Where/How to Meet a Man in Clare

cookie82

apologies if this is not in the right place.... so here i go my good friend seems to have no luck with men. She want me to help her find a man who wont walk all over her, someone who she can have a drink and a giggle with. so guys my question is where do i start with my quest??? Where can i find a good clare man in his early thirties that is willing to treat a girl like a princess???

Lady Chatterton

This is a difficult one, there are lots of great Clare men out there but I didn't marry one of them (Mr. D isn't from Clare) so I'm not sure how to advise you. I think if you are looking to meet men in general, you need to be where men hang out - matches - GAA, Rugby, Soccer etc and the races can be a good place to meet men too. Lot of my friends have met their partners through work or through friends. Funny enough weddings can be great places to meet prospective partners too. I wish your friend the best of luck in her quest for a Clare man.

PseudoFamous

cookie82 wrote: »

so here i go my good friend seems to have no luck with men. She want me to help her find a man who wont walk all over her, someone who she can have a drink and a giggle with.

Your friend, eh?

Lady Chatterton

"Picturesque Arklow" unless you're a Clare man in exile you're out

cookie82

i guess i shouldnt have put clare man but it would be convenient if he was close by!!! she is finding it very intimidating to go out looking to meet someone. its even harder when everyone in her close circle is married with kids like me. i really want her to meet someone we all need someone. thanks for you comment

cookie82

PseudoFamous wrote: »

Your friend, eh?

yes i promise its about my friend as i am married with kids. maybe if my hubby gets sense and gives me the boot..... cant see that happening any time soon as he needs clean clothes for work!!!

Clareman

I'm afraid the top Clareman here is married

cookie82

Clareman wrote: »

I'm afraid the top Clareman here is married

awww darn it.


she wont let me write into ray darcy but yet ske keeps asking why cant i meet someone.

Lady Chatterton

Clareman wrote: »

I'm afraid the top Clareman here is married

Clareman - you're sooooooooooooooooooooooooo modest and that's why we like you!

PS: I want to dedicate my 3000th post to my many great friends here on Boards

cookie82

MrsD007 wrote: »

Clareman - you're sooooooooooooooooooooooooo modest and that's why we like you!

PS: I want to dedicate my 3000th post to my many great friends here on Boards

the world needs more men like clareman

Lady Chatterton

cookie82 wrote: »

the world needs more men like clareman

Cookie82, did you marry a Clare man as a matter of interest?

Clareman

I know it's easy as a married person to say, but I always reckon the reason most single people can't meet anyone is cause they are too hell bent on finding a wife/husband rather than a friend.

Anyway, back on topic, I guess the best way to go about meeting someone would be to go somewhere where the opposite sex would be. The meat market that is the pub scene isn't always for everyone, a few of my friends met up at tag rugby, seems to be a good thing. Also, Clare Crusaders are always organising walks/events and they are a really good cause, could join up with them.

pappyodaniel

Well what are her interests?
what type of music does she like?
And most importantly, is she hot?

Clareman

cookie82 wrote: »

the world needs more men like clareman

No work would get done if there was more people like me, if I amn't playing sport or video games chances are I'm on a laptop or watching TV.

cookie82

MrsD007 wrote: »

Cookie82, did you marry a Clare man as a matter of interest?

i sure did met him in the shannon knights!! im a home bird at heart ill never roam too far

cookie82

Clareman wrote: »

I know it's easy as a married person to say, but I always reckon the reason most single people can't meet anyone is cause they are too hell bent on finding a wife/husband rather than a friend.

Anyway, back on topic, I guess the best way to go about meeting someone would be to go somewhere where the opposite sex would be. The meat market that is the pub scene isn't always for everyone, a few of my friends met up at tag rugby, seems to be a good thing. Also, Clare Crusaders are always organising walks/events and they are a really good cause, could join up with them.

i have said the exact same thing to her but she just keeps comparing herself to me who met my hubby when i was 20 have kids and am 5 years younger than her. i was lucky not everyone is but she doesnt understand that.

