You meet a person, you date, how long would you wait for sex?

LighterGuy

... And theres a poll :pac:

For me?
3 dates... Not only because of contact such as texting or phone calls adds to getting to know someone. But, lets be honest after the first date people know if they wanna see the other again / never wanna see them again / just sleep with them / just use them to have a night out again.
So for me why shouldnt things progress further after the third date because you just run the risk of wasting your time. A person is either into you or not.

But thats me,
what about you?

(for a goof i added the last entry as " .. more / until they are ready" how many people will give the BS answer of "sure, i'd wait" )

Adam

Who dates??

kieranfitz

I was torn between 3 and when they're ready. Voted for 3, not so much because I wouldn't wait longer (it happens when it happens) but I wouldn't be expecting it before the third anyway

LighterGuy

kieranfitz wrote: »

I was torn between 3 and when they're ready. Voted for 3, not so much because I wouldn't wait longer (it happens when it happens) but I wouldn't be expecting it before the third anyway

I think we are on the same wave length
Asking for sex before 3 might ruin your chances of having more with the girl (of course, if said person wanted more and not just sex) But 3 is giving someone enough time to not appear to using them for sex. Because, as i said above, if after 3 dates and someone shows signs that they are unsure they wanna sleep with you? ... not a good sign in my book.

Hasmunch

3 maybe 4... minutes.



Do you like rape?
No!!
Thats the spirit

Paddy Cow

LighterGuy wrote: »

I think we are on the same wave length
Asking for sex before 3 might ruin your chances of having more with the girl (of course, if said person wanted more and not just sex) But 3 is giving someone enough time to not appear to using them for sex. Because, as i said above, if after 3 dates and someone shows signs that they are unsure they wanna sleep with you? ... not a good sign in my book.

Some couples wait 3 months. Would you run a mile if someone asked you to wait that long?

flutterflye

I haven't been single in a very long time!
But I'd imagine that it's different for everyone.
There are too many variables to determine a set time.
Could be the first night, or could be after a few months.
Just go with the flow.

battser

Paddy Cow wrote: »

Some couples wait 3 months. Would you run a mile if someone asked you to wait that long?

I'll handle this Lighterguy for the both of us.

HELL YES

LighterGuy

battser wrote: »

I'll handle this Lighterguy for the both of us.

HELL YES

I feel a friendship coming on battser :pac:

Stercus Accidit

You should ideally have sex before you meet the new person, to put everyone at ease. You do however need a very long member and good aim, you don't want to hit a stray cat or nettle bush.

Hasmunch

LighterGuy wrote: »

I feel a friendship coming on battser :pac:

How many dates till the sex though??

battser

What? Dates? I just sent the PM to skip all that shiiiizzz :pac::pac:

EKClarke

Before the date.

MidnightQueen

When the person is ready, it doesnt matter how many times or how many nights you meet them. Sex is meant to come naturally and not planned but thats just me.

myflipflops

You are supposed to have a rule of thumb for this sort of thing these days??

I'm getting old.

strobe

myflipflops wrote: »

You are supposed to have a rule of thumb for this sort of thing these days??

I'm getting old.

Actually I think it's an old person thing to have a rule of thumb about 'Oh wait till the third date' etc, isn't it? Sounds like the kind of thing ye hear talked about in 70's TV shows...

leonidas83

bottle of rose and bit of cheese and you'll be sorted after the second;)

best aphrodisiac I know of

Northern Monkey

Come on lads this is Ireland. You have to wait until you get married.

Davidius

6 months. Then we can kiss.

dingdong1234567

Dating!? 2hours Max then its out with the old chap.....ship ahoy!

super_furry

Realistically, if it goes over a couple of months then you'd start worrying.

RubyRoss

super_furry wrote: »

Realistically, if it goes over a couple of months then you'd start worrying.

If you never spoke about it yeah there would be worry but during those months you'd imagine it would be discussed why someone had to wait or decline...

efb

I pulled you at 2.54am- it wasn't for your witty charm, bend over!

westendgirlie

Well I'm not single but if I were......

Would have to be before dinner. Takes ages for my food to digest, somehow it stays in my throat for ages and that's not good!

stupidusername

EKClarke wrote: »

Before the date.

That'd be great,get rid of the nerves and all

The three dates thing is irritating.people need to stop picking things up from american tv.

