Not telling people sex of your baby when you know

Carter P Fly

Right so a neighbor is expecting twins and people have asked the normal question about what sex the kids are. often people respond that they don't want to know so its a surprise but this one says she knows but isn't saying.

I think this is being annoying and makes me not want to make not want to bother about her anymore. If she wants to be a dick she can f*c k off with herself

I asked in work and got responses like, Its no ones business, I don't buy that, baby gender is not a taboo subject.

I got the response that people dont want to jinx it and dont buy that answer either, I get the 3 month rule of not saying your pregnant, 7-9 months when your very very clearly showing makes that a moot reason.

So Boards, explain this to me please?????

Seachmall

She thinks you're a pervert and doesn't want you fantasizing about her fetus.

Chuck Stone

Are you a man?

Why do you give a shit?

MrStuffins

What the f*ck makes you think you're entitled to know the sex of her baby?

Stop being just a nosey c*nt!

OneArt

It's really nothing to get your petunias in a twist about, I'd certainly withhold from telling people if it annoyed them so much for the entertainment value.

mfceiling

You're a nosey bollix OP...

What business is it of yours what sex her babies are?

Andromeda_111

Go buy a jar of coffee, open it up and take a big sniff!
Seriously, there are some things that should annoy you during your life time. This is not one of them.;)

Temptamperu

Carter P Fly wrote: »

Right so a neighbor is expecting twins and people have asked the normal question about what sex the kids are. often people respond that they don't want to know so its a surprise but this one says she knows but isn't saying.

I think this is being annoying and makes me not want to make not want to bother about her anymore. If she wants to be a dick she can f*c k off with herself

I asked in work and got responses like, Its no ones business, I don't buy that, baby gender is not a taboo subject.

I got the response that people dont want to jinx it and dont buy that answer either, I get the 3 month rule of not saying your pregnant, 7-9 months when your very very clearly showing makes that a moot reason.

So Boards, explain this to me please?????

And yet we have a new topic, interesting.

Chuck Stone

Carter P Fly wrote: »

So Boards, explain this to me please?????

No, you.

Thrill

This makes me angry. We should all be told the sex of her babies. Not just the OP. It's our god given right.

Are we still living in the dark ages or what. The days when people were allowed to keep things to themselves are long gone.

The OP should march straight over to her home, demand to know if the twins are gonna be girls, boys or one of each. Also demand to know what she had for breakfast.

TheZohanS

Soooo...New Zealand are playing France in the rugby tomorrow morning, should be a great match.

seanybiker

TheZohan wrote: »

Soooo...New Zealand are playing France in the rugby tomorrow morning, should be a great match.

Dont like rugby. Enjoy the match though.

Dangerous Man

TheZohan wrote: »

Soooo...New Zealand are playing France in the rugby tomorrow morning, should be a great match.

Yeah - it's probably on at about 04:30 or some such shit. That puts me in a quandry. Do I go out, get drunk - and attempt to stay up to watch it. Or do I have a quiet night, go to bed early and then get up early to watch it? There's a sixteen hour difference between Canada and New Zealand. It must be nice to watch it in Ireland though - watching Rugby at one in the morning at the weekend. Awesome.

Chuck Stone

TheZohan wrote: »

Soooo...New Zealand are playing France in the rugby tomorrow morning, should be a great match.

RaboDirect PRO12 on tonight and tomorrow too.

Blues v Munster 19:05 tonight RTE2

Scarlets V Leinster 18:30 tomorrow S4C/TG4.

MrStuffins

TheZohan wrote: »

Soooo...New Zealand are playing France in the rugby tomorrow morning, should be a great match.

What colour underwear will your missus be wearing while you watch it?

If you don't tell me, it'll make me not want to bother with you anymore!

MitchKoobski

She won't tell you because she's the one having twins and you're being nosy and won't take the hint to mind your own business.


Does said explanation suffice?

angeldelight

Seriously get over yourself. They are her children, who cares why she doesn't want to tell the sex, that's her choice. Stop being so nosey and find something else to occupy yourself with

FatherTed

I think it would be ok to tell your friend after the baby is born "Well, I don't give a shyt about your baby, you wouldn't tell me the sex a month ago".

languagenerd

Eh... what? Seriously?! Wow, you're easily wound up.

