My dating dilemma

theirishstig

Hi all,

Hoping ye can provide me with a bit of direction and perhaps some ideas following on from my encounter last Thursday night.

Will try to cut a long story as short as possible. I was out with my work mates for dinner and a few drinks after. I left them early to meet up with a college friend for a few pints. Town was pretty quiet and we were in the beer garden of a bar when we got chatting to a few girls. Both were nice and outgoing.

We all hung around together for the rest of the night and went to a late bar together. They told us quiet a lot about themselves as I recall but a lot went in one ear and out the other with me. What I did recall was that they were both secondary school teachers.

Anyway, at chuck out time all four of us together decided to go back to my house as it was nearby and from there my friend could organise a taxi to his house and the two girls organise a taxi to their houses as they both lived near each other but quite a distance away. As we were waiting I got pretty close and friendly with one of the girls. Didn't go the whole hog or anything but got to know each other pretty well all the same. Although tired and hardly able to keep my eyes open I was pretty shocked as didn't think whe would have gave me a second glance really.

Their taxi came pretty quick and as they were leaving I asked her for her number which she called out to me at about 100mph. I had it on my scratchpad but stupidly deleted it from it just as quick and they were gone in the taxi as soon as I realised. Was fit to kick myself.

Anyhow, Im just looking for a way to possibly get in contact with her again and hook up. She most likely thinks I just didn't bother contacting her again which is not the case.

Anyhow, I do recall her mentioning to me that she had consins in the parish next to my home place. She said their surname and her grandfathers surname. I am almost sure she said on her fathers side but not 100% certain. If they are on her fathers side then that would be her own surname also but if on her mothers side obviously not.

Her christian name is quite unusual. I looked to see if she was on facebook but no joy. I didn't remember the name of the school but my friend did.

The only other avenue open to me is maybe drop a note in a sealed envelope into the school in which she works...put Miss..... (what I think is her surname on the envelope). Mentioned this idea to two people. One told me to go for it and the other (guy I was with when we met the girls) said not to as it might freak her out and she may even call the Guards. Me...I'm just not sure. I'm not the most decisive person and both are swaying my thoughts very strongly in one direction or the other.

The other option is to hit the same pub we met it again tomorrow night in the hope they might be there. My friend said he'd join me but I think the chances of them being out are slim enough as they mentioned they very seldom be out in that particular town. Not sure if I've any other options open to me.

Sorry for being a bit cryptic but would like to remain anonymous. Also, I know its often said her pics or GTFO. Genuienly don't have any snaps, not a facebook person, wasn't taking photos.:)

Any help or ideas appreciated. In particular is it a good idea or not to drop a letter in a sealed envelope in with the secretaty of her school to give to her?

Biggins

You poor sod!
You asked AH for advice?
This should be interesting! LOL

So basically your looking for tips on tracking/stalking down someone?

stupidusername

Jesus, don't go writing her a note or dropping into secondary schools, or trying to find her family! Just go back to the pub you met her in, that's your best (non creepy) chance of meeting her again.

Outkast_IRE

My psychic panda says ring 014887706

El Guapo!

Wait outside the school and follow her home.

Chicks love that.

hondasam

theirishstig wrote: »

Her christian name is quite unusual. I looked to see if she was on facebook but no joy. I didn't remember the name of the school but my friend did.

You know her name and where she works, phone up the school and leave your name and number for her to contact you.

Crann na Beatha

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StinkySocs

I know a guy that did that... left a note at the school where the girl worked, she thought it was very romantic and they dated for about 2 years!!

You should defo do it... so cute!

Oh just to add, make sure you explain on the note that you deleted her number by accident and that your not stalking her...make sure to make that clear!!

theirishstig

Biggins wrote: »

You poor sod!
You asked AH for advice?
This should be interesting! LOL

I know not ideal But might get a few ideas or some sort of consensus on my thoughts hopefully

Biggins wrote: »

So basically your looking for tips on tracking/stalking down someone?

