worried about my mam think a medium will help

BornIn84

Hi guys,
My mother is going through some grief at the moment. lost someone close to her. She said recently she'd like to see a medium. I think it would be really therapeutic for her. She has alot of grief at the moment to deal with.
We're based in Dublin. I have Linda Green's number. Would she be the best to go to? Or can u recommend someone else?
Thanks

28064212

BornIn84 wrote: »

Hi guys,
My mother is going through some grief at the moment. lost someone close to her. She said recently she'd like to see a medium. I think it would be really therapeutic for her. She has alot of grief at the moment to deal with.
We're based in Dublin. I have Linda Green's number. Would she be the best to go to? Or can u recommend someone else?
Thanks

A counsellor, preferably one who specialises in grief therapy.

What if she goes to the medium and they reveal something deeply upsetting? Or even just mildly upsetting?

A counsellor will have your mother's mental health as the absolute top priority, a medium won't.

hilloftara

i think she should leave it for a while,try to cope with it naturally for a while,a counsellor as the other poster said ,she might not get to hear from who she wants to,lost my brother two yrs ago ,i have being to mediums and he has not come to me,could be more upsetting for her

celtic1888

steer clear of mediums to deal with grief imo.....far too much to lose and very little to gain.....

Dave!

Your mother needs to deal with the loss, and then move on with her life. Having a medium pass her messages and tell her that her loved one is still around will not help the grieving process. It's just asking for trouble.

Oryx

Dave!, I understand the sceptical viewpoint on this, and that you dont believe there is any such thing as mediumship. But as its the psychics and mediums forum, assumption of belief is allowed.

Visiting a medium can help some people. But it does need to be approached very carefully. Someone in the throes of grief does have to allow that process to happen. Searching for contact with a loved one, when mistimed, can in some cases stall the grieving, and leave the person more hurt than before. One visit may not be enough so they keep going back for more, as they cannot let the person go.

There is also the danger that the medium will be unable to give them the answers they need, leaving them in a much worse mental state.

So I wouldnt say dont do it, but approach with caution, make sure your mum is at the right stage for this. Dont pay big money, and check out who you plan to see thoroughly.

BornIn84

she said "i just want to know she's alright" about the deceased.
i was thinking of going for her...but not telling her i was going...just to see if anything comes through. maybe ill go and not say anything.

MrJonDonnis

I personally dont believe it can ever be right or justified to see a medium.
They do not speak to the dead.
Do you really want a medium cold reading you, and pretending to talk to the dead and in essence destroying real memories and replacing them with fake ones of the dead.

No go see a real grief counsellor.

celtic1888

BornIn84 wrote: »

she said "i just want to know she's alright" about the deceased.
i was thinking of going for her...but not telling her i was going...just to see if anything comes through. maybe ill go and not say anything.

if thats "all" shes looking for id recommend her goin to see Billy Martin, hes predicted death all around me for years and sensed recent deaths etc and while he doesnt "talk" to the dead he'll beable to provide some sort of comfort without professing it in a mediumship sort of way

but the priority would be to seek a counsellers advice imo

river1

If your mum is looking to see a medium I would recommend tara coyle of clogherhead she is amazing... Pm me for here no:

bearavis

hi there im really looking for linda greens number can u send it to me on <snip>

King Mallie

MrJonDonnis wrote: »

I personally dont believe it can ever be right or justified to see a medium.
They do not speak to the dead.
Do you really want a medium cold reading you, and pretending to talk to the dead and in essence destroying real memories and replacing them with fake ones of the dead.

No go see a real grief counsellor.

There are loads of great mediums that have great ability and are not fakes. So please do not paint everyone with the same brush:mad:

iMedium

28064212 wrote: »

A counsellor, preferably one who specialises in grief therapy.

What if she goes to the medium and they reveal something deeply upsetting? Or even just mildly upsetting?

A counsellor will have your mother's mental health as the absolute top priority, a medium won't.

Mediumship is a comforting and therapeutic experience in itself.

... Saying that, choosing the right medium is very important.

Dave!

How many bad mediums might one have to endure before they find "the right" one?

iMedium

Dave! wrote: »

How many bad mediums might one have to endure before they find "the right" one?

How long is a piece of string...

28064212

iMedium wrote: »

Mediumship is a comforting and therapeutic experience in itself.

Mediumship may, as a side affect, be a comforting and therapeutic experience. Unlike counselling, it is not the aim of mediumship. It is equally likely to upset and distress the person in question.

iMedium

28064212 wrote: »

Mediumship may, as a side affect, be a comforting and therapeutic experience. Unlike counselling, it is not the aim of mediumship. It is equally likely to upset and distress the person in question.

Actually, I agree with some of what you're saying. It's not the definitive answer. If a client believes a reading will "fix" them if they're suffering from a serious disorder, such as depression that requires professional help, they're wrong... But it can serve as an uplifting experience all the same for those who benefit from the comfort of knowing their loved ones are still closeby.

Orim

iMedium wrote: »

Actually, I agree with some of what you're saying. It's not the definitive answer. If a client believes a reading will "fix" them if they're suffering from a serious disorder, such as depression that requires professional help, they're wrong... But it can serve as an uplifting experience all the same for those who benefit from the comfort of knowing their loved ones are still closeby.

But what if their loved ones aren't close by? What if nothing comes through, for one reason or another, and the bereaved is left with a doubled sense of abandonment?

Alternatively, they could begin to use the medium as a way to forstall the actual grieving process.

OP, as above if your mother is having difficultly with her grief then she needs to contact counsellor that will help her through the process.

iMedium

Orim wrote: »

But what if their loved ones aren't close by? What if nothing comes through, for one reason or another, and the bereaved is left with a doubled sense of abandonment?

Alternatively, they could begin to use the medium as a way to forstall the actual grieving process.

OP, as above if your mother is having difficultly with her grief then she needs to contact counsellor that will help her through the process.

I've never experienced a situation where absolutely no-one steps forward to communicate with a client... Even if it's a next door neighbour from 20 years ago, there's usually someone. Although, spirit communication is not guaranteed, ever! And the most accomplished mediums will tell you the same thing!

If a client is so grief-stricken and vulnerable, an ethical medium will psychically feel it - and in an ideal world, explain that a reading is not the answer to ther problems right now, or more commonly say "it's too soon" and send them away, without robbing them of their money or disappointing them unnecessarily. Likewise, a reputable medium should refuse to read for the same client within a reasonable period of time so they don't become dependent... BUT, we don't live in a perfect world!

And it's deplorable that so-called psychics and mediums DO prey on the vulnerable.

Picking the right medium is key...

asark

Can I suggest this book - read the reviews on Amazon ...

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Guided-By-Angels-Goodbyes-Spirit/dp/000743488X/ref=cm_cr_pr_product_top