"My slightly chubby hubby wants to leave me because im waaaay too tubby"

token101 · 08-03-2012 7:40pm #1

I overheard a woman at work bitching to other workmates about her husband earlier because he said he was considering finishing the marraige unless she lost some weight. Now I immediately started thinking he was a total dickhead, but then I started to wonder...he is slightly chubby but she is outright f***ing obese and would I be attracted someone so big. The answer was '**** no'. So I was wondering what everyone else thought? Do people have somewhat of a responsibility to at least try and stay somewhat attractive to their partner? Or should he just stick out the marraige regardless of the fact that he is clearly repulsed by her appearance?

bicardi19 · 08-03-2012 7:41pm

If ya can't lift it don't shift it.

Radharc na Sleibhte · 08-03-2012 7:42pm

If ya cant hide her, dont ride her.

pragmatic1 · 08-03-2012 7:43pm

I dont think he was being completely unreasonable. Sex is important and if you're not attracted to someone theres little point staying in a sexless marriage.

smash · 08-03-2012 7:43pm

Just because you get married, doesn't mean you can get fat. If he wanted to marry a fat chick he would have, obviously he wants her back to the size she was when they met. Nothing wrong with that.

stupidusername · 08-03-2012 7:45pm

token101 wrote: »

So I was wondering what everyone else thought? Do people have somewhat of a responsibility to at least try and stay somewhat attractive to their partner? Or should he just stick out the marraige regardless of the fact that he is clearly repulsed by her appearance?

I think he's got the right idea, though may not have put it well, or gone about it the best way.

yes they do.

no he shouldn't.

tuxy · 08-03-2012 7:46pm

Maybe he's concerned about her health..........

Poor Uncle Tom · 08-03-2012 7:47pm

Not an unreasonable request at all, but rather than set it out as an ultimatum it should be discussed in an adult manner to everyones benefit, get back in shape together.

mfceiling · 08-03-2012 7:47pm

This will have some brilliant replies...

*sits back and opens popcorn*

Poor Uncle Tom · 08-03-2012 7:48pm

mfceiling wrote: »

*sits back and opens popcorn*

That's all he needs, someone feeding her.....:rolleyes:

kfallon · 08-03-2012 7:48pm

token101 wrote: »

I made up a story that I overheard a woman at work bitching to other workmates about her husband earlier because he said he was considering finishing the marraige unless she lost some weight. Now I immediately started thinking he was a total dickhead, but then I started to wonder...he is slightly chubby but she is outright f***ing obese and would I be attracted someone so big. The answer was '**** no'. So I was wondering what everyone else thought? Do people have somewhat of a responsibility to at least try and stay somewhat attractive to their partner? Or should he just stick out the marraige regardless of the fact that he is clearly repulsed by her appearance?

FYP :pac:

luckyfrank · 08-03-2012 7:48pm

As if always said a gee's a gee once you put it in

smash · 08-03-2012 7:48pm

mfceiling wrote: »

This will have some brilliant replies...

*sits back and opens popcorn*

Should you be eating that? could do with losing a few!

Fukuyama · 08-03-2012 7:49pm

mfceiling wrote: »

*sits back and opens popcorn*

I imagine the wifeosaurus is doing the same as we speak :pac:

wardy2 · 08-03-2012 7:50pm

fat-girl-shaun.jpg

i so would lol

full_irish · 08-03-2012 7:50pm

pics or gtfo!
...actually on second thoughts....

WalterMitty · 08-03-2012 7:50pm

"im dead sexy"

FTGFOP · 08-03-2012 7:51pm

Likewise if he ends up in a wheelchair or loses use of his mickey she can dump him. That's love.

FionnTheBun · 08-03-2012 7:53pm

bicardi19 wrote: »

If ya can't lift it don't shift it.

Yes boi

Sindri · 08-03-2012 7:54pm

I always wondered how do fat people live with themselves?

