Condom carrier

Quality

So. Was a bit shocked earlier tonight when talking to a friend of mine. Lovely recently single girl. In a relationship for 6 years her first fella. And now recently single. So she has been out having fun. But she told me she is too embarrassed to carry condoms. Doesn't want to come across as a slapper?

What do u girls think? So you carry? Do you protect?

Kiera

I dont carry cause i'm not into the whole one nighter thing anymore but they are at home in my drawer 'just in case'.

im not into one nighters, never have been, but im always open to new things!!:D
ah im joking, but on a serious note i do have a condom or two put away in a pocket of my handbag.

i forget they are there most of the time but.....
just to be prepared.

krudler

just like the boyscouts and Scar from The Lion King said: be prepared.

themadchef

Quality wrote: »

So. Was a bit shocked earlier tonight when talking to a friend of mine. Lovely recently single girl. In a relationship for 6 years her first fella. And now recently single. So she has been out having fun. But she told me she is too embarrassed to carry condoms. Doesn't want to come across as a slapper?

What do u girls think? So you carry? Do you protect?

It's all good, being too embarrassed to carry them as long as your just as embarrassed to get your freak on .

If you dont carry, and carry on regardless you have an issue imo.

I only wish i had a social life to warrant the need :pac:.

I dont think i know too many gals who'd have an issue with condoms in their handbags. Hell i thought we left that craic behind us years ago.

Piste

When I read the title I thought it was about those little "Lovebox" tins Durex does, they come with a few condoms inside, but more importantly, make excellent carriers for bars of soap if you're travelling.

Quality

Yeah so did I chef, thought it was all left behind. But she seriously felt embarrassed to carry them. I was so surprised at this girl.

I was like its Not as embarrassing as an std or an unwanted pregnancy.

I can see her point but come on? Is this not common practice

Kiera

themadchef wrote: »

It's all good, being too embarrassed to carry them as long as your just as embarrassed to get your freak on .

If you dont carry, and carry on regardless you have an issue imo.

I only wish i had a social life to warrant the need :pac:.

I dont think i know too many gals who'd have an issue with condoms in their handbags. Hell i thought we left that craic behind us years ago.

My thinking is: I dont ride behind a nightclub or in the car after the cinema so dont need them. If i want a shag i have my own place to go back to where i have a drawer of fruity delights

krudler

Quality wrote: »

Yeah so did I chef, thought it was all left behind. But she seriously felt embarrassed to carry them. I was so surprised at this girl.

I was like its Not as embarrassing as an std or an unwanted pregnancy.

I can see her point but come on? Is this not common practice

a friend of my ex was notorious for sleeping around, like with at least one guy a week,sometimes more, yet never had condoms and often didnt use them, her reasoning was she was too embarrassed? I dont get that at all. if you're going to sleep around at least do it safely as you can.

rainbow kirby

Better to have one and not need it than to need one and not have it, tbh.

Princess Peach

I find this so silly, as almost every handbag a women owns has what I call the "period pouch", that little zip pocket inside to keep all your personal items.

I usually don't carry them with me, as I know the guy I'm with has them in his house or I have them in my house. If we are going away, I make sure one of us bring them. And I would for sure carry them if I was out having fun like the OP's friend.

OakeyDokey

Even though I'm not into having one night stands if I was single then yeah, don't see the embarrassment to it really I'd take embarrassment over an STI any day.

Madam_X

I always carry them. I could end up back in his place or where he's staying if he's only on a visit. I don't understand the embarrassment thing - you can't exactly tell when a person is carrying them!
It's just a precautionary measure - doesn't necessarily state "I'm on the prowl tonight!"

It isn't necessarily a one-night stand thing either - one night can lead to more.

krudler wrote: »

a friend of my ex was notorious for sleeping around, like with at least one guy a week,sometimes more, yet never had condoms and often didnt use them, her reasoning was she was too embarrassed? I dont get that at all. if you're going to sleep around at least do it safely as you can.

Jesus Christ!

coco_lola

I'm not into one night stands, but I could guarantee the one night I didn't have any, that's when I'd need them. I always keep some in my nightstand.

Fail to Prepare, Prepare to... Get Pregnant/an STD?

Not quite the same ring to it.

Ickle Magoo

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Folks, can I remind you this is The Ladies Lounge - by all means contribute constructively to the discussion after reading the forum charter.

