Feeling homesick anyone else?

shabaz

Im living away from home and mostly feel ok but just having that sicky anxious homesick feeling today....anyone else feeling it?

Thankfully meeting my sister on Wednesday but wishing I booked to go home on my week off from work instead. Ill be ok, just being a wimp.

S

Wompa1

shabaz wrote: »

Im living away from home and mostly feel ok but just having that sicky anxious homesick feeling today....anyone else feeling it?

Thankfully meeting my sister on Wednesday but wishing I booked to go home on my week off from work instead. Ill be ok, just being a wimp.

S

Yeah. I'm feeling homesick, funny enough not for the people, not for family or friends. Just for the scenery and the fresh crisp air and the ease of getting around Galway.

Aykina

Oooh, funny me too! Trawling boards at the momenet 'cos I'm on a work trip in the US with nothing to do for the weekend here and am missing home and y'all's sense of humour. Never hit me like this before, missing my peeps, the crappy Irish weather, the food, and just being in Dublin!
Heading home in a week, can't wait.

fits

Not too bad today, but some days yeah. Takes three flights to get home so its really awkward. home Friday though (yay!)

Scarinae

It's normal to feel a bit homesick sometimes, don't worry. I felt it a little this weekend because my sister is visiting home and from the sounds of it they're all having a great time, and I wish I was there too.

I also know exactly what Wompa1 means about missing the fresh air! I miss the sea air and the smell of the garden, in fact of plants in general. London air isn't as nice and travelling on the tube makes your snot go black

wolfpawnat

Haven't been to Dingle in 5 years. I see documentaries about the place from time to time and get really upset. Living up in the big smoke (Dublin) with no car, a young family and not able to make it down means I have lost touch with a lot of my school friends and I get lonely a lot for the scenery and food.

statina

Im the same, I really miss the fresh air! Im from a rural area and I miss going for a walk for miles and not meeting anyone!

Am grand now but went through an awful bout of homesickness before Xmas as it was my 2nd Xmas away. What I found helped was to do loads of activities that you normally wouldnt try such as surfing, paddle boarding, trapezing etc. Keeping the mind occupied is half the battle

How so Joe

Absolutely crippled with homesickness this weekend.
Don't even know what brought it on, I'll be home on Wednesday, but I'm on the verge of tears all day and convinced this is the worst place in the world.
Very,very strange.

I used to get homesick when I lived in Dublin or Galway on the very rare occasion I went a week without going home to Cork 100% serious.

statina

Its an awful feeling, I remember been on the verge of tears when a client was telling me about his holiday in Ireland .

Just remember it'l pass and you will be home in no length

wolfpawnat

wolfpawnat wrote: »

......... I have lost touch with a lot of my school friends......

One of the few +'s for facebook

April O Neill

Scarinae wrote: »

and travelling on the tube makes your snot go black

Are you serious? :eek:

wolfpawnat

RoverJames wrote: »

One of the few +'s for facebook

Not really the same though, yeah you talk on FB but you see everyone in your old school clique meeting up in photo's and whatnot, but it's not the same as going and seeing them. The furthest everyone I was close with went was Cork for college, none left home for long, I went up to Dublin, had a family and can't really get back down. I love how in documentaries the place is always sunny, it was mostly píssing rain and overcast living there, but sure, that was part of the charm.

confusticated

April O Neill wrote: »

Are you serious? :eek:

Happens in a lot of big cities, your nose filters the pollution out of the air for you...it's a bit of a shock at the start!

Da Shins Kelly

I'm home at the moment which has helped my homesickness, but I do get it a lot. Some days I'll be fine, and then something will happen - some cultural difference, having a bad day with the language or knowing that a birthday is coming up at home that suddenly makes me feel very far away from home.

Aykina

Had no idea I wasn't the only eejit who gets homesick like that. Always feel kind of stupid when it hits, like I should be finding interesting stuff to do, and appreciating the cities I'm in just to take my mind off it. And I should, but sometimes it's good to wallow a little, learn to appreciate home and my gang a little more

Funny thing is though, after few days back in Dublin I'll be bored again, thinking "Zzzzz Dublin, like nothing ever really happens here... traffic sucks... too rainy... miss the big lights of Dallas/Chicago/Boston/whereever

Anyway, good thread op, thanks! Made me think a little about making the most of and all that...

beks101

I don't really get the full visceral experience of homesickness anymore, the one where you're physically crippled by it.

I mainly just wake up some days and think, "I wish I could walk the prom today", or "If I was at home now I'd be eating dinner with the folks" or "I wish I could wake up in my big fluffy bed in my parents' house this morning".

It's just sort of become an accepted part of ex-pat life for me, just like the constant stream of goodbyes as friend of mine move on from Canada after doing their 1 or 2 or 3 years or whatever. Not something I'd shed a tear over anymore.