Tracking her down is what I'd like to think:p. Don't have posters of her in a locker or anything like that:cool:

Biggins

Larry, I'm sorry but I'm not assisting you.
Its bad enough that your back from Spain but you didn't even bother to change your last name from Murphy to something else that might not give the game away even further!

theirishstig

stupidusername wrote: »

Jesus, don't go writing her a note or dropping into secondary schools, or trying to find her family! Just go back to the pub you met her in, that's your best (non creepy) chance of meeting her again.

Thanks stupidusername. Will give the pub a shot first but unlikely I think as they mentioned they seldom ever be out in this particular town. Don't really know their drinking haunts besides

Paulie Gualtieri

you've done yourself no favours posting here , most will just take the piss .

Turtyturd

Dean09 wrote: »

Wait outside the school and follow her home.

Chicks love that.

This....your best chance would probably be around the time the kids finish. A good idea might be to wear a baseball cap, sunglasses, and a trench coat. Then when you see her you can run up and surprise her.

theirishstig

Outkast_IRE wrote: »

My psychic panda says ring 014887706

Very good Dublin Zoo or something like that;)?

Ficheall

theirishstig wrote: »

we got chatting to a few girls. Both were nice and outgoing.

Have you another dozen dwarves out back?

A0

Call the taxi driver, he'll get you to her place.

Biggins

Paulie Gualtieri wrote: »

you've done yourself no favours posting here , most will just take the piss .

Thats a recession for you!

annettea

this sounds really weird... but.... type her name in google and her hometown maybe something will come up,,, she may not be on fb but she could be on something else,.

grizzly

Drop in the note. What have you to lose?

forfuxsake

a no-brainer

don't wash you fingers, go back to the pub, go round a few of the lads and do the sniff test, If she went back with you and let you fiddle with her bits on the first night, chances are she has done it before and one of the lads will remember her scent(and her number)

good luck

MickySticks

Paulie Gualtieri wrote: »

you've done yourself no favours posting here , most will just take the piss .

And blast it.

Owen_S

theirishstig wrote: »

Hi all,



Will try to cut a long story as short as possible.

Well you've certainly failed on that front.

Jaxxy

Ring up school, ask if [first name] is there. If it's an unusual name you probably won't need to provide the second name. Get told [first name] is currently in class. Ask if secretary would mind giving her a message? "[Your name] called, can be reached at [your number]."

If she doesn't return your call you'll know she thinks you're a weirdo. If she does, fanny's your aunt, you may get a ride date.

The King of Moo

Heading back to the bar now and then seems like the best bet.

Or as mentioned earlier, google her first name and her hometown or something else connected to her. If it's such an unusual name, there's a fair chance you'll find something useful.

Or, if there's a Des Kelly Carpets outlet near the school, ask them to put up a billboard saying "Miss _______, I'm the guy from the other night. I accidently deleted your number, text me at 0871234567."

promethius

hey stig, it's me the girl from the bar so to speak, having read through the thread there was enough for me to figure it out that it was you.

i thought you seemed like a nice guy the other night, but this whole stalking me via the internet, facebook, google, boards etc has really creeped me out.
if you try to contact my school i promise the guards will be invovled.

i have a hungry, angry german shepard at home so don't think of following me either.

ps: the number i gave you was fake anyways, 087 123 4567 is not my real number. creep.

Mr.Crinklewood

promethius wrote: »

hey stig, it's me the girl from the bar so to speak, having read through the thread there was enough for me to figure it out that it was you.

i thought you seemed like a nice guy the other night, but this whole stalking me via the internet, facebook, google, boards etc has really creeped me out.
if you try to contact my school i promise the guards will be invovled.

i have a hungry, angry german shepard at home so don't think of following me either.

ps: the number i gave you was fake anyways, 087 123 4567 is not my real number. creep.

Thank God, that morning in School, i saw you had a spring in your step, a glimmer in your eye and cum in your hair...i thought i had lost you....but now i know i have not.

P.S Was it question 1-10 or 5-10 that we had to do for homework?

Big Nasty

annettea wrote: »

this sounds really weird... but.... type her name in google and her hometown maybe something will come up,,, she may not be on fb but she could be on something else,.

Actually I think you're spot on!

