Feedback greatly appreciated!!

pixie85

Hi Everyone,

Im a long term reader, first time poster I have a question that Id love some feedback on so hence the first post. Im wondering if anyone has joined a club that they found good for socialising/meeting new people in the 20/30s age bracket. Ive recently found myself in a bit of a rut due to work circumstances and a number of friends going over to the dark side :eek: (i.e settling down and not wanting to do things anymore!!!)and I know everyone always advises that the best thing to do is to join something to meet new people but I've found that anything I have joined before had either an older age group or else people werent interested in mixing/socialising. I know though that there are a lot of people in similar situations to mine so there must be lots of clubs with likeminded people, it's just a matter of finding them!

I like sports but have never played one long term so I feel that at my age (late twenties) it would be too late to join most sports clubs as you would need to have the skills. Also im not a huge fan of contact sports.. Id just love to hear from anyone who was in a similar situation and found something that was fun/sociable as at the moment the vague notion of joining "a club" just has me procrastinating!! Thanks so much!!

Morag

meetup.com

Heaps of stuff happening all over the country.

confuseddotcom

At a guess, the Meetup Group here appears to have more peeps in their forties, but that's just the impression I get. Nothing wrong with that either but a thirties-club or something like that too would be nice too. It's great that there is a Website like that though. Don't know where you are o.p., but there may be a wider age-range that you are looking for if the Site is active in your area/county.

Birdsong

Felt I had to reply, as I was in a similar situation a few years ago, and I joined my local running club. There are people in it from 20-70 , from elites to joggers like myself & I have build up a great circle of friends from it. You don't need any "skill" and you say you are quite sporty, so you'll fit right in.

deanlandon

Why don't you volunteer at your place of worship?

Pythia

deanlandon wrote: »

Why don't you volunteer at your place of worship?

Not everyone has a 'place of worship'...

smallgarden

pixie85 wrote: »

Hi Everyone,

Im a long term reader, first time poster I have a question that Id love some feedback on so hence the first post. Im wondering if anyone has joined a club that they found good for socialising/meeting new people in the 20/30s age bracket. Ive recently found myself in a bit of a rut due to work circumstances and a number of friends going over to the dark side :eek: (i.e settling down and not wanting to do things anymore!!!)and I know everyone always advises that the best thing to do is to join something to meet new people but I've found that anything I have joined before had either an older age group or else people werent interested in mixing/socialising. I know though that there are a lot of people in similar situations to mine so there must be lots of clubs with likeminded people, it's just a matter of finding them!

I like sports but have never played one long term so I feel that at my age (late twenties) it would be too late to join most sports clubs as you would need to have the skills. Also im not a huge fan of contact sports.. Id just love to hear from anyone who was in a similar situation and found something that was fun/sociable as at the moment the vague notion of joining "a club" just has me procrastinating!! Thanks so much!!

im totally in a similar boat.i find outside of work or college its hard to meet new people.i find the meetup groups are okay but i take awhile to build up friendships and sometimes youre meeting different people each group which is great but difficult if youre a shy person as it takes alot of effort to mingle with new people

Ellsbells

Pythia wrote: »

Not everyone has a 'place of worship'...

And many people do so its as inclusive and valid a suggestion as going running, playing rugby etc. don't know why you feel the need to point out to the poster that not everyone is religious. The dog on the street has copped that. It's another example of the pack mentality swooping in on a poster for making a very valid suggestion but which may not be popular with a few.

Op I think it's best to be open to meeting someone but not try to force it. In other words there is no point joining clubs you don't want to just to meet someone.

Ickle Magoo

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An Bhanríon

From my personal experience and from friends who have been in similar situation:

musical societies & amateur drama
running club
Vincent de Paul (some of the conferences have a lot of young people - would need to check. There is actually a special under 35s conference, as far as I know)
place of worship (it's true!! I have met people through meditation, which isn't exactly 'worship' but going in that direction, I suppose)
voluntary work in general (ask around as it depends on the organisation the age profile of the volunteers)
evening classes (language classes I have attended have had a big mix of ages - and you have to talk so you can't help getting to know the others!)

It's all kind of hit and miss, though. You need to get out there and try stuff out. And if it's not your type of group just go and look elsewhere. You will find those new friends you are looking for!

I did have a massive group of friends and social outlet through my place of worship when I was in my early 20s. I just no longer subscribe to any form of worship.

Since then, random places. Manics fan forums. Dating site running events, similar to meetup.com. Taking courses, evening classes. Getting into community stuff when I lived in a settled estate. Still do some work with the riding club I used to be a member of (can't be a member now due to lack of funds and dire lack of horse too). I admit I'm a kinda fly-by friend, I lose touch with people easily.

ArtyC

Have you tried tag rugby? it's open to new members all the time, no contact and mix of men and women! Although it usually starts in the summer but something to keep in mind!