Are you the boss?

TheZohanS

Well guys and gals who would you consider to be the boss of your relationships? Now ideally there should be no 'boss' of a relationship but we're living in the real world here. Myself, well I've always come up with the best ideas but sometimes to keep the peace I've compromised...and then for my suggestions to be accepted as the best way forward...


...so who's the boss in your relationship?

For the poll I've made it that only one person is boss and tbf that's just the way it is..

efb

I am; female

Well he wears the gimp mask- so me!

ronnie3585

Tony Danza is the boss.

Kojak

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Who%27s_the_Boss%3F

Jesus Wept

efb

I am; female

ronnie3585 wrote: »

Tony Danza is the boss.

No the She Man Angela was the boss and her mother a whore.

Tony was the maid

Brendog

My girlfriend is the boss. She has the vagina. She has the control.

Overheal

Swallow Sadness (Like a BOSS)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NisCkxU544c

hondasam

In my little world I am the boss of me.

finfinfin

my lady has a great knack of coming up with an idea but making it seem like its my idea.

it makes me believe I'm the boss but I'm not.

but I love her and want a happy life so I just go with it.

nice_very

forever jaguar option?

Jesus Wept

Brendog wrote: »

My girlfriend is the boss. She has the vagina. She has the control.

Sounds like you have the vagina tbf.

Fago!

There is no boss in a relationship sexism is wrong blah blah yadda yadda.

srsly, I used to be the boss. Up until the day I had sex with her for the first time. Now her glorious vagina controls my thoughts and actions.

TheZohanS

I am; female

Brendog wrote: »

My girlfriend is the boss. She has the vagina. She has the control.

Ah that's where you're wrong, for the most part. Guys are physical whereas girls are emotional; for the most part.

finfinfin wrote: »

my lady has a great knack of coming up with an idea but making it seem like its my idea.

it makes me believe I'm the boss but I'm not.

but I love her and want a happy life so I just go with it.

Ah...compromise...

Larianne

finfinfin wrote: »

my lady has a great knack of coming up with an idea but making it seem like its my idea.

it makes me believe I'm the boss but I'm not.

but I love her and want a happy life so I just go with it.

This is how it is done.

TeddyTedson

Is there not a massive flaw in your poll...

TheZohanS

I am; female

TeddyTedson wrote: »

Is there not a massive flaw in your poll...

Nope

efb

I am; female

Where is I am not (male) and I am not (female) ?

TeddyTedson

TheZohan wrote: »

Nope

Are you sure, my brain is not working well tonight but should you not have had two more options, ie. I'm male; my girl friend wears my pants, ect.

Mod: Don't derail the thread with chat.

finfinfin

This is how it is done.[/Quote]

it really is.she was and still is my first long term relationship and the lads told me of this.I didn't believe it til I ended up at a westlife gig.this must of been the millionth thing i've done with her that I had no big interest in.the penny dropped while the lads sang bop bop baby.

eureka!
my lady is a genius.

but in fairness she leaves me in peace to watch united.
I sound like I'm nagging but I'm not and want her to be the boss forever.

please don't gawk.ha ha.

Millicent

Depends on the situation, tbh. That and each other's mood, hours of sleep the night before, who looks the bigger ride that day, which one of us is soft-soaping the other for some nefarious reason or hitherto un-admitted wrongdoing... :pac:

Honestly and truly, I would say it changes from day to day and even in the course of a day depending on myriad factors.

kraggy

Any man who says he's the boss in the relationship has been played beautifully by his missus.

Hank_Jones

efb wrote: »

Where is I am not (male) and I am not (female) ?

+1 on this.

Oranage2

Where's the 'I'm single and not a boss' option.

minidazzler

Do You know what the only ship that can never sink is called? A Friendship...

Eh, when I'm dating girls it's pretty even, I won't get in with someone where I have all the authority so to speak and I wouldn't let anyone walk all over me, though I have gotten hung up on girls that would probably have been the "boss" if it had gone far enough.

In my friendships I generally don't lead but I from the front, but basically what I want to do gets done because I know how to steer my friends to my way of thinking quietly and so they think it's their idea.

Super-Rush

Looks at time of post.

You're sleeping on the couch aren't ya?

Wibbs

Millicent wrote: »

Honestly and truly, I would say it changes from day to day and even in the course of a day depending on myriad factors.