It does make you discover your Irishness that bit more though, something I was never all that aware of. If I stumble into a cultural clash or find myself lost in translation, cracking a typically Irish joke that falls on deaf ears or something, that's when I get hit hardest with homesickness. Just the pining to be understood. The loneliness of not being understood. That will put in my mind all the thoughts and experiences and habits and mannerisms that make me me, and will make me think of all the things I miss about home.

ruthiepie

Oh I thought it was only me that was suffering from home sickness. Have been living away for the last year and have been mostly ok with it. Was home 3 weeks ago and this time going back was the worst I've ever been. No particular reason for it but I was very upset coming back. Am still a bit lonely so its good to see other people here are going through the same thing.

There are even some days I would love a tayto sandwich, just the simple things like that get to me. :o

littleblackDRS

That's exactly how I've been feeling the last few days! I think it's just been made worse by the fact I've no plans to go home any time soon.

MurdyWurdy

I lived overseas for the fast few years and regularly got homesick so you have my sympathies.

While I enjoyed my time abroad being back at home has made me realise that I never felt 100% comfortable when I was living overseas. There's a huge difference in me now that I'm home. I uses to have extremely vivid dreams I was walking around Dublin. It was like google maps in my head and in the dream I'd be telling myself to savour it, because I'd wake up soon and not be there! Those dreams used to discombobulate me for days!

I know you'll have good and bad days so I hope that today was a better day for you OP and you're feeling more positive

Legs.Eleven

I've been home visiting the past week and am heading back early tomorrow morning. Don't want to go back. I always hate this bit. I know I'll be grand once I get there but I've had such a great time home (I always do - I love Ireland).

Anyway, such is life and there's nothing I can do to change my situation right now so I've planned to go out Saturday night with friends and I'm planning on meeting a friend on Sunday for lunch. I think that's the key: plan stuff and get out and don't allow yourself to wallow.I think giving in to overthinking your situation is always a recipe for unhappiness. Get out of your house, even if it only means a walk in the park. Also try to focus on all the positives of where you live.

One upside is the fact that I'm going back to a warmer country! The weather this week has been miserable, so that's one positive at least. There's plenty more, so I'm going to try and focus on those.

Chin up, girl! There's many of us in the same boat. We'll be grand.

rebel girl 15

I've felt homesick a bit while living in the UK now, none as much as recently because work has been absolute crap. I've been avoiding people at home, because I don't want to feel even more homesick than I am currently. I've been treated like crap at work and that has made things worse - when I came home last time, I just wanted to stay at home.

Main thing is to talk, if you are feeling lonely it is perfectly natural - don't bottle it up or it will be worse!

Da Shins Kelly

Ugh, going back tomorrow and I really don't want to go.

Legs.Eleven

Da Shins Kelly wrote: »

Ugh, going back tomorrow and I really don't want to go.

Back home to Ireland or Spain?

Da Shins Kelly

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

Back home to Ireland or Spain?

Spain. I've had such a good time at home for the last week, so I hate going back now. I just hate saying goodbye to everyone knowing that I won't be seeing them for months. Being home also reminds me of all the things I really miss about Ireland that I know I'm not going to have back in Spain.

Legs.Eleven

Da Shins Kelly wrote: »

Spain. I've had such a good time at home for the last week, so I hate going back now. I just hate saying goodbye to everyone knowing that I won't be seeing them for months. Being home also reminds me of all the things I really miss about Ireland that I know I'm not going to have back in Spain.

I hear ye sister. Felt the same thing when I came back to Madrid Saturday morning. I can completely empathise. There's so many things I miss. Ireland is not an easy country to leave behind and like you said, leaving everyone behind and knowing it's hard for them too, particularly my old dad. I never used to get homesick in my 20s really but as I get older, I want to be closer to them all.

Edit: In a way it's comforting to know someone else feels the same and it's normal to feel how I do.

Da Shins Kelly

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

I hear ye sister. Felt the same thing when I came back to Madrid Saturday morning. I can completely empathise. There's so many things I miss. Ireland is not an easy country to leave behind and like you said, leaving everyone behind and knowing it's hard for them too, particularly my old dad. I never used to get homesick in my 20s really but as I get older, I want to be closer to them all.

Edit: In a way it's comforting to know someone else feels the same and it's normal to feel how I do.

Everyone loves to bitch about Ireland, but it really is such a unique place. There are things about it that really cannot be found anywhere else. For example, one thing I indulged in when I went back to visit last week was deli sandwiches! Going into a shop and having a fresh roll made up in front of you is one of those small pleasures I love about home. The Spanish just don't know how to make a good sandwich! The pub culture in Ireland is something that I really miss too. Tapas can be a nice novelty, but for me nothing beats just sitting in a dirty little local pub and talking ****e with friends all night over drinks and listening to some live music.

