Don't like going out

Mr.Success

Hey i dont like going out socialising in ireland. i dont mind going to a local pub for a few drinks but i hate going to a club afterwards especially on a bus and its miles away. you dont get home till late and am very tired in the mornings. I dont go overboard drinking because i dont want a sore head next day. everyone has to brand me the dry****e because i dont want to go any further than the pub. and even if i do go out to club i would be socially awkward because i wouldnt have enough drink taken. and i am usually bored.

What lifestyle would suit me?

phasers

Hermit?

hondasam

Mr.Success wrote: »

Hey i dont like going out socialising in ireland. i dont mind going to a local pub for a few drinks but i hate going to a club afterwards especially on a bus and its miles away. you dont get home till late and am very tired in the mornings. I dont go overboard drinking because i dont want a sore head next day. everyone has to brand me the dry****e because i dont want to go any further than the pub. and even if i do go out to club i would be socially awkward because i wouldnt have enough drink taken. and i am usually bored.

What lifestyle would suit me?

you could become a monk and live in a monastery.

wolf moon

I'm the same. Go family lifestyle.

Ulysses Gaze

Mr.Success wrote: »

Hey i dont like going out socialising in ireland. i dont mind going to a local pub for a few drinks but i hate going to a club afterwards especially on a bus and its miles away. you dont get home till late and am very tired in the mornings. I dont go overboard drinking because i dont want a sore head next day. everyone has to brand me the dry****e because i dont want to go any further than the pub. and even if i do go out to club i would be socially awkward because i wouldnt have enough drink taken. and i am usually bored.

What lifestyle would suit me?

Given your username, shouldn't you be telling us?

W.Shakes-Beer

To be honest OP, a lot of people hate clubs.

Can't stand them myself; a bleedin cattle market of orange/pop-collared gombeans.

4leto

A hermit or a Trappist monk, I jest

Whatever you are into, but sometimes to get comfortable in situations you know which might be good for you, you are better off forcing yourself.

squod

That's why God invented nudey bars. For people just like you.

phasers

W.Shakes-Beer wrote: »

To be honest OP, a lot of people hate clubs.

Can't stand them myself; a bleedin cattle market of orange/pop-collared gombeans.

So what do you do instead? Give the OP some details! Surely you don't just put up with it?

bnt

Mr.Success wrote: »

What lifestyle would suit me?

A normal, healthy lifestyle - in another country. The way you describe yourself wouldn't sound out of place in e.g. Canada. This is one of the few countries in the world in which people who don't like heavy drinking are considered abnormal. Don't sweat it.

westendgirlie

You could drive the bus?

Mr.Success

W.Shakes-Beer wrote: »

To be honest OP, a lot of people hate clubs.

Can't stand them myself; a bleedin cattle market of orange/pop-collared gombeans.

finally a non smart ass answer:)

Agricola

Yeah OP, your'e one of a large club.

Never liked them myself. The good news is when you get over the hump at 25 (Im assuming you're younger) then clubs wont be as prevalent anymore. Everyone will come around to your way of thinking eventually!

Bipolar Joe

W.Shakes-Beer wrote: »

To be honest OP, a lot of people hate clubs.

Can't stand them myself; a bleedin cattle market of orange/pop-collared gombeans.

This times infinity. There's not much more miserable in Ireland, socially speaking, than clubs. Over aggressive bastards, women with a misplaced sense of self-worth, God awful music, drinks that you have to take out a mortgage for and in the end you have to brave getting home, usually in the pissing rain, risking running into a bunch of scumbags. Just stay in the pub, dude, that's where all the people who aren't irritating are.

W.Shakes-Beer

phasers wrote: »

So what do you do instead? Give the OP some details! Surely you don't just put up with it?

Well rather than a club its good to chill with a group of friends in nice cozy pub where you can actually have a chat, rather than roaring at one another over the sound of some shíte music. I find it generally more of a laugh. Then instead of going to a club after, get some food/head back to someones house to chill out...drag out guitars or something.

I'm a laid back fecker.

