Help! I need friends!

Quagmire11

Hows it goin lads?
I've got a bit of a problem. Basically, all my male friends have either moved abroad or are starting families or something and I'm left without any to hang around with, have a laugh or a chat with. I have some female friends but its not really the same sometimes. Its been getting to me lately. I have a good life, a loving girlfriend but I find myself very down because I need "man time". In a totally hetero way, of course;). Any advice?

tallaghtmick

Quagmire11 wrote: »

Hows it goin lads?
I've got a bit of a problem. Basically, all my male friends have either moved abroad or are starting families or something and I'm left without any to hang around with, have a laugh or a chat with. I have some female friends but its not really the same sometimes. Its been getting to me lately. I have a good life, a loving girlfriend but I find myself very down because I need "man time". In a totally hetero way, of course;). Any advice?

Thats me out :mad:

El Guapo!

Join a club/football team or something? Then get in the mix with all the lads there and make new friends.

Quagmire11

I've never been in a club or anything like that. I wouldn't even know where to start. Any suggestions? I love football (watching, not playing), MMA, TV and Music.

MrStuffins

Quagmire11 wrote: »

I've never been in a club or anything like that. I wouldn't even know where to start. Any suggestions? I love football (watching, not playing), MMA, TV and Music.

Nice choice

I saw a documentary on this subject before:

Quagmire11

Haha. I love that film. I kinda feel like that guy except I'm slightly more masculine.

MrStuffins

Quagmire11 wrote: »

Haha. I love that film. I kinda feel like that guy except I'm slightly more masculine.

How old are you? Where do you live?

Since you like MMA, why not join an MMA gym? or do some BJJ or something?

Quagmire11

I'm 26. Living in Waterford. I've thought about doin BJJ but to be honest I'd say I'd be fairly rubbish at it. I'm not the most athletic of fellas.

MrStuffins

Quagmire11 wrote: »

I'm 26. Living in Waterford. I've thought about doin BJJ but to be honest I'd say I'd be fairly rubbish at it. I'm not the most athletic of fellas.

That's the point of BJJ though. To give the non-athletic the upper hand over those more gived in that department.

Maguined

Quagmire11 wrote: »

I'm 26. Living in Waterford. I've thought about doin BJJ but to be honest I'd say I'd be fairly rubbish at it. I'm not the most athletic of fellas.

I started BJJ weighing 24 stone, was a round lump of a nerd who had never any athletic prowess at all. Loved it and lost 9 stone and also made some really good friends while doing it, met some of the nicest and most interesting friends from all walks of life in my club so don't let anything stop you from signing up.

Also even after 2 years of doing it I am still crap at it but love it so just do it man!

Chris P. Bacon

Quagmire11 wrote: »

I'm 26. Living in Waterford. I've thought about doin BJJ but to be honest I'd say I'd be fairly rubbish at it. I'm not the most athletic of fellas.

Are you working?,if you are why not head out on a Friday with a few fellas after work for a few drinks.

MrStuffins

Maguined wrote: »

I started BJJ weighing 24 stone, was a round lump of a nerd who had never any athletic prowess at all. Loved it and lost 9 stone and also made some really good friends while doing it, met some of the nicest and most interesting friends from all walks of life in my club so don't let anything stop you from signing up.

Also even after 2 years of doing it I am still crap at it but love it so just do it man!

9 Stone in 2 years? Congratulations.

You didn't have an undetected Siamese Twin on your back the whole time did you?

Quagmire11

Thanks Maguined,
Congrats on the weight loss, thats unreal. Fair play to ya. I definitely am gonna look into joining. Now if only there was a club that involved sittin around playin xbox and drinkin, I'd defo be up for that.

tallaghtmick

Quagmire11 wrote: »

Thanks Maguined,
Congrats on the weight loss, thats unreal. Fair play to ya. I definitely am gonna look into joining. Now if only there was a club that involved sittin around playin xbox and drinkin, I'd defo be up for that.

Its called xbox live

Quagmire11

Haha, good stuff tallaghtmick,
Real people though, not bloodthirsty american teenagers. Did you ever notice how most of the guys who actually talk on xbox live are usually a**holes. all the sound people are probably just listening thinkin "these guys are such a**holes".:D

tallaghtmick

Quagmire11 wrote: »

Haha, good stuff tallaghtmick,
Real people though, not bloodthirsty american teenagers. Did you ever notice how most of the guys who actually talk on xbox live are usually a**holes. all the sound people are probably just listening thinkin "these guys are such a**holes".:D

Funnily enough i rarely play the 360 and even less rarely go online.

SJM

I think there is a difficulty and a lack of resources for men to make new friends. If your not into sports or drinking the options are very limited.

Uncle Mclovin

Quagmire11 wrote: »

Haha, good stuff tallaghtmick,
Real people though, not bloodthirsty american teenagers. Did you ever notice how most of the guys who actually talk on xbox live are usually a**holes. all the sound people are probably just listening thinkin "these guys are such a**holes".:D

Thats just COD players. They tend to be a shower of d1cks alright.