I mean they are always sweating, their faces are always flushed from some activity that involves movement, whenever they exert any energy they're always gasping for breath, they are usually seen as ugly, and on top of this they have to be jolly as well? :eek:

How do they do it?

WalterMitty · 08-03-2012 7:55pm

Sindri wrote: »

I always wondered how do fat people live with themselves?

I mean they are always sweating, their faces are always flushed from some activity that involves movement, whenever they exert any energy they're always gasping for breath, they are usually seen as ugly, and on top of this they have to be jolly as well? :eek:

How do they do it?

intravenous jelly donuts

Raekwon · 08-03-2012 7:57pm

To be honest it's not her fault that her husband cannot handle a "real women"

Seriously though, far too many salad dodgers around, if the government started to put high taxes on junk food then we would pay back our massive debts in a matter of days

200yrolecrank · 08-03-2012 7:59pm

token101 wrote: »

I overheard a woman at work bitching to other workmates about her husband earlier because he said he was considering finishing the marraige unless she lost some weight. Now I immediately started thinking he was a total dickhead, but then I started to wonder...he is slightly chubby but she is outright f***ing obese and would I be attracted someone so big. The answer was '**** no'. So I was wondering what everyone else thought? Do people have somewhat of a responsibility to at least try and stay somewhat attractive to their partner? Or should he just stick out the marraige regardless of the fact that he is clearly repulsed by her appearance?

Absolutey they have an obligation to keep their figure in shape unless due to unforeseen circumstances like an illness.
My missis went for 6 stone to 7 and I encouraged her to tone up,same with her when I put on a few kilo over Xmas she was on to me to drop it all in a fun way but I wouldn't tolerate a whale.

smash · 08-03-2012 8:01pm

200yrolecrank wrote: »

My missis went for 6 stone to 7 and I encouraged her to tone up

Is she a midget? Because even at 7 it's bloody light.

token101 · 08-03-2012 8:01pm

Raekwon wrote: »

To be honest it's not her fault that her husband cannot handle a "real women"

Seriously though, far too many salad dodgers around, if the government started to put high taxes on junk food then we would pay back our massive debts in a matter of days

Theyd just be paying more Id imagine. Doubt itd have any impact, it has very little effect on cigarettes

200yrolecrank · 08-03-2012 8:03pm

smash wrote: »

200yrolecrank wrote: »

My missis went for 6 stone to 7 and I encouraged her to tone up

Is she a midget? Because even at 7 it's bloody light.

4 ft 11 but very petite

08-03-2012 8:06pm

Maybe he is just concerned she wont make it up the isle the shame of being lodged on her big day or her dad having to walk behind her as their wont be room for two ?

Health and safety issues could be his primary concern .

strobe · 08-03-2012 8:07pm

Of course you have a responsibility to stay attractive for your partner. You can have a friendship with someone you are not attracted to but an adult relationship is based in part (a pretty major part) on sexual attraction. If you aren't at least trying to stay attractive for them it doesn't say much for how considerate you are of them.

FTGFOP wrote: »

Likewise if he ends up in a wheelchair or loses use of his mickey she can dump him. That's love.

It's not really an apt comparison... You'd have to change it to 'Likewise if he decides from now on he is only ever going to use a wheelchair as he can't be arsed walking any more or starts routinely taking cyproterone so that he doesn't have the use of his mickey any more she can dump him' ... Which yes, would be perfectly reasonable too.

But I agree with whoever said an ultimatum was the wrong way to go... but then again I doubt he just sprung the ultimatum on her out of the blue, he's probably tried the whole 'reasoned adult discussion' thing amongst other things already and she is just not trying.

token101 · 08-03-2012 8:08pm

Reese Attractive Vow wrote: »

Maybe he is just concerned she wont make it up the isle the shame of being lodged on her big day or her dad havent to walk behind her as their wont be room for two ?

Health and safety issues could be his primary concern .

