Sex surrogates, "virgin school" a good idea?

Fr_Fitzexactly · 11-04-2013 12:00AM #1

This is where you have a counsellor and a "therapist" team up to help 25-40 year old virgins get confidence and learn to be comfortable with intimacy and so on and eventually do the deed with this so-called "therapist" for an almighty sum of money (1000s). It would obviously be cheaper to go to a prostitute but this seems more for people with serious lack of confidence and there is more coaching and teaching them how to have sex involved.

There are schools in Amsterdam and the States offering this service probably other places too but it's dodgy with the law that views it as a fancy version of prostitution. The schools claim that people who go to them later go on to form meaningful relationships but if you're so far gone is there really any hope or could the problems be fixed by counselling alone? Is this a legitimate service that people really depend on or should they just get over themselves and see a prostitute?

There is a film coming out about this called "The Sessions". Or maybe its already out and I missed it. Anyway its fairly depressing so I don't think i'll bother wasting 2 hours of my life on it

lanyard · 11-04-2013 12:11AM

Practising for your sermon on Sunday Father?

shruikan2553 · 11-04-2013 12:12AM

I would prefer to go to college, younger women and get a degree in the end of it.

The_Gatsby · 11-04-2013 12:13AM

The surrogates are all dried up old grannies anyway.

OneArt · 11-04-2013 12:17AM

"Sex surrogates".

The most unappealing, boner-softening name ever.

Gatling · 11-04-2013 12:19AM

So basicly its a brothel sex for cash
Cash for sex
Therapy my ass

hatrickpatrick · 11-04-2013 01:02AM

Same problem with this as prostitution or gold digging: The idea of some girl screwing you for money and not just because she thinks you're hot is too damn depressing. Unless you're VERY desperate I'd say most lads would have far too much pride for something like that.

DonLimon · 11-04-2013 03:50AM

Fr_Fitzexactly wrote: »

This is where you have a counsellor and a "therapist" team up to help 25-40 year old virgins get confidence and learn to be comfortable with intimacy and so on and eventually do the deed with this so-called "therapist" for an almighty sum of money (1000s). It would obviously be cheaper to go to a prostitute but this seems more for people with serious lack of confidence and there is more coaching and teaching them how to have sex involved.

Anybody else read 'the-rapist' ?

zenno · 11-04-2013 03:58AM

This occupation sounds appealing. Beats being on the dole.

JimmyCrackCorn · 11-04-2013 04:30AM

How does this differ from prostitution??

Why would a virgin want their first experience to be with someone they paid for sex?

Also being after hours....

PICS

kneemos · 11-04-2013 05:44AM

It's therapy for people who have trouble functioning sexually.Liberal minded AH shows it's true colours when it comes to sex,open your hearts and minds people.

harney · 11-04-2013 05:53AM

There was a channel 4 documentary on this a few years ago. The ladies were of the slightly older variety.

JimmyCrackCorn · 11-04-2013 06:10AM

kneemos wrote: »

It's therapy for people who have trouble functioning sexually.Liberal minded AH shows it's true colours when it comes to sex,open your hearts and minds people.

And Legs!:D

kneemos · 11-04-2013 06:14AM

harney wrote: »

There was a channel 4 documentary on this a few years ago. The ladies were of the slightly older variety.

It was on last week as well, yer won was fairly elderly but maybe there's less pressure with an older lady,I think she said she'd had sex with over six hundred men so she's obviously successfull.

Kold · 11-04-2013 06:34AM

Go to it. Act all coy and play the part. Then every time it comes down to it, tie and gag the therapist and do a load of sick stuff like pissing and sh1tting on them after sodomising them then refuse to let the sessions end as they havent 'fixed' you.

Phoebas · 11-04-2013 06:53AM

Gatling wrote: »

So basicly its a brothel sex for cash
Cash for sex
Therapy my ass

That's their slogan.

Boo2112 · 11-04-2013 07:08AM

I remember the channel 4 documentary aswel, it all just seemed so bizarre. They deal with a load of intimacy issued but tbh I think that's better left to psychologists. Imo it was really weird sex aswel, not at all representative of real life encounters. But each to their own, I can't understand why people would want to do it but I wouldn't judge them for it either.

smash · 11-04-2013 07:47AM

Boo2112 wrote: »

but I wouldn't judge them for it either.

I would. It's bizarre, yet hilarious in a creepy way!

Dravokivich · 11-04-2013 07:59AM

harney wrote: »

There was a channel 4 documentary on this a few years ago. The ladies were of the slightly older variety.

