Great Girl, Great Night, Then she says she has a kid(s)

ronan45

So you just met a top girl liked her a lot then she drops the "bombshell"

"By the way just so you know i have a kid"

Firstly, Im way past it im happily settled, but why the big deal? I dated over the years many a girl that had a kid, single mothers, I kinda admired them. Very strong characters. When ever i told my mates she had a kid there would be a big "REALLY WHAT AGE??" JASSS MAN YA DONT NEEED THAT"

Is this still an issue in 2011 ? I really dontn see the big deal!

seanybiker

Wouldn't bother me anyways. The last slapper I was with had a child. Cool little chap

Ghetto Cornetto

My missus has a kid. With her over a year now and needless to say, both of them are a rather significant part of my life now. I've been a bit strange about it once or twice down the line, but then realised it's not a big deal at all. The little chap is full of character, it'll be fun watching him grow up.

Zillah

ronan45 wrote: »

JASSS MAN YA DONT NEEED THAT

This is why I love Irish people so much, they're so articulate.

galwayrush

So, she's not a virgin..............

orourkeda

Yes bail out. It's bad enough when their your own.

Unless you're prepared for the "you're not my daddy" speech when their stones start dropping.

flutered

it just proves that she is fertile,

ronan45

orourkeda wrote: »

Yes bail out. It's bad enough when their your own.

Unless you're prepared for the "you're not my daddy" speech when their stones start dropping.

come on you dont seriously think that far ahead do ya???

Hazys

Blast her with piss

tan11ie

I don't see what the problem would be unless she was looking for another father for junior !

ballsymchugh

the ex boyfriend calling around can cause a bit of an issue though!

Praetorian Saighdiuir

Nothing like waking up in a strange womans bed...


...until you notice the 4 year old smiling at you asking "are you my new daddy".

Wolfe Tone

Kids are little bastards

ballsymchugh

Wolfe Tone wrote: »

Kids are little bastards

every little bastard is someone else's little darling!

hoorsmelt

If you like her, keep inviting her out, and if the two of you get on well enough, the kid won't be a problem.

orourkeda

ronan45 wrote: »

come on you dont seriously think that far ahead do ya???

Hell no. Once the little cant doesnt interrupt the banging.

Tahuti

Most kids are cool.

I don't see the bother with it.

Mmmm, years back I went out with 3 ladies over the course of a few months, all three of them had kids, it was well weird to be honest. I was quite keen on one of them but she wasn't so keen on me So the little ones weren't an issue to me, in saying that I never met them or anything. The other two ladies it turned out that I wasn't really into them (one of them was a lapdancer :pac:) so the kids didn't bother me either.

Recently I met a lady that has two kids, to be honest I just don't want to get involved, life can be enough of a ball ache without further complications at the mo, my fault, not the lady in question

Kasabian

Works both ways. I have met a few girls down the years that changed their attitude towards me when I tell them I am a single parent.

On the other hand I have met a few who see me with my kid and assume that I am a good catch because I love my child.

PeterIanStaker

Wolfe Tone wrote: »

Kids are little bastards

Too right. And they cost a lot, even if you just buy him toys etc now and again to keep him onside.

By the way, how long were ye seeing each other before she said it?

Mike 1972

As one gets older the chances of finding someone around ones own age group without kids are inevitably going to diminish anyway.

phill106

RoverJames wrote: »

Mmmm, years back I went out with 3 ladies over the course of a few months, all three of them had kids, it was well weird to be honest. I was quite keen on one of them but she wasn't so keen on me So the little ones weren't an issue to me, in saying that I never met them or anything. The other two ladies it turned out that I wasn't really into them (one of them was a lapdancer :pac:) so the kids didn't bother me either.

Recently I met a lady that has two kids, to be honest I just don't want to get involved, life can be enough of a ball ache without further complications at the mo, my fault, not the lady in question

sod that, I want to hear more about the lapdancer!

Kasabian

Kasabian wrote: »

Works both ways

a lad on take me out just mentioned he had a three year old and the lights went out fairly lively.

EverEvolving

Usually the kids aren't the problem, it's the dodgy relationship with the mum/dad of the kid that can cause problems.

My mate is going out with a guy with a child and his ex made it really difficult for her at the start, with holding access of the child and all sorts of ridiculous antics. I know this isn't always the case but it does happen.

seafood dunleavy

Better than saying she had a cock.

resistantdoor

seafood dunleavy wrote: »

Better than saying she had a cock.

What's wrong with cocks?
I've had one for 18 years and it hasn't caused me any problems as of yet.

Sanjuro

Sorry, what's the issue here?

RichieC

Wouldnt bother me unless she had like 4 kids by 3 fathers or something untoward like that.

tallaghtmick

i feel sorry for the guy that my ex ends up with......because my son takes after me hes massive and hes not even 2 im 6f4 myself hes gonna be bigger,that coupled with the fact his grandfather (martial arts expert)wants to teach him tae kwon do.......i really hope he never pisses off my lil angel:D

Dravokivich

Hazys wrote: »

Blast her with piss

as opposed to jizz...

