Do you have problems remembering chunks of riveting conversation as you get older?

Eve_Dublin

So tell me...does your memory get crappier as you get older or are you just not listening to me?

Had a funny situation today with "de fella" today...was having a conversation about LSD...not sure how it came up, but I said to him, "Well I told you about my cousin...that'd turn me off for life!" and he gave me the "what are you talking about?" look and I looked at him with the, "Why the feck am I going out with a man 10 years older than me with obvious signs of seniality again? You can't be for real...I've told you this story 3 times before and each time I was stunned you didn't remember? Maybe you're just not listening to me? Helllooooooo? Anybody there??" look.

The story of my cousin is one of my few interesting stories....long story short, he was arrested off his head one night, put into a police cell, thought his eye was full of spiders, pulled his eyeball out and had to get a glass one and became a Buddhist monk soon after.

I've so few really interesting stories that I was gutted he didn't remember this one.

Then again, I get to tell the same story again and again and I come across super-fascinating every time.

This happens every so often and he'd have no recollection of the conversation...so older AH members, when you hit your late 30s/early 40s, do you find your memory getting shoddier? Do you forget hole chunks of conversation like that?

Please tell me you do or I'll have to trade Grandad in for a flashier, younger model (only half joking).

TheZohanS

Yes, take last night and this morning for example...can't even remember the match...think pulling an all-nighter and drink might have had something to do with it.

Time for bed.

Edit: and I'm not even in the age group you're addressing.

Malari

Huh, you are lucky Eve, I'm going out with a man in his 40s who can't remember telling me his OWN stories. I've had to listen to the same ones countless times as it each telling was the first. Love, eh?

4leto

Yes it does, what seems to be happening to me is I am remembering the macro or the gist well.

But the micro and the details poorly. I wouldn't say its a problem just a nuisance.

BBDBB

................now, why did I come in here?

admiralofthefleet

why did the chicken cross the road?


worth two in the bush

Micky Dolenz

Is that you Granny? Get off the feckin internet for God's sake.

Chuck Stone

Are those my feet?

sgb

Went upstairs for something, can't remember what

Eve_Dublin

Malari wrote: »

Huh, you are lucky Eve, I'm going out with a man in his 40s who can't remember telling me his OWN stories. I've had to listen to the same ones countless times as it each telling was the first. Love, eh?

This happens as well, I'm afraid. So what do you do...do you pretend you never heard them or tell him? Because I think if you pretend you never heard them, they might be thinking, "I'm sure I told this story before...why doesn't she remember?" like me today or if you tell them you've heard it before, you sound a bit rude. Rock...me....hard place.

BluesBerry

Wait..... Your cousin pulled his eyeball out????? he is now a buddist monk???

Is this true for reals????

spider guardian

Well I've no reason to be posting in this thread really, but the content did remind me of a certain line from a certain The Who song...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cH9IgJZCx4c

Eve_Dublin, trade your partner in for a model with better memory, I'm doing the same with a computer next week.

Eve_Dublin

BluesBerry wrote: »

Wait..... Your cousin pulled his eyeball out????? he is now a buddist monk???

Is this true for reals????

Exactly! It's an unbelievable (and yes...true!) story! How, in the love of sweet spinning inflatable baby jesus in the sky, could someone forget that?








You're going to ask me what I just said in a second, aren't you?

Latchy

sgb wrote: »

Went upstairs for something, can't remember what

The most common and frequent one of the lot , next to when you return home and stick the key in the front door , then remember two or three things you ment , but forgot to do when you were out ...always just when you just put the key in

Malari

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

This happens as well, I'm afraid. So what do you do...do you pretend you never heard them or tell him? Because I think if you pretend you never heard them, they might be thinking, "I'm sure I told this story before...why doesn't she remember?" like me today or if you tell them you've heard it before, you sound a bit rude. Rock...me....hard place.

No, I remind him I've heard them before, but he just likes telling stories!

don ramo

could you repeat the question

General General

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lbQb3gd8ytM

alwaysadub

My boyfriend reakons i forget a few of our conversations alright.He's just as bad for retelling me things he's already told me though so it evens each other out

EGAR

Perhaps OP waffles too much and OH is tuning her out?

starlit

Sometimes I do but usually good at remembering most of a conversation.

don ramo

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RichieC

Your thoughts get louder as you age.

Dodd

It happens me all the time.I think I need up the amount of ram in my head from 8mb to 8 gig.:)
I don't know how anyone can remember every thing everyone has said to them.
I would usually say I'm sure I told you this before but......

My dad would repeat stories and I'd say you told me this before but I don't remember it much.

