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How to "encourage" my SO to exercise

  • 19-05-2011 9:01am
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    Closed Accounts Posts: 40


    Has anyone here been successful in getting your SO to exercise?

    My husband is 30, in good health, relatively slim, but not very active....wait, sorry, he plays golf once a week - as he likes to remind me when I ask him about doing more sport. Every now and again he'll do something for a couple of weeks (running, gym) and then lose interest. He works long hours so claims he doesnt have time for sport.

    I'm fortunate enough to have a gym at work which I use at lunchtime and dance classes directly after work. I'll be honest, I'm not really willing to start going to the gym together with him in the evenings - my schedule is tight enough as it is. Really, we could only workout together on the weekends.

    Any ideas how I can encourage him to do some sport without nagging? My concern is for his health (cardio-vascular) and for his back (which he had trouble with in the past). Plus I get such a kick out of my training, I'd love that for him too. And some muscles wouldn't be unattractive either :-)


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 8,722 ✭✭✭nice_guy80


    encourage him to train for an event. best way to get motivated.
    eg 10k run.
    charity run
    triathalon.
    you might have to do it with him though!!

    training will seriously help his golf game!!

    or to set a goal and work towards it
    eg fit into an old pair of trousers
    slim down a shirt size


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 21,981 ✭✭✭✭Hanley


    Make it relevant. He’s not going to train because you want him to, he’ll probably only resent your for it even though you have his best interests at heart :)

    Frame it as a way of improving his golf game. The rotational forces of swinging a club puts a big demand on his core and is probably contributing to his back trouble. If he were my client I’d emphasise that by doing core/anti rotation work, and improving lower body strength he’d be able to drive the ball further more consistently, he’d last thru the round better as his playing partners fade away and would feel better during the week cos he wouldn’t have all those niggling pains.

    All it takes is like 2x per week really… throw in 10-15 minutes of interval training at the end with targets to achieve/beat and all is good.

    You need to find what motivates him, and work off that.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 40 caterpillar101


    Thanks guys.
    I've signed up for a 10k at the end of June - he might be interested in doing that with me. He's actually quite fit when he does decide to move so it's not an unrealistic goal.

    Hanley, I never thought of selling it as a way of improving his golf game - that just might work! I'll broach the subject over the weekend.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,025 ✭✭✭d'Oracle


    If you thought this thread was about the sacro-illiac joint, you have been spending too much time on boards.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 243 ✭✭Ouchette


    If you had an active holiday booked, like doing the Inca trail or climbing Kilimanjaro or something, he'd have to work on his fitness if he wanted to go. :D

    Might not be an option, of course.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 813 ✭✭✭Satanta


    nice_guy80 wrote: »
    training will seriously help his golf game!!

    Very true. Tiger woods bench presses 100Kg.

    After good gains in strength over the winter my driving has got alot better too. This would be the holy grain for a regular golfer


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,023 ✭✭✭howtomake


    You say he's done a few bursts of exercise before? What does he actually like doing? No use in signing him up for a 10k if he can't stand running.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 106 ✭✭Sparkyd2002


    I am in my late thirties and had a slight build.never saw the inside of a gym before 35 and never liked running. Now am a regular gym attendee, benching 60 -70 kilos depending on how often im in the gym and love a nice 3-4 mile run 3-4 times a week.Have cut out all the crap food, crisps etc apart from the odd treat :) For me attending the gym was always put on the long finger for 1 reason, inadequacy! I always thought i'd be like a wimp next to all these beefed up body builders.What got me there in the end was a friend of mine who was so enthusiaistic about the gym and was so convinced i could be in great shape i gave it a go. 2 years on im addicted. So in short i think its just a bit of positive encouragment and a good gym buddy. I still find the gym boring on my own but its great if you have a training buddy to encourage you and egg you on. now i have plenty of muscle, so much so the wife is trying to stop me going to the gym as she hates total body building types. Cant win. LOL

    PS and the main point , the golf game improved dramatically!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,096 ✭✭✭xalot


    This might not go down too well but if he's not overweight and he's not interested in working out then why push it? If you are going on about exercise all the time then maybe it's having the opposite effect on him.

    In my experience you dont see results from a gym unless you actually want to be there, the amount of people I see faffing about on the mobiles on the gym and not doing very much....it seems like such a waste of time.

    Just my opinion.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,117 ✭✭✭SanoVitae


    Satanta wrote: »
    Tiger woods bench presses 100Kg.

    If you think that's impressive, you should see his hip thrusts.....


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 6,300 ✭✭✭CiaranC


    Why dont you leave him alone? Not everyone is into sport


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,025 ✭✭✭d'Oracle


    CiaranC wrote: »
    Why dont you leave him alone? Not everyone is into sport

    That question has been addressed in the opening post.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 40 caterpillar101


    CiaranC wrote: »
    Why dont you leave him alone? Not everyone is into sport
    ? Someone having a bad day?

