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Life is getting on top of me

LegacyUser · 2011-09-01 13:46:00

I'm on a temp contract with no guarantees of a renewal after 9 months. I feel constantly lonely and am so sad all the time. I've never been with a woman I love (I lost my virginity in a messy drunken one night stand) and I feel alone and without contentment. I just want to hold someone and have someone else to worry about…

01-09-2011 1:46pm

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I'm on a temp contract with no guarantees of a renewal after 9 months. I feel constantly lonely and am so sad all the time. I've never been with a woman I love (I lost my virginity in a messy drunken one night stand) and I feel alone and without contentment. I just want to hold someone and have someone else to worry about besides myself. I'm in my early 20s. Does anyone else feel like their life is going to overwhelm them at some stage? I feel like I'm usless, I'm only mediocre at my job despite how hard I try, I am useless at speaking to women who I am not friends with, I'm socially awkward, I'm clumsy, I've a tendancy to fail at things I try to accomplish (Not for lack of trying or laziness though)

I'm pretty below average in a lot of ways. I'm no oil painting; I'm overweight and I don't think I have a pretty face. I'm nearly always anxious about something. I'm probably more intelligent than the mean but on the whole I'm nothing special or unique. I feel like I'm prone to 'depressive realism' - I'm hyper realistic about my abilities and prospects and feel like my life is on a constant downward trajectory.

I desperately want to know what it is like to feel love. I feel a numbness in my heart, but I know that is only a defence mechanism. When I see young couples much in love I sometimes think I'm going to break down and cry right there on the street. I want to know what that is like and how it feels to love another person. No woman ever looks twice at me - unless maybe to laugh at my expense. I'm thinking of doing online dating but I'm afraid they'll look at my profile picture and run a mile. I just want to crawl into a corner and hide from the world but I know that will only make it worse.

I don't know what I'm looking for here, I don't know what to do.

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#2 02-09-2011 12:04pm

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Can anyone offer some tips or experiences of online dating? I'm close to making a profile now. I want to be intimate with someone. Sex doesn't even matter, I just want to cuddle up to someone and watch a film with.

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#3 02-09-2011 2:41pm

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Loads of online dating threads and advice about - google is your friend.

There are lengthy threads about it on Boards in both The Ladies Lounge and a mammoth thread in The Gentleman's Club...

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