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So he wants a threesome with me and my friend

  • 19-12-2012 3:45pm
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 89 ✭✭


    Well, he didn't say he wanted it, but he said he fantasised about it (it was a text with quite a good description of the fantasy). He also asked if it was allowed, which I thought was super sweet of him.

    I told him that yes, that he could fantasise about anything he wanted (and I meant it). What I didn't tell him was that my initial reaction to the text was sadness and a bit of insecurity.

    I'm glad I didn't tell him what my immediate feelings about his fantasy were, mainly because once I worked through the feelings of insecurity, a few minutes later I found his fantasy incredibly arousing and I even developed it quite a bit... ;) So overall this sharing created a new kind of bond and trust between us.

    Though I have to say that this little interaction we had changed me a bit. I had to let go of this innocent, perhaps a bit naive belief that I am the only woman he will ever fancy. It opened my eyes to the reality (as I see it) that monogamy is not natural. I now think that if we choose to be in a monogamous relationship, we have to respect and plan for the occasional demands coming from our instincts.

    I think I'm ok with that. Still feeling a bit sad about the loss of this innocence but also feeling more confident and adventurous. It's as if my world expanded somewhat.

    So what do you think guys and galls? Would you tell your partner that you fantasise about a threesome with them and their friend? How would you react if they told you they fantasise about your friend?

    Or do you think that if you are in a committed relationship, that the only person they should fantasise about is you?


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 6,496 ✭✭✭Boombastic


    Ahava wrote: »
    Well, he didn't say he wanted it, but he said he fantasised about it (it was a text with quite a good description of the fantasy). He also asked if it was allowed, which I thought was super sweet of him.

    I told him that yes, that he could fantasise about anything he wanted (and I meant it). What I didn't tell him was that my initial reaction to the text was sadness and a bit of insecurity.

    I'm glad I didn't tell him what my immediate feelings about his fantasy were, mainly because once I worked through the feelings of insecurity, a few minutes later I found his fantasy incredibly arousing and I even developed it quite a bit... ;) So overall this sharing created a new kind of bond and trust between us.

    Though I have to say that this little interaction we had changed me a bit. I had to let go of this innocent, perhaps a bit naive belief that I am the only woman he will ever fancy. It opened my eyes to the reality (as I see it) that monogamy is not natural. I now think that if we choose to be in a monogamous relationship, we have to respect and plan for the occasional demands coming from our instincts.

    I think I'm ok with that. Still feeling a bit sad about the loss of this innocence but also feeling more confident and adventurous. It's as if my world expanded somewhat.

    So what do you think guys and galls? Would you tell your partner that you fantasise about a threesome with them and their friend? How would you react if they told you they fantasise about your friend?

    Or do you think that if you are in a committed relationship, that the only person they should fantasise about is you?

    He just wants to shag your mate


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,919 ✭✭✭✭Gummy Panda


    what the fúck did i just read?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,899 ✭✭✭✭BBDBB


    did he mention me filming the three of you?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,057 ✭✭✭conorhal


    Ah tell him to 'eff off and cop himself on, or the only threesome that he's likely to be having in the near future will be between himself, his left hand and his right one.....


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,404 ✭✭✭✭vicwatson


    Leave him, he's a rat that doesn't fancy you anymore and just wants to get it on with your mate. Maybe.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,555 ✭✭✭Sar_Bear


    Why would he tell you about it?! Fantasise away no bother like but jaysus keep it to yourself!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 6,496 ✭✭✭Boombastic


    what the fúck did i just read?

    Careful now, or they'll be fapping to pictures of you next:D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 450 ✭✭taytothief


    Sweet baby jesus.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,776 ✭✭✭Noopti


    Ahava wrote: »
    a few minutes later I found his fantasy incredibly arousing and I even developed it quite a bit... ;)

    When you say you developed it quite a bit....


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,455 ✭✭✭Where To


    Is this that fifty shades of sh1te grey?


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  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    So are you going to let him ride your mate or what?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 287 ✭✭rambutman


    depends where the relationship is going long-term but if it was me i'd be tempted to say "ok"..............as long as i can have a threesome with you and your best mate


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,295 ✭✭✭✭Duggy747


    Agree to the threesome.

    Just don't tell him you and your friend will be wearing 10'' strap-ons for him.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,143 ✭✭✭D-FENS


    Tell him to wish in one hand, sh*t in the other and see which fills up first.
    Although that may be what he wants you and your mate to do..


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,016 ✭✭✭mirwillbeback


    I think he just loves you SO much that he feels he needs to extend that love to your friends, who are sort of an extension of you.

    It's like he can't get enough of you, so wants the next best thing.

    You're very lucky to be loved like that.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,847 ✭✭✭✭padd b1975


    Tell him the friend he wants is not interested but another one of your friends is.

    Arrange to meet and turn up with a hairy bull queer.