    I never said anything about going on about exercise, I dont pressure him, I would like if he did something because it would contribute to his health, energy levels, stress management, mood etc. I'm not trying to turn him into something he's not - and I specifically said that I did not want to nag!


    Thanks for the positive suggestions and personal experiences shared. Particularly the golf angle would be a good one. He likes running once he gets going as well - he started running again off his own bat a few months ago, but stopped when he got the flu.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,720 ✭✭✭Sid_Justice


    what does SI mean? Spousal...eh special eh...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,070 ✭✭✭✭Malice


    what does SI mean? Spousal...eh special eh...
    It's probably a typo for "SO" as in Significant Other. The 'i' and 'o' keys are next to each other on the keyboard :).


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 40 caterpillar101


    Malice wrote: »
    It's probably a typo for "SO" as in Significant Other. The 'i' and 'o' keys are next to each other on the keyboard :).

    Yep, thanks - tis brain-dead-day when it comes to acronyms. That's what happens when you don't use them often - you dont even notice when you use them wrongly!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 731 ✭✭✭Tonto86


    CiaranC wrote: »
    Why dont you leave him alone? Not everyone is into sport

    I gotta agree. If my other half was constantly at me to go to the gym, take up sport and run a 10k I'd feel like a renovation project


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,874 ✭✭✭shootermacg


    Tonto86 wrote: »
    I gotta agree. If my other half was constantly at me to go to the gym, take up sport and run a 10k I'd feel like a renovation project

    Welcome to marriage my friend!
    This may be a generalization but IMO women cant rest, paint the walls, paint them again move a sofa over to the other side of the room, move it back.
    I wouldn't mind myself but she has to include me in the process, I'm more of a top down guy looking at her chasing her tail repeatedly wondering if this isn't some sort of insanity shared by all women.
    My opinion is if I do nothing long enough, she will eventually want the wall back to the original color and we'll both be happy.
    :D
    Is nagging the same as bullying? As far as the SO is concerned leave the poor bloke alone, he puts up with your meddling ways already.
    What you want isn't necessarily what he wants.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,368 ✭✭✭cc87


    CiaranC wrote: »
    Why dont you leave him alone? Not everyone is into sport
    Being healthy isnt too bad though


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,874 ✭✭✭shootermacg


    so much so the wife is trying to stop me going to the gym as she hates total body building types. Cant win. LOL

    I get that too.:D


    Receptionist: How do you write women so well?
    Melvin Udall: I think of a man, and I take away reason and accountability.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 40 caterpillar101


    Welcome to marriage my friend!
    This may be a generalization but IMO women cant rest, paint the walls, paint them again move a sofa over to the other side of the room, move it back.
    I wouldn't mind myself but she has to include me in the process, I'm more of a top down guy looking at her chasing her tail repeatedly wondering if this isn't some sort of insanity shared by all women.
    My opinion is if I do nothing long enough, she will eventually want the wall back to the original color and we'll both be happy.
    :D
    Is nagging the same as bullying? As far as the SO is concerned leave the poor bloke alone, he puts up with your meddling ways already.
    What you want isn't necessarily what he wants.

    Trying to see the relevance of this to my question?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,025 ✭✭✭d'Oracle


    Trying to see the relevance of this to my question?

    I wouldn't pay it any mind.
    There is most likely a fairly liberal amount of tongue in cheek at play.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 11,333 ✭✭✭✭itsallaboutheL


    Point out every man you see that's in better shape than him, so that he feels like a bag of shit and sorts himself out/leaves.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,874 ✭✭✭shootermacg


    Point out every man you see that's in better shape than him, so that he feels like a bag of shit and sorts himself out/leaves.

    Apparently he's not in real bad shape...just not her ideal man, could have more muscles yada yada. Is he happy?:D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,842 ✭✭✭beggars_bush


    Is she????

    Plenty of faster, fitter models around :p


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,928 ✭✭✭accensi0n


    I'm more of a top down guy looking at her

    .


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,874 ✭✭✭shootermacg


    accensi0n wrote: »
    .

    HAHA ya bugger aren't we all!:D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,049 ✭✭✭discus


    Point out every man you see that's in better shape than him, so that he feels like a bag of shit and sorts himself out/leaves.

    Who's side are you on? I thoughts you was a dude


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 731 ✭✭✭Tonto86


    Can ya imagine if the situation was reversed?

    Husband: Would ya mind gettin a bit fitter? Your not exactly ugly but if ya could do with loosing a bit of the flab!
    Wife: :eek:

    Next days newspaper: Wife uses bingo wings to beat husband into next week


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,874 ✭✭✭shootermacg


    Tonto86 wrote: »
    Can ya imagine if the situation was reversed?

    Husband: Would ya mind gettin a bit fitter? Your not exactly ugly but if ya could do with loosing a bit of the flab!
    Wife: :eek:

    Next days newspaper: Wife uses bingo wings to beat husband into next week

    Haha. So true!


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