Most school teachers don't have FB as kids would be trying to look them up and find dirt on them but if she's a country lass chances are she's been involved in some sort of local activity that's been published in the weekly rag.

FoxT

Find a phone directory. Look up her granda. Phone him, explain you really want to give her the ride but the taxi came too quick. (ha!) He'll help you out fer sure!


Real answer: Phone the school & ask for firstname or miss lastname. Just leave your firstname & phone no.
If you dont hear back, wait three days & repeat.

She'll get back to you if interested.

token101

You know where she works and her name. Order some expensive flowers for her and leave a sealed envelope with the florist. Winner

AngryBollix

You should have just banged her last night. At least then you'd have an excuse

MungBean

Call a hooker, if its meant to be it will be the girl you met at the bar. If its not you bang the hooker. Cant lose.

Midnight Sundance

token101 wrote: »

You know where she works and her name. Order some expensive flowers for her and leave a sealed envelope with the florist. Winner

Oh my god don't do this, she will run a mile!!!!
My friend is in a school where some guy had rang every school in the area looking for a blonde teacher he met out one night. Everyone thought it was her, luckily she wasn't in the county that wknd.

It got us talking and we all agreed that it would be freaky....
( maybe leaving a note with secretary might work but I'd try the pub again first )

biko

Put your faith in the Lawd and he will guide you.
Bless.

Joe10000

Ring the school, simples.

theirishstig

Was playing five aside there folks, hence the delay in posting. Thanks for yer replies and the interest in my thread. Some of them have being helpful, more of them have being dowright ignorant (ye know who ye are), while more don't make any sense to me whatsoever...they must have being meant for another thread or something.

What I have done is drafted a letter, explained the situation and left my contact number. I wrote it in a very formal manner just in case it gets into the wrong hands and gets her in trouble. I will put it in a sealed envelope, write her name on it and drop it into the school secretary Friday morning to give to her. I know its not ideal but feck it you only live once and if I don't I'll only spend the next while wondering what could have being.

First though I will go back to the same pub for a few socialables tomorrow night in the slim chance that they may be back there themselves, unlikely though I think as they did say they are seldom out in town or out at all for that matter as I recall.

She did mention that she does get a bit of grief from some of the young lads in the school so I could appreciate her not having a facebook page for that matter... I don't really dig the whole facebook thing myself anyway and understand that not everybody is into it

Boscoirl

Have a look on LinkedIn she might be on that if not on facebook

nlgbbbblth

I really don't see what the problem is about leaving a note or message with the school.

OP lost / misplaced her number. He wants to get in touch. What else is he supposed to do?

People who think "weirdo" need to get a f*cking grip.

Best of luck OP. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Thinking about what might have been is a killer - I've been there.

ihsb

Years ago I had a guy not ask for my number, he knew where I went to school (he was also in another school, not a perv) and he waited outside of the gates for me to get off the bus one morning just to ask me out. It was so cute. I don't think that there is any point in regretting anything. So what if she ends up thinking you are mad? You said yourself the chances of you seeing her again are v slim. So go for it!

FoxT

That is a brilliant idea! Can you get to the school, meet her on the way in, and have a quick chat - maybe give her a note that on the one hand tells her you like her, buit on the other, reassures her you arent perving?

theirishstig

nlgbbbblth wrote: »

I really don't see what the problem is about leaving a note or message with the school.

OP lost / misplaced her number. He wants to get in touch. What else is he supposed to do?

People who think "weirdo" need to get a f*cking grip.

Best of luck OP. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Thinking about what might have been is a killer - I've been there.

Thanks nlbbbblth. I'm very much thinking along the same lines.

A few people mentioned ringing the school and leaving my contact details for her to get in touch with me. I'm not sure this would be a fantastic idea as I have a common enough name, she might assume I'm a parent or something and get a bit startled when she makes the call.

As I think I mentioned in my opening post I think (almost sure thats what she said) its her grandfather on her fathers side that from the parish next door to mine. I definately got the surname right and that and if it is her grandad on her fathers side then that will be her surname also. But if its her grandfather on her mothers side then I'm at a bit of a loss and for that matter will look a bit of a fool going into the school with a letter for somebody who does not exist there.