Mr.Success

hondasam wrote: »

you could become a monk and live in a monastery.

ya thanks

Miss Olenska

Bipolar Joe wrote: »

women with a misplaced sense of self-worth,

Agree with the rest of your post, but what is wrong with anyone having a sense of self-worth. Surely self-worth is a good thing?



OP, it's OK to feel the way you do, LOTS of people in this country feel this way. It's weird, many people secretly hate the drinking culture we have in this country but we don't seem to know what to do about it.

jive

I'm sorry but you're destined to be...

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Hail 2 Da Thief

Do whatever makes you happy & screw anyone who tells you otherwise!

phasers

W.Shakes-Beer wrote: »

Well rather than a club its good to chill with a group of friends in nice cozy pub where you can actually have a chat, rather than roaring at one another over the sound of some shíte music. I find it generally more of a laugh. Then instead of going to a club after, get some food/head back to someones house to chill out...drag out guitars or something.

I'm a laid back fecker.

I wish my friends would do that, all my socialising has to be done during the day because all they like to do at night is go to disgusting clubs, get completely locked and eat disgusting food afterwards.

Can I be your friend?

Cupcake_Crisis

Go the cinema/ theater/ gigs instead! Annoys me that people only socialise in pubs or clubs etc, so much more out there

W.Shakes-Beer

phasers wrote: »

Can I be your friend?

Yes. Yes you can.

Bipolar Joe

Miss Olenska wrote: »

Agree with the rest of your post, but what is wrong with anyone having a sense of self-worth. Surely self-worth is a good thing?

I'm not talking about that, I'm talking about the type who sneer at you if you glance at them when you're up at the bar trying to get a drink, who instantly assume I want in their pants because I happen to be in the same room as them and think themselves above me because I'm a goofy looking son-of-a-bitch. Tell me they don't exist.

Tesco Massacre

Like the OP, I'd usually prefer the pub. But sometimes, just sometimes, I need to express myself through the medium of dance, and there's only place you can truly do that in this city: Copperface Jacks.

westies4ever

Mr.Success wrote: »

Hey i dont like going out socialising in ireland. i dont mind going to a local pub for a few drinks but i hate going to a club afterwards especially on a bus and its miles away. you dont get home till late and am very tired in the mornings. I dont go overboard drinking because i dont want a sore head next day. everyone has to brand me the dry****e because i dont want to go any further than the pub. and even if i do go out to club i would be socially awkward because i wouldnt have enough drink taken. and i am usually bored.

What lifestyle would suit me?

phew - thought i was odd - but i cant even stand the pub anymore. much happier at home on the sofa with wine, munchies and a good movie/tv!

I also like to have friends/family over and I'll cook for them. nice food, nice drinks, good chat. Probably end up playing cards or boardgames. Hate hangovers and drink tends to make me feel very down so I bother less and less. I like to have energy to take the dogs to the beach or the woods for long walks as well at the weekend.

If i do go out i prefer the cinema, stand up comedy or a gig. I am already dreading xmas for the 'must attend', forced and always ****e xmas work do.

Miss Olenska

Bipolar Joe wrote: »

I'm not talking about that, I'm talking about the type who sneer at you if you glance at them when you're up at the bar trying to get a drink, who instantly assume I want in their pants because I happen to be in the same room as them and think themselves above me because I'm a goofy looking son-of-a-bitch. Tell me they don't exist.

That's not self-worth you're talking about right there. Self-regard, maybe?

af_thefragile

Get a Playstation 3.

Bipolar Joe

Miss Olenska wrote: »

That's not self-worth you're talking about right there. Self-regard, maybe?

I'm not gonna get into it, because there's already been the obligatory thread on the subject today and it's way off topic, but what they have is a far over-blown sense of self-worth. Being humble is a character trait that's sadly been long forgotten in favour of this.

Miss Olenska

Bipolar Joe wrote: »

I'm not gonna get into it, because there's already been the obligatory thread on the subject today and it's way off topic, but what they have is a far over-blown sense of self-worth. Being humble is a character trait that's sadly been long forgotten in favour of this.

Self-worth is a good thing, in anyone. Self-regard, on the other hand, is not. I'm just saying you're getting them mixed up.

