BREAST FEEDING A 3 YEAR OLD !

flutterflye · 12-05-2012 11:22pm

grindle wrote: »

You... Responded... To me?
"What physical needs?", you said, quoting me...
Unless you thought I meant the whole physical-closeness some seem to like. I didn't.
Soooo....

*tumbleweed*

I was responding to you responding to me!

*a parade of neo nazi tumbleweed*

grindle · 12-05-2012 11:36pm

flutterflye wrote: »

I was responding to you responding to me!

*a parade of neo nazi tumbleweed*

Well, the first was due to you saying society's mores should take precedence.
I have a limit too, I think at around 4, just because science hasn't shown any biological positives past that age.
I don't get the need for some mothers to feed after that, it's almost like a pre-emptive nostalgia for young motherhood.
I also hold nothing against women who stop at 6 months, it's just a fact that that is less natural than stopping around the 2-3 range, so people shouldn't be giving shiit to this woman on Time's cover, or others like her, until they selfishly force the feeding past the natural stage.

Cork24 · 13-05-2012 1:00am

Johro wrote: »

Cork24 wrote: »

Got milk

Will travel.

How much a ltr

heathersonline · 13-05-2012 1:49am

grindle wrote: »

It's like comparing the pink sludge used to make turkey twizzlers vs free range turkey.

Mmm turkey twizzlers

grindle · 13-05-2012 2:36am

heathersonline wrote: »

Mmm turkey twizzlers

I know, right??? Who the fuuck cares about free-range?

Free-range MSG, for sure, but turkeys?

Nawwww.

Spread · 13-05-2012 2:53am

Can't see what the problem is ........... unless the husband/lover/father/girlfriend gets jealous and goes postal. Had a dream last night that Kim Kardashian was breast-feeding me .......... tasted like Bailey's ........nom nom nom burp!

Dudess · 13-05-2012 1:07pm

Meh, trying to find prejudice where there isn't any is boring. Breastfeeding of a child past toddler stage in non western societies isn't wrong but it's a very different culture. Nobody has answered my question yet - what's the cut-off point for breastfeeding?

hondasam · 13-05-2012 1:23pm

Dudess wrote: »

Meh, trying to find prejudice where there isn't any is boring. Breastfeeding of a child past toddler stage in non western societies isn't wrong but it's a very different culture. Nobody has answered my question yet - what's the cut-off point for breastfeeding?

I would say 10 mths/1yr same as bottle fed babies but everyone is different. No one will have the same opinion.
Personally I would not be happy breastfeeding a child over this age or close to it anyway.

iguana · 13-05-2012 2:00pm

Dudess wrote: »

Meh, trying to find prejudice where there isn't any is boring. Breastfeeding of a child past toddler stage in non western societies isn't wrong but it's a very different culture. Nobody has answered my question yet - what's the cut-off point for breastfeeding?

The World Health Organisation recommends exclusive breastfeeding until 6 months followed by another 18 months of supplementary feeds, slowly increasing solid food and reducing breastmilk until age two.

I'd like to follow this advice if possible but I'm hoping to feed from the breast until about 11 months-ish wean from the breast at that point but continue to express milk that the baby can drink from a cup or in it's cereal, etc. I want to do this because I am squeamish about the child growing up to remember sucking from my breast. I accept that this may not be something that causes future sexual issues but I'd prefer not to just in case. Also I'd ideally like to be pregnant again around this stage and I was so very sick for the start of this pregnancy that there is no way I'd have been able to breastfeed a baby/toddler in that state. A lot of days I wouldn't have been able to care for a child and was very lucky not to have been hospitalised on a couple of occasions. If that happens again I'd rather the child be used to drinking expressed milk and being fed by my husband or a family member and not be upset at not being fed by me.

grindle · 13-05-2012 2:24pm

Dudess wrote: »

Nobody has answered my question yet - what's the cut-off point for breastfeeding?

grindle wrote: »

I have a limit too, I think at around 4...

Note that the WHO's* recommendations are a suggestion towards an ideal minimum, but compared to the way most Irish talk, it's a doubling, maybe a quadrupling, of what they find tasteful.
How people can't separate pithy cultural values and biological ideals is ultimately, about babies, so who cares? a great mystery to me.