Other than that I hope its not between classes and shes in the corridor and spots me if and when I go into the school. She might not thank me too much for that either if there are students or other teachers around.

nlgbbbblth

theirishstig wrote: »

Thanks nlbbbblth. I'm very much thinking along the same lines.

A few people mentioned ringing the school and leaving my contact details for her to get in touch with me. I'm not sure this would be a fantastic idea as I have a common enough name, she might assume I'm a parent or something and get a bit startled when she makes the call.

As I think I mentioned in my opening post I think (almost sure thats what she said) its her grandfather on her fathers side that from the parish next door to mine. I definately got the surname right and that and if it is her grandad on her fathers side then that will be her surname also. But if its her grandfather on her mothers side then I'm at a bit of a loss and for that matter will look a bit of a fool going into the school with a letter for somebody who does not exist there.

Other than that I hope its not between classes and shes in the corridor and spots me if and when I go into the school. She might not thank me too much for that either if there are students or other teachers around.

Have you checked rate my teacher - might confirm the name.
http://ie.ratemyteachers.com/

WoollyRedHat

annettea wrote: »

this sounds really weird... but.... type her name in google and her hometown maybe something will come up,,, she may not be on fb but she could be on something else,.

Like a porn site you mean? That'd be cool, score OP!

OP, take a picture of yourself, print it off about 2 dozen times, then proceed to plaster it around the pub and adjacent areas, with text over picture saying hot for teacher and then your e-mail address under it. Don't give her your number, don't want weirdos contacting you

Groinshot

*ahem*Relevant?

theirishstig

nlgbbbblth wrote: »

Have you checked rate my teacher - might confirm the name.
http://ie.ratemyteachers.com/

I had a look there nlgbbbblth, there are only two women teachers on the list that don't have a christian name in. Looked both up on facebook but no joy. Neither of them teach the subject she mentioned she teaches also as per the site. Hmmm, I wonder is that site kept up to date and would all teachers be on it

St.Spodo

Facebook was made for this.

theirishstig

Groinshot wrote: »

*ahem*Relevant?

Had a quick look at that Groinshot. Wee bit different I think all the same as its many moons ago at this stage that I was a secondary school student.

WoollyRedHat

That'ts it! Go back to secondary school!

theirishstig

St.Spodo wrote: »

Facebook was made for this.

Unfortunately she doesn't seem to be on it St.Spodo (assuming I've her surname right). She works in an all boys school and is well fit so I could see her logic there. She even mentioned that she does sometimes get some grief from some of the young lads in that regard....

Joe10000

WoollyRedHat wrote: »

That'ts it! Go back to secondary school!

Perfectly plausible plot for a romcom.

Biggins

theirishstig wrote: »

Hi all,

Hoping ye can provide me with a bit of direction and perhaps some ideas following on from my encounter last Thursday night.

Will try to cut a long story as short as possible...

Owen_S wrote: »

Well you've certainly failed on that front.

True! :pac:

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OP
A short version...
"Met someone, lost mobile number, works in a school, help!!!"

1. Don't hang around outside a school - at the very least.
2. Don't send flowers to a school (she might not want the attention and or questions there of nosey people) - not until at least you get an opportunity to know her and THEN judge for yourself better.
3. Your best bet is to return to the pub and mention LIGHTLY to her friends if they appear that you mislaid her number and give her friends (or her if she is there) yours also.
Ask it to be passed on if she is not there herself.

Good luck!

The King of Moo

Joe10000 wrote: »

Perfectly plausible plot for a romcom.

*trailer voice*

Meet irishstig. His life is pretty boring, until one day he meets the girl of his dreams, but loses her straight away!

*RECORD SCRATCH*

Now, to find the woman he loves, he's going to have to go back to the one place he never thought he'd return to!

That's right, irishstig is going Back to School!

*shot of Matthew McConaughey struggling to fit into a desk, which he's stuck into when he stands up*

Starring Matthew McConaughey, Kate Hudson and James Cromwell as Principal O'Malley.

You won't want to miss this class!

In theatres May 5.