To tell or not to tell...

acwxx

I was looking at an Irish dating website last night while on the phone with a friend. You know how it is, glass of wine, telephone and just for laughs... Imagine my surprise when I saw the profile of a lecturer from LYIT! From what I can tell, the person has been totally honest and has not lied or done anything weird -(except the whole weird thing of being on a dating site in the first place!) the person, from what I remember of them is lovely too and I really would not want them shamed in any way.
However - here is the thing... I am meeting up with some friends for dinner and drinks on Friday. Three of the four know the person too. This is going to be the number one scream topic of the night. I know that I should really say nothing, but it is too good to keep to myself. Isn't it??

abouttobebanned

Get a life.

Lavattack

acwxx wrote: »

I was looking at an Irish dating website last night while on the phone with a friend. You know how it is, glass of wine, telephone and just for laughs... Imagine my surprise when I saw the profile of a lecturer from LYIT! From what I can tell, the person has been totally honest and has not lied or done anything weird -(except the whole weird thing of being on a dating site in the first place!) the person, from what I remember of them is lovely too and I really would not want them shamed in any way.
However - here is the thing... I am meeting up with some friends for dinner and drinks on Friday. Three of the four know the person too. This is going to be the number one scream topic of the night. I know that I should really say nothing, but it is too good to keep to myself. Isn't it??

You were on it yourself.... I don't see what the big dealio is tho. So what if they were on it. You have obviously been to college given you know em so I reckon it time to grow up.

acwxx

Lavattack wrote: »

You were on it yourself.... I don't see what the big dealio is tho. So what if they were on it. You have obviously been to college given you know em so I reckon it time to grow up.

We were looking at it - not registered on it! FYI the person I was looking at the site with is doing a form of research for a genetics PhD. We were actually looking at men by county to see if Donegal had the highest number of premature baldness. We don't need to grow up, however despite our success, we haven't grown old before our time either. We are both under 30.

Lavattack

acwxx wrote: »

We were looking at it - not registered on it! FYI the person I was looking at the site with is doing a form of research for a genetics PhD. We were actually looking at men by county to see if Donegal had the highest number of premature baldness. We don't need to grow up, however despite our success, we haven't grown old before our time either. We are both under 30.

:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:


I don't think that even deserves a response being honest. If some-one else wants to post and explain to the OP why not feel free.

mw3guc

acwxx wrote: »

You know how it is, glass of wine, telephone and just for laughs...

That's not how I carried out my Phd research - times have certainly changed in academia :eek:

acwxx

mw3guc wrote: »

That's not how I carried out my Phd research - times have certainly changed in academia :eek:

I was actually keeping it light hearted. Only mentioned the research because the poster was so serious. Obviously that is not the main research! You've got to admit, it is a fun way to start though...

K-9

I don't understand what the big deal is, I suppose you could tell your friends and have a good giggle about it, if you find it entertaining.

irish1967

I think this would be better suited for After Hour. Bar the persons work place I can't see it's relevance to Donegal. As with another poster I really don't think it merits more comment than that.

muffler

irish1967 wrote: »

I think this would be better suited for After Hour. Bar the persons work place I can't see it's relevance to Donegal.

Spot on.

Thread moved from Donegal to AH.

Saila

acwxx wrote: »

I was looking at an Irish dating website last night while on the phone with a friend. You know how it is, glass of wine, telephone and just for laughs... Imagine my surprise when I saw the profile of a lecturer from LYIT! From what I can tell, the person has been totally honest and has not lied or done anything weird -(except the whole weird thing of being on a dating site in the first place!) the person, from what I remember of them is lovely too and I really would not want them shamed in any way.

Frank Black

acwxx wrote: »

Imagine my surprise when I saw the profile of a lecturer from LYIT!

I'm sorry my imagination is very poor and I don't know you so this is difficult for me.

Do you tend to get suprised quite easily?

If you saw a cat playing a harmonica would you be very suprised or only slightly suprised?

liah

Am I the only one who finds it incredibly ironic that people give out about how weird the people are on dating websites while posting on boards?

faceman

acwxx wrote: »

(except the whole weird thing of being on a dating site in the first place!)

Why is it weird?

pickarooney

muffler wrote: »

Spot on.

Thread moved from Donegal to AH.

You could have gone a few cm down and moved it to the Recycle Bin.

super_furry

If in doubt, just don't be a dick.

wha

acwxx wrote: »

We are both under 30.

Are you sure?

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=72146619&postcount=14

Sykk

He's a lecturer and has a PhD.. How does that make him stand out from anyone else on a dating site except for the fact that he's obviously done well for himself? Have you no life?

You make me sick.

PS: Welcome to the AH, good luck repairing your arsehole

Swampy

Spill the beans.