Everyday is a big day for this one. She is big. Think that one in eastenders big. The really fat one.

ejmaztec · 08-03-2012 8:09pm

Poor Uncle Tom wrote: »

Not an unreasonable request at all, but rather than set it out as an ultimatum it should be discussed in an adult manner to everyones benefit, get back in shape together.

Failing that, she should be locked in a shed with no food for however long it takes.

inmyday · 08-03-2012 8:11pm

200yrolecrank wrote: »

My missis went for 6 stone to 7 and I encouraged her to tone up.

7 stone. You were dead right, the fat blimp. A walking talking tank!

LETHAL LADY · 08-03-2012 8:11pm

I dont see many of these incredibly beautiful, toned, long time married couples about, must be a recent phenomenon.

44leto · 08-03-2012 8:12pm

Shallow halness, weight, it really is not that easy to shift and keep it off and anyone here think they have the magic formula ask a multi billionaire how she got on with it and Oprah will tell you it failed.

token101 · 08-03-2012 8:12pm

strobe wrote: »

Of course you have a responsibility to stay attractive for your partner. You can have a friendship with someone you are not attracted to but an adult relationship is based in part (a pretty major part) on sexual attraction. If you aren't at least trying to stay attractive for them it doesn't say much for how considerate you are of them.

FTGFOP wrote: »

Likewise if he ends up in a wheelchair or loses use of his mickey she can dump him. That's love.

It's not really an apt comparison... You'd have to change it to 'Likewise if he decides from now on he is only ever going to use a wheelchair as he can't be arsed walking any more or starts routinely taking cyproterone so that he doesn't have the use of his mickey any more she can dump him' ... Which yes, would be perfectly reasonable too.

But I agree with whoever said an ultimatum was the wrong way to go... but then again I doubt he just sprung the ultimatum on her out of the blue, he's probably tried the whole 'reasoned adult discussion' thing amongst other things already and she is just not trying.

Whats the difference though? Hes essentially saying that shes too fat. Maybe bluntness is the way

Dr Expired · 08-03-2012 8:13pm

kfallon wrote: »

FYP :pac:

I like your style

200yrolecrank · 08-03-2012 8:14pm

LETHAL LADY wrote: »

I dont see many of these incredibly beautiful, toned, long time married couples about, must be a recent phenomenon.

Go to a hotter climate or a lot of the European countries.

stupidusername · 08-03-2012 8:14pm

token101 wrote: »

Whats the difference though? Hes essentially saying that shes too fat. Maybe bluntness is the way

It's about choice.

token101 · 08-03-2012 8:15pm

44leto wrote: »

Shallow halness, weight, it really is not that easy to shift and keep it off and anyone here think they have the magic formula ask a multi billionaire how she got on with it and Oprah will tell you it failed.

Probably through a lot f work but id say you could lose it in a year. Were talking maybe 6 stone here now! Its tough but doable.

LETHAL LADY · 08-03-2012 8:24pm

200yrolecrank wrote: »

Go to a hotter climate or a lot of the European countries.

Have been didnt see much of it about there either.

200yrolecrank · 08-03-2012 8:27pm

LETHAL LADY wrote: »

200yrolecrank wrote: »

Go to a hotter climate or a lot of the European countries.

Have been didnt see much of it about there either.

I saw plenty in the states,OZ,Italy.

up for anything · 08-03-2012 8:30pm

200yrolecrank wrote: »

Absolutey they have an obligation to keep their figure in shape unless due to unforeseen circumstances like an illness.
My missis went for 6 stone to 7 and I encouraged her to tone up,same with her when I put on a few kilo over Xmas she was on to me to drop it all in a fun way but I wouldn't tolerate a whale.

I'm surprised you have a missis with that attitude.

smash wrote: »

Is she a midget? Because even at 7 it's bloody light.

She probably throws up after every meal because she's terrified of losing that charmer that's she's partnered up with.

token101 wrote: »

Whats the difference though? Hes essentially saying that shes too fat. Maybe bluntness is the way

Yep, the way straight to the divorce courts if she knows what's good for her.

