slagging: a mechanism of an emotionally repressive society

an langer

"Slagging: often this is disguised as 'humour', 'it's only a bit of craic' etc... It has evolved, in what is an emotionally repressive society, as a way of ensuring people don't take on ‘airs and graces’ i.e. don’t get too confident or boastful but know their place in society and remain there."

Discuss!

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christmas2012

banter is a way of keeping people in check i suppose

tayto lover

Langer.

anncoates

an langer wrote: »

"Slagging: often this is disguised as 'humour', 'it's only a bit of craic' etc... It has evolved, in what is an emotionally repressive society, as a way of ensuring people don't take on ‘airs and graces’ i.e. don’t get too confident or boastful but know their place in society and remain there."

I was slagged in school.

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AnonoBoy

I only slag people I'm friends with.

Everything else is truth-bombs.

old hippy

Where do you draw the line between slagging and bullying?

Tonyandthewhale

Are you quoting yourself OP? Because that's well slag worthy.

mathie

christmas2012 wrote: »

banter is a way of keeping people in check i suppose

Shut your cakehole.

an langer

sorry to hear that anncoates

mathie

old hippy wrote: »

Where do you draw the line between slagging and bullying?

Back to woodstock hippy.

Gloomtastic!

Slagging only hurts when it's true!

kfallon

Slagging is banter and we all know what banter is......sugarcoated bullying :pac:

Bad Panda

Slagging only hurts if you're a pussy. :pac:

Sea Sharp

old hippy wrote: »

Where do you draw the line between slagging and bullying?

Depends on how the person takes it. It's usually clear by their facial expression whether they see it as banter or bullying.

old hippy

mathie wrote: »

Back to woodstock hippy.

And?

paddyandy

Slagging is Abuse and it is accepted here in Ireland .Anger and jealousy have many disguises and slaggin' is one of them but it does not exist everywhere and would'nt be allowed in other places .I've worked in places where there was none at all .And it should'nt exist . Tolerance is a disease here .
It is difficult to see the line between banter and trying to humiliate sometimes .

kfallon

paddyandy wrote: »

Slagging is Abuse and it is accepted here in Ireland .Anger and jealousy have many disguises and slaggin' is one of them but it does not exist everywhere and would'nt be allowed in other places .I've worked in places where there was none at all .And it should'nt exist . Tolerance is a disease here .

That must have been one boring kip to work in :pac:

--Kaiser--

Slagging is way of testing if someone has a sense of humour, doesn't take themselves too seriously. It's a way of bonding. You know you've gotten in with a group of people when they start slagging you. It's not just an Irish thing either, I've seen it in other cultures (though some really don't appreciate it), but we appear to be particularly good at it.

People who don't like slagging are usually emotionally insecure, humourless, whingey twats

NegativeCreep

Of course it is but sure we all knew that
I hate that word banter and those idiots that say 'the bants' wrecks me head!
Slagging is fine between friends but with strangers it's a bit weird and off-putting.

old hippy

This is a quite valid discussion, it's a pity it's on AH where any serious conversation will be shot down by the same, tired crowd, awash with cynisicm and a wilful failure to comprehend consequences of something like bullying...

smash

old hippy wrote: »

the same, tired crowd, awash with cynisicm and a wilful failure to comprehend consequences of something like bullying...

isn't that slagging right there?

old hippy

--Kaiser-- wrote: »

Slagging is way of testing if someone has a sense of humour, doesn't take themselves too seriously. It's a way of bonding. You know you've gotten in with a group of people when they start slagging you. It's not just an Irish thing either, I've seen it in other cultures (though some really don't appreciate it), but we appear to be particularly good at it.

People who don't like slagging are usually emotionally insecure, humourless, whingey twats

And perhaps after years of relentless slagging/pyschological bullying, how else would they appear to you?

Bad Panda

old hippy wrote: »

This is a quite valid discussion, it's a pity it's on AH where any serious conversation will be shot down by the same, tired crowd, awash with cynisicm and a wilful failure to comprehend consequences of something like bullying...

As someone who was briefly bullied as a small child, I can tell the difference!

Banter/slagging is usually when everyone does it to everyone else, clearly in jest and not just to one person all the time with some poisonous words thrown in for good measure.

Seriously, people need this explained to them?

Quorum

Is this yet another inferiority complex, run down Ireland thread? In a covert kinda way?

Chuck Stone

paddyandy wrote: »

Slagging is Abuse and it is accepted here in Ireland .Anger and jealousy have many disguises and slaggin' is one of them but it does not exist everywhere and would'nt be allowed in other places .I've worked in places where there was none at all .And it should'nt exist . Tolerance is a disease here .
It is difficult to see the line between banter and trying to humiliate sometimes .

Tell us about the time you wore an onion on your belt and went to market to sell a cow but came back with magic beans.

kfallon

NegativeCreep wrote: »

Of course it is but sure we all knew that
I hate that word banter and those idiots that say 'the bants' wrecks me head!
Slagging is fine between friends but with strangers it's a bit weird and off-putting.

Never heard that in me life tbh!

NegativeCreep

kfallon wrote: »

Never heard that in me life tbh!

Tis a young person thing Look on any of the off topic threads on C&H and you'll see it numerous times. Nothing against C&H, I've just seen it there.

Chuck Stone

an langer wrote: »

A really cool thing to combat slagging that's from a 'bad place' (I don't mean harmless fun) is an nlp technique called the swish pattern. Just google it. I've done it several times now and the result is, you hear the slagging, but don't emotionally react to it. It's hard to explain, it's the same effect as someone saying, 'hello, how are you?', you don't react to it emotionally. Derren Brown type stuff.
However I have noticed it makes people uncomfortable sometimes when they say something intentionally hurtful but you don't react to it like you're meant to. That I find really funny, in fact it's the ultimate revenge. No reaction :-)

I just put you on ignore. If you reply to this I won't see it.


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Bipolar Joe

There is a difference between slagging and bullying. Bullying is meant to hurt people, slagging is meant to make people laugh. It can be difficult to tell the two apart.

I'll slag and be slagged, but there are some people I won't do it to. A really good friend of mine can't tell the difference. It's like bonding. You just have to be careful who you do it with.

Roger Sterling

an langer wrote: »

"Slagging: often this is disguised as 'humour', 'it's only a bit of craic' etc... It has evolved, in what is an emotionally repressive society, as a way of ensuring people don't take on ‘airs and graces’ i.e. don’t get too confident or boastful but know their place in society and remain there."

Discuss!

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Are you trying to get us to do some college or school assignment for you or something?

Feisar

I think as long as someone is not socially clueless or completely hyper sensitive they'd know the difference.