Frank Black

So some single guy that you think is “lovely” is on a dating website and has posted up an accurate profile of himself.
Maybe he’s lonely and doesn’t get a chance to meet people who share his interests in his normal social life, so he’s decided that instead of moping around he’ll be proactive and try to do something to meet someone - who knows maybe someone special to spend the rest of his life with.
The answer to your question is obvious – you should spill all at your dinner on Friday – after all it’s more important that you get a few cheap laughs from your friends than respect the privacy of this guy.
Your friends will think you’re great for being able to bring them this nugget of gossip.
Actually, I’ve a better idea – set up an account (under a false name) and arrange to meet this guy at the restaurant you’re going to on Friday. Then when he turns up you can all point and laugh at him.

kfallon

I hope the guy gets a stunner, deadly in the cot and has a great personality....who'll be laughing then?

He put himself on the site, I doubt he cares if a gaggle of geebags will get a laugh out of it or not on Friday night!

Good luck to him, at least he had the balls to do it. It's not my cup of tea but who's to say I'm right?

RachaelVO

TBH OP, it's none of your bloody business whether anyone you know is on a dating site. It's become a very common way for people to meet each other, so what has it to do with you and the people you know?

You were on the site yourself, so it the idea can't be that remote to you.

Just leave the guy alone and keep it to yourself!

Ash.J.Williams

jaysus

gosuckonalemon

acwxx wrote: »

I was looking at an Irish dating website last night while on the phone with a friend. You know how it is, glass of wine, telephone and just for laughs... Imagine my surprise when I saw the profile of a lecturer from LYIT! From what I can tell, the person has been totally honest and has not lied or done anything weird -(except the whole weird thing of being on a dating site in the first place!) the person, from what I remember of them is lovely too and I really would not want them shamed in any way.
However - here is the thing... I am meeting up with some friends for dinner and drinks on Friday. Three of the four know the person too. This is going to be the number one scream topic of the night. I know that I should really say nothing, but it is too good to keep to myself. Isn't it??

What business is it of yours? Is it illegal or immoral to use a dating site or something?

Why would you think anyone would be shamed for using one. Millions of people are on them.

Mind your own business. Get a life. You sound like a very sad little girl.

gosuckonalemon

black francis wrote: »

So some single guy that you think is “lovely” is on a dating website and has posted up an accurate profile of himself.
Maybe he’s lonely and doesn’t get a chance to meet people who share his interests in his normal social life, so he’s decided that instead of moping around he’ll be proactive and try to do something to meet someone - who knows maybe someone special to spend the rest of his life with.
The answer to your question is obvious – you should spill all at your dinner on Friday – after all it’s more important that you get a few cheap laughs from your friends than respect the privacy of this guy.
Your friends will think you’re great for being able to bring them this nugget of gossip.
Actually, I’ve a better idea – set up an account (under a false name) and arrange to meet this guy at the restaurant you’re going to on Friday. Then when he turns up you can all point and laugh at him.

Be careful, based on the OP, I doubt she'll have the intellectual capacity to detect sarcasm!

gosuckonalemon

wha wrote: »

Are you sure?

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=72146619&postcount=14

WTF??

michelledoh

acwxx wrote: »

We were looking at it - not registered on it! FYI the person I was looking at the site with is doing a form of research for a genetics PhD. We were actually looking at men by county to see if Donegal had the highest number of premature baldness. We don't need to grow up, however despite our success, we haven't grown old before our time either. We are both under 30.

i understand! Its all for a laugh.

Tbh if someone is on the dating website i think they are serious about finding someone! Tell your friends if you know they won't slag her off to her face!

GetWithIt

Creepy.

Also, welcome to the internet.

Liam Byrne

acwxx wrote: »

the person, from what I remember of them is lovely too and I really would not want them shamed in any way.

All good so far, especially as there's nothing to be shamed about.

acwxx wrote: »

However - here is the thing... I am meeting up with some friends for dinner and drinks on Friday. Three of the four know the person too. This is going to be the number one scream topic of the night. I know that I should really say nothing, but it is too good to keep to myself. Isn't it??

"the number one scream topic" ? That phrase doesn't even make sense! Stop listening to Jedwardisms. I'd be more shamed if I came out with that phrase than if I was on a dating site!

To answer your question, it's not "too good" to keep to yourself. It's irrelevant, neither good nor bad.

If you try to make a conversation topic out of it it will be the equivalent of "listen, listen, lads.....I've a MASSIVE story......yeah, listen.......you know that lecturer XXXXXXX ? He drives a Corolla!"

Cue lots of blank looks and YOU being the one cringing.

Up to you, though!

MagicSean

This is sad. Students are sad bastards these days.

gosuckonalemon

Seanbeag1 wrote: »

This is sad. Students are sad bastards these days.

She's not even a student...from a previous post she wrote:

"Are there any gay bars for girls in safe areas of Dublin? I am coming over on business in a couple of weeks and would love to be with a girl without anyone knowing.