Does it bother you not knowing what gender other posters in this thread are too? :P

Gandhi

Carter P Fly wrote: »

Right so a neighbor is expecting twins and people have asked the normal question about what sex the kids are. often people respond that they don't want to know so its a surprise but this one says she knows but isn't saying.

I think this is being annoying and makes me not want to make not want to bother about her anymore. If she wants to be a dick she can f*c k off with herself

I asked in work and got responses like, Its no ones business, I don't buy that, baby gender is not a taboo subject.

I got the response that people dont want to jinx it and dont buy that answer either, I get the 3 month rule of not saying your pregnant, 7-9 months when your very very clearly showing makes that a moot reason.

So Boards, explain this to me please?????

Short answer is, they are her own babies, so it is her own business. However, you already got that answer, so I am guessing you want some grossly unqualified speculation from people who have never met her. My top four possible reasons for this:

1. Everyone knowing the sex takes away the surprise. Whenever I hear the news that someone's baby was born, I am always excited to know the sex, and then somewhat less excited to hear the name, and then I pretty much stop caring. When I know the sex already, and sometimes people will have announced the name already, it is a bit of a "meh" to hear the news that the baby was finally born. Obvious exception is when the baby is born to a close friend or relative.

2. To expand on the "name" thing, if everyone knows the sex, they then want to know the name. When people know the name before the baby is born, they are more likely to give opinions on it. If the baby is born and she sends out an announcement saying "Our Little <Name> was born at ...etc" then people keep their opinions to themselves.

3. It is also possible that she did not want to know the sex herself, but I think when it is twins they tell you whether you ask or not. She may be disappointed the surprise was spoiled for her, but thinks she can at least preserve it for everyone else.

4. Maybe she knows you are the kind of person who would go nuts over this, so she is just torturing you. She probably is not even pregnant.

bronte

Take your pick:

1) She's superstitious

2) She's being an attention -whore

3) Who cares?

4)Are you honestly a guy and give a crap about this??!

Little Acorn

Maybe the father of the twins, or the twin's grandparents, or the twin's aunties and uncles, don't know the sex and don't want to know yet.
They may want it to be a surprise, so maybe the mother is not going to go around telling everyone who just happen to be her neighbour, or all her friends, incase someone accidentally lets it slip to the father or grandparents.

Why do you care so much?

hondasam

Carter P Fly wrote: »

So Boards, explain this to me please?????

Baby's are boring, baby talk is even more boring.

stovelid

We knew and didn't say just to annoy nosey cunts that should have better things to do than wondering about the gender of unborn children that aren't theirs.

Minstrel27

Carter P Fly wrote: »

Right so a neighbor is expecting twins and people have asked the normal question about what sex the kids are. often people respond that they don't want to know so its a surprise but this one says she knows but isn't saying.

I think this is being annoying and makes me not want to make not want to bother about her anymore. If she wants to be a dick she can f*c k off with herself

I asked in work and got responses like, Its no ones business, I don't buy that, baby gender is not a taboo subject.

I got the response that people dont want to jinx it and dont buy that answer either, I get the 3 month rule of not saying your pregnant, 7-9 months when your very very clearly showing makes that a moot reason.

So Boards, explain this to me please?????

lol

snickerpuss

I know someone who was having girl twins but told everyone she didn't know cos she didn't want a ton of pink clothes. Got lots of yellow and white and was only delighted with herself.

booboo88

who gives a crap if the twins are even hermaphrodites......:rolleyes:

My name is URL

baby gender is not a taboo subject.

That made me laugh for some reason.

Fluorescence

My aunt told people she was having a boy - got looaaaaaaaaads of blue clothes as presents. She hates blue. For the second (it was also a boy) she didn't tell people - just told them she wanted it to be a surprise. That way the gifts weren't all generic pink/blue baby crap. Not that anyone owed her gifts or anything, it's just something people do :pac:. So maybe this woman doesn't want pink/blue stuff for her twins?

