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11-01-2013 12:06am#1So things are difficult at the minute !
I'm living away from home and struggling. Struggling to figure out where I belong, where I fit in and what's my plans. I want to move back home but then I feel like I'm being childish about it. My parents are unbelievably supportive yet I don't want to admit defeat ! My dad says things like 'its better to try something and say u failed than not try at all' & 'you can't fit a round peg into a square hole'. I don't think I can honestly say I'm happy right now. College is grand but it could be better. Things are starting to spiral now and everything is getting on top of me. I think because I'm not happy inside its making me not happy in other aspects of my life i.e. my job, college etc. I think it might be time to go talk to someone; maybe my parents or a counsellor in college that could help me process my thoughts and feelings. I definitely do internalise a lot of what I'm feeling and it's time to let it out ! To anyone who will listen
I really do have the best friends and family anyone could ask for and I'm not just saying that !!
Would love an outsiders opinion on my situation !0
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EmmaLeogue wrote: »So things are difficult at the minute !
I'm living away from home and struggling. Struggling to figure out where I belong, where I fit in and what's my plans. I want to move back home but then I feel like I'm being childish about it. My parents are unbelievably supportive yet I don't want to admit defeat ! My dad says things like 'its better to try something and say u failed than not try at all' & 'you can't fit a round peg into a square hole'. I don't think I can honestly say I'm happy right now. College is grand but it could be better. Things are starting to spiral now and everything is getting on top of me. I think because I'm not happy inside its making me not happy in other aspects of my life i.e. my job, college etc. I think it might be time to go talk to someone; maybe my parents or a counsellor in college that could help me process my thoughts and feelings. I definitely do internalise a lot of what I'm feeling and it's time to let it out ! To anyone who will listen I really do have the best friends and family anyone could ask for and I'm not just saying that !!
Would love an outsiders opinion on my situation !
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EmmaLeogue wrote: »So things are difficult at the minute !
I'm living away from home and struggling. Struggling to figure out where I belong, where I fit in and what's my plans. I want to move back home but then I feel like I'm being childish about it. My parents are unbelievably supportive yet I don't want to admit defeat ! My dad says things like 'its better to try something and say u failed than not try at all' & 'you can't fit a round peg into a square hole'. I don't think I can honestly say I'm happy right now. College is grand but it could be better. Things are starting to spiral now and everything is getting on top of me. I think because I'm not happy inside its making me not happy in other aspects of my life i.e. my job, college etc. I think it might be time to go talk to someone; maybe my parents or a counsellor in college that could help me process my thoughts and feelings. I definitely do internalise a lot of what I'm feeling and it's time to let it out ! To anyone who will listen I really do have the best friends and family anyone could ask for and I'm not just saying that !!
Would love an outsiders opinion on my situation !
Is it living away from home that has you unhappy?
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EmmaLeogue wrote: »So things are difficult at the minute !
I'm living away from home and struggling. Struggling to figure out where I belong, where I fit in and what's my plans. I want to move back home but then I feel like I'm being childish about it. My parents are unbelievably supportive yet I don't want to admit defeat ! My dad says things like 'its better to try something and say u failed than not try at all' & 'you can't fit a round peg into a square hole'. I don't think I can honestly say I'm happy right now. College is grand but it could be better. Things are starting to spiral now and everything is getting on top of me. I think because I'm not happy inside its making me not happy in other aspects of my life i.e. my job, college etc. I think it might be time to go talk to someone; maybe my parents or a counsellor in college that could help me process my thoughts and feelings. I definitely do internalise a lot of what I'm feeling and it's time to let it out ! To anyone who will listen I really do have the best friends and family anyone could ask for and I'm not just saying that !!
Would love an outsiders opinion on my situation !
Definitely talk to someone. Even if it's not talking to someone like a counsellor, it still helps, as putting things into words makes you see that things aren't as bad as they are in your head, and getting someone else's opinion can really help to put things into perspective.
Also remember that people in your position often find things difficult at first, but it usually gets easier over time.
And things are never as bad as they seem to be. You're still young and have a huge number of options available to you.0 -
EmmaLeogue wrote: »So things are difficult at the minute !
