing wrong with my current wardrobe, but thanks for that. It was for €100 and I thought I could get a dress in the Coast store, but don't need it now. I've expensive dresses hanging in my wardrobe that have been worn once/twice so can't justify buying another one that i've no use for. We both went over there and had a look a while back and I couldn't see anything.

I'd see buying something you can't justify as the whole point of buying someone a voucher.

ibarelycare

OP I take it the voucher is for Kildare Village? There are plenty of shops there that you could buy things for going travelling. €100 obviously won't go very far there compared to Penneys but it would be nice to have a "decent" piece or two for travelling: maybe a nice bikini, some comfortable shoes, a good quality rucksack/bag. Planning for travelling is expensive and while you will of course stock up on cheap bits in Penneys, there are definitely things that you can buy in Kildare Village that will stand to you for your travels.

meeeeh

PRESSIE wrote: »

Nothing wrong with my current wardrobe, but thanks for that. It was for €100 and I thought I could get a dress in the Coast store, but don't need it now. I've expensive dresses hanging in my wardrobe that have been worn once/twice so can't justify buying another one that i've no use for. We both went over there and had a look a while back and I couldn't see anything.

I didn't mean that there is something wrong with your wardrobe, I just wanted to point out that it's unlikely the voucher for (I presume) Kildare Village was not picked for a reason. For what is worth I'd be pissed of if my partner would think I don't look the part but it doesn't change the fact that a particular voucher was picked.

LegacyUser

meeeeh wrote: »

I didn't mean that there is something wrong with your wardrobe, I just wanted to point out that it's unlikely the voucher for (I presume) Kildare Village was not picked for a reason. For what is worth I'd be pissed of if my partner would think I don't look the part but it doesn't change the fact that a particular voucher was picked.

Seriously are you offering advice or trying to make this a big issue. I wanted a dress from there, so he got me this voucher. Nothing underhand or anything else about it. It was picked because I wanted a dress from there.

ibarelycare

PRESSIE wrote: »

Seriously are you offering advice or trying to make this a big issue. I wanted a dress from there, so he got me this voucher. Nothing underhand or anything else about it. It was picked because I wanted a dress from there.

Does that mean you can only use it for a dress? Why don't you just use it for something else, as has been suggested?

LegacyUser

To those who say selling a "present" is bad form, I'd counter by saying a voucher is a pretty thoughtless present. If someone genuinely wanted to give something from a particular store, he'd bring her shopping, get something she liked, and pay the bill. Make a day out of the experience.

Buying a voucher is hardly taxing the brain.

OP, flog the voucher and get something you want/like. You don't have to tell himself how you financed the purchase.

freshpopcorn

bananaRep12 wrote: »

To those who say selling a "present" is bad form, I'd counter by saying a voucher is a pretty thoughtless present. If someone genuinely wanted to give something from a particular store, he'd bring her shopping, get something she liked, and pay the bill. Make a day out of the experience.

Buying a voucher is hardly taxing the brain.

OP, flog the voucher and get something you want/like. You don't have to tell himself how you financed the purchase.

It isn't thoughtless to give somebody a voucher. I think Kildare village is somewhere nice to get a voucher for because there is large range of stores their to get something nice/ a treat.
The OP boyfriend probably thought it would be nice for her to have a treat in the future.
A toughness gift is money because that can be used to buy for anything. The OP's boyfriend bought the voucher so she could get a treat for herself.

Bringing somebody on a day out to buy something for themselves can be a very bad idea because,
1. The person might feel pressured into getting something they don't want.
2. The person buying the person something mightn't be available.
3. If her boyfriend set a limit for the present and the girlfriend liked a dress that was over the limit he could fell pressured into over spending.
4. The person receiving the gift might feel they have to get some she didn't want to keep the person giving the gift happy.
5. The person might feel they have to get something cheap even if they didn't like it.
6. The boyfriend might have wanted her to have a nice surprise for her to wake up to on Christmas morning.

OP, next time your free go to Kildare village.
There a loads of shops their.
Think of the months ahead the weather will be getting cold have you something nice to wear on a night out such as a Christmas party/Christmas day.
Are you sporty? Loads of sport shops there.
Can you purchase a pair of shoes that you might wear every day or maybe that would be handy for special occasions.
Can you get a watch/ pair of earnings?
You could also could buy a fragrance/luxury bath foam/nice candle? Don't want to name the shop!:)

meeeeh

I know what happened to any gift I gave to my boyfriend. And he still mentiones the jewellery he gave me and I lost or jokingly complains because I love wearing the necklace I got from relatives as a gift. Maybe he won't care it just depends if she is prepared to take a risk.

Matteroffact

Why in God's name would you want to tell him in the first place ? All you have to do is sell the voucher if that is what you want to do and buy something with the money somewhere else and then just tell him what you bought but not where. How would he have the first clue where you bought the stuff ? I just think myself that it is a bit insulting to tell him. If you want to do it you just do it but you don't announce it.

ShaShaBear

If you have loads of worn-once designer dresses in your wardrobe, and can't justify getting another one, then I don't see the point of the voucher to begin with. There will eventually be another occasion where you have an "excuse" to buy a new dress (since you seem absolutely positive that it has to be a dress, or flog it to spend in Penneys), so insisting that buying a dress with it is a waste because you no longer have an excuse is just silly.

He got it so you could get a new dress. He listened. You wanted a new dress, he got a voucher so you could treat yourself to a new dress. Now you won't get one. Why not go buy a stunning new dress to wear to dinner one of the nights on holidays?

I really don't see why you can't spend it.

strobe

Just say it to him "you know the way we had a look in the shop you got me the voucher for that time and I couldn't find anything? I seen a few really nice things I'd love to have for travelling in Penny's, I could prob sell it and be able to get them. What do you think?"

LegacyUser

ShaShaBear wrote: »

If you have loads of worn-once designer dresses in your wardrobe, and can't justify getting another one, then I don't see the point of the voucher to begin with. There will eventually be another occasion where you have an "excuse" to buy a new dress (since you seem absolutely positive that it has to be a dress, or flog it to spend in Penneys), so insisting that buying a dress with it is a waste because you no longer have an excuse is just silly.

He got it so you could get a new dress. He listened. You wanted a new dress, he got a voucher so you could treat yourself to a new dress. Now you won't get one. Why not go buy a stunning new dress to wear to dinner one of the nights on holidays?

I really don't see why you can't spend it.

I think your misreading my posts. I never said it absolutely has to be a dress, that's the point. I could have got a dress but no longer need one, and I haven't seen anything else the last 2 occasions i've been out there.