Or, maybe, she knows it pisses you off and is trying to wind you up

Micky Dolenz

What's with all the sexiest comments?.

Men care about sex too ya know.

Anyhow,OP, it's not her, it's you.

latenightpass

Carter P Fly wrote: »

Right so a neighbor is expecting twins and people have asked the normal question about what sex the kids are. often people respond that they don't want to know so its a surprise but this one says she knows but isn't saying.

I think this is being annoying and makes me not want to make not want to bother about her anymore. If she wants to be a dick she can f*c k off with herself

I asked in work and got responses like, Its no ones business, I don't buy that, baby gender is not a taboo subject.

I got the response that people dont want to jinx it and dont buy that answer either, I get the 3 month rule of not saying your pregnant, 7-9 months when your very very clearly showing makes that a moot reason.

So Boards, explain this to me please?????

First time I could give a real answer to a boards question!

I'm the dad of a three year old and twins, almost a year old, so I can tell you from her perspective.

We didn't find out what our first kid was and it was a surprise to us and everyone else. We decided to find out our twins sex cause we couldn't get our heads around the whole thing. We told people we didn't know.

We decided not to tell other people because:

(a) we were afraid something could go wrong and there's a much higher chance with twins
(b) wanted to keep it as a surprise for our families etc
(c) when people hear you are having twins they bombard you with the same questions like, the sex, names, are there twins in the family. did he leave it in too long!
(d) being pregnant is tough physically, being pregnant with twins is about four times as bad and she probably hasn't the energy to deal with the questions.

So cut the girl some slack!

PseudoFamous

hondasam wrote: »

Baby's are boring, baby talk is even more boring.

I have come to the conclusion that you're actually a man from that post.

Fluorescence

PseudoFamous wrote: »

I have come to the conclusion that you're actually a man from that post.

I'm a woman and I find babies incredibly dull. Talking about them even more so.

hondasam

PseudoFamous wrote: »

I have come to the conclusion that you're actually a man from that post.

What makes you think that? are all women interested in babies?

booboo88

hondasam wrote: »

What makes you think that? are all women interested in babies?

haha he clearly hasnt met me then.....babies are a no no.

hondasam

booboo88 wrote: »

haha he clearly hasnt met me then.....babies are a no no.

I like babies, just can't stand people who go on about them all the time.
It's boring to everyone else, leave the baby talk at home and let me enjoy my lunch in comfort.

RachaelVO

Carter P Fly wrote: »

Right so a neighbor is expecting twins and people have asked the normal question about what sex the kids are. often people respond that they don't want to know so its a surprise but this one says she knows but isn't saying.

I think this is being annoying and makes me not want to make not want to bother about her anymore. If she wants to be a dick she can f*c k off with herself

The fcuking cheek of her not telling you something that is none of your bloody business. She should be b1tchslapped up side the head!!! :rolleyes:

Snowie

Funniest thing I've read in days

3ndahalfof6

the op is the dad i think he has every right to know, just leave her.

cofy

Maybe OP she just wants to have something about this pregnancy that is just between her and her husband. It's very creepy that you obviously feel the right to know everything that goes on with this person and her pregnancy.

BBDBB

actually

now I want to know the sex of this womans babies

and I think its damned inconsiderate of the vile bitch not to tell us

Gal pal

Jesus OP are you 4 real??

Gal pal

fluorescence wrote: »

I'm a woman and I find babies incredibly dull. Talking about them even more so.

Agreed times a million.

Kevin Duffy

Carter P Fly wrote: »

Right so a neighbor is expecting twins and people have asked the normal question about what sex the kids are. often people respond that they don't want to know so its a surprise but this one says she knows but isn't saying.

I think this is being annoying and makes me not want to make not want to bother about her anymore. If she wants to be a dick she can f*c k off with herself

I asked in work and got responses like, Its no ones business, I don't buy that, baby gender is not a taboo subject.

I got the response that people dont want to jinx it and dont buy that answer either, I get the 3 month rule of not saying your pregnant, 7-9 months when your very very clearly showing makes that a moot reason.

So Boards, explain this to me please?????

