How important are looks to you?

Idunnolol

DONT LIE!!!

I'm just asking, as an uggo I'm curious.

Sanjuro

A thing of beauty is a joy to behold, for sure. Nobody's going to be with someone they find physically repulsive. So looks do play into how we're attracted to someone. Anybody who says otherwise isn't being honest.

For me, they're definitely important. I want to be attracted to the girl I'm with. But they're not the most important thing at all. I've gone out with two really beautiful, and (what I'd have thought) out of my league girls. But they really had awful personalities. The relationships didn't last longer than a couple of months before we broke up. So looks are important, but personality trumps them. Looks fade. Personalities endure.

alexa5x5

Honestly, very important, I do every thing within my power to make sure I look my best at all times. I’m not a confidant person so if I don’t feel like I look well I feel $hit.
I know this doesn’t make sense, but I’m not a shallow person. My desire to look good comes from my own low self esteem; I don’t think others are even aware of the effort I put in. And I definitely don’t expect others to make the same affords.

Faith

Looks are important to everyone. But what each person considers "attractive" is completely different from the next person. I was showing a friend a picture of a guy that I think is absolutely gorgeous, and her response was "Meh, I suppose". I think he's so good-looking that I can't imagine him ever being interested in me, but she thought he was run-of-the-mill.

So a person might perceive themselves as being ugly, but someone else might think you're gorgeous. Everyone has different tastes and types, and there'll always be someone out there who thinks you're gorgeous.

G86

Looks are important, and anyone who denies that is lying.

BUT, being attracted to someone, and just acknowledging that they're good looking are two completely different things. For example, I can see that Brad Pitt is a good looking guy - but he doesn't exactly make me go weak at the knees.

Idunnolol

Faith wrote: »

Looks are important to everyone. But what each person considers "attractive" is completely different from the next person. I was showing a friend a picture of a guy that I think is absolutely gorgeous, and her response was "Meh, I suppose". I think he's so good-looking that I can't imagine him ever being interested in me, but she thought he was run-of-the-mill.

So a person might perceive themselves as being ugly, but someone else might think you're gorgeous. Everyone has different tastes and types, and there'll always be someone out there who thinks you're gorgeous.

The last sentence of your post in not true.

G86

Idunnolol wrote: »

The last sentence of your post in not true.

Yes, it is.

coffee_cake

OP, whatever about looks, a constant self-deprecating and negative attitude is very draining and an absolute turnoff.

Idunnolol

G86 wrote: »

Yes, it is.

There's plenty of people with an in-your-face type of ugly. I know one man retirment age that has never had a girlfriend/wife and never had sex without paying for it. He looks like a monkey. Point is, it is possible to be so ugly that no one will ever be attracted to you, VERY possible.

G86

bluewolf wrote: »

OP, whatever about looks, a constant self-deprecating and negative attitude is very draining and an absolute turnoff.

Exactly. A bit of confidence goes a long way when it comes to attractiveness.

Sanjuro

G86 wrote: »

Yes, it is.

+1

In fact there's more than 'someone.' There's plenty of people who'll think you're gorgeous, even if you don't. Absolutely everyone has different tastes. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder is true.

G86

Idunnolol wrote: »

There's plenty of people with an in-your-face type of ugly. I know one man retirment age that has never had a girlfriend/wife and never had sex without paying for it. He looks like a monkey. Point is, it is possible to be so ugly that no one will ever be attracted to you, VERY possible.

No, that's simply YOUR definition of ugly. You can't possibly comment on the rest of the population.

Töpher

Idunnolol wrote: »

There's plenty of people with an in-your-face type of ugly. I know one man retirment age that has never had a girlfriend/wife and never had sex without paying for it. He looks like a monkey. Point is, it is possible to be so ugly that no one will ever be attracted to you, VERY possible.

Is it not more likely that he's got some stupidly high standard and won't go near a woman that did find him attractive because he didn't find her attractive enough?

Idunnolol

G86 wrote: »

No, that's simply YOUR definition of ugly. You can't possibly comment on the rest of the population.

Everyone finds him ugly, he has a lifetime of loneliness to prove it.

G86

Idunnolol wrote: »

Everyone finds him ugly, he has a lifetime of loneliness to prove it.

Some people choose to be single. Are you single? Does that mean you're ugly?

Idunnolol

G86 wrote: »

Some people choose to be single. Are you single? Does that mean you're ugly?

I'm single because I'm ugly, among many more reasons I'm sure.

dark crystal

Idunnolol wrote: »

Everyone finds him ugly, he has a lifetime of loneliness to prove it.

But is he funny, or charming, or kind, or intelligent?

Many people will look past a not so handsome face, if what's inside is more attractive.

Eviledna

Take trolls for example.

Some people thought they were ugly, others popped them on the end of their pencil because they were cute.

Maybe you should ask yourself the motivation of your post. If you are in fact a confirmed "uggo" and believe that beauty is not in the eye of the beholder...why would you care if it matters to others?

Wibbs

As a male "uggo" the Ladies lounge is not the place to be asking for advice. maybe have a read of the charter before starting another thread. Closed.