I get what you're saying about your dad too. My dad really misses me, I think. He was emailing me every other day coming up to when I went back for a visit asking me what food I wanted him to get for when I got back, and what my plans were, etc. I think he was really looking forward to having me back in the house. Then when I got back to my place in Spain tonight, I saw another email from him saying that the house was awful quiet since I left. I think he wishes I was closer, more like a car journey away rather than a flight away.

mel84

Hiya!! Aaaw poor u

Where are u living??? I'm in Cambridge but thinking of moving nearer London for September ! woo hoo there are loads of people teaching in England on this nice one!!

rebel girl 15 wrote: »

I've felt homesick a bit while living in the UK now, none as much as recently because work has been absolute crap. I've been avoiding people at home, because I don't want to feel even more homesick than I am currently. I've been treated like crap at work and that has made things worse - when I came home last time, I just wanted to stay at home.

Main thing is to talk, if you are feeling lonely it is perfectly natural - don't bottle it up or it will be worse!

ruthiepie

Ah that's the thing that gets me every time. My parents are always so excited to see me coming up, ringing me constantly the few days before and counting down the days. Then when they're dropping me back to the airport its the other side of things. Last time was def the hardest as my mother was sick so that made it more harder than usual.

Does it ever get any easier? Specially when you hear things that they're doing back home or my niece and nephew getting bigger and bigger each time I'm home. Makes me sometimes debate moving back home but then again if I do that, I'm guaranteed not to be able to get a job. Just have to suck it up and keep myself busy I suppose!! :o

Mrs Garth Brooks

rebel girl 15 wrote: »

I've felt homesick a bit while living in the UK now, none as much as recently because work has been absolute crap. I've been avoiding people at home, because I don't want to feel even more homesick than I am currently. I've been treated like crap at work and that has made things worse - when I came home last time, I just wanted to stay at home.

Main thing is to talk, if you are feeling lonely it is perfectly natural - don't bottle it up or it will be worse!

Please don't avoid those at home. Its one of the most selfish things anyone can do.

I have two brothers in australia. One of them keeps in touch the odd time, and the other doesnt make the effort. I dont know why but its so so hurtful.

I was in college last year when he left, march 2012. He didnt even pick up the phone to say goodbye. I passed exams, he didnt send any congratulations, same for graduation. He was always good at remembering birthdays, but he didnt bother. Thats 2012, gone. He hasnt rang home since xmas day. I initiated contact and wished him a happy birthday in february, also a happy paddys day. He rang other people at easter. I dont know what his problem is, he never said. But it feels as if he's cutting those left at home.

Anyway, dont avoid them at home. They can miss you too.

20260622

Comes and goes all the time and unfortunately being on the other side of the world means I can't just pop on a plane and go home for a weekend.

Been lucky enough to get home every Christmas thanks to my very generous parents so I spend every year on the countdown to December, not an ideal way to live but it has to be done for now.
Hoping to come home for good in 2015 so saving hard and looking forward to it, whatever the state of the economy.

As Dorothy said, there's no place like home

leahyl

I admire you all for actually moving away cos I know I could never do it myself - I'm a real home bird, always have been and always will be.

I even feel a bit silly saying that I am a home bird nowadays cos a lot of people my age have moved away and are "having the time of their lives" or something like that, in Australia or Canada - It's like some of the older generation (in their 50's/60's) can't understand why a young person wouldn't want to travel the world or work abroad because "there's nothing here sure, oh i wish I was living in Australia" - well bloody well go then! :pac:

Snoopy1

Im not from Ireland, and find it quite lonely over here.
I get homesick a bit, there's been times when im in the airport, to come back to Ireland, and im crying because im homesick

Wompa1

20260622 wrote: »

Comes and goes all the time and unfortunately being on the other side of the world means I can't just pop on a plane and go home for a weekend.

Been lucky enough to get home every Christmas thanks to my very generous parents so I spend every year on the countdown to December, not an ideal way to live but it has to be done for now.
Hoping to come home for good in 2015 so saving hard and looking forward to it, whatever the state of the economy.

As Dorothy said, there's no place like home

I'm in a similar boat to yourself. I'm living in Arizona so it's way too far away to just hop on a plane and go back for a short visit. The time difference is also a kicker, I'm lucky if I get to talk to my family once a week. I was in New York at the weekend and noticed a lot of Irish around the place. In Arizona I have not met any Irish (Not a huge deal to me but might be to others) No immediate plan to go back to Ireland. My brother has his own family and his own responsibilities, my sister lives in a different county to my parents and most of my friends are scattered around the place. Though I'm homesick a lot, there's not much waiting for me back in Ireland....