Turpentine

Cupcake_Crisis wrote: »

Go the cinema/ theater/ gigs instead! Annoys me that people only socialise in pubs or clubs etc, so much more out there

Cinema and theater are all well and good...unless you actually want to talk to your friends.

Donal Og O Baelach

BURN IN HELL, WEIRDO!!!

John Doe1

you might prefer going to a more upmarket type of scene, are you familiar with the copper faced jacks museum of contemporary art

bnt

John Doe1 wrote: »

you might prefer going to a more upmarket type of scene, are you familiar with the copper faced jacks museum of contemporary art

"Museum" is right: full of antiques and old, fossilised relics. Not as bad as the old Sachs Hotel was, though. That was an experience I was in no rush to repeat. :eek:

Mr.Success

Donal Og O Baelach wrote: »

BURN IN HELL, WEIRDO!!!

I bet you go out just to please your friends and even if you dont feel like heading out you still would because you wouldnt have the balls to tell them. and you'd have to put on a happy front when your actually sad inside.

Bipolar Joe

Mr.Success wrote: »

put on a happy front when your actually sad inside.

I thought that was everyone all the time forever and ever Amen?

Miss Olenska wrote: »

Self-worth is a good thing, in anyone. Self-regard, on the other hand, is not. I'm just saying you're getting them mixed up.

I may have. So switch the phrasing around. Either way, it happens, which is the point.

Sarah?

Mini house parties are way more craic than pubs/clubs in my opinion.

Or just gigs and movies. Except I've no local cinema or concert arena... :rolleyes:

Mike 1972

Turpentine wrote: »

Cinema and theater are all well and good...unless you actually want to talk to your friends.

As opposed to a NIGHTCLUB

Does not compute !

Turpentine

Mike 1972 wrote: »

As opposed to a NIGHTCLUB

Does not compute !

I didn't mention the word nightclub, they're brutal haven't been to one since I was 19.

As opposed to pub: no contest.

Even when you do go to the cinema with your friends nothing beats going for a pint afterwards to dissect what you've just watched.

Wolfe Tone

I dont mind hitting the clubs once in a while, sometimes its fun, couldn't do it every week, gets old very quick.

Donal Og O Baelach

Mr.Success wrote: »

I bet you go out just to please your friends and even if you dont feel like heading out you still would because you wouldnt have the balls to tell them. and you'd have to put on a happy front when your actually sad inside.

I LOVE YOU!!!!!

darklighter

Mr.Success wrote: »

Hey i dont like going out socialising in ireland. i dont mind going to a local pub for a few drinks but i hate going to a club afterwards especially on a bus and its miles away. you dont get home till late and am very tired in the mornings. I dont go overboard drinking because i dont want a sore head next day. everyone has to brand me the dry****e because i dont want to go any further than the pub. and even if i do go out to club i would be socially awkward because i wouldnt have enough drink taken. and i am usually bored.

What lifestyle would suit me?

For starters, ignore anyone calling you dry etc. When they are dying with a hangover, you'll be the one full of beans. You're not a dry****e, they're gob****e's.

Im taking it from your post that you live in a relatively rural area so unfortunately dont think you have the options available in cities or large towns.

Best bet is the good old reliable house party. Few tunes on a guitar, game of twister, play cards etc.

jodaw

Swap your age with me OP will you...

I think you were meant to be my age looking at all this talk.

Seriously, anyone that is under 25 and not bopping their arses off at the weekend needs to get real. The hot chicks, the tunes, the escape from the boring little reality of our 9-5's ...

Ahhhh, Yep, Them were the days. Maybe i come from a generation when the tunes were much better than today. This is your time OP. The time when you can let it all go and do not give a fcuk what anyones. The tunes, the sun, the ladies .... yeahhh... i feel it, i am back their now ...

Them days in Portugal, Ibiza, Greece, Mexico ...

Maybe just a certain few feel it in their bones, feel the rythm and the music takes over the body... feeling ALIVE !!!

And in a flash, it is over !!! You are my age and you are expected to conform and be sensible. Trust me OP... act young when you are young because it is over in a flash ...

Them days will always be a savage memory for me...