    Photograph his reaction


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    Ahava wrote: »
    Well, he didn't say he wanted it, but he said he fantasised about it (it was a text with quite a good description of the fantasy). He also asked if it was allowed, which I thought was super sweet of him.

    :eek: Super sweet of him?

    I'd love to see when you think he's not being "sweet"....


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,899 ✭✭✭✭BBDBB


    Question - is your mate another bloke?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,555 ✭✭✭Sar_Bear


    I think he just loves you SO much that he feels he needs to extend that love to your friends, who are sort of an extension of you.

    It's like he can't get enough of you, so wants the next best thing.

    You're very lucky to be loved like that.

    This is the best answer, ever.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 89 ✭✭Ahava


    Sar_Bear wrote: »
    Why would he tell you about it?! Fantasise away no bother like but jaysus keep it to yourself!

    Yeah, I was thinking that at first. But I'm the sort of person who actually likes the idea of radical honesty. I tend to want to know the truth no matter how dark it is, it gives me a better insight into human nature. I'm glad he told me.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 391 ✭✭anhedonia


    Ahava wrote: »
    Yeah, I was thinking that at first. But I'm the sort of person who actually likes the idea of radical honesty. I tend to want to know the truth no matter how dark it is, it gives me a better insight into human nature. I'm glad he told me.

    yeah savage insight that was, blokes would prefer two girls to the traditional one.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,455 ✭✭✭Where To


    Ahava wrote: »

    Yeah, I was thinking that at first. But I'm the sort of person who actually likes the idea of radical honesty. I tend to want to know the truth no matter how dark it is, it gives me a better insight into human nature. I'm glad he told me.
    I like the idea of radical honesty too.
    I like the idea of not having any restraining orders against me better.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,488 ✭✭✭✭Ush1


    Ahava wrote: »
    Yeah, I was thinking that at first. But I'm the sort of person who actually likes the idea of radical honesty. I tend to want to know the truth no matter how dark it is, it gives me a better insight into human nature. I'm glad he told me.

    Do you wear like dark clothes and hang around in town? Yeah, I'd say you should go ahead with the menage a trois.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 904 ✭✭✭Drakares


    Hahahahhaha.

    If I told my OH I wanted to sausage one of her friends, I don't think she'd find it too sweet :pac:


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 550 ✭✭✭Gauss


    Ahava wrote: »
    Well, he didn't say he wanted it, but he said he fantasised about it (it was a text with quite a good description of the fantasy). He also asked if it was allowed, which I thought was super sweet of him.

    I told him that yes, that he could fantasise about anything he wanted (and I meant it). What I didn't tell him was that my initial reaction to the text was sadness and a bit of insecurity.

    I'm glad I didn't tell him what my immediate feelings about his fantasy were, mainly because once I worked through the feelings of insecurity, a few minutes later I found his fantasy incredibly arousing and I even developed it quite a bit... ;) So overall this sharing created a new kind of bond and trust between us.

    Though I have to say that this little interaction we had changed me a bit. I had to let go of this innocent, perhaps a bit naive belief that I am the only woman he will ever fancy. It opened my eyes to the reality (as I see it) that monogamy is not natural. I now think that if we choose to be in a monogamous relationship, we have to respect and plan for the occasional demands coming from our instincts.

    I think I'm ok with that. Still feeling a bit sad about the loss of this innocence but also feeling more confident and adventurous. It's as if my world expanded somewhat.

    So what do you think guys and galls? Would you tell your partner that you fantasise about a threesome with them and their friend? How would you react if they told you they fantasise about your friend?

    Or do you think that if you are in a committed relationship, that the only person they should fantasise about is you?

    Why is it regarded as "guilt" (not "innocent) to be sexually liberal. I despise the term "innocence" in this context.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,417 ✭✭✭GRMA


    If he's prepared to admit to fantasizing about that I wonder what sort of mad stuff he's holding back


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 252 ✭✭SNORBEAST


    I can count to potato.......................


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43,037 ✭✭✭✭SEPT 23 1989


    Radical Honesty

    you learn something new everyday


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,940 ✭✭✭Corkfeen


    Fifty Shades of Grey has a lot to answer for, after hours is even more off topic than normal.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,436 ✭✭✭c_man


    Ahava wrote: »
    Or do you think that if you are in a committed relationship, that the only person they should fantasise about is you?

    No cos I'm not a mental case.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 611 ✭✭✭Strawberry Fields


    op are you bisexual? Do you want to sleep with your friend and are just tagging him along?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 89 ✭✭Ahava


    I probably should change the thread title, which although gets explained in the first line of my op, can be misleading.

    He doesn't want the threesome. He fantasised about it. There is a world of a difference!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43,037 ✭✭✭✭SEPT 23 1989


    Ahava wrote: »
    I probably should change the thread title, which although gets explained in the first line of my op, can be misleading.

