Ego boost

borderlinemeath

You know the way there's always that ex that was the "one that got away" and if I wasn't with my current beau I would have still hankered after him....

Well I havent laid eyes on mine for nearly 12 years - and always wondered how he was doing, what did he look like now, and (importantly for me)if he thought I looked well (because I think I've aged a lot in the 12yrs)

OMG - I just happened to come across a few photos of him at a wedding of people I vaguely know and sweet jesus he's aged about 25 years!! His hair is white - not even grey - white!! and thats only the hair that's left!! He's just a lot older looking in general - looks very different to the guy I used to know.

It made me smile - as I always thought that I had aged badly and can be fairly haggard looking at times - feel sooo much better now!!

So what's been your recent ego boosting experiences? Hopefully not as bitchy as mine!!

MagicMarker

How delightful.

TaraFoxglove

borderlinemeath wrote: »

You know the way there's always that ex that was the "one that got away" and if I wasn't with my current beau I would have still hankered after him....

Well I havent laid eyes on mine for nearly 12 years - and always wondered how he was doing, what did he look like now, and (importantly for me)if he thought I looked well (because I think I've aged a lot in the 12yrs)

OMG - I just happened to come across a few photos of him at a wedding of people I vaguely know and sweet jesus he's aged about 25 years!! His hair is white - not even grey - white!! and thats only the hair that's left!! He's just a lot older looking in general - looks very different to the guy I used to know.

It made me smile - as I always thought that I had aged badly and can be fairly haggard looking at times - feel sooo much better now!!

So what's been your recent ego boosting experiences? Hopefully not as bitchy as mine!!

How is him looking bad an ego boost for you?

borderlinemeath

I never said that he looked bad -I said he had aged - A LOT.

I think that I have aged a lot in the past few years - I think I look older than my friends of the same age and I always feel uneasy/edgy about meeting people I haven't seen in years - based on my opinion that I have aged moreso than my actual years.

What looking at the photos gave me was a glimpse of reality that time has stood still for nobody - and I realised I wouldn't feel uneasy about bumping into him as time has taken it's toll on both of us.

So yes it made me feel good about myself.

When a lot of people congratulated me for finishing college. That was definitely an ego boost.

FreudianSlippers

borderlinemeath wrote: »

His hair is white - not even grey - white!!

What? Oh Rly!

Congrats on your EX looking older than you and his aging and your ego boost, very very happy for you.

TaraFoxglove

borderlinemeath wrote: »

I never said that he looked bad -I said he had aged - A LOT.

I think that I have aged a lot in the past few years - I think I look older than my friends of the same age and I always feel uneasy/edgy about meeting people I haven't seen in years - based on my opinion that I have aged moreso than my actual years.

What looking at the photos gave me was a glimpse of reality that time has stood still for nobody - and I realised I wouldn't feel uneasy about bumping into him as time has taken it's toll on both of us.

So yes it made me feel good about myself.

Sooo... you've both aged badly?

FreudianSlippers wrote: »

*hug*

borderlinemeath

Maybe if you suffered from low self esteem at times then you might understand.

Sometimes I don't have a great view of myself - somedays I look in the mirror and think - do I really have to go out and face people today? Other days can be fine.

But when I see somebody from my past that I had a visual memory of - that I always dreaded the day that we would cross paths because I feel I could have done better, looked better etc etc - and I see that they have aged - then I breathed a huge sigh of relief and smiled.

And then I felt bitchy because I shouldn't think of old friends in that way - but hey - I'm human.

Malari

When my friend said she liked my buns.....


....so much that she wants to order a batch for her daughter's birthday party.

OP your example is more schadenfreude than ego boost I would have thought. Ah, nothing wrong with a bit of that from time to time.

Silverfish

Sorry OP, I'm closing this thread as I just can't see it ending in anything other than infractions or bans.

Maple

Ok, nobody has anything constructive to add. OP, this is getting locked.