In a dedicated relationship but still love to go out..

mollybird

Ive been on this forum for a few years but have not been on as much in the last year or two. Just wondering if there are many of ye posters on here in a long term relationship/married and still love to go out with your friends??

im recently married and have no kids but still want to be able to have my nights out every once in a while. Wondering if there is anyone on this forum in a similar situation.

im not massively into going out on a mad night out but as i said to a friend of mine the other night try and get into the meet up groups again. Im living in dublin and nearly wouldn't mind trying to start up a group for married women who like to get out and about.

Guess im looking to find people who are in similar situation and can't always get out due to bills, commitments, can talk about OH's family etc etc.

Tigger99

Why do they have to be married or even attached for that matter?

I'm in a relationship and love nothing better than going out with friends and often do. I've always been conscious of keeping up contact with friends, especially when I'm with someone. Many women do. The question is a bit bizarre to be honest.

bringupthebook

Are you not supposed to go out once you get married? No one told me

Are your friends not of the same opinion? I know its hard once people start settling down but normally those who stop socialising (apart from for financial reasons) choose to do it because they dont want to anymore. I dont think its because married people/parents shouldnt go out.

Personally I think its so so so important to keep a good group of friends and even if its only once every few months get together for a catch up or meet someone for coffee.

Talk to your friends about it first before looking for an outside group. You might find they all feel the same as you.

eviltwin

I'm not sure what you can get from a group of attached people that you can't get from your existing friends. You can still have a moan about your OH, they will get it And you can still have the same kind of night out your single friends have now your a married lady.

Why do you feel your social life has to change now your married in the first place?

Faith

Why wouldn't you be able to have nights out now that you're married?! You presumably had bills and commitments before too; nothing has changed except there's another ring on your finger.

I'm living with my partner, and so far this week: He went out Sunday night with his friends, I spent most of Monday afternoon with friends, was out Monday night with a friend, and spent all of Tuesday evening with friends.

As eviltwin says, you should be able to get what you're looking for from your current group of friends, without having to establish another group solely from women in relationships.

Candy_Girl

I can't see what your relationship has to do with being able to go out with your friends? surely that shouldn't change, dedicated relationship or not!

Now people who don't go out and loose all contact with their friends when they get into a relationship, that really annoys me ....but that's a different thread

mollybird

guess the one or two friends that i do have left in dub that are married just don't go out anymore so looking to find people who are in relationships who still like to go out.

just wanted to find people in the same situation as me that like to head out. haven't been to a LL meet up so really think ill give it an honest shot of going to the next one.

seosamh1980

So, do you have friends who aren't married who still go out? If so can't you just go out with them? Does this mean when I get married I can't hang out with my unmarried friends anymore?

I don't really get the question, or why you need to define who you're friends with by your/their relationship status.

Femme_Fatale

Why not just go out with any friends? What difference would them being in the same situation as you make? That's just limiting yourself for no reason.

Quality

I am with my fella 18 years, and prefer my nights out with the girls than with him.

A bit of a flirt and a good bitch and dancing session and then home for the ride. (Off him of course)

Candy_Girl

mollybird wrote: »

guess the one or two friends that i do have left in dub that are married just don't go out anymore so looking to find people who are in relationships who still like to go out.

just wanted to find people in the same situation as me that like to head out. haven't been to a LL meet up so really think ill give it an honest shot of going to the next one.

You should head to a Boards beers, I hear they are great craic...and who knows you might just meet some new friends