Wedding invites that doesn't invite a single person with a partner

TheDriver

I was wondering the other day about this, why do people invite someone without a partner/friend, always seems it should be up to the person themselves if they want to bring someone?

Andromeda_111

Cheapskates, one less dinner to buy.
I personally wouldn't go to a wedding on my own.....maybe they hope for that reaction so there would be 2 less dinners to pay for.

jester77

TheDriver wrote: »

I was wondering the other day about this, why do people invite someone without a partner/friend, always seems it should be up to the person themselves if they want to bring someone?

Why should it ever be up to the person? The person should be grateful that they were invited to share the day with them.

TheZohanS

Recession and wanting to keep costs down.

stovelid

Maybe it's to avoid the presumptuousness of being seen to a) imply that somebody can't go to a wedding without a partner b) stigmatizing their singleness by suggesting the "antidote" of a partner for the wedding

DjFlin

To save money.

I've never had a problem like that. If someone you know is getting married, and your invited, your probably going to know a few other people there anyway.

hondasam

Why do single people feel they have to bring someone. It's ok to go on your own.

TheDriver

TheDriver wrote: »

I was wondering the other day about this, why do people invite someone without a partner/friend, always seems it should be up to the person themselves if they want to bring someone?

Why would the couple want a possible stranger at their wedding?

I know I wouldn't.

TheDriver

but is it up to you that someone must come on their own? I find it insulting if I was invited on my own unless i knew a lot of people at it. If its to keep costs down, then shouldn't the wedding be smaller anyways?

DjFlin

TheDriver wrote: »

but is it up to you that someone must come on their own? I find it insulting if I was invited on my own unless i knew a lot of people at it.

Unless you're the bride/groom, you dont get jack spit. Just sit there and look happy. Its their special day.

hondasam

TheDriver wrote: »

but is it up to you that someone must come on their own? I find it insulting if I was invited on my own unless i knew a lot of people at it. If its to keep costs down, then shouldn't the wedding be smaller anyways?

why would you want to bring someone to a wedding where they would not know anyone.
If you knew people going you would have a better time on your own.

Gummy Panda

I've gone to weddings on my own

Forever alone

kelle

At my wedding, only cousins/friends who were engaged or married were invited with their partner - otherwise there would have been far too many there and I would still be paying for it!

I'm going to a wedding on my own soon and I'm damn well looking forward to it (it's abroad!)

Alter-Ego

Roll up like a lone wolf. Ride a bridesmaid.

Mickeroo

If they know the person is single and they know there'll be plenty of people the person will know at the wedding then its fair enough imo.

Jess16

jester77 wrote: »

The person should be grateful that they were invited to share the day with them.

Grateful -to go to someone else's wedding? Happy yes but grateful?
Not unless your self-esteem is on the floor. Most people have lives of their own happening you know

The Saint

As has been said, why the hell would the bride and groom want to send out a token invitation for a +1 to someone they know is single? It increases the cost for having someone you don't know at your own wedding. Fcuk that.

I've been to a number of weddings of friends and family on my own and would have hated to have to babysit a +1 that no one knew. Plus, weddings aren't bad places to hook up.

Mint Sauce

Weddings are a great place to pull.

The Saint

irish-stew wrote: »

Weddings are a great place to pull.

I remember two friends of mine were getting married and I was there when they were doing out the seating plans for the dinner. I was single at the time so I got the bride to be to put me at a table with a bunch of her single friends. She obliged and there was some hookage. Certainly wouldn't have happened if I had brought a token date.

u_c_thesecond

im getting married and i have a similar situation where as my sisters dating a man 3 months and wants him to come- ive never met him in my life and wont till my wedding day so i said no- and shes throwing a fit!

The Saint

The Saint wrote: »

As has been said, why the hell would the bride and groom want to send out a token invitation for a +1 to someone they know is single? It increases the cost for having someone you don't know at your own wedding. Fcuk that.

I've been to a number of weddings of friends and family on my own and would have hated to have to babysit a +1 that no one knew. Plus, weddings aren't bad places to hook up.

You would want to be a scabby git to send a single invite to your wedding to someone, it should always allow for a guest.

They are going to be spending more money on on the gift alone than it costs to host them at the wedding add in drink accommodation etc and its not in someone's financial interests to attend a wedding.

The Saint

Makayla Jolly Banister wrote: »

You would want to be a scabby git to send a single invite to your wedding to someone, it should always allow for a guest.

They are going to be spending more money on on the gift alone than it costs to host them at the wedding add in drink accommodation etc and its not in someone's financial interests to attend a wedding.

I wasn't aware that it was a business venture to attend a friend/family members wedding.

The Saint

The Saint wrote: »

I wasn't aware that it was a business venture to attend a friend/family members wedding.

The cost to the couple to host a person will 99% always be lower than the cost of the person to attend.

Do you know what venture means, I dont think so?

Its simple household finance, its an insult imo to send out an invite for one person alone. The person may not bring someone but its common courtesy to offer.

The Saint

Makayla Jolly Banister wrote: »

The cost to the couple to host a person will 99% always be lower than the cost of the person to attend.

Do you know what venture means, I dont think so?

Its simple household finance.