Dublin is sh*t for clubs, and it gets old quick. Variation of places, people and experiences is the way to go.

Each to his own though is suppose

darklighter

jodaw wrote: »

Variation of places, people and experiences is the way to go.

As a lifestyle choice, this would be my choice if at all possible

kielmanator

did nobody else notice the OP hates to "club on busses?"

strange partying style.:cool:

The King of Moo

jodaw wrote: »

Swap your age with me OP will you...

I think you were meant to be my age looking at all this talk.

Seriously, anyone that is under 25 and not bopping their arses off at the weekend needs to get real. The hot chicks, the tunes, the escape from the boring little reality of our 9-5's ...

Ahhhh, Yep, Them were the days. Maybe i come from a generation when the tunes were much better than today. This is your time OP. The time when you can let it all go and do not give a fcuk what anyones. The tunes, the sun, the ladies .... yeahhh... i feel it, i am back their now ...

Them days in Portugal, Ibiza, Greece, Mexico ...

Maybe just a certain few feel it in their bones, feel the rythm and the music takes over the body... feeling ALIVE !!!

And in a flash, it is over !!! You are my age and you are expected to conform and be sensible. Trust me OP... act young when you are young because it is over in a flash ...

Them days will always be a savage memory for me...

Dublin is sh*t for clubs, and it gets old quick. Variation of places, people and experiences is the way to go.

Each to his own though is suppose

But in fairness, that's just your own opinion of how a young person should live, which is fine and perfectly valid.

But the OP has already stated that he's not interested in that sort of lifestyle.
I don't think he's pretending or just hasn't realised he'd love a party lifestyle!

You might be surprised by the number of young people not into the typical Irish social life.

You say when you get old you're expected to conform, but it sounds like you think the OP should conform to a certain lifestyle too!

(and I know you say "each to their own" at the end of your post, but I choose to see that as ass-covering, contradicted by what you said earlier )

Marty McFly

Must say Ive no problem with either just a few pints, house partys, or clubs all depends of what humour im onth night really. But to dismiss all nightclubs in Ireland with some of the stereotypical stuff been spouted here is just stupid. Plus now in ireland there are also plenty of so called trendy pubs or disco bar type places that have late bars aswell, do these count as cattle markets type places aswell?


p.s everyone talking about breaking out guitars in houses just reminds me of this, I cringe when I see someone breaking out a guitar.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TvR6d08L3nc

I hate the pub/club scene. I don't like the taste of drink and as I'm too sensitive to background noise I can't hear a thing in there. I come out with a sore throat with all the shouting over unnecessarily loud music.

Then again, I'm also a loner so make of that as you will.

paky

i here you op. alcohol has completely ruined this country. it has even invaded the sports scene here aswel. look at graham mcdowell a couple of weeks ago when he went out on the beer for 48 hours after winning the trophy? wtf??? i guarantee you'll see kilkenny hurlers chugging beer on telly at some stage tomorrow aswel.
its quite shocking at how bad it is in this country and if you hold a similar mindset to the op you may aswel be a castaway.
ire;ands come dine with me was a complete disaster and showed how disgraceful this problem is here in ireland. its bizarre that this level of drinking is part of any civilized country.

i think people need to wake the fcuk up

Destroyer666

Loads of other options, join a sports group if you are into a sport or you may have a hobby that you could become part of a group. Im sure if you check various hobby fourms on boards you may be able to meet other boardies with the same hobby. Ive often been unable to drink while out with mates due to work the next day etc and the amount of ****e you have to listen to when sober is horrible. Good luck.

watna

I rarely go to clubs or bars anymore. The only time I go to the pub really is Friday night after work drinks.

We eat out a lot or have friends over for dinner to watch films/play board games/talk ****. We go to the movies a good bit and I often meet friends to go for walks in the evenings, especially as where I am, spring is finally here and the weather is picking up.

Although, I am a bit older and did go out to clubs and bars a good bit a few years ago. You just kind of get over it a bit when you get a bit older. Maybe get some older friends?

Donal Og O Baelach

Teenager on way home from nightclub: I think that was a **** night.
Next Day, with mates : Best night ever last night!

Post this on boards.ie
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