Masks

cyberwolf77

I hope you will allow me to be serious for a moment here. Lately I has been pondering the mask I present to the real world as opposed to the one I wear when here. So, I be curious people, is your online persona different from your real-life personality?

PerrinV2

I present so many different persona's to so many groups of friends that I' not even sure who the real me is..

Dord

I'm just me.

reallyrose

I think I'm pretty similar off-line to online.
I'm probably more flirty online cuz I get all pink when I try to do it off-line.
I'm probably also a bit bitchier off the internets. :pac: When I'm writing a post that makes me seem like a raving cow I tend to delete it. Off the internet you cannot delete what you just said. Or maybe I'm just paranoid that everyone secretly hates me.

Other than that, I'm the same. Same sense of humour, same opinions. It would be too exhausting to try and maintain a persona. And for what? So people don't get to know you? Why bother interacting with a community at all then?
I think that people that try to erect this whole "omg, I'm so mysterious / weird / wacky / dark / flirty / kinky / whatever" personality on the internet probably need to examine themselves, to see what makes them dislike their own personality so much that they feel they can't express it.
Personalities are complicated, true. And you'll never *really* know someone based on knowing them purely online.
However, if you intend on taking a place in an online community, a modicum of honesty should be there. *

That question is probably best answered by people that know you in both 'places' though. I could have the totally wrong idea how I am seen by other people.

* See. that's an example of something I'd usually delete, because I'd be paranoid that someone will read that and think "She's talking about me! The bitchmeister! Imma think bad thoughts about her and then post mean things about her in the Thunderdome!"

Dord

*goes to thunderdome* :pac:

squishykins

I'm quieter in RL, until I get to know people a bit (or am drunk XD). Then I'm basically exactly the same :P

Maguined

I would like to think I am more or less the same person in real life, though I think I come across as meaner in person as smiley faces don't translate as well into real life situations, I probably just look retarded and leery.

I imagine I'm a little different in person.
Couldn't really say how bar being a little bit more PC and I've better grammar on here.

reallyrose

Maguined wrote: »

I would like to think I am more or less the same person in real life, though I think I come across as meaner in person as smiley faces don't translate as well into real life situations, I probably just look retarded and leery.

That's only 50% true. :pac:

FewFew

I'm pretty much the same. Long grown out of being bothered about acting different.

Futurecrook

I'm pretty much the exact same in real life as I am on the internet. I'm generally just me regardless of where I am, who I'm with or what I'm doing. I think...

cyberwolf77

Oddly enough, I tend to be more outgoing online. In person I tend to be quite standoffish towards people.

FewFew

cyberwolf77 wrote: »

Oddly enough, I tend to be more outgoing online. In person I tend to be quite standoffish towards people.

I suspected as much, you territorial pup ya!

cyberwolf77

My coworkers have spread rumors that I must be a serial killer. You know, it's always the quiet one.......

jokettle

I think I'm a lot more shy in person than online, at least with new people. Put a few drinks in me though and I'm exactly the same

Maguined

reallyrose wrote: »

That's only 50% true. :pac:

Haha which part though? only 50% leer? only 50% retarded looking or only 50% meaner in real life situations?

micayla

When it comes to opinions and my personality I'm the same offline as I am online. But offline I can be much shyer, I tend to stand away from crowds. Most people think I'm standoffish but it's just that I'm not big on being in the centre of a crowd, I prefer to watch people. (not in the creepy sense, I just find it interesting to watch how people interact with others, body language etc.) It also takes me a bit longer to be comfortable with people offline.

Maguined

micayla wrote: »

When it comes to opinions and my personality I'm the same offline as I am online. But offline I can be much shyer, I tend to stand away from crowds. Most people think I'm standoffish but it's just that I'm not big on being in the centre of a crowd, I prefer to watch people. (not in the creepy sense, I just find it interesting to watch how people interact with others, body language etc.) It also takes me a bit longer to be comfortable with people offline.

