I need a girlfriend/help.

Samich

Ok, basically I'm an early 20's fella, absolutely awful with women.

I go out quite regularly but haven't the testicle fortitude to approach women.

I don't have a good body and have never felt a girl has been interested in me.

I have approached a few women before in clubs asking how their night is but most just shrugged me away.

There is a girl I like but don't we well, doesn't mean she likes me. I've met her once, but chat alot on facebook (me always starting the chat). I don't think she likes me, she's just very friendly I think, no hints or anything from her.

Near the end of the club I always feel depressed when I think I'm absolute failure with girls.

What do ye think of telling that one girl? Good/bad idea? Don't want to ruin the friendship or make it awkward, her friend added me on fb aswell, I hadn't met her before.

Or else I need something to take my mind off women as I'm always thinking about it.

LETHAL LADY

Hello Larry Murphy.

dave1982

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_aNkF8z5A-X8/TSmAdNXD0AI/AAAAAAAAAOg/LIBEZ89FsrU/s1600/FACEBOOK-IS-EVIL-KILL-IT-WITH-LOVE.jpg

W.Shakes-Beer

Possibly wrong forum to be asking in! :cool:

Don't sweat it man.

Samich

W.Shakes-Beer wrote: »

Possibly wrong forum to be asking in! :cool:

Don't sweat it man.

Well it's not a PI issue, just wanna hear some lighthearted opinions/suggestions

niaroh1x96

Go for it!

El Weirdo

Seriously, has PI closed or something? What's up with all this stuff in AH lately?

MrStuffins

Let's see some pics and we can help ya out there cheif!

zanador

How do you feel about single mothers? But we can't tell anyone we're together

Samich

Should also have said the fb girl is gorgeous and way out of my league.

Tigger

Samich wrote: »

Ok, basically I'm an early 20's fella, absolutely awful with women.

I go out quite regularly but haven't the testicle fortitude to approach women.

I don't have a good body and have never felt a girl has been interested in me.

I have approached a few women before in clubs asking how their night is but most just shrugged me away.

There is a girl I like but don't we well, doesn't mean she likes me. I've met her once, but chat alot on facebook (me always starting the chat). I don't think she likes me, she's just very friendly I think, no hints or anything from her.

Near the end of the club I always feel depressed when I think I'm absolute failure with girls.

What do ye think of telling that one girl? Good/bad idea? Don't want to ruin the friendship or make it awkward, her friend added me on fb aswell, I hadn't met her before.

Or else I need something to take my mind off women as I'm always thinking about it.

pm me if you're real i'll coach you for free i'm 36 and i have a track record in managment and coaching.

7sr2z3fely84g5

Samich wrote: »

Ok, basically I'm an early 20's fella, absolutely awful with women.

I go out quite regularly but haven't the testicle fortitude to approach women.

I don't have a good body and have never felt a girl has been interested in me.

Try and change your negative thinking to positive,go to gym if you feel your not in shape.

Thatnastyboy

Just go and chat to women, have a laugh, dont act shy and nervous and dont be a creep!

"Don't put the pussy on a pedastal!!!" - cant remember who said that, They sure had a point though.

ballsymchugh

what you need to do is invent a special kinda suit, impenetrable to modern weapons, and that can fly and shoot people with high intensity beams of energy. then grow a bit of a goatee and the ladies will come flocking in.

you'll need a special energy source though, instead of a heart or something.

Samich

Cill Dara Abu wrote: »

Is your name Chris by any chance OP

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055873286&page=1247

Hmm what's that about?
And no.

Cill Dara Abu

Is your name Chris by any chance OP?

WindSock

zanador wrote: »

How do you feel about single mothers?

Start with their jabbers, then move slowly southwards.

Chuck Stone

Your dirty little man coming on here and pretending you're nice so you can attract unsuspecting ladies.

Shame on you OP.

Shame on you!

Night_Prowler

[QUOTE=
"Don't put the pussy on a pedastal!!!" - cant remember who said that, They sure had a point though.[/QUOTE]

40 year old virgin

MrStuffins

Samich wrote: »

Hmm what's that about?
And no.

Take it from me, any girl worth her salt will wanna spend a lot of time with you. Judging from your username!

Well, I say that. I mean making you for their boyfriend!

Samich

Thatnastyboy wrote: »

Just go and chat to women, have a laugh, dont act shy and nervous and dont be a creep!

"Don't put the pussy on a pedastal!!!" - cant remember who said that, They sure had a point though.

That's the problem, I don't know how to get chatting or what to talk about even?

El Weirdo

Samich wrote: »

Should also have said the fb girl is gorgeous and way out of my league.

Well if you think like that, then she probably is. Might sound a bit harsh but if you want to get anywhere you need to work on your confidence. I'm not talking one of them pick-up artist asshat confident, just... you know... more confident than you're being.

Oh bollocks to this, it's AH... just get a boombox, whack in "In Your Eyes" by Peter Gabriel and hold it over your head outside her bedroom window.

lagente

W.Shakes-Beer wrote: »

Possibly wrong forum to be asking in! :cool:

Don't sweat it man.

aren't you the guy who put in that photo of a guys face shopped. nasty stuff that. making fun of people you don't know.

WindSock

Thatnastyboy wrote: »

Just go and chat to women, have a laugh, dont act shy and nervous and dont be a creep!

"Don't put the pussy on a pedastal!!!" - cant remember who said that, They sure had a point though.

I think you mean pedal stool.

nicechick!

Samich wrote: »

Ok, basically I'm an early 20's fella, absolutely awful with women.

I go out quite regularly but haven't the testicle fortitude to approach women.

I don't have a good body and have never felt a girl has been interested in me.

I have approached a few women before in clubs asking how their night is but most just shrugged me away.

There is a girl I like but don't we well, doesn't mean she likes me. I've met her once, but chat alot on facebook (me always starting the chat). I don't think she likes me, she's just very friendly I think, no hints or anything from her.

Near the end of the club I always feel depressed when I think I'm absolute failure with girls.

What do ye think of telling that one girl? Good/bad idea? Don't want to ruin the friendship or make it awkward, her friend added me on fb aswell, I hadn't met her before.

Or else I need something to take my mind off women as I'm always thinking about it.

You need to like yourself before you could get someone else to like/love you!! Not sure if I'm making sense... the fact that you dislike yourself so much its likely even if you do meet someone you will doubt there care/love/like for you seeing as you seem to dislike yourself that much

Stop obsessing over the ''need'' for a girlfriend!! people obsess over where they think they should be instead of just going with the flow so to speak!

IPushButtons

Cill Dara Abu

nicechick! wrote: »

You need to like yourself before you could get someone else to like/love you!! Not sure if I'm making sense... the fact that you dislike yourself so much its likely even if you do meet someone you will doubt there care/love/like for you seeing as you seem to dislike yourself that much

Stop obsessing over the ''need'' for a girlfriend!! people obsess over where they think they should be instead of just going with the flow so to speak!

Ok Dr. Phil :rolleyes:

nicechick!

IPushButtons wrote: »

That's one option!!

Samich

Ok, so I'll change it to meeting some women, and I actually feel ok with my body but just being honest by thinking it's not a good body?

zanador

WindSock wrote: »

Start with their jabbers, then move slowly southwards.

tis that kind of behaviour got me in trouble in the first place

El Weirdo

Cill Dara Abu wrote: »

Ok Dr. Phil :rolleyes:

No, she's right. It's all about the confidence.

7sr2z3fely84g5

Samich wrote: »

Ok, so I'll change it to meeting some women, and I actually feel ok with my body but just being honest by thinking it's not a good body?

its about personality mate,you could have an head like an arse and still pull some stunners.

Thatnastyboy

Samich wrote: »

That's the problem, I don't know how to get chatting or what to talk about even?

Just talk a bit of sh!t, everyone likes sh!te-talk.

Get yourself a good wingman tbh, someone who can talk to women, get them to stir up some conversation and get one of those costumes that disguises you as a hedge, so you can stand nearby and watch & listen to what theyre doing and saying, and take notes, lots of notes, everyone loves notes.

Swallow your nervousness, get a few greasers into ya and just enjoy yourself, a lot of the time youll pull when you arent actually trying your heart out.

nicechick!

Cill Dara Abu wrote: »

Ok Dr. Phil :rolleyes:

ok to be honest I wanted to say!! nothing worse then a needy, low self esteem fella looking for a girlfriend who thinks is going to make the world a perfect place.... oh how wrong they are...

biggest turn off and trust me you can see them a mile off.... as the girls would say ''the smell of want'' of that one ... ehhh crude but eh

Thatnastyboy

WindSock wrote: »

I think you mean pedal stool.

Buh?

Samich

Maddux Gigantic Racist wrote: »

its about personality mate,you could have an head like an arse and still pull some stunners.

I'm afraid that is not true.

zanador

Samich wrote: »

Ok, so I'll change it to meeting some women, and I actually feel ok with my body but just being honest by thinking it's not a good body?

Women don't care about bodies so much. As others have said it's all about the confidence and the craic

fonecrusher1

Samich wrote: »

That's the problem, I don't know how to get chatting or what to talk about even?

Heres a goodin! Walk up to a girl in a bar & say quite loudly... Here, ya ridin or whaaa???(emphasise the "Whaaa?" bit) She & her friends will laugh at how vulgar your approach is & before you know it you'll be drinking wine from her bum back at her place.

Samich

nicechick! wrote: »

ok to be honest I wanted to say!! nothing worse then a needy, low self esteem fella looking for a girlfriend who thinks is going to make the world a perfect place.... oh how wrong they are...

biggest turn off and trust me you can see them a mile off.... as the girls would say ''the smell of want'' of that one ... ehhh crude but eh

Ok, I'll reply to that by saying even if I was to get talking to a girl for a while I wouldn't be able go in for the kill as I wouldn't want to be seen as just after some hole.

Samich

zanador wrote: »

Women don't care about bodies so much. As others have said it's all about the confidence and the craic

I doubt my face is anything special either

7sr2z3fely84g5

Samich wrote: »

I'm afraid that is not true.

it is,when we get older we get more mature,i think we fall in love with people we least expect.

TheZohanS

Drop a couple of yokes* and head out to a club for a dance. Won't take too long for you to pull.



*I do not condone the use of drugs unless your dealer has good shìt

Samich

Oh another thing to add is I'm always thinking sure why would a girl get with me when there's looooads of men hotter than me with better bodies who would get with them. I don't think I''m ugly, just not goodlooking.

zanador

Samich wrote: »

I doubt my face is anything special either

It's not you that has to like it

Act confident even tho you're dying inside - it gets easier with practise

Samich

zanador wrote: »

It's not you that has to like it

Act confident even tho you're dying inside - it gets easier with practise

I do try, but how can a person be confident? :P

nicechick!

Samich wrote: »

Ok, I'll reply to that by saying even if I was to get talking to a girl for a while I wouldn't be able go in for the kill as I wouldn't want to be seen as just after some hole.

That was crude of me, what I'm saying is most girls will pick up on your self esteem issues and the fact that'd you'd like a girlfriend thus putting them off... as being chicks we dwell on everything thus doubting the true reason of creating a romantic relationship i.e you decided you wanted a girlfriend and she was it... instead of meeting a girl of like and seeing what happens

basically your looking for a girlfriend for the wrong reasons!! just to make yourself feel better about yourself because you think you'll be happier for it... no way to start any romantic relationship - women/girls will pick up on this

Don Juan DeMagoo

zanador wrote: »

It's not you that has to like it

Act confident even tho you're dying inside - it gets easier with practise

Jeez man, sorry to hear. Hope things get better 4 u

El Weirdo

TheZohan wrote: »

Drop a couple of yokes and head out to a club for a dance. Won't take too long for you to pull.

I remember making a post like that when you were a mod and you deleted it.

Samich

@nicechick

I'll change it to meeting some women, I have no female contact now or ever.

Columbia

I think above all you need to work on your confidence, and for this I suggest you take up a sport if you haven't one already, or get better at it if you have

Doing a sport will give you a lot more confidence, and will benefit you in most areas of your life, relationships included. It can be anything from GAA to ultimate frisbee, depending on your personality. I've yet to meet someone who didn't enjoy playing ultimate frisbee though.

Once you're feeling a bit better in yourself you might take a look at your wardrobe and get your female friend's advice on what you wear. Women have odd opinions on what looks good, things men can't predict. Only a couple of weeks ago I learned that my girlfriend of four years doesn't think that guys wearing sunglasses on cloudy days look like complete douchebags.

Forget about being good looking for now. Just looking clean is a good enough start :P

TheZohanS

El Weirdo wrote: »

I remember making a post like that when you were a mod and you deleted it.

Yeah I'm all about fight the powah these days.