Logical Fallacy · 08-03-2012 8:33pm

Maybe she is the kind of person who is always on a fad diet, always banging on about losing weight and being active and starting walking etc etc etc but never does a thing about it.

Maybe he has been listening to this **** day in and day out for a decade and it's finally worn him down?

200yrolecrank · 08-03-2012 8:33pm

up for anything wrote: »

200yrolecrank wrote: »

Absolutey they have an obligation to keep their figure in shape unless due to unforeseen circumstances like an illness.
My missis went for 6 stone to 7 and I encouraged her to tone up,same with her when I put on a few kilo over Xmas she was on to me to drop it all in a fun way but I wouldn't tolerate a whale.

I'm surprised you have a missis with that attitude.

smash wrote: »

Is she a midget? Because even at 7 it's bloody light.

She probably throws up after every meal because she's terrified of losing that charmer that's she's partnered up with.

token101 wrote: »

Whats the difference though? Hes essentially saying that shes too fat. Maybe bluntness is the way

Yep, the way straight to the divorce courts if she knows what's good for her.

Actually she has a great diet veg veg and protein.
She's not from here and doesn't harbour the poor eating habits of many of the lasses here.
You sound like you've been ditched by a fella over your weight.

Sindri · 08-03-2012 8:37pm

Logical Fallacy wrote: »

Maybe she is the kind of person who is always on a fad diet, always banging on about losing weight and being active and starting walking etc etc etc but never does a thing about it.

Maybe he has been listening to this **** day in and day out for a decade and it's finally worn him down?

Thanks for that excerpt from your marriage.

It was a very specific post TBF. :rolleyes:

LETHAL LADY · 08-03-2012 8:43pm

200yrolecrank wrote: »

I saw plenty in the states,OZ,Italy.

But everyone ages, gets saggy boobs and bums and what not , what then?

flanders1979 · 08-03-2012 8:44pm

Put speed in the sugar bowl.

200yrolecrank · 08-03-2012 8:47pm

LETHAL LADY wrote: »

200yrolecrank wrote: »

I saw plenty in the states,OZ,Italy.

But everyone ages, gets saggy boobs and bums and what not , what then?

Were not talking about age being a factor as it shouldn't.
My father is in his 60's and has a better six pack than me,he's highly disciplined about his diet and exercise as is my mother.
Were talkng here about the women or even men who just balloon in a short few years and do absolutely nothing about it.

woodoo · 08-03-2012 8:47pm

Shape up or ship out Mrs Wife

forfuxsake · 08-03-2012 9:00pm

When women let themselves go it is lazy, selfish and disgusting

It should never be confused with men getting a but cuddly which merely demonstrates a certain joie de vivre

mattjack · 08-03-2012 9:01pm

200yrolecrank wrote: »

Actually she has a great diet veg veg and protein.
She's not from here and doesn't harbour the poor eating habits of many of the lasses here.
You sound like you've been ditched by a fella over your weight.

How many ? you ol' charmer you .

FTGFOP · 08-03-2012 9:01pm

strobe wrote: »

It's not really an apt comparison... You'd have to change it to 'Likewise if he decides from now on he is only ever going to use a wheelchair as he can't be arsed walking any more or starts routinely taking cyproterone so that he doesn't have the use of his mickey any more she can dump him' ... Which yes, would be perfectly reasonable too.

I was being semi-facetious. His actions are at odds with my idea of a loving marriage or any sort of class. I think love (and marriage) is based on more than a simple formula of Friendship+Sex. She ought to look after her health, no doubt but your comparison is implying she's sabotaging it deliberately rather than through negligence/ignorance, which is unlikely.

...
What happens when she starts getting too old looking? Marriage off? Face-lift or else?

I think if the guy is making these ultimatums he should never have got married in the first place because he was probably just settling (down) rather than marrying someone he loved.

"My slightly chubby hubby wants to leave me because im waaaay too tubby"

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