how many girls have you dated at once?

slum dog

Ever since Ive moved into the city I have been seeing three women at once on a regular basis. I wouldnt consider it cheating since I havent yet committed myself to any of them, yet the most recent girl I have hooked up with has blown me away and I may think of committing myself to her. I dont see anything wrong with it until I actually make itofficial so I wouldnt consider what Im doing wrong.
So just out of curiosity how many girls have you dated at once?

Logical Fallacy

3 was my max.

I was happy to keep it noncommittal and so were they and they knew i was dating other people and 2 of them were dating other fellas.

Happy days.

Edit : Come to think of it there wasn't too many dates but there was a lot of sex and pizza.

The_Kew_Tour

3

Was texting 6 on go one time...

hmmm Honestly tough even though some my mates taught I was a legend at time, the wheel always turns.

Tbh I did really have a clue at time what I was doing, or who I wanted to see, was ego boost tough wont lie about that..

slum dog

i'd say 6 would be hard to manage? i can only make time for sleeping with 3 women a week or im exhausted. like last night this chick im seeing from latvia stayed over in my house but i could only do it once cause the night before i stayed in another girls house from coppers { :rolleyes: } and did the deed three times while doing 12 hour shifts in the mean time. Life is so hard at times but honestly 6 ?

Logical Fallacy

slum dog wrote: »

i stayed in another girls house from coppers { :rolleyes: }

Danger Will Robinson!!!!!!:D

Side Show Bob

slum dog wrote: »

Ever since Ive moved into the city I have been seeing three women at once on a regular basis. I wouldnt consider it cheating since I havent yet committed myself to any of them, yet the most recent girl I have hooked up with has blown me away and I may think of committing myself to her. I dont see anything wrong with it until I actually make itofficial so I wouldnt consider what Im doing wrong.
So just out of curiosity how many girls have you dated at once?

You have really got to bag all three at the one time!

The_Kew_Tour

slum dog wrote: »

i'd say 6 would be hard to manage? i can only make time for sleeping with 3 women a week or im exhausted. like last night this chick im seeing from latvia stayed over in my house but i could only do it once cause the night before i stayed in another girls house from coppers { :rolleyes: } and did the deed three times while doing 12 hour shifts in the mean time. Life is so hard at times but honestly 6 ?

was that question for me?

just to clarify like i said was only texting 6 at one time, dating wise it was 3..

just was on roll scoring wise few years back, got numbers and well sure id bit of flirting;)..

slum dog

Logical Fallacy wrote: »

Danger Will Robinson!!!!!!:D

what could possibly go wrong?

Logical Fallacy

slum dog wrote: »

what could possibly go wrong?

You wake up the next day with a kidney missing.

It happens dude.:pac:

Galvasean

ALL OF THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!! :cool:

Think I once went on 3 first date type dates in just over a week one time (online dating FTW). Was a bit weird to be honest. Don't think I'd manage to properly date multiple women at the same time though, not that there's anything wrong with it once everyone knows what the story is. I just don't personally think I could get to like someone properly if I was constantly weighing up my options.

leggo

I was seeing/texting four with the same name once before. To tell the truth, it started with two and then I added the other two (one was from work, one was a gal I'd dated briefly in the past and re-ignited it temporarily for this exact purpose) just to make it a better story. I called them Old, New, Borrowed and Blue - not to their face, obviously. Texting them was a nightmare, though, because the wrong message could easily be sent to the wrong person. And it was on several occasions. Drinking and texting was like playing Russian Roulette with my lovelife. I wasn't being a scumbag, none of them had me exclusively so it was fair game.

I've been seeing a few girls at the same time plenty (in younger days when I had the ego that needed satiating and was energetic/bothered enough to do so). I've found that it never ends well. Not necessarily with drama...but if you liked them enough you wouldn't be seeing someone else to fill the hole they can't. So it always just comes down to a sex/ego/boredom thing.

I think 3 here too, seems to be a common number on the thread. However I do not think "at the same time" is really accurate in most cases. It is more a sequential thing.

However I am now currently with 2 literally at the same time so that is why I would distinguish pedentically between sequential and parallel.

Dravokivich

Not one for multi-tasking meself, t'is just been the one simultaneously.

Lordofweld

Was 3 for me a few years ago too but tryin to text 3 women is a disaster to remember the conversations, especially when ya get the one who just wont stop and gets thick when ya dont reply in 2 minutes. The_Kew_Tour is right about an ego boost tho.

LeeHoffmann

3 is the magic number

I never did the whole dating thing...well, I went on one date and now I'm marrying the guy. There's no harm as long as everyone knows where they're at, but it must get confusing - do ye ever have to resort to using nicknames because you can't remember their real ones?

minidazzler

3 when they just happened to overlap for about a week, two for a few weeks a couple of times.

py2006

LeeHoffmann wrote: »

3 is the magic number

I never did the whole dating thing...well, I went on one date and now I'm marrying the guy. There's no harm as long as everyone knows where they're at, but it must get confusing - do ye ever have to resort to using nicknames because you can't remember their real ones?