Can anyone recommend anywhere? I am 36"

gustavo

Well this didn't go the way the OP had expected

Sykk

acwxx wrote: »

we haven't grown old before our time either. We are both under 30.

acwxx wrote:

Are there any gay bars for girls in safe areas of Dublin? I am coming over on business in a couple of weeks and would love to be with a girl without anyone knowing.

Can anyone recommend anywhere? I am 36

Oh... What have we here?

optogirl

acwxx wrote: »

We were looking at it - not registered on it!

So what? Is there something wrong with using dating sites?

vangoz

Think I'll fetch my popcorn, sit back and enjoy this one

Lando Griffin

gustavo wrote: »

Well this didn't go the way the OP had expected

Would be a scream of a topic at the dinner table Friday night!
An under 30 36 year old single lady doing her Phd, just back from abroad 6 years from Donegal looking to meet girls in a safe pub in Dublin, while all the time looking at men searching for someone to date.
Shovel time, keep digging.

eilo1

gosuckonalemon wrote: »

She's not even a student...from a previous post she wrote:

"Are there any gay bars for girls in safe areas of Dublin? I am coming over on business in a couple of weeks and would love to be with a girl without anyone knowing.

Can anyone recommend anywhere? I am 36"

That's so funny!

Cant believe she thinks its shameful to be on an internet dating sight but then looking to have a random gay experience with a total stranger!
:pac::pac::pac::pac:

Show Time

vangoz wrote: »

Think I'll fetch my popcorn, sit back and enjoy this one

Pass some this way.

gosuckonalemon

eilo1 wrote: »

That's so funny!

Cant believe she thinks its shameful to be on an internet dating sight but then looking to have a random gay experience with a total stranger!
:pac::pac::pac::pac:

That sums the whole sorry OP up right there..

Sykk

Reported for sticky..

humanji

gustavo wrote: »

Well this didn't go the way the OP had expected

Considering the contradicting versions of the OP's life from their various posts, I'm guessing this is exactly what they wanted and it'll probably, and quite mysteriously, appear as a newspaper article...

frag420

acwxx wrote: »

We were looking at it - not registered on it! FYI the person I was looking at the site with is doing a form of research for a genetics PhD. We were actually looking at men by county to see if Donegal had the highest number of premature baldness. We don't need to grow up, however despite our success, we haven't grown old before our time either. We are both under 30.

Physically or mentally??

Was there no stories on Jordan or Jedward for you to get your phone giggles from??

frAg

Wolflikeme

gosuckonalemon wrote: »

She's not even a student...from a previous post she wrote:

"Are there any gay bars for girls in safe areas of Dublin? I am coming over on business in a couple of weeks and would love to be with a girl without anyone knowing.

Can anyone recommend anywhere? I am 36"

Think I'll set up a thread about acwxx. I mean, it's bound to be the number one scream topic in AH and I'll get loads of thanks!

Oh did I mention I'm a complete loser?

frag420

acwxx wrote: »

We were looking at it - not registered on it! FYI the person I was looking at the site with is doing a form of research for a genetics PhD. We were actually looking at men by county to see if Donegal had the highest number of premature baldness. We don't need to grow up, however despite our success, we haven't grown old before our time either. We are both under 3.

FYP

gosuckonalemon

humanji wrote: »

Considering the contradicting versions of the OP's life from their various posts, I'm guessing this is exactly what they wanted and it'll probably, and quite mysteriously, appear as a newspaper article...

Written in the Indo by Alison O'Riordan?

professore

SUITS YOU SIR - LECTURER DOES SAME THING AS SEVERAL HUNDRED THOUSAND OTHER NORMAL IRISH PEOPLE!

ffs.

mconigol

lol

Logical Fallacy

acwxx wrote: »

This is going to be the number one scream topic of the night. I know that I should really say nothing, but it is too good to keep to myself. Isn't it??

You and your friends sound like you have amazingly boring lives.

humanji

gosuckonalemon wrote: »

Written in the Indo by Alison O'Riordan?

The sad thing is, I really hope she does write it.

Ash.J.Williams

acwxx wrote: »

I was looking at an Irish dating website last night while on the phone with a friend. You know how it is, glass of wine, telephone and just for laughs... Imagine my surprise when I saw the profile of a lecturer from LYIT! From what I can tell, the person has been totally honest and has not lied or done anything weird -(except the whole weird thing of being on a dating site in the first place!) the person, from what I remember of them is lovely too and I really would not want them shamed in any way.
However - here is the thing... I am meeting up with some friends for dinner and drinks on Friday. Three of the four know the person too. This is going to be the number one scream topic of the night. I know that I should really say nothing, but it is too good to keep to myself. Isn't it??

your friends will just want to talk about the 2 stone you put on recently, or your secret trysts with females.....like OMGZ the scream factor ...!

westendgirlie

<kneels and prays> "please don't let my daughters grow up with the mentality of the OP, please don't let my daughters grow up with the mentality of the OP"

Note to Self: Delete LYIT from their CAO applications if the OP's brain is anything to go by