Best way to get over somebody who isn't interested?

py2006

Hi AH,

Just wondering what methods you have for getting over the person that just wasn't interested?

I find learning to hate them works.

TheZohanS

Kill them.

mackeire

a ladder

schwegil

Getting under someone who is

Riamfada

try and ride a relation or friend.

CardBordWindow

Copious amounts of alcohol, followed by no-strings attached sex with a random drunken stranger!

antodeco

Blast them with miss-ed opportunity comments

Riamfada

stalk then on facebook for years

py2006

Riamfada wrote: »

stalk then on facebook for years

Can't see how that will help you get over them!

regress

Easy. No contact.

El Sorab

Busy yourself with writing python scripts

stupidusername

it is hard it helps to think of them as just another person, that their opinion doesn't matter.

wait, no i've no idea what i'm talking about

Frank Black

Just become incredibly successful in life and rub it in their face (behave) in a few years.

we'llallhavetea_old

just start fcuking everything that walks

newballsplease

py2006 wrote: »

Can't see how that will help you get over them!

A JOKE???????????????????????? my god

WindSock

Keep texting them to tell them how uninterested you are.

bnt

El Sorab wrote: »

Busy yourself with writing python scripts

Yeah, that'll do it:

[B]def[/B] obsess(person):
    [B]try[/B] sleep:
        toss
        turn
    [B]else[/B]:
        fap
    [B]finally[/B]:
        crash
    
void main()
    [B]while[/B] alive:
        obsess(her)
    [B]else[/B]:
        break

if __name__ == "__main__":
    main()

:cool:

mathie

Riamfada wrote: »

try and ride a relation or friend.

Of you or them?!

Richard Hillman

steal their underwear from their washing line.

FloatingVoter

Invent Facebook, become a billionaire and ....-they're still not interested....(happened to a guy I heard about).

Mint Sauce

Try their ma.

dilallio

Apologies - not a typical AH response, and a bit long ...

I was out walking late one sat night in Galway a few years ago, when I spotted this lad in his late 20s a good bit ahead of me walking backwards.
He didn't look drunk so I stopped and asked him was he ok and why he was walking backwards.

He told me that he was crazy about a girl for years, but she had broken it off 3 years earlier. He often couldn't sleep thinking about her, and often when this happened, he would walk 4 miles and wait outside her house for hours without calling or hassling her.

This particular night it was his 29th birthday, and despite his unhealthy obsession, he had again taken the walk to be near her. This time though he had enough, and finally recognised that this obsession was unhealthy and ruining his life, not to mention how freaked his ex would be if she ever spotted him.

So he decided he was finally going to end it by retracing his steps home, but walking backwards. Each step backwards, might help undo all the pain and shame he had.

He told me that if it took him 4 hrs to do it, he hoped to be able to finally put it behind him.

It was very surreal, the way he spoke in a quiet but determined manner, and all I could do was to shake his hand and wish him the best.

I never saw him again.

Sarah Bear

dilallio wrote: »

Apologies - not a typical AH response, and a bit long ...

I was out walking late one sat night in Galway a few years ago, when I spotted this lad in his late 20s a good bit ahead of me walking backwards.
He didn't look drunk so I stopped and asked him was he ok and why he was walking backwards.

He told me that he was crazy about a girl for years, but she had broken it off 3 years earlier. He often couldn't sleep thinking about her, and often when this happened, he would walk 4 miles and wait outside her house for hours without calling or hassling her.

This particular night it was his 29th birthday, and despite his unhealthy obsession, he had again taken the walk to be near her. This time though he had enough, and finally recognised that this obsession was unhealthy and ruining his life, not to mention how freaked his ex would be if she ever spotted him.

So he decided he was finally going to end it by retracing his steps home, but walking backwards. Each step backwards, might help undo all the pain and shame he had.

He told me that if it took him 4 hrs to do it, he hoped to be able to finally put it behind him.

It was very surreal, the way he spoke in a quiet but determined manner, and all I could do was to shake his hand and wish him the best.

I never saw him again.

was your friend you?

Emiko

py2006 wrote: »

Just wondering what methods you have for getting over the person that just wasn't interested?

I find learning to hate them works.

Build a bridge and then walk over it.

Auvers

buy them a once in a lifetime expedition to a glacier in Norway

It wasn't me!

py2006 wrote: »

I find learning to hate them works.

That shít is fúcking creepy.

If you liked them in the first place, and they haven't changed, why would you hate them? Because they rejected you? Jesus, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get on with your life. They're no less a person for having rejected you and clearly they were good enough in the first place if you liked them. They haven't changed.

Dravokivich

Prostitute?

Even if she isn't interested, yer still getting some.

brummytom

Strangely, I was going to post an almost identical thread.

I've yet to find any solution other than repeatedly, drunkenly declaring my love for her.

stupidusername

It wasn't me! wrote: »

That shít is fúcking creepy.

If you liked them in the first place, and they haven't changed, why would you hate them? Because they rejected you? Jesus, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get on with your life. They're no less a person for having rejected you and clearly they were good enough in the first place if you liked them. They haven't changed.

weeeeeeeeeell, it depends on how they do it, but yeah mostly....

HazDanz

Buy a customisable voodoo doll, add the personal features of the person you have been rejected by and start spooning it.

py2006

It wasn't me! wrote: »

That shít is fúcking creepy.

If you liked them in the first place, and they haven't changed, why would you hate them? Because they rejected you? Jesus, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get on with your life. They're no less a person for having rejected you and clearly they were good enough in the first place if you liked them. They haven't changed.

Hate may be strong a word! But what I meant was it makes it either to wipe them from your mind

dilallio

Sarah Bear wrote: »

was your friend you?