There was another a few weeks ago.

smcgiff · 11-04-2013 08:05AM

Phoebas wrote: »

That's their slogan.

Therapy, My Ass

Dravokivich · 11-04-2013 08:29AM

Boo2112 wrote: »

I remember the channel 4 documentary aswel, it all just seemed so bizarre. They deal with a load of intimacy issued but tbh I think that's better left to psychologists. Imo it was really weird sex aswel, not at all representative of real life encounters. But each to their own, I can't understand why people would want to do it but I wouldn't judge them for it either.

There is a no pressure environment. It's also in the surrogates best interest to be supportive of you. Which is a big deal. One nigh stands and short flings are a matter of there and then. If you can't there and then, there is a lot of pressure behind it. I always found a lot of aspects of intimacy rather intimidating and the idea of sex used to scare me. If it wasn't for my girlfriend, I'd still be a wreck when it comes to that stuff.

Madam_X · 11-04-2013 08:35AM

Good idea IMO.

If anything to show those who are extra nervous about sex that it's not anything as much of a big deal as they have built it up to be.

smash · 11-04-2013 08:39AM

Madam_X wrote: »

Good idea IMO.

If anything to show those who are extra nervous about sex that it's not anything as much of a big deal as they have built it up to be.

But isn't sex mostly about chemistry and attraction? These surrogates are hideous (Well the ones I've seen on the TV shows are) and they're completely disingenuous. It's all false feeling and basically just a show.

smcgiff · 11-04-2013 08:41AM

smash wrote: »

It's all false feeling and basically just a show.

So, they're American?

Madam_X · 11-04-2013 08:45AM

Oh yeh it's not a substitute of course, but it might help relax them in terms of some of the mechanics, especially when there's counselling on offer.

Lots of people's first time is crap.

smash · 11-04-2013 08:48AM

smcgiff wrote: »

So, they're American?

I fail to see the point here.

Dravokivich · 11-04-2013 08:49AM

smash wrote: »

But isn't sex mostly about chemistry and attraction? These surrogates are hideous (Well the ones I've seen on the TV shows are) and they're completely disingenuous. It's all false feeling and basically just a show.

Yes, but that's nothing if one is anxious about doing it, because they've never done it before. It's easy to say what you've just said, if one is experienced in their sexuality. Not so much, if one isn't. It's a cop out.

smash · 11-04-2013 08:54AM

Dravokivich wrote: »

Yes, but that's nothing if one is anxious about doing it, because they've never done it before. It's easy to say what you've just said, if one is experienced in their sexuality. Not so much, if one isn't. It's a cop out.

But the point is that if you want to experience sex without judgement from someone, then get a hooker or something. The people that go to the surrogates are looking for intimacy and what they get is something completely false. It starts them on a bad track in my opinion. they're not just looking for sex, they're looking for relationships.

johnny_knoxvile · 11-04-2013 09:00AM

Gatling wrote: »

So basicly its a brothel sex for cash
Cash for sex
Therapy my ass

no...

Therapy My Ass is the school for gay men.

...different campus completely.

johnny_knoxvile · 11-04-2013 09:03AM

Madam_X wrote: »

Oh yeh it's not a substitute of course, but it might help relax them in terms of some of the mechanics, especially when there's counselling on offer.

Lots of people's first time is crap.

"lots of people's first time is crap"...and your name is Madam X....

...Do you work for one of these institutions?

Dravokivich · 11-04-2013 09:06AM

smash wrote: »

But the point is that if you want to experience sex without judgement from someone, then get a hooker or something. The people that go to the surrogates are looking for intimacy and what they get is something completely false. It starts them on a bad track in my opinion. they're not just looking for sex, they're looking for relationships.

If one was going to a hooker, they would be under immediate pressure to perform and a short time constraint. And where's that magic chemistry and attraction you were harping on about?

It's a bit odd also to say, they aren't just looking for sex, but looking for relationships, when sex and intimacy are both considered major factors in a relationship. If one feels anxious about either or both, a relationship is going to be very hard for them to form. I myself had difficulties with such things until last year.

Saying it's completely false isn't entirely true either. Sure there's the aspect of money being handed over, but that doesn't have to mean that the people who work and get qualified as surrogates are completely detached from their clients needs. Which is what your comment implies. If the surrogate didn't show consideration towards the client, they wouldn't get many clients.

Sex surrogates, "virgin school" a good idea?

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