*<insert Pete Townshend joke>

Karpops · 13-05-2012 8:03pm

iguana wrote: »

The World Health Organisation recommends exclusive breastfeeding until 6 months followed by another 18 months of supplementary feeds, slowly increasing solid food and reducing breastmilk until age two.

I'd like to follow this advice if possible but I'm hoping to feed from the breast until about 11 months-ish wean from the breast at that point but continue to express milk that the baby can drink from a cup or in it's cereal, etc. I want to do this because I am squeamish about the child growing up to remember sucking from my breast. I accept that this may not be something that causes future sexual issues but I'd prefer not to just in case. Also I'd ideally like to be pregnant again around this stage and I was so very sick for the start of this pregnancy that there is no way I'd have been able to breastfeed a baby/toddler in that state. A lot of days I wouldn't have been able to care for a child and was very lucky not to have been hospitalised on a couple of occasions. If that happens again I'd rather the child be used to drinking expressed milk and being fed by my husband or a family member and not be upset at not being fed by me.

THANK YOU. I have no issue with breastfeeding but I really do think there should be a cut off point when the child is around two-three years old. I'm in my twenties and I can clearly remember a lot of my childhood from when I was four/five, and I think I'd feel fairly sickened at the thought of remembering sucking my moms boobs at that age.

forfuxsake · 13-05-2012 8:12pm

Karpops wrote: »

THANK YOU. I have no issue with breastfeeding but I really do think there should be a cut off point when the child is around two-three years old. I'm in my twenties and I can clearly remember a lot of my childhood from when I was four/five, and I think I'd feel fairly sickened at the thought of remembering sucking my moms boobs at that age.

You wouldn't though. This is not hoe memory functions. We are programmed to remember important events or things that stand out. You may remember your first day at school but you are much less likely to remember your fourth or your 53rd (unless something extraordinary happened those days.) You would be highly unlikely aged 4 to have a memory of eating any more than going to the toilet. Unless for some reason it was extraordinary.(for example - you got chocolate milk from your mum's breast).

Zulu · 13-05-2012 8:21pm

forfuxsake wrote: »

(for example - you got chocolate milk from your mum's breast).

Sure that, or something more realistic, like if some event happened while breast feeding.

El_Dangeroso · 13-05-2012 8:28pm

Jeez, I was breastfed until about 3 and a half, I'm almost 30 now and I vaguely remember being breast-fed, big f-ing woop! I also remember playing on swings, watching bosco and a lot of things that I don't do as an adult.

I don't see why people find it weird at all, get over yer Victorian prudishness seriously! This is how things have always been before we started eating out of cardboard boxes.

People raise eyebrows when they see a three year old breastfeeding but not when they see a three year old eating jelly tots, get some perspective ffs!

Dudess · 13-05-2012 8:37pm

El_Dangeroso wrote: »

Jeez, I was breastfed until about 3 and a half, I'm almost 30 now and I vaguely remember being breast-fed, big f-ing woop! I also remember playing on swings, watching bosco and a lot of things that I don't do as an adult.

I don't see why people find it weird at all, get over yer Victorian prudishness seriously! This is how things have always been before we started eating out of cardboard boxes.

People raise eyebrows when they see a three year old breastfeeding but not when they see a three year old eating jelly tots, get some perspective ffs!

It's not prudishness. At all. Where did any non Breastapo heads indicate they think it's grand for a three-year-old to be eating Jelly Tots btw? Oh yeah, they didn't. Not that there's any harm in a very occasional treat either.
It's not that I see anything particularly "wrong" with late breastfeeding, just that I personally don't see the necessity, particularly when the kid has teeth. There has to be a cut-off point - unless you'd deem it ideal still at eight/nine? - and for me it's toddler stage.

Karpops · 13-05-2012 8:41pm

forfuxsake wrote: »

You wouldn't though. This is not hoe memory functions. We are programmed to remember important events or things that stand out. You may remember your first day at school but you are much less likely to remember your fourth or your 53rd (unless something extraordinary happened those days.) You would be highly unlikely aged 4 to have a memory of eating any more than going to the toilet. Unless for some reason it was extraordinary.(for example - you got chocolate milk from your mum's breast).

