''I don't mind''

MarthaMyDear

I always see this with my parents. My dad will ask what my mam wants to do, wants to have for dinner etc etc. She usually says "I don't mind" in a pissy voice then complains afterwards that he didn't pick the thing she wanted!

Then when she asks him something he usually says "I don't mind" because he actually doesn't mind. Which really annoys her too! Actually...I should probably point the irony out to her.....

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Gandhi wrote: »

My wife does this with food sometimes. Monotony through elimination:

"Lets get takeout tonight. What do you want?"
"Anything is fine"

This is where a conversation like that would end with me. I'd have ordered the Thai it by the time you got to "Aaargh!".

You asked a question, you got a perfectly acceptable answer.

A0

Balarrr Didiarr wrote: »

Is this sort of indecisiveness annoying to people?

It might be, but I don't mind.

The_B_Man

Drives me up the ****ing wall!!! :mad:

al28283

The King of Moo wrote: »

Generally, people prefer decisiveness over indecisiveness, but you shouldn't overdo it and become overbearing.

YES HE SHOULD!

Mickey H

Red or black. It doesn't f***ing matter. Just make up your mind woman until we go. :mad:

--LOS--

Yes indecisiveness is annoying!
I'll admit I used to be pretty bad for that just out of shyness when I was younger.
I give out to my oh sometimes for being a bit like that, and I know I still do it too and it is born out of consideration for the other person, but there is a line between being nice and overly trying to please, always trying to do right by the other person, can get irritating. You have to stand up for yourself too. The problem is making someone else happy also makes you happy.

BazDel

It's funny how after a while you realise exactly which friends will say this and which will give a real answer. Sometimes you just have to take the initiative when people say it and just make the decision. Embrace the power! :P

I admit I say it quite a bit myself just to be considerate but I always try give a suggestion as well at least. Something like... "I don't mind, but maybe X or Y would be good" At least that way you can cop out without looking so unhelpful

Misticles

I always do it and it's something that really annoys me.

A: What do ya want to eat?
Me: I don't mind
A: Chinese?
Me: Oh ok
A: so not Chinese?
Me: No I don't mind
A: ok
Me: I kinda want chipper
A: why didn't you just say!


That's how long it takes me to voice a decision. I know what I want but I think I'm being polite in letting the other person decide and let them think I'm not a fuss pot but I actually am.

EGAR

My OH drive me demented by *not being hungry at all* and then ending up eating half the food from MY plate, one of theses days.... one of these days....:D

problemchimp

Iang87 wrote: »

I suppose so

Father Stone

Doc

I say I don’t mind quite a lot because I am pretty easy going and I geniality don’t care one way or the other over little stuff like do I want to go to one bar or the other or have pizza or Chinese. It’s not about being indecisive because when I do want to do something I say but if it doesn’t bother me either way then I say I don’t mind and let the other person chose their preference I’m happy to go with that. If they say I don’t mind either then I might randomly chose one but I really don’t mind doing the other.

I don’t like situations were everyone is saying I don’t mind and nobody is making a decision in that case I will usually say well lets go here then or lets do this, just to move things on.

MyKeyG

To be honest I'd always say I don't mind because I usually don't. Unless I was really really adamant about something I did or didn't want to do. So long as they have the decency to ask me I don't care what is I just like to hang out.

tan11ie

I have a friend that's so indecisive I've nicknamed her "will I or won't I"

problemchimp

tan11ie wrote: »

I have a friend that's so indecisive I've nicknamed her "will I or won't I"

I'd say you's have a great laugh.

tan11ie

problemchimp wrote: »

I'd say you's have a great laugh.

No It's no laugh out shopping with this girl

guitarzero

If you are a woman then its great! "So I was thinking tonight we spice things up with some role play first and then try an...", "Oh, sure, I dont mind".

On the other hand if you are a man then no woman will have you. It shows you weak minded idiot who should be weeded out of the gene pool by you simply acting like he doesnt exist cuz he's pretty laid back and woman love a man who is DECISIVE and knows what he wants so you dont have to make any serious decisions and is prepared to tell you "Hey b*itch, were doing role play tonight! Yea, put on that little outfit, hope you dont mind taking it up the rear!"

ShooterSF

guitarzero wrote: »

If you are a woman then its great! "So I was thinking tonight we spice things up with some role play first and then try an...", "Oh, sure, I dont mind".

On the other hand if you are a man then no woman will have you. It shows you weak minded idiot who should be weeded out of the gene pool by you simply acting like he doesnt exist cuz he's pretty laid back and woman love a man who is DECISIVE and knows what he wants so you dont have to make any serious decisions and is prepared to tell you "Hey b*itch, were doing role play tonight! Yea, put on that little outfit, hope you dont mind taking it up the rear!"

I guess that's the best time to hear "I don't mind."

Doc

Doc wrote: »

I say I don’t mind quite a lot because I am pretty easy going and I geniality don’t care one way or the other over little stuff like do I want to go to one bar or the other or have pizza or Chinese. It’s not about being indecisive because when I do want to do something I say but if it doesn’t bother me either way then I say I don’t mind and let the other person chose their preference I’m happy to go with that. If they say I don’t mind either then I might randomly chose one but I really don’t mind doing the other.

I don’t like situations were everyone is saying I don’t mind and nobody is making a decision in that case I will usually say well lets go here then or lets do this, just to move things on.

Same same.

If I have a specific preference I'll say it. But I often don't, I'm pretty laid back in that regard. And if noone minds I'll happily choose.

Susie_Q

This is how it should go:

Me: What takeaway do you fancy?

Other person: I don't mind.

Me: Grand so, I'll pick. *Takes takeaway menus into other room, chooses food and orders it without asking other person again*

Problem solved!

Old Tom

Balarrr Didiarr wrote: »

Find I say too much when someone asks for example ..what d'you wanna do? / would you like turkey or ham for dinner? / what time do you wanna meet etc etc. my reply is often ''I don't mind''. Is this sort of indecisiveness annoying to people?

In my case it's a polite way of saying "I don't care, why are you wrecking my head with such trivial things?"