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Very small wedding
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06-06-2013 10:17pm#1Hi guys,
myself and my fiance are talking about having a very small, intimate wedding as neither of us likes a big fuss and we have a HUGE extended family so it would cost us a fortune to include everyone, the usual problem.
So we were thinking of having a civil ceremony in a nice restaurant/small hotel for just our immediate family and then having an afters for the rest of the extended family and friends.
Has anyone done this and if so have you any idea of the cost or any tips to try and keep everyone happy?
Our family meal would only be for 26 and then the rest of the family and friends would be 34 making it an all over total of 60.
We don't want flowers or videos or any fuss like that, just a nice meal and a few glasses of wine
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My OH and I got married in London almost two years ago - smaller than what you're planning, did it very cheap! The structure is the same sort of principle, so hopefully you can get something from it. Neither of us were too fussed about the ceremony, TBH all I cared about was the piss up in the pub after with friends.
Structure:
2pm - Small ceremony (15 people) in registry office - £200 or thereabouts, worth every penny, the staff there were incredible
couple of taxis 5 minutes from the registry office to a pub I used to manage. The landlord and I are still good mates, so he put up 6 bottles of bubbly for us, saving us a good £300 or so. Champagne reception followed by a few pints here, then next door to a restaurant for dinner.
5.30 - Turkish restaurant next door to the pub - dinner for 18 people or so - about £600. By far the most expensive part of the wedding. But paid for by my dad as a wedding present.
7.30 - No 24 bus from the restaurant into the city. This was a novel and great part of the day. Taxis/renting a bus is pointless and a needless expense. 25 people got on the bus, straight upstairs all dressed up carrying balloons, half pissed drunk. Three other people upstairs on the bus got a bit of a shock, but had a laugh with us nonetheless. the 24 is a great bus, it brought us from our area (Victoria) into the city (Leicester square) via Westminster, Trafalgar Square and the west end, so it's a great little tourist route for the family members that had never been to London.
8pm - Pub function room (Free) This is where we met up with all other friends from London at the time, so by then we had 50-60 people. The pub (Waxy O Connor's, Wardour st) Held off part of the pub so it was all ours. We had our own bar and barman. No charge for the reservation, they were happy to have us on what would've been an otherwise quiet Tuesday night.
11pm - The old people went home, leaving the young uns to move a few doors down into a chain pub that was open late. I used to work in another branch of this chain pub so they knew to expect us, held off a section for us and didn't charge the door fee. Live bands on here, late drinks, then a nightclub after. Bit blurry after that
So you can see the day itself was relatively cheap, we were lucky with a few things like the dinner and champers and stuff. Other charges were her dress (£55 gorgeous white chiffon from Jane Norman!) Her Bouquet (About £40), other small bits and bobs like that. It was a great day, some of the guys there said it was the best wedding they've been to, and would plan theirs around what we did.
It's a great idea to have a wedding like that. With a large extended family, it's impossible to have a better evening as you're constantly walking from table to table in a huge warehouse of a hotel function room full of people you barely know/like, pretending to be thankful that they came. Keep it small, keep it informal and above all, HAVE FUN. The day is for enjoying, not stressing about intricate details. Congratulations and best of luck on the day 0 -
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My OH and I got married in London almost two years ago - smaller than what you're planning, did it very cheap! The structure is the same sort of principle, so hopefully you can get something from it. Neither of us were too fussed about the ceremony, TBH all I cared about was the piss up in the pub after with friends.
Structure:
2pm - Small ceremony (15 people) in registry office - £200 or thereabouts, worth every penny, the staff there were incredible
couple of taxis 5 minutes from the registry office to a pub I used to manage. The landlord and I are still good mates, so he put up 6 bottles of bubbly for us, saving us a good £300 or so. Champagne reception followed by a few pints here, then next door to a restaurant for dinner.
5.30 - Turkish restaurant next door to the pub - dinner for 18 people or so - about £600. By far the most expensive part of the wedding. But paid for by my dad as a wedding present.
7.30 - No 24 bus from the restaurant into the city. This was a novel and great part of the day. Taxis/renting a bus is pointless and a needless expense. 25 people got on the bus, straight upstairs all dressed up carrying balloons, half pissed drunk. Three other people upstairs on the bus got a bit of a shock, but had a laugh with us nonetheless. the 24 is a great bus, it brought us from our area (Victoria) into the city (Leicester square) via Westminster, Trafalgar Square and the west end, so it's a great little tourist route for the family members that had never been to London.
8pm - Pub function room (Free) This is where we met up with all other friends from London at the time, so by then we had 50-60 people. The pub (Waxy O Connor's, Wardour st) Held off part of the pub so it was all ours. We had our own bar and barman. No charge for the reservation, they were happy to have us on what would've been an otherwise quiet Tuesday night.
11pm - The old people went home, leaving the young uns to move a few doors down into a chain pub that was open late. I used to work in another branch of this chain pub so they knew to expect us, held off a section for us and didn't charge the door fee. Live bands on here, late drinks, then a nightclub after. Bit blurry after that
So you can see the day itself was relatively cheap, we were lucky with a few things like the dinner and champers and stuff. Other charges were her dress (£55 gorgeous white chiffon from Jane Norman!) Her Bouquet (About £40), other small bits and bobs like that. It was a great day, some of the guys there said it was the best wedding they've been to, and would plan theirs around what we did.
