Your partner & games

RedXIV

Was thinking about this as I was reading a few other threads here. It's only a small thing but it kinda sucks that my gf has little to no interest in games. Gaming would be my first and foremost hobby in my spare time but between a 9 to 5 job and 3 kids, I don't get a lot of time with it, well at least in my eyes.

This isn't to say she doesn't get that I like games, the legend has gotten me a 3DS and a vita so far this year, and patiently puts up with my obsessive collection of retro games with more tolerance than I probably deserve. I just wish it was a part of my life I could share with her. I got her a master system so she could play Alex the kidd, the only game she ever spoke fondly of and I'm still hearing about the "homer present" I got her a year later.

It has its pros too I suppose. I don't compete with use of the console (the tv is another matter) but that's all I can think of?

Does having a gamer partner become the match made in heaven I envisaged or am I luckier than I realise?

Retr0gamer

I met my girlfriend because of retrogames so I guess I'm lucky Nice having a girlfriend that doesn't bitch and moan about how much you play games. It seems perfect but it's not because until I get a job I have to put up with my mother who absolutely detests videogames. You should have heard the argument 2 weeks ago when I brought home a Neo Geo MVS system. It was so worth it though!

Paparazzo

My wife doesn't play games at all, but came up with a good compromise for the TV. I got a 23 inch monitor that can be put in the same room as the tv, and a set of headphones. So she can watch the tv, I can play playstation in the same room at the same time. I can chat between games, or even during games (don't need sound for football games).

Procrastastudy

After my obsessive bouts of Everquest she nearly got rid of me. Then EQ2 happened and she nearly go rid of me. I just play STO now which is beyond casual so she's happy now.

Uriel.

Paparazzo wrote: »

My wife doesn't play games at all, but came up with a good compromise for the TV. I got a 23 inch monitor that can be put in the same room as the tv, and a set of headphones. So she can watch the tv, I can play playstation in the same room at the same time. I can chat between games, or even during games (don't need sound for football games).

you're so lucky man, the basis of a perfect relationship there :P

Kinski

I'm just left alone to game, which is actually pretty much my preference, except for occassional two-player sessions on stuff like Mariokart...though Catherine was not popular, and for reasons that had nothing to do with the gameplay!

hightower1

I have tried on a few occasions to get my missus to try games alright, co op stuff but she just couldnt get the hang of it and didnt have much interest. Im lucky though I play at least 3 hours a night 7 days a week and she never minds. I have my 32 inch in the man cave with my airsoft stuff while she gets a downtown penthouse for half price rent and nookie on tap ! I think she came off the winner there! lol. I guess the way she looks at it is I could be off with the guys in town every night but this way she knows where I am and what Im up to

EJ22

Met mine through World of Warcraft as we used to raid together etc so kinda lucky here although nowadays we're more prone to argue who's playing what when since we only have one tv in the house

Although as compensation cos she takes it more she did buy me my vita

Also she hates it when I beat her at FIFA, she plays pro clubs every night, and ever few weeks i'll have a game with her and beat her. Of course this also leads to bragging rights

Calhoun

Mine is not interested at all, except for a few games like Mario ect but she has ADD when it comes to playing anything and doesnt do it for long.

Our compromise is she gets to watch all she wants on the TV and i play my PC or consoles in the office when i want to.

I can never understand a situation where your asked to not play and come watch ****e on TV for hours but its never anything you want to watch :P

Oh and one last thing, i am kinda glad she is not interested. I feel you need a bit of distance at times from your partner and this is my thing that i like to do to unwind on my own.

jay-me

While playing Saints Row 2 the GF saw you could customise the character to a great detail.. So she wanted to try and make a character that resembled her.. She was there for nearly an hour making this character that was just scarily like her.. Hilarity ensued as she watched herself running around stealing cars and beating people up!

So then her BDay rolls up and she says jokingly why not get me a ps3... As if I am spending 350 on a present for her bday not a hope it's way too much and I couldn't spend that much on a frickin BDAY present... Then I factored in staying in hers and having a PS3 to play instead of her crap WII (Just my opinion I don't like them).. So I said actually you know what? Yeah why not so I got her a white ps3 320GB 2 controllers 20 euro PSN card and skyrim for 350.. Happy Bday to You ME!!

And I am the best BF ever lol she loves it and is playing skyrim all the time!

matrim

My GF is into games so it's all good. She's actually sitting beside me playing Dragonquest on her DS now. We've had plenty of nights where she's playing minecraft on her laptop and I'm playing something on my xbox.

It's also good that for some games she likes to watch them but not necessarily play so she'll happily sit there and let me play while she reads a book and then pays attention to the main story parts of the game.