Perhaps I should have said that most people don't do a cost benefit analysis when they are considering attending a wedding. If money is an issue then don't go. Anyway, it is the wedding day of the couple getting married so they should be able to determine who they want to have or not have at their wedding.

Sound Bite

Because it's their wedding, their choice and their expense.

If you don't like the invite or going alone, then just don't go. Simple

The Saint

The Saint wrote: »

Perhaps I should have said that most people don't do a cost benefit analysis when they are considering attending a wedding. If money is an issue then don't go. Anyway, it is the wedding day of the couple getting married so they should be able to determine who they want to have or not have at their wedding.

Of course they can but its stingy as ****.

woodoo

jester77 wrote: »

The person should be grateful that they were invited to share the day with them.

Should they hell its a bloody sentence. And a costly one at that

jluv

If I was dating someone for 3 months and my sister said I couldn't have him come to the wedding with me then we would have a problem. Understand not asking someone for the sake of it but if you are seeing them it's different..

headmaster

I've been talking to a few people on this topic and all say, happy people with confidence love going on their own, people who really cannot connect are always the ones complaining. Everyone i've spoken to, agree that it's insulting and a show of very bad manners, to expect an invite for someone the bride and groom do not know.
I'd imagine all cultured people would agree any invite is an honour, it would be for me as well.

epgc3fyqirnbsx

Weddings are number games, everyone I know who has got married said they want something fairly small but by the time they invite family, neughbours and those who've they have been to before the numbers are already quite big. So for the single mates or aquaintances they'll offer a single invite. If they're mates they wont really mind if you rsvp with a guest anyway

Azureus

u_c_thesecond wrote: »

im getting married and i have a similar situation where as my sisters dating a man 3 months and wants him to come- ive never met him in my life and wont till my wedding day so i said no- and shes throwing a fit!

I don't think that single friends/family should automatically get a +1 on their invites, purely because I wouldn't want a stranger at my wedding and itd drive costs up for the sake of someone I didnt know. Obviously for particularly shy friends etc you could say to them that if they wanted to they could bring someone-you know yourself who will be comfortable and who wont be.
But in the case of the above, where its my own sister, and shes dating a man 3 months (granted, hardly long term-but they're still dating and its family!) I would definately want her to bring him along!

I dont agree with whoever said 'all cultured people' would be honoured to have an invite to a wedding either-Id consider myself fairly cultured, but I definately wouldnt see myself as 'honoured' to be invited to a friends/family cermony. Excited for my friends yes, looking forward to it, depends on the wedding, but honoured? It makes it sound like us lowly folk should be grateful that we are part of a happy married couples expensive party.

Snakeblood

irish-stew wrote: »

Weddings are a great place to pull.

my wedding wasn't. Came home with who I went with.

headmaster

I think we know why

Lady Chuckles

u_c_thesecond wrote: »

im getting married and i have a similar situation where as my sisters dating a man 3 months and wants him to come- ive never met him in my life and wont till my wedding day so i said no- and shes throwing a fit!

That is your sister, though. Why can't she bring a date?
I would've understood it if it was lots and lots of distant cousins with boyfriends/girlfriends you have never met, but your sister's boyfriend?? Come one :rolleyes:

Eever

jluv wrote: »

If I was dating someone for 3 months and my sister said I couldn't have him come to the wedding with me then we would have a problem. Understand not asking someone for the sake of it but if you are seeing them it's different..

I was with my boyfriend over a year when my brother got married. My brother had never met my boyfriend and as such he was not invited. Didn't bother me in the least, the wedding was abroad and I was happy not to have to look after anyone or incur the expense!

But yeah for the sake of keeping the peace she should probably just let her sister bring the boyfriend. One more dinner isn't worth all the drama. Though if the sister is the bridesmaid he's going to be left alone for a lot of it as she'd be at the head table.

iluvcake

I've been invited to weddings on my own and frankly I prefer it to be honest!
No need to be minding someone if they don't know the bride and groom plus weddings definitely can be a good place to score!:D.
Although if I was invited with a plus one and a friend wanted to come I would oblige them (once they contributed to the card!!!)

seamus

TheDriver wrote: »

I was wondering the other day about this, why do people invite someone without a partner/friend, always seems it should be up to the person themselves if they want to bring someone?

Because they don't want some random stranger at a private event like a wedding.

denhaagenite

We invited everyone with a plus one but in retrospect maybe it wasn't the best idea. Two of my friends brought people we already knew pretty well but an aunt of the OH brought her friend and wanted her to be in all the photos!! Kind of ruined the group one of our friends imo.

Another friend of his went cruising for a girlfriend for the occasion, found one two weeks before, got dumped three days before and asked us to remove all trace of her from the wedding. This was impossible as her name was already on the tabe plan and tbh I wouldn't have bothered removing it anyway. He had the piss ripped out of him at the table and they used the flowers as his pretend date, then he had the cheek to get annoyed with me!! Promptly removed me from FB and all, what a muppet. No less than I expected though, it has to be said that guy has always been a tool.

I think it's a great idea to invite plus ones but if people just bring them because they don't want to look lonely and sad then sorry but FAIL. Bringing people you hardly know to a wedding is way more pathetic. A wedding is full of people who know eachother through the bride and groom and because of this everyone has something in common- no excuse for not knowing anyone, have really developed relationships, especially with my OHs family, from meeting people at weddings.