Nope.
I would have let myself in using the key I robbed, and hid in her wardrobe

It wasn't me!

py2006 wrote: »

Hate my be strong a word! But what I meant was it makes it either to wipe them from your mind

Or you could, y'know, be friends with them and have another good person in your life. Feelings fade. Takes time, but there you go. Life's too short to go cutting good people out of your life over precious feelings.

py2006

It wasn't me! wrote: »

Or you could, y'know, be friends with them and have another good person in your life. Feelings fade. Takes time, but there you go. Life's too short to go cutting good people out of your life over precious feelings.

Nah, tried the nice guy thing before! You end up looking like a doormat!

Using your method prolongs the 'getting over it' period. Maybe the friends thing can happen once your no longer have feelings!

It wasn't me!

py2006 wrote: »

Nah, tried the nice guy thing before! You end up looking like a doormat!

Using your method prolongs the 'getting over it' period. Maybe the friends thing can happen once your no longer have feelings!

Doormat me hole. By storming off you look like a petulant child, rather than an adult with an evolved perspective on the relative importance of your feelings for another person and theirs for you. It doesn't matter that much. You'll live.

Voodoo_rasher

turn to 'Pam and the 5 sisters' for consolation sake ha ha

Voodoo_rasher

dilallio wrote: »

Apologies - not a typical AH response, and a bit long ...

I was out walking late one sat night in Galway a few years ago, when I spotted this lad in his late 20s a good bit ahead of me walking backwards.
He didn't look drunk so I stopped and asked him was he ok and why he was walking backwards.



This particular night it was his 29th birthday, and despite his unhealthy obsession, he had again taken the walk to be near her. e ever spotted him.

So he decided he was finally going to end it by retracing his steps home, but walking backwards. Each step backwards, might help undo all the pain and shame he had.

He told me that if it took him 4 hrs to do it, he hoped to be able to finally put it behind him.

It was very surreal, the way he spoke in a quiet but determined manner, and all I could do was to shake his hand and wish him the best.

I never saw him again.

presumably, he took a wrong turn and ended up in da Corrib, oops

HazDanz

Voodoo_rasher wrote: »

turn to 'Pam and the 5 sisters' for consolation sake ha ha

Throw in a few self pity tears during the process as well and you are on the money.

py2006

It wasn't me! wrote: »

Doormat me hole. By storming off you look like a petulant child, rather than an adult with an evolved perspective on the relative importance of your feelings for another person and theirs for you. It doesn't matter that much. You'll live.

No no, I don't mean anything like that! No storming off or anything like that. I don't mean being disrespectful or abusive.

In the past I just found it easier to get over somebody who is not interested by distancing myself.

Vegeta

Well in some ways it's nearly like addiction. You know being around or having strong feelings for a disinterested person is bad for you (heartache, depression, frustration, self worth) but you just cant help yourself.

Look the first step is avoidance. Don't be around the person. Clearly this is difficult in certain scenarios, for example, if it is a work colleague who you share a cubicle with. So if possible spend as little social time with the person as possible. You don't need constant reminders of just how nice the person is.

Second step, don't sit around thinking about it all the time. Try and fill any spare time you have with your hobbies, interests or constructive activities. The less time your mind spends thinking about it the better. Sport is a great way to blank the mind.

Third step, time and honesty. It will take a long time for the feelings to go away. You need to be up front with yourself about that.

Wolflikeme

It wasn't me! wrote: »

Doormat me hole. By storming off you look like a petulant child, rather than an adult with an evolved perspective on the relative importance of your feelings for another person and theirs for you. It doesn't matter that much. You'll live.

I disagree. I take it you've a enough friends in your life right now OP to help you through it.

Accept that she no longer has feelings for you and move on. And if down the road you think you can be friends then get in touch maybe, might be a difficult thing to do at this seemingly early stage though.

py2006

Wolflikeme wrote: »

I disagree. I take it you've a enough friends in your life right now OP to help you through it.

Accept that she no longer has feelings for you and move on. And if down the road you think you can be friends then get in touch maybe, might be a difficult thing to do at this seemingly early stage though.

Thanks for your concern but I was asking in general terms!

pappyodaniel

Start drinking on your own.
Play Russian Roullette with a capgun.
Say to yourself "what the **** are you doing with your life.

It wasn't me!

Ties are easier severed than fixed. If they're a good person, just work on your own stuff. Focus your energies elsewhere and you'll be fine.

raveni

How a person handles rejection can tell you a lot about the person.
How a person rejects someone can tell you a lot about the person.

RichieC

find someone else.

Humans eh!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z23fZSa-QY4

CrazyFish

Chloroform and a cloth.

Teyla Emmagan

It wasn't me! wrote: »

Or you could, y'know, be friends with them and have another good person in your life. Feelings fade. Takes time, but there you go. Life's too short to go cutting good people out of your life over precious feelings.

Be FRIENDS with them?!? This is rubbish advice. What kind of crazy well balanced accepting person are you?!

Hatred is the way to go. Convince yourself that they never existed. Failing that, pretend that they're dead. It's the only way forward.

Millicent

This is an odd bit of advice but I swear it can be useful.

When you're going out with someone, they tend to have a certain behaviour or attribute that drives you mad or that you don't find attractive.

Concentrate on the memory of it, exaggerate it to comic proportions and think of it whenever you are feeling down about the end of the relationship. Don't share it with anyone -- the point is to break the attraction, not to be cruel about them. Picturing your ex's hairy toes as big, gnarly hobbit feet, for example, or the fact that they picked their nose when they thought you weren't looking can be surprising effective in turning you off them!

May sound batshit but whatever gets you through.

pragmatic1

In time it will progress from infatuation to resentment to hate to indifference. Time heals all wounds OP.