I'm living away from home and struggling. Struggling to figure out where I belong, where I fit in and what's my plans. I want to move back home but then I feel like I'm being childish about it. My parents are unbelievably supportive yet I don't want to admit defeat ! My dad says things like 'its better to try something and say u failed than not try at all' & 'you can't fit a round peg into a square hole'. I don't think I can honestly say I'm happy right now. College is grand but it could be better. Things are starting to spiral now and everything is getting on top of me. I think because I'm not happy inside its making me not happy in other aspects of my life i.e. my job, college etc. I think it might be time to go talk to someone; maybe my parents or a counsellor in college that could help me process my thoughts and feelings. I definitely do internalise a lot of what I'm feeling and it's time to let it out ! To anyone who will listen I really do have the best friends and family anyone could ask for and I'm not just saying that !!
Would love an outsiders opinion on my situation !
Ok no.1 thing not to do is to drop out of college before talking to the counseller first, he/she will of seen this situation countless times and they are there to help you.
Also remember if you drop out mid semester you will not be elegible for a college grant for that semester again if you ever go back. If you can grit your teeth and stick with the course until the summer then you can always take a year out and see how things sit with you. And if you do decide to continue you can reapply for the grant to continue where you left off.
If you feel college is grand then your doing ok, there are many many people completley unhappy with their courses and will be unhappy and end up dropping out over it, or worse sticking with it and be miserable to make their parents happy.
Speak to the counseller anyway before making any decisions they are there to help.0 -
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Is it living away from home that has you unhappy?
http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=127
you might be better posting here.
It is yes ! I don't want to say so to those close though !
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EmmaLeogue wrote: »So things are difficult at the minute !
I'm living away from home and struggling. Struggling to figure out where I belong, where I fit in and what's my plans. I want to move back home but then I feel like I'm being childish about it. My parents are unbelievably supportive yet I don't want to admit defeat ! My dad says things like 'its better to try something and say u failed than not try at all' & 'you can't fit a round peg into a square hole'. I don't think I can honestly say I'm happy right now. College is grand but it could be better. Things are starting to spiral now and everything is getting on top of me. I think because I'm not happy inside its making me not happy in other aspects of my life i.e. my job, college etc. I think it might be time to go talk to someone; maybe my parents or a counsellor in college that could help me process my thoughts and feelings. I definitely do internalise a lot of what I'm feeling and it's time to let it out ! To anyone who will listen I really do have the best friends and family anyone could ask for and I'm not just saying that
Definatly talk to someone about how you are feeling, If the problem is the college course you could always try something else, If i was in your shoes the first thing i would do would be talk to someone in the college like a counsellor or someone to that effect and explain how you are feeling. They will be very supportive and might be able to sort something out for you. Even if the college course isnt the problem you should still head in and arrange something with the counsellor anyway he might be able to help you some other way. The Internet isnt a good substitute for a face to face talk and knowledge of what exactly your situation is. Maybe they can point you in the right direction0 -
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No I didn't. I sang an uplifting song.
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I was the same as you, i was living down in cork, on my own, at first i thought it was great and stuff, college was grand and so on and such but eventually i got sick of it and left, took a year out and got my things together, at first i felt like i was a failure but in reality I just wasn't ready for it, besides the way i look at it is if you're doing something your ok at but there's something out there that you are better at, go for that, so in short get informed opinions from everyone, your friends, family, teachers, counselors, and if you still feel like you cant hack it, head home, take the year off and start againEmmaLeogue wrote: »So things are difficult at the minute !
I'm living away from home and struggling. Struggling to figure out where I belong, where I fit in and what's my plans. I want to move back home but then I feel like I'm being childish about it. My parents are unbelievably supportive yet I don't want to admit defeat ! My dad says things like 'its better to try something and say u failed than not try at all' & 'you can't fit a round peg into a square hole'. I don't think I can honestly say I'm happy right now. College is grand but it could be better. Things are starting to spiral now and everything is getting on top of me. I think because I'm not happy inside its making me not happy in other aspects of my life i.e. my job, college etc. I think it might be time to go talk to someone; maybe my parents or a counsellor in college that could help me process my thoughts and feelings. I definitely do internalise a lot of what I'm feeling and it's time to let it out ! To anyone who will listen I really do have the best friends and family anyone could ask for and I'm not just saying that !!