If you have time to listen then all good.

Ditch

Eve; Just wait till he's so bloody deaf ye have to shout ye stories to him.

Actually, the next decade or so will bring about a whole host of, er ..... 'changes'. " Life begins at forty ", it's said?

Sure. They just omit to mention what life begins to do ....!


Your cousin? Stuff of Legend!

kincsem

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

So tell me...does your memory get crappier as you get older or are you just not listening to me?

Had a funny situation today with "de fella" today...was having a conversation about LSD...

Some clues ...
1. You are a woman talking?
2.

mackg

Latchy wrote: »

The most common and frequent one of the lot , next to when you return home and stick the key in the front door , then remember two or three things you ment , but forgot to do when you were out ...always just when you just put the key in

What I get is I leave the house get half way up the road and can't remember closing the front door and I have to go back to check, once I had to go back twice

Eve_Dublin

EGAR wrote: »

Perhaps OP waffles too much and OH is tuning her out?

Definitely tend to waffle alright...but this story....lsd...prison cell....eyeball...pull out...glass eyeball....Buddhism. Even amongst all my waffling, you'd remember this story. The first time I told him he couldn't believe it and turned to his friend to tell him...

Eve_Dublin

kincsem wrote: »

Some clues ...
1. You are a woman talking?
2.

I getcha Because I've a massive pair of Devil's Dumplings, he can't concentrate...

Wertz

lol@ wimminz who think we actually listen to what they're saying, regardless of how interesting they think it is...

Seriously though, I'd recall that story if anyone ever told me it, but only because it has some good triggers like acid, police cell and glass eyes. Maybe he thinks you're a compulsive liar and it goes in one ear and out the other...

Dodd

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

Definitely tend to waffle alright...but this story....lsd...prison cell....eyeball...pull out...glass eyeball....Buddhism. Even amongst all my waffling, you'd remember this story. The first time I told him he couldn't believe it and turned to his friend to tell him...

I think most people would remember that for many many years.

But if say a person worked in the fire service and had seen or heard of much worse stuff they might not remember that as it is not as shocking to them as it would be to others.

OutlawPete

I blame broadband and wifi signals. Can't be good for us to have that stuff going through us. Messing up our chakras. Hairs are our aerials. They pick up signals from the cosmos, and transmit them directly into ours brain. Wifi and Broadband prevent that from happening.

Dudess

Not that I've noticed.

Capt'n Midnight

The most important thing to know about riveting conversation is not to shout out a warning when you drop one.

stovelid

No.

I'm 40, not 70.

professore

When you get to 30 your brain is full and can't hold anything anymore. Simples.

Oh and by the way he probably WASN'T listening to you.

What was the question again?

Pompey Magnus

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

I've so few really interesting stories that I was gutted he didn't remember this one.

He knows that you have very few interesting stories so he pretends to have no recollection of it just so you get the chance to "remind" him, what a gentleman!

Irish Guitarist

Maybe he doesn't believe you. Ask your cousin to visit and get him to pull out his glass eye and show your boyfriend. I'm sure he won't forget that.

As for whether I'm getting more forgetful, I suppose I am. I watched an old episode of Horizon about memory a couple of months ago and apparently everyones memory starts to diminish at a surprisingly early age. It think it may be either 25 or 27 but I can't remember exactly.

EDIT - I found the Horizon episode on my computer. Your brain starts to shrink when you turn 20. When you're 27 your memory starts to fade and by the time you reach 40 you lose 10,000 brain cells a day.

Capt'n Midnight

Irish Guitarist wrote: »

by the time you reach 40 you lose 10,000 brain cells a day.

“Well, you see, Norm, it’s like this. A herd of buffalo can only move as fast as the slowest buffalo. And when the herd is hunted, it’s the slowest and weakest ones at the back that are killed first. This natural selection is good for the herd as a whole, because the general speed and health of the whole group keeps improving by the regular killing of the weakest members.

In much the same way, the human brain can only operate as fast as the slowest brain cells. Now, as we know, excessive intake of alcohol kills brain cells. But naturally, it attacks the slowest and weakest brain cells first. In this way, regular consumption of beer eliminates the weaker brain cells, making the brain a faster and more efficient machine.

And that, Norm, is why you always feel smarter after a few beers.”

seamus

I don't entirely forget stories, but when my wife says stuff like, "Remember when I told you about so-and-so?" I often have a Dougal moment.

Eve_Dublin

Ah this old chestnut...forgot I posted this thread up..

ejmaztec

My wife tells stories and has "forgotten" that they're mine. I fuckin hate story-stealers.:(