You attacked me the second time we ever met! If that is shy I fear for what you are like when you are comfortable and letting it all out.

stupidusername

yeah I'm pretty much the same. I think the only real differences are if i'm arguing a point (as I do in AH sometimes) I'll stick to it a lot easier than if it was RL. I tend to feel extra stupid when arguing something with someone, but i suppose when you have the time to think through what your response to something is it's easier. and I'm a bit of a flirt online (you may have guessed) but am hardly like that at all in RL. suppose I feel I can get away with it online, when whoever it is doesn't know what I look like, whereas if i flirt IRL it's much more likely to lead to rejection of a sort....

micayla

Maguined wrote: »

You attacked me the second time we ever met! If that is shy I fear for what you are like when you are comfortable and letting it all out.

That was the Jack Daniels:cool: You're lucky, I have a reputation for biting when I drink JD:pac:

FewFew

jokettle wrote: »

I think I'm a lot more shy in person than online, at least with new people. Put a few drinks in me though and I'm exactly the same

This seems to be a common trend amongst you women folk on this thread. As if the internet is like some sort of substitute for crazah intoxication

stupidusername wrote: »

yeah I'm pretty much the same. I think the only real differences are if i'm arguing a point (as I do in AH sometimes) I'll stick to it a lot easier than if it was RL. I tend to feel extra stupid when arguing something with someone, but i suppose when you have the time to think through what your response to something is it's easier. and I'm a bit of a flirt online (you may have guessed) but am hardly like that at all in RL. suppose I feel I can get away with it online, when whoever it is doesn't know what I look like, whereas if i flirt IRL it's much more likely to lead to rejection of a sort....

You're much meaner in real life. Like, online I always assume you've just forgotten to apply a smilie face, but in real life I can seeeeeeee you're not using a smiley face. Oh lord the memories!?

:pac:

Maguined

Now that I think about it, I keep telling everyone I am an asshole but they keep saying that I am really a nice guy just pretending to be an asshole.

So my evil plan is working as I really am an asshole pretending to be a nice guy pretending to be an asshole.

Victory is mine!

FewFew

Maguined wrote: »

Now that I think about it, I keep telling everyone I am an asshole but they keep saying that I am really a nice guy just pretending to be an asshole.

So my evil plan is working as I really am an asshole pretending to be a nice guy pretending to be an asshole.

Victory is mine!

That's the exact same situation I'm in re: being evil. The fools.

Kess73

cyberwolf77 wrote: »

My coworkers have spread rumors that I must be a serial killer. You know, it's always the quiet one.......

I have found that rumours like that tend to stop once a few of them fail to turn up for work (or be seen again).;)

boomkatalog

I think I'm mostly the same. Maybe just a little bit braver about making the first move with talking to a new person.

Also, I'm trying to put a leash on the vulgarity, thats Mags and Randys territory.

boomkatalog

boomkatalog wrote: »

I think I'm mostly the same. Maybe just a little bit braver about making the first move with talking to a new person.

Also, I'm trying to put a leash on the vulgarity, thats Mags and Randys territory.

Them boys do love vulgarity...and leashes.

Maguined

boomkatalog wrote: »

I think I'm mostly the same. Maybe just a little bit braver about making the first move with talking to a new person.

Also, I'm trying to put a leash on the vulgarity, thats Mags and Randys territory.

At your age I was shy, quiet and insecure. You are far more vulgar than I will ever be, Captain Awesome would also agree with me to prove the point.

FewFew

Boomkat does have a talent for the vulgar and the flirt. Shame about her face.

boomkatalog

Fewcifur wrote: »

Boomkat does have a talent for the vulgar and the flirt. Shame about her face.

Nice :pac:

Wait til you meet me and Im drunk, sarcasm and filth awaits.

FewFew

boomkatalog wrote: »

Nice :pac:

Wait til you meet me and Im drunk, sarcasm and filth awaits.