If someone held me to a rule like that,he'd be swiftly told where to go.

For me it'd depend entirely on how I feel about them,how they feel,the situation etc. There shouldn't be rules for this ****

give it a week

stovelid

Somewhere between the starter and main.

Perhaps desert if she's a keeper.

desert would be a little dry for that

Sky King

how long would you wait...?

Don't just sit around waiting, you need to be pro-active in order to get it rode.

You'll never fong the gowel off anything with that defeatist attitude.

stovelid

bluewolf wrote: »

desert would be a little dry for that

Wouldn't like to see your other puns if that's anything to Gobi.




:pac:

Sky King

stovelid wrote: »

Wouldn't like to see your other puns if that's anything to Gobi.

Heard she has nice puns alright.

stovelid

Sky King wrote: »

Heard she has nice puns alright.

While there is a grain of truth in it, it's been dune to death now, in fairness.

K-9

stovelid wrote: »

While there is a grain of truth in it, it's been dune to death now, in fairness.

Time to draw a line ...............

stovelid

On a serious note, I wouldn't expect sex on the first few dates but if it went to something like 6 or 7 dates or something, I'd probably be perturbed unless there was some genuine issue.

Not because you necessarily have to sleep with somebody within that time frame, but to be honest, I'd probably be thinking they were a bit moralistic or inhibited.

mojesius

I think it's important to take the car for a test drive before you buy it. Just being honest here, there'd be nothing worse than spending loads of time getting to know someone, only to find out that there's a button mushroom-sized member waiting for you in his trousers, which he has no idea how to use properly.

Korvanica

I believe the national average is 4.62 seconds, according to a survey of 10,000 men and women. Source*

*57% of statistics are made up on the spot

howamidifferent

mojesius wrote: »

I think it's important to take the car for a test drive before you buy it. Just being honest here, there'd be nothing worse than spending loads of time getting to know someone, only to find out that there's a button mushroom-sized member waiting for you in his trousers, which he has no idea how to use properly.

I thought size didnt matter? :eek:

alexr1

about an hour maybe

Ice87

I think there should be a cash limit.

No more than 300 because if you were to offer it up front she'd probably bite the flute off ya.

Eric Cartman

The same night ive met them, if theyre good for it on the first nigjt then theres potential ,if they want to wait any longer ill hang in till i get the ride , call it mission accomplished and it doesnt really bother me if i see them again or not

AnnaVanilla

3 months? Definitely not. Life's too short. If I think he's fun, sweet and sexy and we meet up again (sober) and I still think that, then sure why not

Teyla Emmagan

As long as it takes until it feels right. Which could be on the first night, you never know.

kieranfitz

Well if someone found me irresistible and wanted me on date one I wouldn't say no, but I look like a bag of boiled ****e so I need time to wear them down

Depends on the girl.. The new gf is fairly traditional so I'll be waiting another couple of weeks with about 3/4 dates a week.

stupidusername

Deleted User wrote: »

Depends on the girl.. The new gf is fairly traditional so I'll be waiting another couple of weeks with about 3/4 dates a week.

so the tradition there is to wait until your 8th date?

duiggers

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

As long as it takes until it feels right. Which could be on the first night, you never know.

This is exactly right, no one should have it set in their mind that it takes this number of dates to get me into bed.

If the chemistry is there the 1st night go ahead, if it takes a few more dates for it to feel right then thats fine too

stupidusername

stupidusername wrote: »

so the tradition there is to wait until your 8th date?

No it's tradition to wait until marriage.. Her job has her travelling to other countries a lot so she's a bit more westernised.

Da Shins Kelly

I don't like the idea of having a set time planned in mind before it happens. The third date might arrive and the moment just doesn't happen or it doesn't feel right or whatever. It'll happen naturally if it's going to happen at all. Not to mention that having it planned to happen on such a date kinda kills the spontaneity of it.

MegaWattKungFu

Whenever both people feel like it. Living life off a number/rule seems pretty silly.

stupidusername

Deleted User wrote: »

No it's tradition to wait until marriage.. Her job has her travelling to other countries a lot so she's a bit more westernised.

well then it's not traditional, if she's going to do it before marriage

Logical Fallacy

Whenever feels right...relationships don't work to a formula.