Quagmire11

SJM wrote: »

I think there is a difficulty and a lack of resources for men to make new friends. If your not into sports or drinking the options are very limited.

Yeah totally agree with you SJM. It seems like options are majorly limited and I feel like a plank even talking about it with my female friends. I'm a fairly decent guy, with a good sense of humour and broad interests and yet it seems that its almost impossible to "make friends". Most of my friends are from school or work from years back. How do you make new friends? It just seems like if you try too hard, then your in a forced situation and that makes me feel immediately uncomfortable.

BOHtox

Quagmire11 wrote: »

Hows it goin lads?
I've got a bit of a problem. Basically, all my male friends have either moved abroad or are starting families or something and I'm left without any to hang around with, have a laugh or a chat with. I have some female friends but its not really the same sometimes. Its been getting to me lately. I have a good life, a loving girlfriend but I find myself very down because I need "man time". In a totally hetero way, of course;). Any advice?

did you ask any of these friends?

Raze_them_all

Waterford have a decent mma club.

What games do you play on xbox? I play with a regular bunch of sound gamers

stek

What does MMA and BJJ mean?
Thanks

wolf moon

Quagmire11 wrote: »

Basically, all my male friends...are starting families

are married guys with kids not allowed to have friends anymore?

happened to me when i got married: everyone moved away "sure you're a married guy now" and all the bull ye know, but luckily i got new friends and left the old "mates" behind.

as the lads say, join the club, find yourself an outdoor hobby or stay on boards long enough.

and don't push it, usually people can sense it from miles away and mostly find it pathetic - even if they won't say it straight.

Colin4May

tallaghtmick wrote: »

Thats me out :mad:

Why? Are you so unsure of your feminine side that you feel you may be turned? Lol! Only joking, mate:)

Winterly

Hello, everyone. It is my first time to join in here. Nice to meet you.:)

getz

Quagmire11 wrote: »

Hows it goin lads?
I've got a bit of a problem. Basically, all my male friends have either moved abroad or are starting families or something and I'm left without any to hang around with, have a laugh or a chat with. I have some female friends but its not really the same sometimes. Its been getting to me lately. I have a good life, a loving girlfriend but I find myself very down because I need "man time". In a totally hetero way, of course;). Any advice?

you like watching football,then go to a pub that has it on,you will soon meet new friends,or even better go and join a darts team near you,darts will be the next big thing in ireland,it always worked for me in the UK,and in this day and age you dont have to drink beer in pubs.

--Kaiser--

stek wrote: »

What does MMA and BJJ mean?
Thanks

Mixed Martial Arts and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu

dipper.meath16

Well Quagmire11.. Slowly but surly the same happining round home, lads headin abroad, however i play alot of sports so i have a few lads and team mates around.. I think you should, and i mean this in the nicest possible way, stop playing the xbox and go out?? like there is loads of tag rugby teams poppin up al over the country and i know a few playin it, they do have savage craic! plus its mixed so you could bring your missus along so you dont feel as akward?!

Raze_them_all

dipper.meath16 wrote: »

Well Quagmire11.. Slowly but surly the same happining round home, lads headin abroad, however i play alot of sports so i have a few lads and team mates around.. I think you should, and i mean this in the nicest possible way, stop playing the xbox and go out?? like there is loads of tag rugby teams poppin up al over the country and i know a few playin it, they do have savage craic! plus its mixed so you could bring your missus along so you dont feel as akward?!

Ah the age old attitude of gamers have no real friends, I won't mention about me an my xbox clan going away for the weekend last week and going paintballing and stuff

tallaghtmick

Colin4May wrote: »

Why? Are you so unsure of your feminine side that you feel you may be turned? Lol! Only joking, mate:)

It was actually a way of saying i was in for the ghey stuff :pac:

dipper.meath16

Raze_them_all wrote: »

Ah the age old attitude of gamers have no real friends, I won't mention about me an my xbox clan going away for the weekend last week and going paintballing and stuff

No no, dont get me wrong, i have an xbox myself!! hence why i said i ment it in the nicest way possible!!
See you went out paintballing ect!! thats along the lines of what i ment, i was putting the suggestion of tag rugby as a way to meet new people outside of xbox live.. see you picked up on the one line that was ment is the most non offensive way possible.

BigDuffman

Dunno if joining an online gaming group is the best way to expand the social network....as then you end up staying in, in the evenings instead of being out chasing wimmin or shooting the breeze with the lads.

Your not alone dude, with emigration and various other sh!tty factors associated with our generation in these times. Gangs of mates are being picked apart!

I saw a mensheds.ie thing on here a while ago. Also join a club. YOu don't need to be good at something to join up! Go for the craic! Try diving, martial arts, airsoft, climbing all of these are clubs that are not based on performance or ability, so if your sh!t at football it wont matter as there is no A or B Team in a diving or airsoft club for example!

Just a group of lads meeting up with a shared interest.

Wolfe Tone

Get involved with politics and a political party, go to protests etc, great way to meet new people