Monogamy V's Open Relationships

SparkyTech

Was just watching Fair City (I know!) episode depicting Carol/Louis/Christies love quango. Now as much as soapland is an exaggeration of society en masse, it did get me thinking. Are we more afraid of admitting we need more then one person in our lives to fulfill all our desires, emotionally and physically? Can you still love someone if they have another lover, or if you knew the score and agreed boundary's could you ever do an open relationship/still get married yourself

Praetorian Saighdiuir

Brummytom has an open relationship with Pam and her mates.


They have had some fine adventures y'know!

MIN2511

huh?

SparkyTech

SparkyTech wrote: »

Was just watching Fair City (I know!) episode depicting Carol/Louis/Christies love quango. Now as much as soapland is an exaggeration of society en masse, it did get me thinking. Are we more afraid of admitting we need more then one person in our lives to fulfill all our desires, emotionally and physically? Can you still love someone if they have another lover, or if you knew the score and agreed boundary's could you ever do an open relationship/still get married yourself

fair city isnt real, ok

Cheap Thrills!

lol @ 'love quango'

Snakeblood

SparkyTech wrote: »

Was just watching Fair City (I know!) episode depicting Carol/Louis/Christies love quango. Now as much as soapland is an exaggeration of society en masse, it did get me thinking. Are we more afraid of admitting we need more then one person in our lives to fulfill all our desires, emotionally and physically? Can you still love someone if they have another lover, or if you knew the score and agreed boundary's could you ever do an open relationship/still get married yourself

Are we talking anal?

Vicxas

Dont think i could cheat on my current partner, i believe shes the special one *pukes*

Daroxtar

Monohamy is good for external doors.

/ closes said door on the way out:o

Praetorian Saighdiuir

Vicxas wrote: »

Dont think i could cheat on my current partner, i believe shes the special one *pukes*

Thats what you think...


I just saw her click the "I have had a (secret) fling in the past with several lovers while in a committed relationship" option

alandublin15

option 6: i cant get me hole anyway

Redlion

benwavner wrote: »

Brummytom has an open relationship with Pam and her five friends.


They have had some fine adventures y'know!

FYP

OutlawPete

Emotional infidelity is far more disgusting than physical infidelity.

Chuchoter

I could never deal with an open relationship, to be honest in my opinion its just cheating you can't get yelled at for.

sdanseo

SparkyTech wrote: »

Was just watching Fair City (I know!) episode depicting Carol/Louis/Christies love quango. Now as much as soapland is an exaggeration of society en masse, it did get me thinking. Are we more afraid of admitting we need more then one person in our lives to fulfill all our desires, emotionally and physically? Can you still love someone if they have another lover, or if you knew the score and agreed boundary's could you ever do an open relationship/still get married yourself

Nothing bettter than a love quasi-non-governmental organisation.

To the layman, that's a semi-state like the HEA or NRA. Nothing to do with cheating on the wife :P

SparkyTech

sdonn wrote: »

Don't you mean love triangle?

Quango means quasi-non-governmental organisation. Or to the layman, a semi-state like the HEA or NRA. Nothing to do with cheating on the wife :P

Me brain is fryed :eek:

Praetorian Saighdiuir

Redlion wrote: »

FYP

Pam and 10 friends...............he has 2 hands and sometimes he likes a two handed "russian twist".

TheZohanS

OutlawPete wrote: »

Emotional infidelity is far more disgusting than physical infidelity.

OMG, that's such a Samantha thing to say!

Snakeblood

OutlawPete wrote: »

Emotional infidelity is far more disgusting than physical infidelity.

That really depends on how disgusting the physical infidelity is. Like if it's a sports team.

SparkyTech

TheZohan wrote: »

OMG, that's such a Samantha thing to say!

Maybe I should rename the poll to 'Which Sex And The City' character are you?

Redlion

benwavner wrote: »

Pam and 10 friends...............he has 2 hands and sometimes he likes a two handed "russian twist".

Never knew they had a name for that

Miguel_Sanchez

Something hilarious mistaking Monogamy vs Open Relationships for Mahogany vs Open Plan Kitchens.

Oh how we laughed!

littlefriend

OutlawPete wrote: »

Emotional infidelity is far more disgusting than physical infidelity.