Eh, one date and now your getting married?? :eek:

py2006

I have to say, if I was dating a girl I would be a bit put off if she told me she was dating other guys! But thats assuming I liked her I guess!

paulmclaughlin

517. But I was off my game.

A0

Sounds like some people confuse dates and intimate encounters :rolleyes:
For me the answer is one. As I think one at once is perfect as you get to know each other fairly well, I'd find confusing to "juggle" between different people. And thinking the other way around, it'd be THE turn off if a woman I date was telling me: "btw, I'm dating other men...".

Logical Fallacy

A0 wrote: »

Sounds like some people confuse dates and intimate encounters :rolleyes:

Not really.

Eve_Dublin

Interesting. I'd agree with the idea that as along as everyone knows what the story is, no problems. There's definitely this attitude in Ireland that if you see someone beyond date 2, you're going out with them. This is considered the norm in the states and I think they're dead right. Keep you're options open and have a bit of fun while you still can.

Saying that, I've never slept with more than one guy at the same time. I like to put 100% of myself into whoever I'm with sex-wise, even if it's only a casual thing. The more you work at it with one person, the better it can get (and if not, then bye bye). For a woman, I'm a crappy multi-tasker and can generally only do one thing at a time (although I'm drinking a cup of tea as I type this..check out de skills!).

leggo

A0 wrote: »

Sounds like some people confuse dates and intimate encounters :rolleyes:
For me the answer is one. As I think one at once is perfect as you get to know each other fairly well, I'd find confusing to "juggle" between different people. And thinking the other way around, it'd be THE turn off if a woman I date was telling me: "btw, I'm dating other men...".

For me, dating is when you're seeing someone regularly in an intimate way.

Being in a relationship is when you're exclusive.

And an intimate encounter, as you described, is a one-time only deal.

What's confusing?

Frank Black

Is 'dating' someone the same as 'going out' with someone?
We didn't have 'dating' back in my day (that'd be the 90's) - certainly not in the midlands anyway.

A0

leggo wrote: »

For me, dating is when you're seeing someone regularly in an intimate way.

Being in a relationship is when you're exclusive.

And an intimate encounter, as you described, is a one-time only deal.

What's confusing?

Nothing, the three terms are pretty well defined, I would probably add a romantic spin somewhere

Frank Black

A0 wrote: »

Nothing, the three terms are pretty well defined, I would probably add a romantic spin somewhere

Jesus - let's not confuse things further - we need to establish proper definitions for these terms - I not even sure if that's some kind of 'sex-move' or something.

A0

black francis wrote: »

Jesus - let's not confuse things further - we need to establish proper definitions for these terms - I not even sure if that's some kind of 'sex-move' or something.

Hahaha!

mrmorgan

I once had five on the go and one turned out to be a tranny. that was not nice as we were after doing it up the "no babies" the week before. why didn't i just reach around

visual

mrmorgan wrote: »

I once had five on the go and one turned out to be a tranny. that was not nice as we were after doing it up the "no babies" the week before. why didn't i just reach around

:eek: to late now for hindsight

you enjoyed your self and in later life you can have a good laugh

gargleblaster

Five I guess, but not serious dating. I'd have two or three that I was seeing and then sometimes a couple more just for fun.

stupidusername

jeez, dunno how all of you have had so many people interested at the one time. i suppose the relationships I had, they were full blown relationships very early on, so it just never happened for me.

Sky King

Maybe there's a quality / quantity trade-off going on here....

Kevin Duffy

3. They all knew about each other and sometimes bumped into each other 2 at a time and would chat. On one occasion all 3 bumped into each other at my place and a good old girly chinwag broke out with lashings of tea. I was the proverbial spare prick and went to another room to read a book. I think they forgot I was there and I never even got a cup of tea

wayfarers

OP for the love of f**k never ever disclose to the girl you're thinking of getting serious with that you were seeing two other birds at the same time. You'd be surprised at the amount of guys who decide to start a clean slate with a girl and tell all.

Sky King

I second the above and girls, please don;t tell the guy the number of guys you;ve slept with - especially the morning after your first night together and especially if that number exceeds 20.

Kevin Duffy

If forced by your wife to divulge your rap sheet, start counting and say "Well, in order, 1, 2, 3, yourself, 5, 6......" and she won't ask again :pac:

Kya1976

Sky King wrote: »

I second the above and girls, please don;t tell the guy the number of guys you;ve slept with - especially the morning after your first night together and especially if that number exceeds 20.

If the bloke asks why wouldn't you tell?

I have dated 2 at the same time, it wasn't serious with neither of them and nothing came of it. It was just a bit of fun on both parts.

Sky King

Oh right, well if he asks, then fair enough, but I wouldn't volunteer it by means of initiating a discussion

wayfarers

Kya1976 wrote: »

If the bloke asks why wouldn't you tell?

I have dated 2 at the same time, it wasn't serious with neither of them and nothing came of it. It was just a bit of fun on both parts.

Wouldn't a fella asking you how my lads you've been with set alarm bells ringing? I wouldn't ask and would be pretty pissed off if someone asked me. Ignorance is bliss.

Kevin Duffy

Kya1976 wrote: »

If the bloke asks why wouldn't you tell?