Potential-Monke

Mine used to play the Sims 3, but usually only building houses or raising a family (thanks to moterlode). She also loved the Layton games, and any puzzle games (as in picross, etc).

Every evening i'm not working i play games up to around 9pm so she can wathc her soaps, and then join her for watching either a film or recorded Spartacus/Walking Dead/other programmes we would both watch.

Ya, she got* annoyed every now and again, but i think it finally sank in how much of a gamer i am when she was gone for the weekend and i played a solid 3 days of gaming. It's all i have an interest in really.

*We're breaking up, so i'm going to have loads of time free, and i won't be settling for a long time as good looking, sound, gaming women who don't want kids are a pearlascent rarity!!!

cloud493

My fiance... has tried to like games. I got her a DS lite. I've tried to have her PS3, wii, xbox, but none of them click. She doesn't mind me playing them though, she just doesn't get them

deelite

My hubby isn't into gaming but my son is. I cringe with fear if he asks me to play sometimes it's like being back in school and being singled out...I forget which button does what and I see the look in his eyes and then I don't save him and kill my own team mates - the mistakes are endless, then I get the "ultimate" put down - he goes off line so his virtual friends won't slag him off...

thebostoncrab

My fiancée is into her games. Loves her DS, plays The Sims 3 quite a bit and we often have an evening of Mario Kart. Although she isnt allowed to play UFC after the evening where I spent the whole day learning the system and she just knocks me out in the first round in no time

LA Noire we had a system of me doing the action and driving while she would do the crime scene stuff

Sesudra

I'm lucky in that we're both guys, so the odds were slightly more in my favour for him liking games as well! He likes puzzle or platform games (he has a DS and also loves Prince of Persia, Ratchett & Clank and Jak & Daxter) whereas I'm more into Mass Effect/Skyrim/LA Noire. But our tastes overlap enough for us to have 2 player sessions on Marvel vs Capcom 3!

We have the perfect game set up as well - The Xbox is in the spare room, while the PS3 lives in the sitting room, so we can both play different things at the same time if we want to. I shudder to think what things would be like if he didn't like gaming, considering how much time I spend on it...

koneko

My other half is a gamer, so we're mostly good, and play co-op/online games together as well. Our arguments are more gamer centric, since I'm platform agnostic and he's a PC gamer (so it's like a forum, in our house).

And I do get moaned at sometimes when I stay up till 2 on a week day playing online, swearing at people.

Dave_The_Sheep

My long stints at gaming were a large part of a breakup with a long term girlfriend (8+ years). She just wasn't into it, and I wasn't into TV. We had other interests, but gaming was my primary one so it didn't work out. My own fault, I suppose.

Paparazzo

Uriel. wrote: »

you're so lucky man, the basis of a perfect relationship there :P

When a baby comes along, that's when it gets tricky.

Potential-Monke

Dave_The_Sheep wrote: »

My own fault, I suppose.

Why do you suppose that?

Dave_The_Sheep

Potential-Monke wrote: »

Why do you suppose that?

I may have played ... a bit ... too much!

Duggy747

GF is kind of into games, as in she loved playing Theme Hospital & Theme Park.

She's not very good with competitive games because she's a brutal sore loser. We had a game of Bomberman where she kept punching me really damn hard everytime she died :pac:

If I find the right game like Donkey Kong Country she'll play it. We spent a few hours last Saturday chilling out playing co-op on The Lost Vikings

She doesn't like it when I play Left 4 Dead and recently asked me do I not get nightmares / depressed playing it since it creeps her out (I play the games on my 42'' TV in the sitting room while she does be on her laptop / iPhone). She finds 1st person games too intense. Watching me run around the wilderness in Skyrim relaxes her, though.

She said before she doesn't understand the popularity of games or why people play them but that she wouldn't bother me about them if I don't take the piss which, in fairness, she never has. She finds women who bully men out of their video games is bitchy thing to do and that those guys should "grow a pair"

James Howlett

RedXIV wrote: »

This isn't to say she doesn't get that I like games, the legend has gotten me a 3DS and a vita so far this year, and patiently puts up with my obsessive collection of retro games with more tolerance than I probably deserve.

Sorry I stopped reading out of jealousy:)

Potential-Monke

Dave_The_Sheep wrote: »

I may have played ... a bit ... too much!

I would like to know more please! I play a helluva lot, so i'm wondering what's too much and if she watched the same amount of tv... You can tell me where to go too if i'm prying...

FutureGuy

Myself and the gf have a good relationship when it comes to gaming. She has become a casual gamer since we met and has a 3DS.

We have great fun playing mario kart 7 together.

We have played Street Fighter x Tekken alot recently which is brilliant as you play with each other, not against each other.