Not sure if you are being serious there Pete. I don't know if I'd be more disturbed by emotional or physical stuff. hmmm

Novella

littlefriend wrote: »

Not sure if you are being serious there Pete. I don't know if I'd be more disturbed by emotional or physical stuff. hmmm

Really? In my opinion, emotional infidelity is way, way worse and definitely much harder to forgive. I mean, I'm not condoning the physical but it's easier to end up in bed with someone than it is to develop and maintain an emotional bond.

starbelgrade

OutlawPete wrote: »

Emotional infidelity is far more disgusting than physical infidelity.

I don't think either are disgusting. I believe that both are signs that either there is something lacking in a relationship, or that the expectations of what a particular relationship could provide, were unrealistic.

OutlawPete

littlefriend wrote: »

Not sure if you are being serious there Pete. I don't know if I'd be more disturbed by emotional or physical stuff. hmmm

Deadly serious, like Zohan said .. Samantha may trip the light fantastic who some fine looking men and not have any issue with her men doing the same, no way she would tolerate her man all loved up having heart to hearts.

Little slap and tickle is grand, but no woman of mine is going be whispering sweet nothings in some man's ear. I meet my ladies emotional needs, more often than not I'm incapable of meeting their physical needs anyway, so they gotta get there wild desires met somewhere.

But at the end of the night, my women be knowing where Daddy is.

littlefriend

Novella wrote: »

Really? In my opinion, emotional infidelity is way, way worse and definitely much harder to forgive. I mean, I'm not condoning the physical but it's easier to end up in bed with someone than it is to develop and maintain an emotional bond.

Yeah of course you are right. I just think I'd become really paranoid about my own physicality and would have issues subsequently with intimacy.

gargleblaster

OutlawPete wrote: »

Deadly serious, like Zohan said .. Samantha may trip the light fantastic who some fine looking men and not have any issue with her men doing the same, no way she would tolerate her man all loved up having heart to hearts.

Little slap and tickle is grand, but no woman of mine is going be whispering sweet nothings in some man's ear. I meet my ladies emotional needs, more often than not I'm incapable of meeting their physical needs anyway, so they gotta get there wild desires met somewhere.

But at the end of the night, my women be knowing where Daddy is.

so only you can fill their (plural) emotional needs, but...

yeah, nevermind.

OutlawPete

gargleblaster wrote: »

so only you can fill their (plural) emotional needs, but...

yeah, nevermind.

Hello, welcome to After Hours. People joke here.

In all seriousness, I agree with Novella - I would find it far easier to forgive something physical than I would something that was emotional.

KnifeWRENCH

If terms were agreed on beforehand, I'd have no problem with an open relationship. The only thing that would bother me is that my partner would probably get a lot more action than I would.

gargleblaster

OutlawPete wrote: »

Hello, welcome to After Hours. People joke here.

In all seriousness, I agree with Novella - I would find it far easier to forgive something physical than I would something that was emotional.

lol sorry, i really thought you were some kind of pimp or something :pac: 'swhy i gave up attempting to figure out the logistics of what you'd just described.

i've known more than a few people who were in open relationships over the years, never seems to work out too well. but fair play to anyone who can make it work. god knows it can't be easy!

gargleblaster

KnifeWRENCH wrote: »

If terms were agreed on beforehand, I'd have no problem with an open relationship. The only thing that would bother me is that my partner would probably get a lot more action than I would.

are you male? cause that trend tends to balance out, and then reverses as the years go on

littlefriend

OutlawPete wrote: »

Hello, welcome to After Hours. People joke here.

In all seriousness, I agree with Novella - I would find it far easier to forgive something physical than I would something that was emotional.

I don't think I'd be able to forgive either type. I think an emotional affair means that the original relationship was dead anyway so that is what you need to face whereas raw passion type affair thing makes it more directly personal. I'm not talking about a drunken shag btw - I mean if it was premeditated.

For me that is - but that is probably because I wouldn't be massively confident anyway.

LETHAL LADY

Whats the point in an open relationship surely you would be better off being single. A good friend was in a so called open relationship with a man she was crazy about trouble is he laid down the terms and she ended up feeling like s**t evertime he was unfaithful. Thankfully she eventually came to her senses. Open relationships dont work.

c u on the Darkside

Any suggestions for a new term to replace "relationship" something that would bring human beings into the 21st Century.

starbelgrade

c u on the Darkside wrote: »

Any suggestions for a new term to replace "relationship" something that would bring human beings into the 21st Century.

Like "rl8unship"?

c u on the Darkside

No still sounds like a big boat.