Crumble Froo

Have to admit, there's a part of me that does cringe internally if I'm ever pulling crap outta my bag (backpack, not handbag :pac: ) and a condom falls out.

But that doesn't stop me carrying em, cos at the end of the day, there's nothing worse than getting to the point where you want a condom... to find none.

Deal with the embarrassment by saying as much too, no one's disagreed with me yet :pac:

Novella

I don't have one night stands but I do carry a condom in my purse. Mostly I end up giving them to friends! :pac: /sad

Bambii_

I don't carry them if I'm going out as I'm in a relationship, so no need. I would never cheat and have never been tempted, so there really is no need for me to have them on me at all times. But if I was single and up for a bit of fun, or even thought that it might be a possibility on a night out, then I'd carry them.

As for your friend saying she'd feel like a slapper, she doesn't need to advertise that she is carrying condoms with her, no one has to know, unless she ends up in a situation where she needs them, then I'm sure the guy would see her as responsible, not cheap or a slapper.

If a woman is interested in the whole casual sex thing and is intending to have a one night stand, then there's no reason they shouldn't be prepared as well.

frag420

Last summer I met a girl in town. We went back to hers and were getting down to it. I took a condom out and she freaked out saying that I was expecting a ride as I had packed a condom. Crazy!!

My motto is.......better to be looking at it than looking for it!!

cryano

Quality wrote: »

So. Was a bit shocked earlier tonight when talking to a friend of mine. Lovely recently single girl. In a relationship for 6 years her first fella. And now recently single. So she has been out having fun. But she told me she is too embarrassed to carry condoms. Doesn't want to come across as a slapper?

What do u girls think? So you carry? Do you protect?

No one has to know she has them till the she wants to get busy. Why should she feel embarrassed.

From a mans point of view if you go to get down to bussiness with a lady thats packing protection you know shes safe.

christmas2012

I dont see what the big problem is carrying condoms - its safety you never know what you might catch these days

Lia_lia

No. Because I never have one night stands. I do carry condoms around if I am seeing someone, but haven't done in a while!

The Big Red Button

Quality wrote: »

So. Was a bit shocked earlier tonight when talking to a friend of mine. Lovely recently single girl. In a relationship for 6 years her first fella. And now recently single. So she has been out having fun. But she told me she is too embarrassed to carry condoms. Doesn't want to come across as a slapper?

What do u girls think? So you carry? Do you protect?

I really don't get the embarrassment thing.

If a guy is going to think you're a slapper for carrying a condom ... well, the only reason he's even going to known is because you're about to have sex with him, so (assuming it's a ONS etc) then surely he's more likely to think you're a slapper because of that?

I don't carry them myself, probably would alright if I was single though. Not that I'd be into random sex, but still, always best to be prepared!

frag420 wrote: »

Last summer I met a girl in town. We went back to hers and were getting down to it. I took a condom out and she freaked out saying that I was expecting a ride as I had packed a condom. Crazy!!

That's completely crazy! I mean, would she prefer if you hadn't had one and were willing to shag her without it?!

Malari

I don't even think it's indicative of being partial to one-night stands if you carry a condom. When I had boyfriends I wasnt living with I'd carry one, just in case they didn't have one. I'd still put one in my bag if my current boyfriend, who I live with, and I were going away, in case he forgot. I don't see what's so embarrassing. Yeah, I have sex, and yeah I'm proud of being careful.

I'm single again after a few years and getting back into things; I've never been a one-night-stand kind of person but you can be sure I will be carrying condoms now, especially if I'm going to be drinking. Always did, but actually, never used them, (I mean I never had need to use them on a night out, not that I had sex and didn't use one), but I feel I can relax and enjoy myself more knowing at least this base, should it ever arise, is covered. (Full of unintentional puns here tonight).

Aoifums

I don't do one night stands, nor do I have sex with guys, but I still carry one around. Better safe than sorry is my motto and not all of my friends carry them. I'd rather have one at hand and someone was able to use it than anyone gets pregnant or catches an STD. I don't think it's that embarassing. I wouldn't tell my parents there's one in my wallet but I have no problem with anyone else knowing.

Seraphina

I don't carry them because if I end up picking up some randomer (which is almost never, but has happened once or twice) I would always bring them back to mine (where I have an ample supply obviously). Feels safer with someone you don't know (not sure why)

shortie_chik

Quality wrote: »

So. Was a bit shocked earlier tonight when talking to a friend of mine. Lovely recently single girl. In a relationship for 6 years her first fella. And now recently single. So she has been out having fun. But she told me she is too embarrassed to carry condoms. Doesn't want to come across as a slapper?
What do u girls think? So you carry? Do you protect?

