I dont know what is wrong with me!

VAIO113

In the past few week i have started feeling very down about my self. I have up and down days but these days the down days are more regular. I'm not motivated to do anything anymore. I used to have so many things i wanted to do in my life now i just dont care. I get very anxious and uneasy sometimes. I have nearly stopped going to college and when i do go i dont pay any attention.
I get teary for no reason what so ever and start crying at the flick of a switch. I have a great family, boyfriend and friends but none of them can make get me out of the way i feel.
I'm a size 12 so i feel fat when ever i look in the mirror. I joined the gym and go at least 3times a week while eating well but it made no difference i cant loose weight.
I used to be extreamly motivated and worked so hard for everything, but i feel so sick of it now.


Can anyone give me advise on how to get out of the way i'm feeling? Im getting seriously sick of it and now afriad im going to lose the people i love because I'm always in such a crappy mood.
Im 20 by the way.

CIARAN_BOYLE

see a doctor, seriously. medical advice is banned here

chin_grin

Join a group activity.
Go to GP.
Call Aware. (www.aware.ie).

Ice87

Please see a doctor.

I know trying to sort out your physical appearance may help your confidence but there are more than likely other reasons why you feel like this.

Nothing wrong with being depressed anyway so you shouldn't feel pressured not to talk about it.

Burkatron

Just 1 thing you should consider before the thread is closed! Are you on birth control? Had a recent experience with my girlfriend in that she was in the same boat as you emotionally! If you are you should consider getting off it as women's be crazy enough without putting your hormones out of whack!

chin_grin

Burkatron wrote: »

Just 1 thing you should consider before the thread is closed! Are you on birth control? Had a recent experience with my girlfriend in that she was in the same boat as you emotionally! If you are you should consider getting off it as women's be crazy enough without putting your hormones out of whack!

Sorry, but this is just a typical 'male' response. "Oh, it must be the drugs." Drugs may be attributing, but they're never the root cause.

I hope that you don't have to deal with depression or anxiety in your life.

Burkatron

chin_grin wrote: »

Sorry, but this is just a typical 'male' response. "Oh, it must be the drugs." Drugs may be attributing, but they're never the root cause.

I hope that you don't have to deal with depression or anxiety in your life.

Are you for real? You're telling me effecting hormones can't cause depression,anxiety, mood swings etc? Ofcourse they can be the root cause!
It was a suggestion that should be strongly considered if she is on a form of birth control! But why would the OP want to take ALL possibilities into consideration?

chin_grin

Burkatron wrote: »

Are you for real? You're telling me effecting hormones can't cause depression,anxiety, mood swings etc? Ofcourse they can be the root cause!
It was a suggestion that should be strongly considered if she is on a form of birth control! But why would the OP want to take ALL possibilities into consideration?

No. I will admit that they can be a contributing factor, that is they may exasterbate these symptoms. Are you telling me that every woman on birth control gets depression or similar feelings to these just from you having the same experience from one woman?

What about men who have similar feelings. Are they on any HRT that you know of?

Burkatron

chin_grin wrote: »

No. I will admit that they can be a contributing factor, that is they may exasterbate these symptoms. Are you telling me that every woman on birth control gets depression or similar feelings to these just from you having the same experience from one woman?

What about men who have similar feelings. Are they on any HRT that you know of?

Nope, not all women get the same or similar feelings from the pill! But in so many cases these feelings only effect the person when Oestrogen levels are raised & they rescind once hormone levels go back to normal. I've seen it in more then 1 woman over the years in clinic settings while studying & working!

You're trying to paint this very black & white! I said it's a possibility the OP should consider! Fair enough, I made a joke type comment out of it, it doesn't mean it's not the problem. Are you telling me that moods & depression have nothing to do with hormonal/Chemical balance? HRT might fix the problem nevermind cause it!

Edit: I'm not continuing this as it's derailing the OP's thread & I'm sure it'll be locked anyway!!

chin_grin

Burkatron wrote: »

I've seen it in more then 1 woman over the years in clinic settings while studying & working!

So what were the results? You've seen it in more than one woman. How many?

Did any of the patients suffer anxiety attacks or mood swings/depression before birth control? Did you factor this in your your studies/results?

I agree it's not black and white. There are contributing factors. But suggesting that "womens be crazy enough" is quite poor bedside manner and very patronising.

Stench Blossoms

I know plenty of girls that say certain pills made them crazy. It's a good suggestion to come off it if your on one to see if it makes a difference or even change to a different one. When you go to the doctor they'll probably suggest this anyway.

Vote 4 Pedro

this will not help the op with her depression at all but hopefully she might get a laugh out of all the bickering going on

Doug Cartel

Also if you're in college then they probably have some form of counselling service available. Depending on the set up there, it may be easier to get an appointment with someone through that route. (Assuming you don't feel you have a medical problem.)

roseybear

I was in exactly the same position; go c someone, before it goes any further! I got to the stage where I was extremely depressed, borderline anorexic, my family wanted me out of the house, my boyfriend was the only one who I felt good around, and Evrything just felt a mess.

I know it might seem a bit extreme to you right now but go c a councillor - I went to the one in my college (Dcu) and think evry college has one, and there's no charge. They can just listen and give a bit of advice on what to do next basically. I was 20 when I started to do something about how I was feeling, 21 now and on medication, which il b on for another yr. still have bad days but overall I have the motivation to do things again.

Dilbert75

+1 for www.aware.ie and / or a chat with your gp. You don't need to feel like you do. Its probably transient but best to get a wee bit of support while you feel that way.

knowit12

Hi op,

I know that feeling, and it's not good.
You need to talk to people about your problems , I suggest you go see a counsolor - I went to one and it helped a lot.

Your 20 , your young, you have a boyfriend and friends around you. You have your WHOLE life a head of you.

I know things are easier said then done and there's nothing worse when your feeling like that people telling you what to do.

I'm 21 and more or less had the same problems as you except mine got worse , my boyf broke up with me and I felt I couldn't really talk to my friends.

First thing to do is try stay positive , have an aim for each day/week weather it be something stupid like watching the tv programme or finish something for college.

If your unhappy about your weight work harder , motivate yourself - it takes time before you start noticing weight loss, I suggest you join my www.myfitnesspal - it's really good.

You might not see it but you have a lot to live for , when I was feeling the way you where it felt like it just kept getting worse and worse, eventually I went to a consolor and stop letting **** knock me down and know I feel so much better.

My life isnt great and I'm prob not where I want to be but iv learned to accept and appericate what I have.

Stay strong

Kev M

Id say go see the doctor aswell. They can point you towards a councillor or whatever specialist but it would be a good idea to rule out medical things, could be a thyroid issue!

Donelson

It sounds like stress to me, how is life on the stress front at the moment.
You could take a break away for a week as a pick me up. But long term a good chat with a professional is the only way to go.

Hope you feel better soon.