This. Or at least it should be this. For me anyway, though I do know enough men who like being bossed around by their partners. Oh they'll moan about it, but actively seek that type of woman out. Not my bag. The very second I sniff consistent "Irish mammy" type behaviour I'm outa there. Or if I find I'm agreeing to things for "The Quiet Life" too often. Ditto for the "lets use sex as a bargaining chip' No thanks go away. Half the world has a vagina, fanny ain't rare, so not exactly much of a bargaining chip is it?

ElleEm

I am. It's just that I'm more organised and stuff. If I didn't take charge of things like bills, they'd never be paid. My boyfriend would also never remember appointments, birthdays, anniversarys etc. Because I know all this stuff I get to be in charge of everythin else

Princess Peach

Neither of us is the boss but we have both agreed that I could be if I wanted.

I'm not a demanding girlfriend, but if I ever did ask for something I know he would do it, and he knows he would too.

And then there would be times when I'd make fun of him or something and he'd say "No sex for you tonight so" and I say, yes there will be. And right away he will admit there will be.

Wonder would the answers of the poll be different if it wasn't public. Delusional men.

jonnyfingers

My gf's the boss of the TV. I'm the boss of the money. I mostly watch my own shows on the laptop while she watches crap on the TV. But I control the payment of the bills, the booking of trips/holidays, etc. Also I have a sense of direction so I drive the car!

Carter P Fly

kraggy wrote: »

Any man who says he's the boss in the relationship has been played beautifully by his missus.

The truth, The woman is always the boss and if you believe otherwise your deluded or a wife beater.

Edited to add: epic poll fail

barone

I am; female

no such thing as equal ground,someone needs to be boss and make the decisions,or nothing ever gets said or done.

Abi

barone wrote: »

no such thing as equal ground,someone needs to be boss and make the decisions,or nothing ever gets said or done.

Or you could talk it through till you can agree on something - without any bully work.



Equal all the the way.

Mr Benevolent

I am; female

Wibbs wrote: »

This. Or at least it should be this. For me anyway, though I do know enough men who like being bossed around by their partners. Oh they'll moan about it, but actively seek that type of woman out. Not my bag. The very second I sniff consistent "Irish mammy" type behaviour I'm outa there. Or if I find I'm agreeing to things for "The Quiet Life" too often. Ditto for the "lets use sex as a bargaining chip' No thanks go away. Half the world has a vagina, fanny ain't rare, so not exactly much of a bargaining chip is it?

So your motto is 'Compromise, but on my terms.' Why not just stay single and stop moaning? From your innumerable posts on the subject you appear to have quite a few gripes with women based on your previous relationships. In fact a lot of your posts are dedicated to moaning about women. In fairness I've done the same for a couple of years after my last relationship, but it's not going to get you anywhere. You moan about them, they moan about you. Compromise is inherent to any relationship and anyone thinking otherwise is deluding themselves.

Eric Cartman

Brendog wrote: »

My girlfriend is the boss. She has the vagina. She has the control.

I know your Probably joking. But the sad thing is a lot of foolish men see it this way and allow women to use sex for control

Biggins

I am; female

I am allowed say that I am the boss.

Immaculate Pasta

Eric Cartman wrote: »

I know your Probably joking. But the sad thing is a lot of foolish men see it this way and allow women to use sex for control

I couldn't agree more with this. There are a surprising number of lads I know who are happily pussy whipped because they're getting the ride regularly. They even joke to each other that they can't do that because the missus wouldn't be happy. I just think where's your self respect?

I know some relationships which are horribly destructive but people prefer to stay in a relationship than get out. One girl I know is so paranoid her boyfriend is cheating on her is that she has the login details for his Find my iPhone app so she tracks where he goes which he knows about and laughs it off. I also know a lad who always ends up spending at least half a night out on the phone to his missus because she misses him. It would take a blind man to see that these relationships are all about issues of control. This happens far too much with men and they'll just accept it. I also know a girl who has stayed with her boyfriend even though he's cheated on her four times. Ridiculous.

A relationship means you should be a team. Decisions should be taken together, you should both pull your weight and most importantly you're equals. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where I'd be restricted in decisions or what I could do. I'd much rather stay single.

Scanlas The 2nd

Eric Cartman wrote: »

I know your Probably joking. But the sad thing is a lot of foolish men see it this way and allow women to use sex for control

And this is why women hate sluts, the more free vagina the weaker her control.