Surely she'd be more embarrassed sitting in the queue at an STI clinic? :rolleyes: And that potential embarrassment must pale in comparison to the distress she'd feel sitting in the waiting room in a crisis pregnancy service? Being too embarrassed to carry condoms, but not too embarrassed to go ahead & have sex with someone you (probably) hardly know without making your own provisions for contraception, is incredibly immature. Who is she hooking up with, Will.I.Am?

I always remember seeing some TV doctor saying "don't die of embarrassment" about people not going to their GP about serious problems because they were too embarrassed. Guess this could apply here too!

Between relationships, I didn't generally carry condoms as I didn't tend to have ONSs. If I was going to hook up with someone, I'd kind of know it was going to happen (so not exactly strangers then! :eek:) and it always lead back to my place. (I'd rather go to my place, where I know there are condoms, my toothbrush, make-up remover, big bed, hot shower, breakfast cereal etc... than someone else's place with lots of "unknowns". I like my comfort! )

Only once I wished I'd been better prepared (was unexpectedly propositioned by an old friend I'd had seriously impure thoughts about - and a few harmless impure encounters with). Another friend was more than willing to let me help myself to her handbag full of supplies, but it didn't work out that night anyway. The next time I knew I'd be seeing him, I was well prepared dammit! And rightly so... So I suppose if I intended to have casual sex, then yes I would carry condoms myself.

In a relationship now, and 99% of the time we stay in my place, where I know it's well stocked :cool: At his place, there are handy boxes within arm's reach. And if we're anywhere in between, I know there's always one in his wallet. I thought it was kind of funny at first (that he carries a condom in his wallet) but it's saved many a trip from the sofa to the bedside locker, so I guess I see the value in it now.

Jimmy Iovine

shortie_chik wrote: »

In a relationship now, and 99% of the time we stay in my place, where I know it's well stocked :cool: At his place, there are handy boxes within arm's reach. And if we're anywhere in between, I know there's always one in his wallet. I thought it was kind of funny at first (that he carries a condom in his wallet) but it's saved many a trip from the sofa to the bedside locker, so I guess I see the value in it now.

Be careful with that. The condom can get torn or at the very least damaged inside the wallet. Body heat or friction would be the main cause. It could rip while in use and you may not even know about it.

I'd recommend dumping it straight away. It'd be much easier, I'd imagine, if you carried one in your bag.

Also there's the chance that it could fall out of his wallet. Happened to me last week getting onto a bus in Dublin. Right in front of a bunch of auld biddies as well. Thankfully, I was still drunk from the night before so I didn't care all that much.

Fiona

I carry condoms all the time regardless of whether or not I am in a relationship, if I don't need them somebody else will. Have often sorted out mates on a night out. Sad that some people are embarrased to carry them. I don't get it myself.

shortie_chik

Jimmy Iovine wrote: »

Be careful with that. The condom can get torn or at the very least damaged inside the wallet. Body heat or friction would be the main cause. It could rip while in use and you may not even know about it.
I'd recommend dumping it straight away. It'd be much easier, I'd imagine, if you carried one in your bag.

It's never in the wallet very long, so doesn't get too much chance to gather dust or damage. I'm on the pill, which I'm religious about taking correctly, & we both had STD screens when we decided that we'd be together exclusively, so mostly we just use them to avoid extra laundry

And my handbag is never within arm's reach of the sofa. His jeans (with wallet) are usually conveniently on the floor beside us

Jimmy Iovine wrote: »

Also there's the chance that it could fall out of his wallet. Happened to me last week getting onto a bus in Dublin. Right in front of a bunch of auld biddies as well. Thankfully, I was still drunk from the night before so I didn't care all that much.

Muahahaha! I would have loved to see their faces :mad: Don't think Mr SC would even blush if this happened to him. It's no one else's business what's in his wallet!

Abi

Quality wrote: »

So. Was a bit shocked earlier tonight when talking to a friend of mine. Lovely recently single girl. In a relationship for 6 years her first fella. And now recently single. So she has been out having fun. But she told me she is too embarrassed to carry condoms. Doesn't want to come across as a slapper?

What do u girls think? So you carry? Do you protect?