So not only do you waste your time worrying about the irrelevant question of the sex of a neighbour's baby, but you also outed yourself as a nosy arséhole to your colleagues. Well done.

PhysiologyRocks

It's not something I'd lose any sleep over, but I actually do find it a little bit odd. It strikes me as keeping a secret for the sake of it.

Not knowing the gender of the child would not bother me, but I think it perfectly reasonable to question the motive.

I acknowledge, however, that nobody has to tell anyone anything.

cynder

I would tell anyone who would listen that my baby was a girl but said sometimes hospitals make mistakes and it might end up a boy.

If someone knows the sex of their child they might as well just come out and say it rather than be secretive.

after i had my lady i phoned my sister in law up and asked if they were planning on having any, she snapped at me, " you know just well the doctor told me i couldn't have kids" making me feel so guilty i asked, and that i was unwed and had a baby and she was married to my brother and could not.

Any way less than a week later my mom phoned to tell me that the said sister in law was 4 months pregnant, that they had told a friend who had phoned my aunt in Spain who had phoned my granny in Ireland who had phoned my mom in the UK to ask why my mom hadn't told them that my brother and wife were going to have a baby.

To sum it up, some people are just obnoxious!

Gal pal

PhysiologyRocks wrote: »

but I think it perfectly reasonable to question the motive.

The motive is definitely to annoy the crap out of op, op think back I bet you've done this to her before??

Gal pal

grindelwald wrote: »

I would tell anyone who would listen that my baby was a girl but said sometimes hospitals make mistakes and it might end up a boy.

If someone knows the sex of their child they might as well just come out and say it rather than be secretive.

after i had my lady i phoned my sister in law up and asked if they were planning on having any, she snapped at me, " you know just well the doctor told me i couldn't have kids" making me feel so guilty i asked, and that i was unwed and had a baby and she was married to my brother and could not.

Any way less than a week later my mom phoned to tell me that the said sister in law was 4 months pregnant, that they had told a friend in cork who had phoned my aunt in Spain who had phoned my granny in Ireland who had phoned my mom in the UK to ask why my mom hadn't told them that my brother and wife were going to have a baby.

To sum it up, some people are just obnoxious!

Sorry kinda agree with your sister-in-law on that one!

Maybe she was told she couldn't have kids, but then she found out she was.

You just never know what's going on between a couple in private, if people knew how many times I've been pregnant and yet I'm babyless they would realise that that those casual little comments like ''so when are you having your first??'' ''how many kids do you want?'' are actually a little hard to stomach.

sunflower27

This is all really odd.

Leave the poor woman alone. I can't believe you have even posted this, let alone going to work and talking about it to get opinions.

hondasam

What is wrong with waiting nine months and everyone will know what it is.
I can't understand why people want to know, parents included.

cynder

Gal pal wrote: »

Sorry kinda agree with your sister-in-law on that one!

Maybe she was told she couldn't have kids, but then she found out she was.

You just never know what's going on between a couple in private, if people knew how many times I've been pregnant and yet I'm babyless they would realise that that those casual little comments like ''so when are you having your first??'' ''how many kids do you want?'' are actually a little hard to stomach.

She was told at 15 that there was a CHANCE she could not have kids, so after 2 years of marriage and her asking about my daughter i asked were they planning on trying to have kids, a normal question for anyone to ask 1000s of people have been told they cant have kids and go on to have them.

When i asked her she was already 4 months pregnant and she snapped 'you know just well the doctor told me i couldn't have kids' , to me that's a hugh lie.

why would you say that to someone when down home everyone knows and she even have a belly to prove it.

The excuse she told my mom was that they were waiting to go over to the uk before they told her (another 6 weeks away) so they could do it face to face, yet they told everyone where they lived.

Would you not tell your parents first, her parents knew via a phone call so why the big secrecy regarding her husbands family. why lie to me on the phone, i never asked her why she did as there was no point as, she is just an obnoxious person..... always has been and always will be!

My brother wanted to tell us it was her and her funny ways......

Back on topic, i think its a very normal question to ask ' do you know what your having a boy or a girl? ' if i was the op i wouldn't bother asking about the babies any more.