You're a nurse shark swimming with great whites lady, but at least you're swimming :cool:

boomkatalog

Fewcifur wrote: »

You're a nurse shark swimming with great whites lady, but at least you're swimming :cool:

Challenge accepted! :cool:

FewFew

boomkatalog wrote: »

Challenge accepted! :cool:

Ok, but, ya gotsta admit that was a pretty bad ass line! I just came up with that! God I'm good. I should write **** like that down for a time when I have to pen a cool Tarrantino-esque action movie!

stupidusername

Fewcifur wrote: »

You're much meaner in real life. Like, online I always assume you've just forgotten to apply a smilie face, but in real life I can seeeeeeee you're not using a smiley face. Oh lord the memories!?

:pac:

I'm not really mean though am I? I don't use so many smileys cause I feel I over use them... hmmm

boomkatalog wrote: »

I think I'm mostly the same. Maybe just a little bit braver about making the first move with talking to a new person.

Also, I'm trying to put a leash on the vulgarity, thats Mags and Randys territory.

*ahem, cough*

Abi

cyberwolf77 wrote: »

I hope you will allow me to be serious for a moment here. Lately I has been pondering the mask I present to the real world as opposed to the one I wear when here. So, I be curious people, is your online persona different from your real-life personality?

cyberwolf77 wrote: »

Oddly enough, I tend to be more outgoing online. In person I tend to be quite standoffish towards people.

cyberwolf77 wrote: »

My coworkers have spread rumors that I must be a serial killer. You know, it's always the quiet one.......

Absolutely no emoticons. The cyberwolf I know and love.. long time no see, my friend.

I'm pretty much the same online/RL. A nice person to nice people, but with the ability to be cúnt if someone crosses me ,or is a complete dick to anyone else.

cyberwolf77

Abi wrote: »

Absolutely no emoticons. The cyberwolf I know and love.. long time no see, my friend.

I'm pretty much the same online/RL. A nice person to nice people, but with the ability to be cúnt if someone crosses me ,or is a complete dick to anyone else.

Sorry, I not a very emotive person.

Abi

cyberwolf77 wrote: »

Sorry, Im an emo :pac:

I see.

cyberwolf77

I am an anti-emo!:mad::mad:*



















*I used to cut other people

entropi

I would figure that I'm mostly the same in an online persona as I am in RL...I just talk alot more when I've some alcohol in me lol.

Otis Driftwood

micayla wrote: »

When it comes to opinions and my personality I'm the same offline as I am online. But offline I can be much shyer, I tend to stand away from crowds. Most people think I'm standoffish but it's just that I'm not big on being in the centre of a crowd, I prefer to watch people. (not in the creepy sense, I just find it interesting to watch how people interact with others, body language etc.) It also takes me a bit longer to be comfortable with people offline.

This would pretty much sums me up.When I meet new people I am quite shy and usually feel a bit self concious.Im totally different with my circle of friends like my housemates though,ie a filthy bastard.:pac:

entropi

+1 to micayla and Otis's statements. I do seem to be pretty much the same online/offline as I stated earlier...but I will need to meet someone at least twice before I feel comfortable enough around them to totally chill and be at ease (incidentally, it takes me meeting someone twice to remember their name and face, odd...I know).

StereoLove

I think I'm a bit quieter in RL, and when I'm on the internet I tend to be a bit more outgoing.

cyberwolf77

StereoLove wrote: »

I think I'm a bit quieter in RL, and when I'm on the internet I tend to be a bit more outgoing.

+1 to this. I tend to be more close-mouthed in RL meself.

Dord

The slogan is quite apt actually. :pac:

Dord

Maguined wrote: »

Now that I think about it, I keep telling everyone I am an asshole but they keep saying that I am really a nice guy just pretending to be an asshole.

So my evil plan is working as I really am an asshole pretending to be a nice guy pretending to be an asshole.

Victory is mine!

I'm an asshole pretending to be a niceguy who's pretending to be an asshole. :pac:

jokettle

Master of Nothing wrote: »

+1 to micayla and Otis's statements. I do seem to be pretty much the same online/offline as I stated earlier...but I will need to meet someone at least twice before I feel comfortable enough around them to totally chill and be at ease (incidentally, it takes me meeting someone twice to remember their name and face, odd...I know).