She is looking at it in an entirely wrong, and worrying way. You cannot put a price on your health, and the consequences of allowing your hormones get the better of you can have life-altering effects. If not through an STI then the - wah wah waking you up in the middle of the night kind.

As the old saying goes, it takes two to tango. Why should the guy be the only one to take the responsibility?

I've never really been single for very long, so I've never had to carry them around per se, but I've bought them while on pill breaks and what have you. I can't understand why someone would gamble with their lives in that way, it defies all common sense.

tatabubbly

Havent for a long while now cos i'm in a long term relationship and i've the bar in, also both tested (tmi!).. but i did recently have to buy condoms for a male friend 'cos he was too embarrassed.

i'd rather have a condom then get aids!!

Morag

Yes always have, always will.
Even when in a relationship and not using them, I still tend to carry them for the sake of others. I end up giving them to friends who forgot or are getting way to hot and heavy with them and it's easy enough to hand them off to them, or in one case to a young lady who was drunkenly trying to get condoms out of a machine which was broken.

Laneyh

Quality wrote: »

So. Was a bit shocked earlier tonight when talking to a friend of mine. Lovely recently single girl. In a relationship for 6 years her first fella. And now recently single. So she has been out having fun. But she told me she is too embarrassed to carry condoms. Doesn't want to come across as a slapper?

What do u girls think? So you carry? Do you protect?

Well unless they fell out of her bag somehow nobody would know she had them
Except whatever guy she might end up with. If they're already back at his or hers and he doesnt have anything then I'm sure she'd be glad of them and the guy is unlikely to complain.

I can see why she might think people would judge her as being presumptuous but I really can't see how it's anyone's business bar the bloke and he's more likely to be appreciative than anything else

PrincessLola

Quality wrote: »

Doesn't want to come across as a slapper?

Tell your friend she has some internalised misogyny to take care of. For real.
There is nothing slutty about carrying protection. And if a girl wants to have sex thats her perogative.

Polloloca

There's so many condom fairy god mothers out there. I'm reply to the thread, I don't carry them.

Nothingbetter2d

i usually keep 1 in the wallet and some at home. but if i have none in the wallet and i knew i was gonna get lucky i'd buy some in the men's jacks of a pub or in a chemist if there was one open nearby.

as im seeing someone now i keep some at home

The Lovely Muffin

I never carry condoms in my bag, simply because I am in a relationship and never have or never would cheat so I see no need for me to carry any.

We keep condoms at my boyfriends house (I live at home, he doesn't) so whenever we go somewhere he always brings them and if he forgets we just buy more.

eviltwin

No need for me to carry them around, in my younger days no way would I have because it was an automatic ticket to being called a "slut" so its refreshing to see that its no longer a big deal. I would always make sure my daughter has them, any man who thinks its a character flaw on her part isn't worth her time.

kanedaly60

I don't understand this stigma of being called a 'slut', if you carry condoms. I would be more likely to judge a person for having unprotected sex than I would for carrying a condom in their bag. I personally think that women should be encouraged to carry protection. It's naieve to think that you may never need one. You never know when you might need one...

Scarinae

I don't see what is so embarrassing about carrying condoms, or buying condoms. I don't carry them because I'm in a long distance relationship and therefore don't need to, but I don't see the big deal.

When I was in college I used to go and get free condoms from the SU welfare officer. You could just go in and ask for them, there'd be a box by the door and you could take as many as you wanted. I told several of my friends that you could do this, but they all said they'd be too embarrassed to go and ask for them I don't understand this, if you're too embarrassed to ask for condoms then you're probably not mature enough to be having sex.

SusieBlue

Despite the fact that I've never been into One Night Stands, I always carried them when I was single. You can never be too careful, I'd rather people think I was a slut than to end up unintentionally pregnant or with an STD.

Its really sad that in this day and age a responsible woman won't carry a condom for fear of being perceived as a slut.

Maple

When I was single, I always carried a couple of condoms in my wallet. Not that I was out riding rings around myself but if the offer of a jaunt came along, I wanted to be as protected as I possibly could be.

Now, I keep them by the bedside locker and himself has his kept there in his place too.

Sonics2k

I've never really understood how people can be so unwilling or embarrassed about having condoms.

Now, I personally find them uncomfortable, but I still bring them with me all the time. Just in case.

As it was described to me when I was a teenager by a particularly awesome Sex Ed teacher in Australia;
"Which is more embarrassing? Having people know you have sex, or going to an STD clinic to see what those strange lumps are?"