Crushin' on someone...BIG TIME!

brokenice · 27-04-2011 11:35am #1

I think this forum can sometimes be a bit downbeat. This will inject a bit of fun! I recently met a guy. He's very attractive, we share the same interests, have the same humour (which worries me!). We even do the same job. So we exchanged numbers. Now, from talking to this guy, I'm pretty sure he just wants to be friends, which is fine with me, but I really think I'm after developing a huge crush on this guy. Seriously, I'm talking teenage girl style! :eek: Running to the phone when it beeps, a big dumb ass smile crosses my face when I sometimes think about him. It just feels so weird, especially when you know you're acting like a fool. So spring is defo in the air. Anyone in/was in a similar situation, let us know. Did the crush last for days, weeks, years, forever? Good endings, bad endings? At the mo, this is the soundtrack to my life...........:cool:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IYvvm9kVkAU

AndrewJD · 27-04-2011 12:19pm

YES. Same course, orientation, interests. So so so cute.

giveth · 27-04-2011 12:31pm

All the guys I have crushes on are straight which is a bit of a problem for me!
At least they appear to be straight. Sometimes I'm sure there is a 2 way attraction, but maybe that's just my wishful thinking!
Nothing like that feeling of a crush though when you're all giddy inside.

brokenice · 27-04-2011 12:53pm

giveth wrote: »

All the guys I have crushes on are straight which is a bit of a problem for me!
At least they appear to be straight. Sometimes I'm sure there is a 2 way attraction, but maybe that's just my wishful thinking!
Nothing like that feeling of a crush though when you're all giddy inside.

absolutely, even if it's not a 2 way thing, as it is in my case, it's just a bit of a laugh, if even just for yourself! imagine if other people actually knew the ay we felt about them!

Chuchoter · 27-04-2011 1:21pm

All the girls I like are either straight or too afraid to admit they're not straight. I hate crushes

brokenice · 27-04-2011 1:30pm

crayolastereo wrote: »

All the girls I like are either straight or too afraid to admit they're not straight. I hate crushes

Ah how can you hate an old crush! Makes the day a little more interesting! And with the likes of 'Everywhere' stuck in your head....can it get any better?:cool:

It's summin' me right up!
'Something's happening, happening to me,
my friends say I'm acting peculiarly,
c'mon baby, you better make a start,
you better make it soon before you break my heart!'

:rolleyes:

baby and crumble · 27-04-2011 1:35pm

Crushes are awesome, I love them! I used to hate them, that was when I was younger and a 'tortured soul' :rolleyes:

I think they're easier when you're in a long term relationship though. Obviously if it becomes ALL about this new person it's not good, but they're perfectly natural and fun. Most of mine fizzle out.

Also: Fleetwood Mac YES!!!

BanzaiBk · 27-04-2011 6:13pm

I have that crushy feeling even in a ltr. I still do inside swoons when my phone beeps :pac:

giveth · 27-04-2011 6:43pm

The biggest crush I've had, I've had for the last 9 years or so. Its ridiculous.

I haven't even seen him for 6 years, but I still think about him every now and then. I'm friends with him on facebook and whenever he updates his status, I get excited...

Coeurdepirate · 27-04-2011 7:53pm

Anybody ever fall for their best friend? Ugh, and the one I like is definitely straight, because he's so comfortable with his sexuality, unlike my other more 'jumpy' male friends. Ugh, fml.

Rick_ · 27-04-2011 8:05pm

Coeurdepirate wrote: »

Anybody ever fall for their best friend? Ugh, and the one I like is definitely straight, because he's so comfortable with his sexuality, unlike my other more 'jumpy' male friends. Ugh, fml.

Been there, still doing that, and want to wear his t-shirt (and sniff it). OK, maybe not that desperate/clingy but we are so alike and have such a great time together it's so hard to know it's never going to be any more than that, despite the few instances when drunk things seemed they might have if one of us had been brave enough to go for it. He has a girlfriend of almost 2 years now anyway and is heading off to London to uni in September so I'll no see him for a while after the summer...

azezil · 27-04-2011 9:49pm

I had some semi-crushy feelings a few weeks ago with a guy I started chatting to on Grindr but they've fizzled out. They are fun though, haven't felt like that since my last bf about 1.5yrs ago. I think it's really good to feel that way about a perspective partner, nothing worse than just going through the motions with someone you've just met and end up dating. It's just so boring

Chuchoter · 27-04-2011 11:53pm

Coeurdepirate wrote: »

Anybody ever fall for their best friend? Ugh, and the one I like is definitely straight, because he's so comfortable with his sexuality, unlike my other more 'jumpy' male friends. Ugh, fml.

High five!! The best friend I was 100% sure I was over and now she's being all weird and now I'm totally not over it anymore because of all the false hope she's giving me! Argh.

Coeurdepirate · 28-04-2011 12:45am

Paddy C wrote: »

Been there, still doing that, and want to wear his t-shirt (and sniff it). OK, maybe not that desperate/clingy but we are so alike and have such a great time together it's so hard to know it's never going to be any more than that, despite the few instances when drunk things seemed they might have if one of us had been brave enough to go for it. He has a girlfriend of almost 2 years now anyway and is heading off to London to uni in September so I'll no see him for a while after the summer...

That's exactly how it is for me too. He's just so fucking amazing and nice, I'd love to just marry him or something. :P

crayolastereo wrote: »

High five!! The best friend I was 100% sure I was over and now she's being all weird and now I'm totally not over it anymore because of all the false hope she's giving me! Argh.

Are you sure she's straight?

Chuchoter · 28-04-2011 1:00am

I was sure she was straight, then there was a big heart to heart and now I'm nearly sure she's at the very minimum bisexual and she might like me and she might not (knowing my luck probably not and I'm just the go to girl for the sexuality confused to get advice) and omg the whole thing is just really annoying.:mad:
I think I'm the annoying tortured soul Zoegh was describing :P

Coeurdepirate · 28-04-2011 3:54am

crayolastereo wrote: »

I was sure she was straight, then there was a big heart to heart and now I'm nearly sure she's at the very minimum bisexual and she might like me and she might not (knowing my luck probably not and I'm just the go to girl for the sexuality confused to get advice) and omg the whole thing is just really annoying.:mad:
I think I'm the annoying tortured soul Zoegh was describing :P

Well, at least you know you have a chance.

Beruthiel · 28-04-2011 7:29am

crayolastereo wrote: »

I think I'm the annoying tortured soul Zoegh was describing :P

Fear not, it will pass. There is nothing quite as bad as the hormonal teenage years. I know they drove me demented.

azezil · 28-04-2011 8:53am

Beruthiel wrote: »

Fear not, it will pass. There is nothing quite as bad as the hormonal teenage years. I know they drove me demented.

Ah now, do you really expect people to believe you can remember back that far? :pac:

Chuchoter · 29-04-2011 12:33am

Coeurdepirate wrote: »

Well, at least you know you have a chance.

After tonight, its definitely been confirmed I have no chance at all.
**** all of this.

brokenice · 29-04-2011 1:06am

crayolastereo wrote: »

After tonight, its definitely been confirmed I have no chance at all.
**** all of this.

ah don't say that, you just never know! besides, the crush can be half the fun of it, sometimes you get to know someone you thought you liked and they turn out to be a d**k! you just sing a bit of fleetwood and you'll be fine!:cool:

Aoifums · 30-04-2011 12:28am

I miss crushes. I haven't had one since October/November. She turned out to be straight and a little bit homophobic. But she was on the butch side of things. Yeah... I have no gaydar for girls

I did have a sort of crush on a friend of a friend. She turned out to be a little younger than I expected (Facebook stalking!) so just so not going to go there.

I think there is this guy that likes me. I've been trying to avoid him since I'm not 100% sure and I assume he doesn't know I'm gay. I haven't been able to find a way to slip it into the conversation

:rolleyes:

*high five to the other angsty teenage tortured souls*

Coeurdepirate · 30-04-2011 11:22pm

I like him so f'ucking much, and I hate it... I wanna be with him

brokenice · 30-04-2011 11:58pm

Coeurdepirate wrote: »

I like him so f'ucking much, and I hate it... I wanna be with him

be with him everywhere?....!:)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=miwHh9X9sCc

Barna77 · 01-05-2011 12:02am

brokenice wrote: »

be with him everywhere?....!:)

Stop dragging my heart around

:pac:

Coeurdepirate · 01-05-2011 12:34am

I wish!

brokenice · 01-05-2011 12:49am

Coeurdepirate wrote: »

I wish!

well keep wishing! you never know...im still 100% sure this guy doesnt even know i exist! but hey, it's all fun!

Barna77 · 02-05-2011 12:17am

Aaaahhhh there was eye contact tonight, on a school girl mode right now...

But the moment that I first laid eyes on him all alone...

LegacyUser · 02-05-2011 12:35am

I can totally relate, crushes for months then I confront him and it's like getting the "Misery" treatment in a hammer but hits you in the head... Both heads

brokenice · 02-05-2011 5:54pm

Barna77 wrote: »

Aaaahhhh there was eye contact tonight, on a school girl mode right now...

But the moment that I first laid eyes on him all alone...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hj5S1RCUDvM

Barna77 · 02-05-2011 6:17pm

^ And i walk around town, big stupid grin in my face and this keeps playing in my mind

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X4uLZcaRXcU

I could think of somethng else, but may not be suitable for this forum

:pac:

brokenice · 16-07-2011 10:16am

It's happening again!!!! Uh oh....or is it oh yeah! Different guy, same dilemma!....cue school girl antics in t minus 5........

dreamer_ire · 16-07-2011 10:41am

Ah, you can't beat the warm fuzzies of a crush! When I text my current crush, I deliberately text a few other people too... extends the thrill of a beeping phone lol

I do think that crushes where you aren't expecting anything, and maybe even wanting anything, are the best types.... all of the ups and none of the downs

Printemps93 · 16-07-2011 10:53am

Chuchoter wrote: »

All the girls I like are either straight or too afraid to admit they're not straight. I hate crushes

trust me you'll meet someone awesome ! with a fun loving personality like yours , you're bound to

Printemps93 · 16-07-2011 10:55am

Aoifums wrote: »

Yeah... I have no gaydar for girls

Me neither .
I am totally useless when it comes to sussing people out

Barna77 · 16-07-2011 12:14pm

Ooh la love, I’ve fallen in love, and it’s better this time than ever before

jaffacakesyum · 16-07-2011 12:55pm

I once had this crush on my friend
(who is engaged to be married) and oh my god, she was amazing. Really good looking, sound, so sweet and we had a lot in common and good taste in music etc. The annoying thing is Im fairly sure she's bi and i think i wouldve had a good chance with her. Damn her getting married! Hope he doesn't hurt her but if he does Im swooping in there Haha. At least we're still good friends now

brokenice · 17-07-2011 10:19am

easychair · 18-07-2011 12:55pm

jaffacakesyum wrote: »

I once had this crush on my friend
(who is engaged to be married) and oh my god, she was amazing. Really good looking, sound, so sweet and we had a lot in common and good taste in music etc. The annoying thing is Im fairly sure she's bi and i think i wouldve had a good chance with her. Damn her getting married! Hope he doesn't hurt her but if he does Im swooping in there Haha. At least we're still good friends now

I've noticed something, and it's this; many times I've seen gay folks saying they are sure someone else is either bi-sexual, or gay, even thought the other person professes to be str8.

I've never seen a str8 person say that they think a gay friend is bi-sexual or str8. I'm not sure what that says about any of us, but it's just something I've noticed.

jaffacakesyum · 18-07-2011 1:02pm

easychair wrote: »

jaffacakesyum wrote: »

I once had this crush on my friend
(who is engaged to be married) and oh my god, she was amazing. Really good looking, sound, so sweet and we had a lot in common and good taste in music etc. The annoying thing is Im fairly sure she's bi and i think i wouldve had a good chance with her. Damn her getting married! Hope he doesn't hurt her but if he does Im swooping in there Haha. At least we're still good friends now

I've noticed something, and it's this; many times I've seen gay folks saying they are sure someone else is either bi-sexual, or gay, even thought the other person professes to be str8.

I've never seen a str8 person say that they think a gay friend is bi-sexual or str8. I'm not sure what that says about any of us, but it's just something I've noticed.

I know barely any gay/bi people. Most of my friends are straight and i wouldn't profess they are bi

but this girl, while she was engaged to a guy, she never claimed to be straight (or bi). It never came up in conversation. So Im not assuming she's straight as i know she has kissed girls in the past. Most of her friends are gay and she goes out on the scene and to gay pride a lot. Obviously doesn't automatically make her bi, but anyway..she's getting married in November

Kanoe · 18-07-2011 1:04pm

I'm actually looking forward to work just so I can see elevator lady. It's not really a crush so much as something to keep my brain occupied while I tend to mind numbing daily duties.

easychair · 18-07-2011 1:40pm

jaffacakesyum wrote: »

but this girl, while she was engaged to a guy, she never claimed to be straight she's getting married in November

I don't know anyone who gets married and feels the need to "profess" they are straight, any more than when gay friends get hitched in a civil partnership they feel the need to profess they are "gay".

All of which is not what i was talking about anyhow, which was noticing that quite often gay people thinking that their str8 friends are gay, and the lack of str8 people thinking that their gay friends are really str8.

jaffacakesyum · 18-07-2011 1:47pm

easychair wrote: »

jaffacakesyum wrote: »

but this girl, while she was engaged to a guy, she never claimed to be straight she's getting married in November

I don't know anyone who gets married and feels the need to "profess" they are straight, any more than when gay friends get hitched in a civil partnership they feel the need to profess they are "gay".

All of which is not what i was talking about anyhow, which was noticing that quite often gay people thinking that their str8 friends are gay, and the lack of str8 people thinking that their gay friends are really str8.

That's exactly what i meant. Because she's getting married she's hardly gonna go around telling people that she's straight (or bi if that's the case) because its irrelevant -she's getting married.

Anyway, i understand your point but i can't say I've seen it myself. That said, Im not on the scene and most of my fiends are straight

LegacyUser · 20-07-2011 11:23pm

Glad to see I am not the only one has crushes on the wrong people....has to be a case of I cant have it so I want it!! well maybe in my case.
I fancied my gay friend....very common for a lot of women I assume....but yes I did think at times he was bi or more straight...things he said and did made me question it...and no it wasnt wishful thinking...friends seen it too... he was boob mad...and I saw him have a look at certain women...very weird..he was with women long time ago...and said he is totally gay.
so yes I have questionned a gay mans sexuality several times.

jaffacakesyum wrote: »

That's exactly what i meant. Because she's getting married she's hardly gonna go around telling people that she's straight (or bi if that's the case) because its irrelevant -she's getting married.

Anyway, i understand your point but i can't say I've seen it myself. That said, Im not on the scene and most of my fiends are straight

Barna77 · 20-07-2011 11:32pm

I think I'm having a crush.... and he's a no go area, totally off limits, danger zone!

Just my luck

checkcheek · 21-07-2011 7:58pm

Barna77 wrote: »

I think I'm having a crush.... and he's a no go area, totally off limits, danger zone!

Just my luck

why a no go area!!! You could be surprised:)

waterglass305 · 28-07-2011 11:27am

I hate crushes, they are evil and vile. I hate them laregely because I keep crushing after straight guys and it really hurts.
I don't enjoy them because I want something more i.e. dating, a relaintionship and so on

.
I think we may need a large sign on everyone stating what gender we like and if we're single.

But the guys are straight, they have girlfriends and are comfortable with their sexuality.

I once really fell for a guy, I mean I thought I was in love. He seemed to have it all. Good looks (he was hot), had a relaxed attitude, easy going and we were best friends.
Except...he was straight, liked my sister (she never reciprocated), thought gays were wrong/weird homophobic without being violent.
We never talked about gays but I heard him talk about it to other guys and it was not nice.
Now he wasn't violent just not accepting.

There is one guy who is gay who I like but I have no idea how to approach him.

Karty55 · 01-08-2011 3:30am

Have had a crush on a straight friend of mine for years. Sucks really having to hang around with him when he is with the girlfriend of the moment or whatever. But you just kinda get used to it eventually I suppose.