Prostitution as an alternative.

Wonder83

Hi,

Like many others my age (24) I seem to be in a financial mess, no prospects, no job but a good education.

I graduated last year with good marks. I have searched high and low, gone for numerous job interviews, took job interview skills courses. I have applied for jobs in my own area as well as outside including - ALDI, Lidl, Dunnes, McDonalds and cleaning positions with no luck. I'ts not that I am not willing to work I AM ANYTHING AT ALL.

Why it takes me to here. I am thinking of going into prostitution. Not standing on a street corner - I don't drink or smoke have no drug problem and come from a nice enough family so no trauma.

I have researched it and have made contact with a 'Madame' from an escort agency she is willing to help me out and take me on board. My question is have many others done this? Would you consider it?.

Any advise or help appreciated.

No religious nuts please or moral please.

murraykil

You should try to talk to some women who are doing this already. A madam from an escort agency might not give impartial advice! The same could be said for anyone, but I'd expect you have more chance of getting the good and the bad from actual prostitutes.

I would be wary about the type of person who pays for sex considering how easy it is to get for free.

Giselle

Without any moral judgment at all, do please think very seriously about the possible risks to both your mental and physical health.

The risks to those aspects of your person are possibly greater than any physical risk sex work might pose.

geneyuss

things cant really be that bad,,,if its just for the money , we have social welfare to help

Princess Peach

I was reading an article in Closer about this just last night! Women saying they have absolutely no choice but to do it.

I personally saw many choices for them... One woman needed it to support her child. Her part time hours as a cleaner and benefits weren't enough for her, so she signed up on an escort website. The other girl became an escort as she was a student and didn't have enough cash. She gave up for a while but is going back to college again and would prefer to be an escort rather than take out a loan and be in debt.

I honestly found their "need" was not as substantial as they made it out to be. I would drop out of college before I became an escort. And it did seem the mother was making ends meet, just didn't have much extra left over. Went on to say how she loves being able to buy designer clothes for the baby.

The article was just terrible too. Each girl wrote just one line about the bad experiences they have had. It really glorified it. I'd also really like their source on the statistic "1 in 10 medical students now works as a prostitute" Nobody should ever read Closer.

Wonder83, do you really need to this? Are you homeless and starving. Unless that is the case I can't see any reason to do it.

Millicent

I would say think long and hard about this. And when you are done doing that, think about it some more. I am not judging prostitutes -- never have, never will. What I would say though is that this is something there is no way back from mentally. It will shape the way you think about life and men.

Also, it depends entirely on your attitude to sex. Are you comfortable with casual sex? Or do you need to feel a connection to someone to have sex?

How long do you plan on doing it? Do you have an exit strategy if you discover it's not for you? How do you plan on dealing with it emotionally, mentally and physically?

If you can't answer even one of these questions with certainty, I would say back away now. There is no easy answer to give here.

Finally, can I just ask why you need the money so desperately? Not that I am trying to pry but there may be alternative routes that could be suggested by some posters here if you wish to tell us.

mackg

To add to what Millicent said remember that there is no comparison between working as a prostitute in a country like Holland where the industry is regulated and here. In Ireland you would be working in an illegal industry and in my mind that means that you are putting yourself at risk. You say you have done research, I would be interested to know what sort of credible information you have that you were able to piece together about an industry that by its very nature is secretive.

I'ts not that I am not willing to work I AM ANYTHING AT ALL.

Is there some reason you absolutely must stay in Ireland? A year abroad would, in my book, be a better alternative to prostitution.

Links234

I know a few people online who because of their transgender status have found it impossible to get work, had no support from their family, and genuinely were in thoroughly desperate situations. We're talking homelessness, that level of desperation, and even then there is a level of choice when it comes to sex work. I know some who made some money doing webcam modelling, and some who got into the porn industry from there. but it seemed like the webcam modelling was enough to get by for most. That is a much, much better alternative to prostitution if you're really that desperate and inclined to make money off your body.

Dolbert

Please, please consider the effect this will have on your mental health before doing this. This is an excellent blog written by a woman in a similar position to yourself, please read it before making any decisions.

seachto7

I cannot understand how any woman would make a decision to be a prostitute. I would not ever believe anyone for a second male or female who ever said they enjoyed it or enjoy it. If they did say they enjoyed it, then there's something else far more serious going on between the ears.....

Siuin

Go aupairing or look for work in another EU country (or hell, move outside your current town for a start!) You have so many other options available to you that prostitution is simply the lazy (and harmful) alternative. You must think pretty lowly of yourself if the next option down the list is to work as a hooker. And that's what it is-- let's not try dress it up here by calling it 'high class' or an 'escort service' run by a 'madame' -- you're screwing strangers for cash. Simple as. This may seem harsh, but if this is actually your mindset, you need a serious wake-up call.

seachto7

Siuin wrote: »

- you're screwing strangers for cash. Simple as.

This.

Royal Irish

Go out and find the ugliest bloke you can, and just say to yourself, I am going to have to sell my body to someone like him a couple of times a week for cash. Not saying all guys who use escorts are ugly. Just saying you are going to get a few beached whales now and then.

Also think what effects this might have in the future. If your pics as an escort make it online, they will be there forever. What happens if you meet a guy and are engaged and he finds out about your past. No man wants a hooker for wife.

Wonder83

Thank you for the responses.

It's a last resort. To answer some questions, no I don't have casual sex only ever been with one person an ex boyfriend. I don't go whoring on the weekend, I don't drink or smoke take drugs etc. I'm not a bimbo, I can talk on a range of topics from physics, philosophy to Arab literature. I have a lot to offer.

I'm not deluded to think it's easy money. IT IS NOT. I cannot move away or out of town. I live with my Grandma there is only the both of us left, she is 82 and I take care of her. Her pension and the little I get off social is not enough to keep everything going, she has needs now that I cannot meet and NO I would not put her in a home. I'm not a bad person or a slut. I'm not taking this decision lightly.

I have been to different organisations for more help and I have looked for jobs everyday I send my C.V. out.

The Madame I was referring to I met early this morning. I saw the apartment and met two of the other girls that work there. They earn from 100-400euro an hour.
I know I may get a beached whale but I'm not expecting Brad ****ing Pitt, most will probably be old guys or whatever. Anyway she will organise clients and take 30% cut from earnings for the use of her space. I start tomorrow night.

I read the blog and yes I am aware what can and probably will happen.

Call me what you like but I'm not doing it for expensive bags or clothes or crap, I am doing it to pay off debt and for necessities.

Thanks once again for respones.

Sonics2k

Wonder83, I'll give honest advice, and I'm giving it as someone who has in the past had involvement with private escorts (and not in a sexual way)

For a while I worked as security for a place, and while I would obviously never go into details of it's location, I urge you to thoroughly prepare for this job should you choose to take it. I have known women who have worked as prostitutes, and sometimes as normal escort. For the most part, they were happy with how it went, some were not.

It can be a demeaning job, it can also be somewhat lucrative in terms of quick cash gain. Ensure your Madame is not out to force you into any work, and make sure that condoms -must- be worn at all times. Make sure the environment is safe, and that there is always someone nearby to help if needs be.

Hi Wonder83.

I'm going to close this thread now as you have made your decision and I don't see there being too many constructive posts from here on in. If you would prefer me to keep the thread open, or would like to reopen it to share your experiences. Please drop me a pm.

Take Sonics2k's advice and keep safe.

I am sorry that you have to turn to this when it's not something you want to do and I'm sorry that some of the replies were less than understanding.

Good luck with everything.

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