Have you ever felt trapped in a relationship?

LegacyUser

I was watching the film 'Alfie' recently and it got me thinking. Have you ever felt trapped or stifled in a relationship?

I only ever once felt a little trapped in one relationship a relationship I wasn't really ready for. Just wasn't ready for commitment regardless of maturity, age and lack of relationship experience.

Have you ever felt like that? What is your take or consensus on it?

Ellie2008

Misemosh wrote: »

I was watching the film 'Alfie' recently and it got me thinking. Have you ever felt trapped or stifled in a relationship?

I only ever once felt a little trapped in one relationship a relationship I wasn't really ready for. Just wasn't ready for commitment regardless of maturity, age and lack of relationship experience.

Have you ever felt like that? What is your take or consensus on it?

Yes and I wasnt especially young (nearly 27), we went out for two years and I pretty much was thinking about breaking up with him on and off for the last six months but never raised the subject until one day I just blurted it out, he was a really nice guy he just really got on my nerves for some reason and I feel awful for saying this but I was so so glad it was over I didnt even feel guilt, I have apologised a couple of times since for the manner in which I did it and I suppose for doing it but I think the best thing I could do would be to leave him alone. I remember he asked me could he stay friends with a couple of my guy friends and I cant remember what I said hopefully I was polite but I was thinking groan does that mean Im going to see him all the time, he didnt keep up the friendship with the lads anyways, I admire how he acted I never heard from him whereas I have gone literally into stalker mode on one occasion when someone broke up with me!

So in short I completely understand where you are coming from.

ElleEm

Yes.
I got into a relationship with a guy I fancied for months, and he turned out to be SO full on. I was only about 21, not that experienced in the way of relationships and definitely not confident enough to say what I felt/ thought.
He was very possessive and had such a negative outlook on life. He was so bad for my health. I'm a natural carer, and want to help everyone. He just sucked the energy right out of me.
After we broke up (nasty break up as he turned out to be a crazy!), I vowed to stay single for a whole year. It was the best decision I ever made.
Looking back, I see that the relationship really gave me the strength to realise the importance of how I feel in a relationship, and not to just be the "minder".

nicowa

Yes, partly cos I wanted to be in a relationship (just for the sake of it), partly cos I did like him, just not enough, and partly because we were organising this hughe event together and I didn't want him to end up ruining it - I thought I could control him better (moods, controlling streak a mile wide) if we were together.

It ended up almost ruining the weekend for me and a whole lot of people I admire and respect saw everything that was happening between us that weekend - and then we broke up on the weekend and I didn't realise (cos apparently I broke up with him, which I didn't realise) and he spent the rest of the weekend with another girl.

He was possessive, controlling (which I mentioned) and like someone else mentioned I thought I could make him better - he had other problems too but I don't really want to go into them.

In the end I was fairly miserable and we ending things on the worst possible footing - which I got all the blame for. And after everything (me paying for lots of things like trips and big presents for him) he asked me to repay him a second hand book I lost while we were going out - and he asked me again when I was moving home cos of financial reasons and he'd inherited a load of money from his dead granny.

(I might be sort of scarred from all this...)