... as its been done already appearently

mikom

ronan45 wrote: »

So you just met a top girl liked her a lot then she drops the "bombshell"

"By the way just so you know i have a kid"
Is this still an issue in 2011 ? I really dontn see the big deal!

It's all fun and games until the kid eats your washing off the line...

charlemont

I wouldnt go with any broad that have a kid, I would only be interested in the 3F's Find **** Flee...

RichieC

charlemont wrote: »

I wouldnt go with any broad that have a kid, I would only be interested in the 3F's Find **** Flee...

You should do Shakespeare.

For Forks Sake

RichieC wrote: »

You should do Shakespeare.

too much effort, having to dig up the corpse and all, you'd be knackered after that

Novella

Different strokes for different folks. Some people just wouldn't wanna date someone with a kid, that's fine, regardless of what year it is. Personally, I can't ever imagine myself wanting to have a relationship with someone who already had a child. It isn't that I dislike children, or that I have a problem with single parents, it simply isn't something that appeals to me.

andyseadog

tallaghtmick wrote: »

i feel sorry for the guy that my ex ends up with......because my son takes after me hes massive and hes not even 2 im 6f4 myself hes gonna be bigger,that coupled with the fact his grandfather (martial arts expert)wants to teach him tae kwon do.......i really hope he never pisses off my lil angel:D

you sound like the kind of person that puts new boyfriends off

Azureus

If I had a choice, I would be pretty turned off by the thought of a prospective partner already having a kid. But then again I'm only 22 and dont wanna be weekend-mammy to someone elses child.
That said, one of my good single friends has a baby and he's a fantastic daddy which is a really attractive quality. I think it depends on the person, it would be more the relations between the two parents/exes that would determine it for me if I really liked somebody.

Jesus Wept

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XysDT38iDhI

tallaghtmick

andyseadog wrote: »

you sound like the kind of person that puts new boyfriends off

god no i cant wait for her to move on less guilt on my part

For Forks Sake

tallaghtmick wrote: »

god no i cant wait for her to move on less guilt on my part

Why, are you riding her sister/mother/father/dog?

Big Nasty

Been there, done that X 3.

It has its merits but it can be a pain in the ass too. Interfering exes, babysitting issues, etc. As an earlier poster said there's enough hassle in life without adding too it.

Met my current woman, now fiancee, soon to be wife over 3 years back. I was 32 and her 35 at the time - neither of us has kids which is kinda unusual at our age but good for us both.

Logical Fallacy

I have never wanted, nor do i ever want kids.

I'd just explain to her that it's not within my 5 point life plan to have a child (It actual directly contravenes point 3 - "Never have a child" ).

You don't owe someone a relationship just because you bumped uglies.

Hank_Jones

charlemont wrote: »

I wouldnt go with any broad that have a kid, I would only be interested in the 3F's Find **** Flee...

You sound like a 1920's gangster.

the groutch

RoverJames wrote: »

The other two ladies it turned out that I wasn't really into them (one of them was a lapdancer :pac:) so the kids didn't bother me either.

Pics or GTFO

sdanseo

benwavner wrote: »

Nothing like waking up in a strange womans bed...


...until you notice the 4 year old smiling at you asking "are you my new daddy".

Came dangerously close to LOLing there, nice one.

Adrian009

orourkeda wrote: »

Yes bail out. It's bad enough when their your own.

Unless you're prepared for the "you're not my daddy" speech when their stones start dropping.

Sure can't ya fire back with the "Oh yeah? Well you're not my son/daughter!" line?

PrincessLola

Kasabian wrote: »

Works both ways. I have met a few girls down the years that changed their attitude towards me when I tell them I am a single parent.

On the other hand I have met a few who see me with my kid and assume that I am a good catch because I love my child.

being a good father is a turn on for women don't ya know?
But being a good mother isn't as big of a deal because women are just expected to be maternal.

K-9

PrincessLola wrote: »

being a good father is a turn on for women don't ya know?
But being a good mother isn't as big of a deal because women are just expected to be maternal.

It's a bit like the Chris Rock sketch isn't it? We are supposed to be good fathers! It shouldn't be seen as an extra.

I've dated 2 single parents, fantastic girls. The child was never a bother, just wasn't ready to move to the really serious stage.

I've a son myself so I suppose I wont see it as an obstacle.

martyboy48

It's not a bombshell tbh... ( unless you want it to be, which I don't)

johnn

Ride her, then tell her to get her stuff and get out and lie there with satisfied grin arms behind the head as she clothes completely humiliated and shows herself out

seafood dunleavy

resistantdoor wrote: »

What's wrong with cocks?
I've had one for 18 years and it hasn't caused me any problems as of yet.

It would be a problem if it was up your hole.