Lady Chatterton

pappyodaniel wrote: »

Well what are her interests?
what type of music does she like?
And most importantly, is she hot?

If I was single and I wanted to date you pappyodaniel I'd say:

- Interests - photography and exploring hidden parts of Clare
- Music - real music not X factor sh1te
- Hot - sizzling :cool:

Clareman

Social media is taking over the world, tell her to try online dating then

cookie82

pappyodaniel wrote: »

Well what are her interests?
what type of music does she like?
And most importantly, is she hot?

interests: cinema, having a drink, going for a meal, she would be fairly sporty but girly at the same time.
music: she will listen to anything except heavy heavy metal the kind that just screams the music
Hot: imo she is very pretty dark features dark long hair takes care of her appearance & always makes an effort to look good.

nicechick!

cookie82 wrote: »

apologies if this is not in the right place.... so here i go my good friend seems to have no luck with men. She want me to help her find a man who wont walk all over her, someone who she can have a drink and a giggle with. so guys my question is where do i start with my quest??? Where can i find a good clare man in his early thirties that is willing to treat a girl like a princess???

I'm going to come across of judgmental here! What does she expect for you to hold her hand in her search for the man of her dreams, her poor choices in men have been her choice she herself needs to recognized there there is some fault on her part!

Already you've decided that he needs to be a ''good Clare Man'' that he needs to be in his ''early thirties'' and as for treating ''a girl like a princess'' so it irks me that the assumption is there (not everyone from Clare is originally from Clare you know do you not think your curbing her chances like? There are perfectly other ''good men'' out there that are from ohhh lets say ''Limerick'')

Maybe you should advertise

wanted: Good Clare Man in his early thirties to hook up with Good Clare women who will treat him like a ''prince'' (TUNNEL VISION will get you no where)

Tell your friend to go out there online dating, socializing, have some independence from her friends join clubs, go boating whatever also tell her that her friends making the choices or ''helping'' her find her dream man will end in tears! let her figure it out for herself, encourage her to change and make better decisions!! Tell her to stop hanging out with people that think they know what a ''good man'' is... It mightn't make him any good for her!

cookie82

Clareman wrote: »

Social media is taking over the world, tell her to try online dating then

tried it shes refusing to let me do it. and if she finds out i did this ill prob be murdered too!!! its a case of all the good men are taken or gay!

Lady Chatterton

nicechick! wrote: »

I'm going to come across of judgmental here! What does she expect for you to hold her hand in her search for the man of her dreams, her poor choices in men have been her choice she herself needs to recognized there there is some fault on her part!

Already you've decided that he needs to be a ''good Clare Man'' that he needs to be in his ''early thirties'' and as for treating ''a girl like a princess'' so it irks me that the assumption is there (not everyone from Clare is originally from Clare you know do you not think your curbing her chances like? There are perfectly other ''good men'' out there that are from ohhh lets say ''Limerick'')

Maybe you should advertise

wanted: Good Clare Man in his early thirties to hook up with Good Clare women who will treat him like a ''prince'' (TUNNEL VISION will get you no where)

Tell your friend to go out there online dating, socializing, have some independence from her friends join clubs, go boating whatever also tell her that her friends making the choices or ''helping'' her find her dream man will end in tears! let her figure it out for herself, encourage her to change and make better decisions!! Tell her to stop hanging out with people that think they know what a ''good man'' is... It mightn't make him any good for her!

To be fair, I think Cookie 82 is just being a good friend and she probably only mentioned "Clareman" so our Mod (Clareman) wouldn't move it from the Clare forum. It is nice that Cookie 82 cares so much about her friend

Clareman

I'm viewing the ops request as a way to meet a man in Clare, hence the fact I'm leaving the thread here. Also, it's Friday evening, lets be nice to each other and try not to be judgemental or backseat mods.