    He doesn't want the threesome. He fantasised about it. There is a world of a difference!

    No there isn't


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,750 ✭✭✭iDave


    Man in threesome fantasy shock


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 550 ✭✭✭Gauss


    Ahava wrote: »
    I probably should change the thread title, which although gets explained in the first line of my op, can be misleading.

    He doesn't want the threesome. He fantasised about it. There is a world of a difference!

    He probably say yes though.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,417 ✭✭✭GRMA


    Ahava wrote: »
    I probably should change the thread title, which although gets explained in the first line of my op, can be misleading.

    He doesn't want the threesome. He fantasised about it. There is a world of a difference!
    lol!

    He thought about it an told you about it to gauge your reaction! Of course he wants it.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    Ahava wrote: »
    I probably should change the thread title, which although gets explained in the first line of my op, can be misleading.

    He doesn't want the threesome. He fantasised about it. There is a world of a difference!
    lol, are you really so naive?

    Obviously he told you hoping that you'd be up for it. Of course he wants the threesome ffs.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,455 ✭✭✭Where To


    Ahava wrote: »
    I probably should change the thread title, which although gets explained in the first line of my op, can be misleading.

    He doesn't want the threesome. He fantasised about it. There is a world of a difference!
    Not really. If I said I wanted to shag gummy panda if he was a real panda it would be out there, you can never take it back.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,663 ✭✭✭Immaculate Pasta


    Ahava wrote: »
    Well, he didn't say he wanted it, but he said he fantasised about it (it was a text with quite a good description of the fantasy). He also asked if it was allowed, which I thought was super sweet of him.

    I told him that yes, that he could fantasise about anything he wanted (and I meant it). What I didn't tell him was that my initial reaction to the text was sadness and a bit of insecurity.

    I'm glad I didn't tell him what my immediate feelings about his fantasy were, mainly because once I worked through the feelings of insecurity, a few minutes later I found his fantasy incredibly arousing and I even developed it quite a bit... ;) So overall this sharing created a new kind of bond and trust between us.

    Though I have to say that this little interaction we had changed me a bit. I had to let go of this innocent, perhaps a bit naive belief that I am the only woman he will ever fancy. It opened my eyes to the reality (as I see it) that monogamy is not natural. I now think that if we choose to be in a monogamous relationship, we have to respect and plan for the occasional demands coming from our instincts.

    I think I'm ok with that. Still feeling a bit sad about the loss of this innocence but also feeling more confident and adventurous. It's as if my world expanded somewhat.

    So what do you think guys and galls? Would you tell your partner that you fantasise about a threesome with them and their friend? How would you react if they told you they fantasise about your friend?

    Or do you think that if you are in a committed relationship, that the only person they should fantasise about is you?

    I blame the government. :mad:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,566 ✭✭✭Funglegunk


    Ahava wrote: »
    I probably should change the thread title, which although gets explained in the first line of my op, can be misleading.

    He doesn't want the threesome. He fantasised about it. There is a world of a difference!

    He asked if he was allowed to fantasise about something? That's some Orwellian **** right there.


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  • Hosted Moderators Posts: 23,254 ✭✭✭✭beertons


    Are you in this threesome? No mention of it involving you in your post.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,461 ✭✭✭--Kaiser--


    Boombastic wrote: »
    He just wants to shag your mate

    Nail. Hammer. Head.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 89 ✭✭Ahava


    Gauss wrote: »
    Why is it regarded as "guilt" (not "innocent) to be sexually liberal. I despise the term "innocence" in this context.

    No, no. There is no implication of guilt there. Why do you think that the opposite of innocence is guilt?

    To me (in this context) innocence equals naivety. The opposite of innocence is lack of innocence - nothing more.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,488 ✭✭✭✭Ush1


    He's already texting his lad mates saying his new mot is down for some freaky sh*t.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 89 ✭✭Ahava


    GRMA wrote: »
    If he's prepared to admit to fantasizing about that I wonder what sort of mad stuff he's holding back

    Nothing, that's the point!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,270 ✭✭✭tin79


    Using my astrological powers i am going to go out on a limb here and say you have....

    Dreadlocks.
    Crystals in your house.
    Ex-hippie parents.
    A few of those crusty wool pullovers.
    A strange yearning to go visit stonehenge.
    A feeling of re-birth at the solstace.

    Stop me when I get it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,109 ✭✭✭Cavehill Red


    Ahava wrote: »
    Nothing, that's the point!

    Is that what the tarot cards said?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,717 ✭✭✭YFlyer


    Boombastic wrote: »
    He just wants to shag your mate

    Cock blocker.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,364 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    I know of one guy that got dumped by his long term GF over such discussions (plural) but hey, go with it. No point being liberal if you can't brag about it. Shur what's the worst that could happen?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 23,246 ✭✭✭✭Dyr


    Jaysis, your granda is a bit of a durty bastard


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