Funnily enough I don't remember my first day of school at all?! I also despise chocolate milk. If I was getting Fanta Exotic from her boob - now that I'd remember!

stoneill · 13-05-2012 8:53pm

Dudess wrote: »

Meh, trying to find prejudice where there isn't any is boring. Breastfeeding of a child past toddler stage in non western societies isn't wrong but it's a very different culture. Nobody has answered my question yet - what's the cut-off point for breastfeeding?

Apparently in Ireland it is when you leave your front door.
I have no opinions either way - breast, bottle, it is the choice of the mother.
What is the cut off point? Again it is up to the mother but when the child starts playschool or Montessori is as good a choice as any.

El_Dangeroso · 13-05-2012 9:26pm

Dudess wrote: »

It's not prudishness. At all. Where did any non Breastapo heads indicate they think it's grand for a three-year-old to be eating Jelly Tots btw? Oh yeah, they didn't. Not that there's any harm in a very occasional treat either.

Breastapo? Ah nice to see we've resorted to hackneyed name-calling.

A toddler should not be eating jelly tots ever. Life long food preferences are partially influenced at that age. But you don't see near the same level of outrage about that that I have seen on this thread.

You seem to be trying to construct a notion that I think this is mandatory, which I can understand, because then maybe you'd have a leg to stand on in this debate. As it stands I don't find the 'traditional societies carry out extended breastfeeding because they can't go to Tesco' argument less than compelling.

Yakult · 13-05-2012 9:33pm

Dudess wrote: »

Nobody has answered my question yet - what's the cut-off point for breastfeeding?

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Spread · 19-05-2012 5:01pm

Dudess wrote: »

Meh, trying to find prejudice where there isn't any is boring. Breastfeeding of a child past toddler stage in non western societies isn't wrong but it's a very different culture. Nobody has answered my question yet - what's the cut-off point for breastfeeding?

Well I'm 63 and still have the urge for a mouthful. Occasionally

aaronjumper · 19-05-2012 5:10pm

I saw an English documentary about an eleven year old girl who was still being breast fed. This seems tame in comparison.

forfuxsake · 19-05-2012 5:17pm

Zulu wrote: »

Sure that, or something more realistic, like if some event happened while breast feeding.

such as?

Spread · 19-05-2012 5:23pm

The implant exploding and the nipple choking the, er, sucker?

Feeona · 19-05-2012 5:25pm

Photo is obviously staged.... no evidence of a breast feeding bra? Without one it'd be Leaky McLeak Leak Central.

Time should've run the headline 'Look at me breast feeding my child, now dare to say something about it'. Just looks like attention seeking overall. I wonder did the child have any say about being on the cover of Time?

El_Dangeroso · 19-05-2012 6:42pm

Found this:

http://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2012/05/are_you_mom_enough.html

Totally sums up my thoughts on the article.

Zulu · 19-05-2012 9:22pm

forfuxsake wrote: »

such as?

such as anything out of the ordinary; a car crashing through the front room window; an asteroid striking the mother on the head; the dog spontaneously combusting; you admitting your wrong - you know something outside the routine.

forfuxsake · 19-05-2012 9:36pm

Zulu wrote: »

such as anything out of the ordinary; a car crashing through the front room window; an asteroid striking the mother on the head; the dog spontaneously combusting; you admitting your wrong - you know something outside the routine.

So mothers should stop breastfeeding at a certain stage in case of:

a car crashing through the front room window
an asteroid striking the mother on the head;
the dog spontaneously combusting.

Me admitting my wrong.?

Zulu · 19-05-2012 9:40pm

forfuxsake wrote: »

So mothers should stop breastfeeding at a certain stage in case of:

a car crashing through the front room window
an asteroid striking the mother on the head;
the dog spontaneously combusting.

Me admitting my wrong.?

yea that's exactly what i said & meant; nothing more to it; good for you.

BREAST FEEDING A 3 YEAR OLD !

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