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EmmaLeogue wrote: »It is yes ! I don't want to say so to those close though !
Is it your first time living away from home? I assume you are sharing with other people, are they nice?
Tell your parents and they might be able to arrange something, go see you during the week or something.0 -
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Honestly if its just things piling up you need to bite the bullet and take action to tackle the problems head on one at a time.EmmaLeogue wrote: »Toastedpickles, thank you so much for your reply. I feel like I'm trapped somewhat not by the course per se it's just everything seems to be piling up at this stage ! I hope you are or are about to do something you love because everyone deserves to be happy :'D
Leaving things pile up will just leave you feel depressed , pick a problem and tell yourself "tommorow i will deal with this problem" it doesnt matter what the problem is be it a College project thats due soon or that you need to Clean the house top to bottom........ Break your problems down into individual pieces and tackle them head on as soon as you can. And always do things to the best of your ability, be it a college report or cleaning a room when you are done you should be able to be happy with what you have achieved and proud of it.
Also biggest piece of advice i can give you with regards to college work is if you get a project/report to do, Start it the same day your given it, even if you only open a word document and do the title page and think about the layout for half an hour its started and you can continue at your leisure...
Godspeed...............(always wanted to end something with that) 0 -
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EmmaLeogue wrote: »Toastedpickles, thank you so much for your reply. I feel like I'm trapped somewhat not by the course per se it's just everything seems to be piling up at this stage ! I hope you are or are about to do something you love because everyone deserves to be happy :'D
I was the same in a way, except i was over trained i guess you could say, so they basically put a rope around me and limited my abilities so that was a major reason I was doing Interior Architecture, Then I realized it was a load of balls, and I was better at being technical, so I'm going to dit to do architectural technology
Yeah i know that feeling all to well, basically if it helps, try prioritize, and just get as much done as you can, to be honest, i just worked until i was tired, which was early into the morning, as long as it was done that was the main thing to me, but that was me.0 -
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toastedpickles wrote: »
I was the same in a way, except i was over trained i guess you could say, so they basically put a rope around me and limited my abilities so that was a major reason I was doing Interior Architecture, Then I realized it was a load of balls, and I was better at being technical, so I'm going to dit to do architectural technology
Yeah i know that feeling all to well, basically if it helps, try prioritize, and just get as much done as you can, to be honest, i just worked until i was tired, which was early into the morning, as long as it was done that was the main thing to me, but that was me.
You are better off doing something u want to do instead of suiting others or suiting the economic climate because there is jobs out there they just need to be found
Enjoy doing what you are going to do it will be worthwhile ! Thanks for your tip on prioritising 0 -
cantdecide wrote: »Lame alert RED
This is what I do when faced with major decisions. Your choice is simple as stay or go?
Repeat after me;
1-All things considered, I will regret staying.
Pause
2-All things considered, I will regret going.
Really take your time to feel the gravity of each statement as you make it and say it like you mean it. You will know that there is more truth in one statement or the other. It won't make you make your mind up right this minute but it will give you a feeling as to where are at this stage.
Cantdecide, this is one of the best tips given to me. At this moment in time, the first statement is where I am at this point ! 0 -
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Outkast_IRE wrote: »Honestly if its just things piling up you need to bite the bullet and take action to tackle the problems head on one at a time.
Leaving things pile up will just leave you feel depressed , pick a problem and tell yourself "tommorow i will deal with this problem" it doesnt matter what the problem is be it a College project thats due soon or that you need to Clean the house top to bottom........ Break your problems down into individual pieces and tackle them head on as soon as you can. And always do things to the best of your ability, be it a college report or cleaning a room when you are done you should be able to be happy with what you have achieved and proud of it.
Also biggest piece of advice i can give you with regards to college work is if you get a project/report to do, Start it the same day your given it, even if you only open a word document and do the title page and think about the layout for half an hour its started and you can continue at your leisure...
Godspeed...............(always wanted to end something with that)
This is the plan for tomorrow - to book an appointment with someone who has experience dealing with students struggling. I have always tried your suggestion of starting things the day they are assigned and more often than not its works !!
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C.K Dexter Haven wrote: »No I didn't. I sang an uplifting song.
You did, sorry. And picked a great 80s song too may I say 0 -
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