As an experiment men who are bossed around should commit to themselves to not looking for sex for a few months and see how the dynamic changes.

mattjack

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

And this is why women hate sluts, the more free vagina the weaker her control.

As an experiment men who are bossed around should commit to themselves to not looking for sex for a few months and see how the dynamic changes.

Any volunteers for the above ?

Scanlas The 2nd

mattjack wrote: »

Any volunteers for the above ?

Your hand and the internet will do for a few months.

Millicent

Confab wrote: »

So your motto is 'Compromise, but on my terms.' Why not just stay single and stop moaning? From your innumerable posts on the subject you appear to have quite a few gripes with women based on your previous relationships. In fact a lot of your posts are dedicated to moaning about women. In fairness I've done the same for a couple of years after my last relationship, but it's not going to get you anywhere. You moan about them, they moan about you. Compromise is inherent to any relationship and anyone thinking otherwise is deluding themselves.

How did you get that from his post?

TheZohanS

I am; female

TheZohan wrote: »

Well guys and gals who would you consider to be the boss of your relationships? Now ideally there should be no 'boss' of a relationship but we're living in the real world here. Myself, well I've always come up with the best ideas but sometimes to keep the peace I've compromised...and then for my suggestions to be accepted as the best way forward...


...so who's the boss in your relationship?

For the poll I've made it that only one person is boss and tbf that's just the way it is..

You're some pup when you've drink in you!

hondasam

TheZohan wrote: »

You're some pup when you've drink in you!

who is the boss today?

No relationship works without some compromise and anyone that says or thinks different is kidding themselves.
Mr Honda had better hurry up with my breakfast:D

Mr Benevolent

I am; female

Millicent wrote: »

How did you get that from his post?

My natural brilliance. Why?

az2wp0sye65487

I am; female

I'm the boss.

King of the castle.

Lord of the manor.

But in fairness - she prefers being bossed around. It allows her to be extra lazy and not have to think. Thinking hurts wimmins brains you see.

Iang87

I dunno ask her

Wibbs

Confab wrote: »

So your motto is 'Compromise, but on my terms.'

Huh? I have zero idea where you got that from. If you're happy out dealing with a passive aggressive type in a relationship, then work away. I simply expressed that this was not my bag. Goes for both genders too. The Irish mammy type syndrome is just the one men deal with. Being I am a man, that's the example I used. Too many women stay with passive aggressive dictatorial muppets too.

From your innumerable posts on the subject you appear to have quite a few gripes with women based on your previous relationships. In fact a lot of your posts are dedicated to moaning about women.

What? Numero uno I don't lump "women" together as a single entity. Never have. Secondly the majority of my long termers have been good ones that were equal in decision making. I've only had the passive aggressive type numpties once or twice and it didn't last long. Actually I would love you to link or GTFO on this odd contention of yours. Then again going by your left field interpretation of my last post, this would likely spread to others and be so daft as to be a waste of time.

Compromise is inherent to any relationship and anyone thinking otherwise is deluding themselves.

And what was the position of the post I quoted? It talked about equality and how the "boss" position ebbs and flows between equals. Do try to keep up.

Millicent

Confab wrote: »

My natural brilliance. Why?

It doesn't seem to be naturally working.

later12

I am; female

TheZohan wrote: »

Well guys and gals who would you consider to be the boss of your relationships? Now ideally there should be no 'boss' of a relationship but we're living in the real world here. Myself, well I've always come up with the best ideas but sometimes to keep the peace I've compromised...and then for my suggestions to be accepted as the best way forward...


...so who's the boss in your relationship?

For the poll I've made it that only one person is boss and tbf that's just the way it is..

Poll needed at least 2 more options

He is; female
and
She is; male

As it is, the poll is only an AH headcount, as there is one option for males and one for females.

Pherekydes

later10 wrote: »

As it is, the poll is only an AH headcount, as there is one option for males and one for females.

As ever, some of us think differently.

minidazzler

I have a friend who explains his relationship like this.

"Mini, I'm the boss in my relationship, I know I'm the boss, and do you know HOW I know I'm the Boss? Because Sarah told me I'm the boss. I asked her and she said I'm the boss.

Sarah, Am I the boss?"

Sarah: "You are babe, now get me a cup of tea."

We all had tea 5 minutes later!