I have dated 2 at the same time, it wasn't serious with neither of them and nothing came of it. It was just a bit of fun on both parts.

Because we love delusion. We don't really need to know the truth. If you feel you need to answer, something like "well, there was that girl after a pillow fight in our bras and knickers in college, does that count?" will do nicely thanks

Kya1976

Sky King wrote: »

Oh right, well if he asks, then fair enough, but I wouldn't volunteer it by means of initiating a discussion

Sure I get what you mean.
I wouldn't really care if a bloke told me how many people he had slept with. I would usually ask at some stage anyway, I'm just a bit curious I guess:P

Kya1976

wayfarers wrote: »

Wouldn't a fella asking you how my lads you've been with set alarm bells ringing? I wouldn't ask and would be pretty pissed off if someone asked me. Ignorance is bliss.

No not really, I like to know a bit about their sexual history, don't think there is anything odd about that.
Sure I wouldn't go into any details, but asking someone how many people they have slept with is no big deal really.

wayfarers

Kya1976 wrote: »

No not really, I like to know a bit about their sexual history, don't think there is anything odd about that.
Sure I wouldn't go into any details, but asking someone how many people they have slept with is no big deal really.

Ok, but say we were a nice little courtin' couple and one evening we're sat watching tv and the subject comes up and I answer your question with "I dunno, I kinda lost count once it hit three figures" what would your reaction be? I'm assuming you'd prefer to hear me say "oh five including you but you were definitely the best" which would be a lie so as I stated before there's no point really in knowing or wanting to know.

Kya1976

wayfarers wrote: »

Ok, but say we were a nice little courtin' couple and one evening we're sat watching tv and the subject comes up and I answer your question with "I dunno, I kinda lost count once it hit three figures" what would your reaction be? I'm assuming you'd prefer to hear me say "oh five including you but you were definitely the best" which would be a lie so as I stated before there's no point really in knowing or wanting to know.

I dunno, I just don't think it'd bother me, it never has in the past.
I've never been with anyone that has slept with that many partners as you mentioned though.
This is not a subject I would bring up unless I'm in a relationship with someone, I just don't think it's anything odd with asking how many partners they've had in the past.

But again I would not go in to any details, that would be a bit too much for me.

wayfarers

Kya1976 wrote: »

I dunno, I just don't think it'd bother me, it never has in the past.
I've never been with anyone that has slept with that many partners as you mentioned though.
This is not a subject I would bring up unless I'm in a relationship with someone, I just don't think it's anything odd with asking how many partners they've had in the past.

But again I would not go in to any details, that would be a bit too much for me.

It could be worse, it could all be played out in public like that wan from the Cheeky Girls that was getting boned by Lembit Opik, what man would want her now?

stupidusername

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

3. They all knew about each other and sometimes bumped into each other 2 at a time and would chat. On one occasion all 3 bumped into each other at my place and a good old girly chinwag broke out with lashings of tea. I was the proverbial spare prick and went to another room to read a book. I think they forgot I was there and I never even got a cup of tea

I spend too much time in AH, in my head that story went a different direction..

I'm with kya on this, I wouldn't really ask unless I wanted to know, but of course you wouldn't bring it up out of nowhere. it's the type of thing i'd kinda want to know if I was going out with someone. it's not about figures exactly it's just about knowing more about you and your past. it's also not about comparisons!

wayfarers

stupidusername wrote: »

I spend too much time in AH, in my head that story went a different direction..

I'm with kya on this, I wouldn't really ask unless I wanted to know, but of course you wouldn't bring it up out of nowhere. it's the type of thing i'd kinda want to know if I was going out with someone. it's not about figures exactly it's just about knowing more about you and your past. it's also not about comparisons!

Which is probably why people with higher figures shave a few off. All and I mean ALL my mates (male and female) who've been asked that question lie and give a low figure they think will keep the questioner happy. My point is that as we can all be economical with the truth there's probably no point in asking that question.

Kevin Duffy

stupidusername wrote: »

I spend too much time in AH, in my head that story went a different direction..

Sadly not, but I like where your head is at

On the issue of asking v not asking, I think it's like asking someone do they love you - don't ask unless you're prepared to get an answer you might not like.

Kya1976

stupidusername wrote: »

I spend too much time in AH, in my head that story went a different direction..

I'm with kya on this, I wouldn't really ask unless I wanted to know, but of course you wouldn't bring it up out of nowhere. it's the type of thing i'd kinda want to know if I was going out with someone. it's not about figures exactly it's just about knowing more about you and your past. it's also not about comparisons!

Yea it's definitively not about comparisons, and I wouldn't tell unless the bloke asks me. If he asks, of course I'm gonna tell the truth.

deman

My personal best was 3 as well. Two in Dublin and one in Donegal. One of the girls in Dublin knew about the other girl in Dublin but didn't mind, as I knew about her boyfriend in Cavan.
That all happened over 20 years ago though.

stupidusername

well yeah if you're going to lie, there probably isn't much point in answering. I'd generally be quite honest so it'd never occur to me to lie no matter who asks.

I'm guessing guys would tend to not ask a girl this type of thing then?