We also discovered the joys of Castle Crashers.

I do most of my single-player gaming when she is gone to bed or at weekends. The odd evening, she'll watch netflix on the laptop and I take over the living room for a few hours

Boom_Bap

My ball and chain likes the idea of playing games with me but rarely does. I think it boils down to the last time I busted out the N64 and played Mario Kart, I destroyed her...in fact, I have anhialated her in every game

But she has her DS and like playing Tomb Raider. She's always talking about playing a car game or tennis game on the PS3, but never seems to happen.

And, probably the best thing about her, she doesnt mind me sticking on the PS3 for some COD because she likes listening to some of the smack talk while she reads or does whatever she does while I'm playing.


EDIT: If this was After Hours, my responce would be that I dont allow my games consoles/controllers so close to running water, with her been chained up to the sink in the kitchen and all that

Zulu

I wish she played to be honest, but she's no interest.
It does make it hard, as I feel guilty disappearing into the office for a few hours to play (so i got a gaming laptop, but it's not the same).

She's understanding though, god bless her pretty little head.

penev10

My wife is a bit of a casual gamer. She got a DS a few years ago and played Nintendogs and some puzzle games for a while but ulitimately gave up. She'll "play" Singstar, Buzz or Wii Sports if we have people over but otherwise wouldn't be bothered.

She says she'd play more games but it's a hobby thats down her list of priorities behind reading, sports and Gossip Girl!

ionapaul

My GF doesn't mind too much, she understands I need to game / play poker to unwind most days. I doubt she'd be on for me spending a full day during the weekend gaming while she is in the house as well, but luckily that would never happen, I simply can't game for too long if there is someone else around to interact with.

She plays some casual games on her iPad and DS, and I've set her up on Steam and bought her Toki Tori to play on her laptop. We completed Trine co-op together, have played a lot of Worms Reloaded and are currently very slowly making our way through Lara Croft and the Guardians of Light co-op, before tackling Trine 2 in the near future hopefully. She'll never be a full-on gamer and I'll always kick her ass in most games, but that's cool! I don't want to try to force her to play too much, if she'd rather watch TV, I don't mind.

Wossack

herself is pretty tolerant - far more then I really give her credit for now I think of it...

*picks up flowers on way home from work*

Temptamperu

Mine is fairly tolerant. She will do her own thing when a new game comes out. She has a love/hate mindset for rpgs, which are my favorite type of game. Its probably the value I get out of them but she rages at me for not sleeping while i play them.

Kinski

Temptamperu wrote: »

she rages at me for not sleeping while i play them.

It's very difficult to sleep while playing a game...believe me I've tried.

Dave_The_Sheep

Potential-Monke wrote: »

I would like to know more please! I play a helluva lot, so i'm wondering what's too much and if she watched the same amount of tv... You can tell me where to go too if i'm prying...

About three/four hours in the evening, maybe four nights a week. While living together. That doesn't mean the other three were spent together, but just that that'd be the average game time. There were other major reasons, but it was a factor (not the deciding or biggest factor by far, but it was part of it).

She would probably have watched the same amount of TV - but possibly only because there was nothing else to do while I was gaming.

n0irin

I'm WAY more into video games than my boyfriend is, funnily - I love my Alienware and my XBox to bits. It's strange because we both actually work in somewhat game-related areas at the moment, but he only very recently bought a PS3 and was given a free Vita through work so he's been getting a bit more into it since then. I still definitely play way more often than he does though...

Since he HAS begun playing, though, I've found we have some similar tastes in games - for example we're both playing the Mass Effect series at the moment, but since he's got his PS3 and I've got my XBox we can happily play away separately.

Dave_The_Sheep wrote: »

About three/four hours in the evening, maybe four nights a week. While living together. That doesn't mean the other three were spent together, but just that that'd be the average game time.

I've always been into games, but there is still a level whereby a partner can play games too much - as I found out when my ex told me that WoW was more important, interesting and sexy than me :P (there's a reason he's my ex!) Three/four hours, a few times a week, that doesn't sound like too much to me...

Napper Hawkins

n0irin wrote: »

as I found out when my ex told me that WoW was more important, interesting and sexy than me :P

Class act, that lad.

Potential-Monke

n0irin wrote: »

...my ex told me that WoW was more important, interesting and sexy than me :P (there's a reason he's my ex!)

Seriously? I can understand that addiction might make it seem more important and/or interesting (not saying anything about you! ), but sexy??? :eek::rolleyes:

Three/four hours, a few times a week, that doesn't sound like too much to me...

That's what i was thinking. There's nothing excessive about that. Granted, it was only a factor, but still i think anyone who is dating a gamer should at least expect this (factoring in that there are probably no kids in the equation).

