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Dealing with those unwanted feelings

  • 19-06-2012 1:28am
    #1
    Denise90
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 158 ✭✭


    Was having a chat with one of my friends during the weekend about love, life, the usual. We got to talking about relationships, and how in nearly every relationship either of us had had, one person would come along out of nowhere and cause us to ponder whether the grass was greener. I'm not talking about just some person you pass in the street, this person is perhaps a friend, a colleague, etc. There's a relationship established and it's not based on looks. One day, they might look at you differently and suddenly you find yourself thinking about them.

    Personally it has always happened to me when I'm at my happiest. I would still love my partner and still want to be with them but my thoughts would be invaded by some "amazing" man :rolleyes: I always end up tormenting myself with secret day dreams but would never act on it as it usually passes.

    So how does everyone deal with it? Do you act on it? Ignore it? Suffer in silence? Should we feel guilty?


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  • #2
    baby and crumble
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,512 ✭✭✭baby and crumble


    Personally I write it off as a crush. I've told my partner about it too. It's only happened maybe twice in the 8 years we've been together. I'm sure she's had a few too, but shes sticking with me, that's good enough for me.


  • #3
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,285 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    Denise90 wrote: »
    Should we feel guilty?
    Only if you act on it.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #4
    Denise90
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 158 ✭✭Denise90


    I would have said the same, but I do know people who become guilt ridden from talking to a "crush" when they have a partner.

    In a way, I think it it's kind of nice when a love story emerges from it too.. like people that do act on it, then realise they want to be with this person, 10 years later there they are, kids and marriage!


  • #5
    FizzleSticks
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,172 ✭✭✭FizzleSticks


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