It's a great idea to have a wedding like that. With a large extended family, it's impossible to have a better evening as you're constantly walking from table to table in a huge warehouse of a hotel function room full of people you barely know/like, pretending to be thankful that they came. Keep it small, keep it informal and above all, HAVE FUN. The day is for enjoying, not stressing about intricate details. Congratulations and best of luck on the day
It sounds awesome, really! It's a pitty my fiancee would never agree with me about doing it
. I really wanted to do something like this, in a pub, in a more laid back (and very important: cheap) environment. 0 -
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My OH and I got married in London almost two years ago - smaller than what you're planning, did it very cheap! The structure is the same sort of principle, so hopefully you can get something from it. Neither of us were too fussed about the ceremony, TBH all I cared about was the piss up in the pub after with friends.
Structure:
2pm - Small ceremony (15 people) in registry office - £200 or thereabouts, worth every penny, the staff there were incredible
couple of taxis 5 minutes from the registry office to a pub I used to manage. The landlord and I are still good mates, so he put up 6 bottles of bubbly for us, saving us a good £300 or so. Champagne reception followed by a few pints here, then next door to a restaurant for dinner.
5.30 - Turkish restaurant next door to the pub - dinner for 18 people or so - about £600. By far the most expensive part of the wedding. But paid for by my dad as a wedding present.
7.30 - No 24 bus from the restaurant into the city. This was a novel and great part of the day. Taxis/renting a bus is pointless and a needless expense. 25 people got on the bus, straight upstairs all dressed up carrying balloons, half pissed drunk. Three other people upstairs on the bus got a bit of a shock, but had a laugh with us nonetheless. the 24 is a great bus, it brought us from our area (Victoria) into the city (Leicester square) via Westminster, Trafalgar Square and the west end, so it's a great little tourist route for the family members that had never been to London.
8pm - Pub function room (Free) This is where we met up with all other friends from London at the time, so by then we had 50-60 people. The pub (Waxy O Connor's, Wardour st) Held off part of the pub so it was all ours. We had our own bar and barman. No charge for the reservation, they were happy to have us on what would've been an otherwise quiet Tuesday night.
11pm - The old people went home, leaving the young uns to move a few doors down into a chain pub that was open late. I used to work in another branch of this chain pub so they knew to expect us, held off a section for us and didn't charge the door fee. Live bands on here, late drinks, then a nightclub after. Bit blurry after that
So you can see the day itself was relatively cheap, we were lucky with a few things like the dinner and champers and stuff. Other charges were her dress (£55 gorgeous white chiffon from Jane Norman!) Her Bouquet (About £40), other small bits and bobs like that. It was a great day, some of the guys there said it was the best wedding they've been to, and would plan theirs around what we did.
It's a great idea to have a wedding like that. With a large extended family, it's impossible to have a better evening as you're constantly walking from table to table in a huge warehouse of a hotel function room full of people you barely know/like, pretending to be thankful that they came. Keep it small, keep it informal and above all, HAVE FUN. The day is for enjoying, not stressing about intricate details. Congratulations and best of luck on the day
sounds like the kind of wedding I'd love to attend:D0 -
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We're having a quick reg office do with 40 immediate family & a few close friends - then a pint in the pub, then off to a restaurant - we have a full menu (so about 15 choices), plus wine, we've a whole floor to ourselves, and can stay for the whole evening.
The next week we've booked a room in a pub for €100 - should have about 60 or so friends there.
I'd say the whole thing (we just got new clothes, no BMs etc, flowers from the garden) for under €2000.
Sounds perfect and rright up my street!
We are thinking through idea's for something similar. My only hesitation is what do we all do after dinner? We would be having a smaller group (about 25 people) and as we are not big dancers to begin with, having a dj or similar doesn't seem quite right.
CAn I ask what you plan to do later in the evening or any suggestions you might have discarded? Any ideas are helpful at this stage. 0 -
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illgetthere wrote: »Sounds perfect and rright up my street!
We are thinking through idea's for something similar. My only hesitation is what do we all do after dinner? We would be having a smaller group (about 25 people) and as we are not big dancers to begin with, having a dj or similar doesn't seem quite right.
CAn I ask what you plan to do later in the evening or any suggestions you might have discarded? Any ideas are helpful at this stage.
I went to a small wedding in Renvyle House two years ago, my boyfriend at the time's uncle and they had a very small wedding of around ~30 people. After dinner, we went into a room that they kept private and had a bit of a sing song, story telling session and the like. It was very personal as they had slide shows of how the two met and fell in love. They had books of photographs made up so people could look at them and it was a conversation starter to blend two families that didnt know each other 0 -
illgetthere wrote: »Sounds perfect and rright up my street!
We are thinking through idea's for something similar. My only hesitation is what do we all do after dinner? We would be having a smaller group (about 25 people) and as we are not big dancers to begin with, having a dj or similar doesn't seem quite right.
CAn I ask what you plan to do later in the evening or any suggestions you might have discarded? Any ideas are helpful at this stage.
We booked our ceremony for 4pm - a pint in a pub near there afterwards (so let's say 4.45ish to 6ish, then onto the restaurant who are doing us a prosecco reception (a very kind gift from my mam - I was going to do Pimms instead, as it's in July). So I reckon dinner should be about 7/7.30ish - So about 9.30 when that's finished. the restaurant has a bar, and as we have a separate floor we'll just have drinks there until 11.30 ish - then we're all staying in the same hotel, so can have drinks at the residents bar.
As we've a nice mixture of immediate family and close mates I wouldn't feel under pressure to entertain everyone - it'll just be everyone chatting away.
I'm not sure what we would've done if it was earlier in the day. We're not doing any photos (well not posed ones) so you might want to factor that in as well if you're looking at timings.0 -
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