Carry

I found in Clare finally a Corkman . Never looked back.:p

Seriously, I don't believe that you can force love. (You, that means your friend)
You'll never meet someone suitable when desperate. It happens usually when you least expect it.

Your friend could go out to places of her interest to at least make sure to meet people with the same interests, like join classes or whatnot. If she has no particular interests, the local pub is always a good place, though not always for keeps.

Sports isn't exactly a place to meet the one and only. At a match it's a man's world. Unless you strip between the goal posts no-one will look...

If men "walked all over her" so far she should check her own attitude. Maybe her desperation to meet someone pushed potential candidates away?

cookie82

nicechick! wrote: »

I'm going to come across of judgmental here! What does she expect for you to hold her hand in her search for the man of her dreams, her poor choices in men have been her choice she herself needs to recognized there there is some fault on her part!

Already you've decided that he needs to be a ''good Clare Man'' that he needs to be in his ''early thirties'' and as for treating ''a girl like a princess'' so it irks me that the assumption is there (not everyone from Clare is originally from Clare you know do you not think your curbing her chances like? There are perfectly other ''good men'' out there that are from ohhh lets say ''Limerick'')

Maybe you should advertise

wanted: Good Clare Man in his early thirties to hook up with Good Clare women who will treat him like a ''prince'' (TUNNEL VISION will get you no where)

Tell your friend to go out there online dating, socializing, have some independence from her friends join clubs, go boating whatever also tell her that her friends making the choices or ''helping'' her find her dream man will end in tears! let her figure it out for herself, encourage her to change and make better decisions!! Tell her to stop hanging out with people that think they know what a ''good man'' is... It mightn't make him any good for her!

as im only trying to help her out i guess the way i worded it wasn't great but look what can a girl do, i put clare man because im putting it in the clare forum & i wouldnt be fantastic at boards just yet.

i would only love her to meet someone regardless of geographical positioning that she could love and him to love her back not tunnel vision just what it is.

Thanks for your comments though.

cookie82

Apologies if iv upset anyone by putting this in the clare forum or offended anyone by putting down a good clare man no offense intended.


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Clareman

I changed the thread title to be a bit better, lots of pedantic folks out there and knowing my luck someone would use it as an example of shoddy modding

Don't worry about upsetting other folks, just worry about upsetting the mods

Lady Chatterton

cookie82 wrote: »

Apologies if iv upset anyone by putting this in the clare forum or offended anyone by putting down a good clare man no offense intended.


MAN REQUIRED all posts read

No apology needed Cookie 82, as I said before I didn't marry a Clare man myself but I know lots of fantastic Clare men so I think your post is grand

Clareman

Back on topic. Besides the normal pub/wedding scene way of meeting people, try to get something with a social scene to it, tag rugby is great because there's men and women that play it and there's a great social scene afterwards. Drama clubs are usually good ways as well.

If I was to give advice on how to meet someone of the other sex, don't be needey, don't be looking for a hookup/date/relationship/marriage/kids just look for a friend

Clareman

And btw Cookie, if someone has a problem with a post, they can use the report post function, which I can say no-one has done to any posts in this thread

cookie82

Carry wrote: »

I found in Clare finally a Corkman . Never looked back.:p

Seriously, I don't believe that you can force love. (You, that means your friend)
You'll never meet someone suitable when desperate. It happens usually when you least expect it.

Your friend could go out to places of her interest to at least make sure to meet people with the same interests, like join classes or whatnot. If she has no particular interests, the local pub is always a good place, though not always for keeps.

Sports isn't exactly a place to meet the one and o nly. At a match it's a man's world. Unless you strip between the goal posts no-one will look...

If men "walked all over her" so far she should check her own attitude. Maybe her desperation to meet someone pushed potential candidates away?

I know exactly what your saying and iv said that she needs to forget about meeting the ONE and what will be will be. But then im 29 married with kids telling her be patient. All i want is her to meet a nice guy nothing more or less im hoping and praying he comes along. As for pushing men away in the past i dont know but iv a feeling your onto something

Lady Chatterton

Clareman wrote: »

If I was to give advice on how to meet someone of the other sex, don't be needey, don't be looking for a hookup/date/relationship/marriage/kids just look for a friend

I agree with this. My husband said the thing that attracted him to me was I was very independent, feisty and it drove him mad that I didn't always agree with him. Opposites attract I think :)

cookie82

Clareman wrote: »

I changed the thread title to be a bit better, lots of pedantic folks out there and knowing my luck someone would use it as an example of shoddy modding

Don't worry about upsetting other folks, just worry about upsetting the mods

thank you it was badly titled

Clareman

I guess it's very easy to give advice to a 34 years old on how to meet someone, it's very difficult for them to follow the advice in the real world

Johnboy1951

Clareman wrote: »

Back on topic. Besides the normal pub/wedding scene way of meeting people, try to get something with a social scene to it, tag rugby is great because there's men and women that play it and there's a great social scene afterwards. Drama clubs are usually good ways as well.

If I was to give advice on how to meet someone of the other sex, don't be needey, don't be looking for a hookup/date/relationship/marriage/kids just look for a friend

+1 on that ..... and would also suggest that being available in daylight to meet people in various places is an advantage .... whether walking, talking or otherwise visiting places of beauty and interest.
Probably just showing my age ... ... but as I remember pubs and clubs were rarely used to meet a long-term friend/mate.
Evening classes can be a great place also ..... as you start off with at least one interest in common.

nicechick!

cookie82 wrote: »

as im only trying to help her out i guess the way i worded it wasn't great but look what can a girl do, i put clare man because im putting it in the clare forum & i wouldnt be fantastic at boards just yet.

i would only love her to meet someone regardless of geographical positioning that she could love and him to love her back not tunnel vision just what it is.

Thanks for your comments though.

my apologies also it was very judgmental and your a good friend, it is absolutely without a doubt very encouraging that you would like to see your friend in a happy romantic relationship but I suppose, To be honest the reason I jumped down your throat was I see women obsessed with hooking there friends up constantly interfering in there life's, opinionated and often not actually considering there friends

My advice: Let your friend figure it out for herself no matter how good your intentions are she needs to do this on her own suggest/encourage always

Try not to hang out with the so brilliant friends I know I for one will not mix well socially when I'm out with my best buddies, we're in good company & enjoying ourselves so less likely to be open to flirts

Would anyone consider a mini meet in Clare choose a pub/coffee shop where people could just met up hang out? Have a beer/coffee low key no pressure members from boards even meeting up, not necessarily with the intention of making it a singles event so to speak

Clareman

I must be the exception to the rule so, I met my wife in a late bar

cookie82

problem is she would really like me to be there holding her hand when she goes on the hunt for this man but my hubby isnt too happy with the idea of me out on a man hunt with a hot blooded woman!!!! that and i have responsibilities that mean i cant go out every time she feels the need. Trying to be a good friend puts you in an awkward position sometimes.

Clareman

A Clare beers event you mean, I'm sure we could look into it

cookie82

nicechick! wrote: »

my apologies also it was very judgmental and your a good friend, it is absolutely without a doubt very encouraging that you would like to see your friend in a happy romantic relationship but I suppose, To be honest the reason I jumped down your throat was I see women obsessed with hooking there friends up constantly interfering in there life's, opinionated and often not actually considering there friends

My advice: Let your friend figure it out for herself no matter how good your intentions are she needs to do this on her own suggest/encourage always

Try not to hang out with the so brilliant friends I know I for one will not mix well socially when I'm out with my best buddies, we're in good company & enjoying ourselves so less likely to be open to flirts

Would anyone consider a mini meet in Clare choose a pub/coffee shop where people could just met up hang out? Have a beer/coffee low key no pressure members from boards even meeting up, not necessarily with the intention of making it a singles event so to speak

I never match people up this is a first for me. i met my hubby all by myself but as i said i was lucky. i have a fear of helping coz if it goes pear shaped i will feel guilty but when i see my best friend at her wits end its hard to not help. i genuinely cant understand why she is single.

pappyodaniel

Clareman wrote: »

A Clare beers event you mean, I'm sure we could look into it

How about a table quiz night somewhere? The Limerick one is pretty popular. Maybe move it around from time to time. Ennis/Shannon/Bunratty for example.

Carry

MrsD007 wrote: »

I agree with this. My husband said the thing that attracted him to me was I was very independent, feisty and it drove him mad that I didn't always agree with him. Opposites attract I think :)

Exactly! Individual independence and personality is the key word.
Though I don't believe in opposites. It's the things you have in common and still can argue about (or rather discuss) which makes a good friendship and deep love.

I met in my life a few men who were desperate for a relationship and suffocated me with their eagerness to please. I always ran.
It's probably the same for men.

cookie82

pappyodaniel wrote: »

How about a table quiz night somewhere? The Limerick one is pretty popular. Maybe move it around from time to time. Ennis/Shannon/Bunratty for example.

i like it.... i wouldnt be the sharpest pencil in the case but how bad!!

cookie82

I met in my life a few men who were desperate for a relationship and suffocated me with their eagerness to please. I always ran.
It's probably the same for men.[/QUOTE]

thats actually a very good point because she always walks on egg shells when she meets a guy so as not to out a hair out of place.

nicechick!

cookie82 wrote: »

problem is she would really like me to be there holding her hand when she goes on the hunt for this man but my hubby isnt too happy with the idea of me out on a man hunt with a hot blooded woman!!!! that and i have responsibilities that mean i cant go out every time she feels the need. Trying to be a good friend puts you in an awkward position sometimes.

The pressure! Spread the friendship possibly get someone of the other girls to meet her for social gatherings I'm sure you each of a hobbies or interest separate to each other that you could try and involve her in, I still think she really needs to do this on her own but whose to say she won't find something of interest and stick with it eventually making new friends

nicechick!

pappyodaniel wrote: »

How about a table quiz night somewhere? The Limerick one is pretty popular. Maybe move it around from time to time. Ennis/Shannon/Bunratty for example.

aww man I love it.. I am useless at quiz's I'm the chick that'll think of the answer when its to late!! No one would want me on there team!!

Lady Chatterton

pappyodaniel wrote: »

How about a table quiz night somewhere? The Limerick one is pretty popular. Maybe move it around from time to time. Ennis/Shannon/Bunratty for example.

Jaysus pappyodaniel, Ennis, Limerick & Bunratty, What about us boardsies in South East Clare (Killaloe)? I suppose I will have to hook with the Tipp lads instead

maiden

OK i Will settle this::: There is only one place!!!!

The matchmaking in Lisdoonvarna!!!!! Starting next month! Thats the job!

Guaranteed to find a man, now he might be 'slighty' older but a hardworking farming man!!!

Im single myself and might head up for the craic!!

kollegeknight

The sherwood at the mart...
Seriously though, i would say late bars are best option. Many a girlfriend i met in knoxes. The future mrs knight, i met in o hallorans.

finbarrk

If she is anyway fit tell her to join a hillwalking club. It can be a good way to meet people. Or even an ordinary walking club maybe. Generally any sort of events, classes, etc. that there is a group of mixed people at, is the way to go.

angelfire9

I met my OH in El Paso while I was waiting for my date (someone else entirely) to turn up!!!

I think fellas can sniff desperation so the OP's friend needs to relax and start hanging out in locations where she can make new friends first and take it from there

We REALLY should have a clare boards meet though! :D