Dave_The_Sheep

Correct, there were no kids. That'd be an average. Sometimes more, sometimes less. Like we both said, a factor.

When you're dating a non-gamer though, it can be hard to explain what you're doing for four hours. On a non-related note, Ever try to explain Skyrim in words to someone who has never played it? I tried with my current girlfriend, and I realised about five sentences in that I must sound like the biggest geek around.

ShadowHearth

I am a very big gamer. I would spend a lot of evening by my pc. I know my misses since I was 14 and she was 17. I am 26 and she is 29 now ( very soon lol ). So we are a couple almost 8 years and live together 7. She knew since day one - I am a gamer nerd and what is she getting in to .
She does not play games, I tried to get her play it, but she newer got in to it. She did completed devil may cry 1 ( little bit of my help ), and devil may cry 2 with no help, but nothing after it. Was quite fun having a gaming sessions of Dmc 1 and during breaks having "other game", then jump back to Dmc 1! Damn... Would love to be young like this again .
Anyway... In 8 years she newer ever naged me even once about gaming. I buy myself expencive pc gear, all consoles etc. we will have a chat and with her blessing I will go and buy what I need. ( family budget )
It's kind of very good that I have my gaming hobby as I can spend some time away from her and she can go and do her own stuff too. I like gaming, she likes relaxing by TV, going out with friends etc. What I am trying to say: we are not in each face 24/7 and don't limit each other.
Then ofc I know the limits and I know when I need to stop playing. We spend plenty of time together too, but non of us will force each other to do something that other ones don't want to. No stupid: but I wanted us to watch that movie together!!! It's with us: you whana watch that? Nah, you go watch it, I will watch it later myself. Cool, then.

I always try to get her in gaming too, but she just goes meh, but she LOVES watch me play online fps, COD and BF being Favourite. If I play offline, then she goes: are playing online? No.... Meh boring... Go play online ya pussy! Okay love. And use that weapon! You don't suck that much with it! Okay love.
We always had a good lough with Lads and they were accusing me ( messing around ) of having a personal spotter as she would see everything on screen and help me to kill stuff .
I tried her to play games, but she just refuse point blank and say, that she just loves to watch.
Oh yeah, she just LOVED Dantes inferno, she was litterly forcing me to play it, so she would see what's next!!?

My boyfriend is the bigger gamer, I also love them but don't have as much time to play. Hanging out playing together is So much fun. Love it

cherryghost

As said previously, my wife plays games. We game together. Life is good

funky penguin

Any ladies that I've been fortunate enough to be with have never had an interest past a drunken game of tekken with a crowd of friends after a night out. Which I have to say, was always fun. But they never got frustrated with my level of playing either, just like I never looked too much into their shoe collections......

I'm now looking for that mythical beautiful gamer lady over here in Japan so I can steal her and bring her home like some sort of 100% platinum trophy.

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Krusader

GF doesn't play games, did buy her a DS but she quickly tired of it, having a baby in 2 weeks so my own gaming will be curtailed, but I gain a new gaming buddy to conquer Tamriel, Temeria and take Villa to the premiership title

Sephiroth_dude

Wish i had a partner who was into/didnt mind me playing games : )

Tar.Aldarion

My gf plays games with me on the pc, I have another pc on my desk for her, which I am upgrading atm, always want her to use the good pc anyway to enjoy it more. She got me some wireless controllers and it's great for trackmania with her, any other suggestions for the controllers?

She's finished a good few games now and although she is not as interested as me, that would be hard, I love that she is interested and plays with me, I really enjoy it. Even had her playing counter strike :-p What to play next hmm! She's currently playing portal 2 and has a 'kitty' in skyrim.


She is staying away from dota 2 atm...

funky penguin

She's a royde.

Tar.Aldarion

Wait til you have to get fur out of your keyboard. :mad: And I don't even wanna ask where she got that human skull on the right...


free place to stay in japan .o/

funky penguin

Always! ^_^

sea_monkey

my gf just finished cod4....looking for a ring now

Napper Hawkins

Current girlfriend has no interest past Super Mario Bros Wii, likes watching me play Skyrim though. meh..

sarumite

She has no interests in games. She thinks I am too old for gaming (I am 34) and that it is a bad influence on people's behavior. In short, any negative stereotypes about gaming you can think of, she probably has them. Though its not a major problem, it can cause friction.

Potential-Monke

sarumite wrote: »

She has no interests in games. She thinks I am too old for gaming (I am 34) and that it is a bad influence on people's behavior. In short, any negative stereotypes about gaming you can think of, she probably has them. Though its not a major problem, it can cause friction.

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