Glad I'm not the only one! This was especially prominent at the only boards beers I went to; trying to remember real names and usernames and match both to faces was a nightmare! Thankfully the cocktails were flowing, so I stopped caring too much

Delirium

According to people that know me outside of my interweb life, there's a lot of stuff that was unknown until they saw my facebook/twitter postings.

I think its like I'm at a certain setting offline and I'm dialled up more online. More willing to get involved in discussions or throw out an opinion/joke about something.

entropi

jokettle wrote: »

Glad I'm not the only one! This was especially prominent at the only boards beers I went to; trying to remember real names and usernames and match both to faces was a nightmare! Thankfully the cocktails were flowing, so I stopped caring too much

This wont be handy whenever we do meet, but the time after that:pac:

Then again, drinks flow and all that;)

Queen-Mise

Oooohh this is really annoying. I was thinking about this thread the other night going to sleep and there was something I meant to ask you Wolf - and now it is gone completely out of my head.

It is an interesting question - can we actually put on a mask. Is there such a thing? Are we not showing another aspect/part of ourself as opposed to something that is entirely fictitious. A mask would imply we are concealing part/or all of our personality, character or intentions etc.

I think that is enough bullsh*t out of me :pac:

cyberwolf77

Queen-Mise wrote: »

Oooohh this is really annoying. I was thinking about this thread the other night going to sleep and there was something I meant to ask you Wolf - and now it is gone completely out of my head.

It is an interesting question - can we actually put on a mask. Is there such a thing? Are we not showing another aspect/part of ourself as opposed to something that is entirely fictitious. A mask would imply we are concealing part/or all of our personality, character or intentions etc.

I think that is enough bullsh*t out of me :pac:

I must think on this.

Queen-Mise

Queen-Mise wrote: »

It is an interesting question - can we actually put on a mask. Is there such a thing? Are we not showing another aspect/part of ourself as opposed to something that is entirely fictitious. A mask would imply we are concealing part/or all of our personality, character or intentions etc.

I think that is enough bullsh*t out of me :pac:

Hi Queen-Mise,

I'd imagine the most common mask people put on would be the 'everything is alright' one. A lot of people don't want to talk about their problems when people show concern. One difference, for me, between being on here and RL is that I'd generally be more open about being unhappy here.

In RL I'd avoid any questions on how things are going with me and instead try crack a joke or move the conversation back onto what the person I'm talking to has going on at the time.

It is possible that the above is just another aspect of my personality, a fairly recent one at that, but I guess I'd call wearing a mask when we are concealing a different mood to the one ww are outwardly portraying.

...or something.

ToniTuddle

Well for me I'm pretty much like what I am online!

• Can talk to anyone about utter crap (eg My conversation with Few the first night I met him about the most awesome refil pad I had bought few days before :pac:)
• Have got a temper and can get riled up mostly about animal cruelty or more likely if someone I know is in trouble or some drunk twat trying to start a fight with an innocent person/general acting the eejit! Stand up for people waaaaay too easily at times. Should let them fight their own battles.
• If I am a little bit nervous my talking goes into overdrive or I become quite silent(miracles do happen) :pac:
• Been told when I meet people I can carry on/talk as if I've known them all my life and some have a problem with that thinking it's a bit odd! Ooops!

Definitely like to please people(no dirty jokes ) like....if they are happy then I am happy. So that's why I like making folks smile or do nice wee thoughtful things for them or feel good about themselves as then I feel good! Sometimes I can't help myself like even if they have annoyed me and I see something they would like in a shop...I'd still go buy it for them >.< If that makes sense. Though that has gotten me into situations where folks(friends/dudes) have used that to their advantage.

As for the mask aspect, if this counts then yes I would definitely put on a smile and act happy even though things would be crumbling around me. Nobody would ever have a clue. Been drummed into me as a kid so hard habit to break. It's severely draining though. Getting tired in my old age so anymore I either stay in or avoid the situation somehow.

EDIT: With regards different groups of friends....I don't think I change very much between them just that they are into different music scene/fashion/lifestyle compared to other groups of mates....that kind of way. While me I've no fashion sense at all they have long since given up on me so don't care what I wear :pac: