Friend's Ages

reap-a-rat

Hey all !

Just decided to run a poll here to see what its like for other people. I'm looking to see what age people you would hang around with, chat to, tell problems too, help out and just be a good friend too!

I'm 20 myself, and I have a fair spread of people I call friends, some much closer and better friends than others. Most of them are around my own age, we'll say 18-22, but I also have a couple of fairly good friends who are in their 30s.

I always find, as you get older, age doesn't seem to matter as far as intimate or platonic relationships are concerned. What are yer thoughts on ages of friends? Do you have a problem with a 30 year old befriending a 60 year old? Or are you an "age doesn't matter" type (within reason, of course, as in its different when someone is under 16:o!)

almostnever

I'm only 18 so most of my friends are 18 or 19. A few in their twenties though, actually some of my best friends are in their twenties. I think as I get older I'll be more open to friendships with people in their thirties but at the moment, not so much.

whydoibother?

I think as you get older it changes because people's life paths become more individual and they do different things at different ages e.g. at school you're all pretty much the same age, in college there will be a few who are older due to doing other things before going. In work, all different ages in the office. The more people of different ages you naturally encounter, the more range there will be in the ages of your friends.

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Asphyxia

I get on with anyone no matter what age. My friends are either 2+ years older and a year younger.

daenerysstormborn3

I'm 23, 24 in a few months and two of my closest friends are 31 and 49. Others are late 20s/early 30s and 40s. Only have 2 friends the same age as me.

My boyfriend is 11 years older than me.

I tend to just gravitate towards people older than me.

Das Kitty

I'm 30. Most of my friend's are the same age. I have some friends who are in their early 20s and a few in their late 30s early 40s and I have a 2 friends in their sixties and one who is 72.

jubella

All of my friends are within 2 years of my age (20)
Tbh I don't really meet many new people outside of that age bracket.

allandanyways

I'm 20 (and hate being reminded of it because I don't feel it at all) and my two best friends are 24 and 32. Despite us having very different lives (particularly the latter), we get on fantastically and I never notice the age difference. Most of my friends are 22/23/24/25 and the guy that I'm seeing at the minute is 28. I have that stereotypical "old head on young shoulders" kind of personality and don't feel or act my age at all. I've already finished a degree and dealt with a lot personally in my (nearly) 21 years and the way a lot of 20 year olds carry on really bothers me.

I recently spent time with some friends I have my own age that I hadn't seen in a while and they actually irritated me to a certain degree with the way that they go on, all about partying and boys/girls and "omg did you hear the latest gossip/i was sooooo twisted on jaegerbombs the other night, got sick all over my house it was SO funny"

I love my friends to bits and wouldn't change the fact that they're all older than me, even if they are oul ones in comparison to myself :cool:

Birdie086

I am 29, i have two proper circles of friends,
group one happen to be schoolfriends - but we really didnt hang around together till after after school leaving age. These are lifelong - all around age, attend each others special days, dont need contact on a regular basis but have that instant feel good factor of being around someone you have a connection with and know really well.
group two is a smaller group - we make up the three amigos, been through a hell of a lot together in the last six years - they are but in their mid thirties.
Another very good of mine is my manager in work, we get on extremely well, she will be 60 this year, and is my fairy godmother at times.
In my opinion as you get older numbers dont matter, be around those who are good to be around.
I am very lucky to have a lot of good friends and have a great support network, that said I am not naive, I have cut out a few neg influences,

Up-n-atom!

I think it just changes as you get older. I have a couple of different groups of friends, and friends from school and college are very close to my age (26), as would be expected. My friends from work/travelling/other places would have a bit more variety in age (from 4-7 years older/younger up to 35 years+ older). After you leave school or college, you're not necessarily going to meet people the exact same age as you in places where you come into contact with the same people continuously (work etc), but in those circles you're often likely to meet people who have the same interests or routine so you click on that basis.

mariebeth

I'm 27 and I've a few friends my own age, but I've lots of very good friends who are up to 5 years younger than me, and a few who are older as well. To be honest, I think it just depends on who you are and whether you get on with a person rather than age. When you're younger and in school you tend to meet people around your own age but once you leave and go to college and work, you'll end up meeting a lot of different people of all ages, and it just depends on whether you click or not and become friends.

reap-a-rat

Its cool to hear others experiences of this! I just find with a lot of my school friends they tend to confine themselves to meeting people their own age a lot, whereas as someone else said I'm more concerned with getting on with a person than how old they are! I suppose I was always told I was mature for my age, so maybe that's it ! I love it anyway, and I love hearing experiences from my older friends, they've lived life for 10-15 years OUTSIDE of an educational environment, and its lovely to hear stories like, "When I was working in the hospital..." or "When I visited Peru...". I guess it makes the prospect of real life less scary and unknown for me !

LegacyUser

I'm 19 and have friends that range from around 16 up to...God knows what age! I have a lot of friends in their 20s and 30s but also 40+.

Most of my friends however, are 18/19/20/21 from school, college etc.

At the end of the day, age doesnt really matter but I do feel sorry for people who only have friends which are one or two years older/younger than themselves. Sorry if that came across arrogant or whatever! But I get along just as well if not better with my older friends.

Lia_lia

Most of my friends at home are 3-4 years older than me. Except my college friends who are the same age as me/younger.

Chuchoter

I'm one of the oldest out of my friends, but most of them are between 15 and 18

Contessa Raven

I'm the oldest out of my close friends. I'm 23 in a couple of months. Most of them are just hitting 21. My boyfriend just turned 25 and his friends are between 24 and 28. We tend to socialise with one group at a time unless there's a big party. I like that I can go out with my friends and party and be giddy and immature and then hang out with my bf and his friends and chill out and be a bit more grown up!

G86

I'm 24, and the majority or my mates would be older - in their late 20's/early thirties, it's just always been that way really.

coffee_cake

I'm the youngest, always the youngest. Weird being around people my own age :pac: makes less of a difference these days though as I get older

Dudess

Most of my friends are in their early 30s (same age bracket as myself) but I have friends aged from early 20s to early 40s.

magneticimpulse

Im 30. I think my youngest friendt at the moment is 24, then its 27 (will be 2 x 28 next month). There is a huge difference with the 24 year old...its only a 6 year age gap but he is so childish. Our group goes along with it, because we know its more or less because of his age that he acts like a school boy.

Then the rest of my friends are 32, 34, 36,2 x 38, 40 and 45 and 50.

The unusal thing about it is...before i had friends of that age group because of my job. But now none of the friends are from work and are all from meetup.com

(im not counting school friends, uni friends or ex colleagues in that list...these are the people i currently living in the same city in at the moment)

mollybird

ya i guess when i think about it, half my friends are around the same age as me but then i have friends from college and work who are about 10 years younger than me.

i'm 30 and i love hearing the stories in work bout how i night out in town went for them and remembering what i was like when i was in my early 20's.

Most of my friends are older, my closest friends are 5 - 10 yrs older.

Azureus

Most of my friends would be early-mid 20's but Ive a good few in their late 20's. I socialise with people from work etc a lot in their late 30's/early 40's but they would be more colleagues than friends..

Pythia

I'm 25 and my friends would be between 24 and 27. Pretty much everyone in work is within that age group and the same in my old job.

When I was in college I had an older boyfriend though and my friends would have been older than me then. Perhaps 23 or 24 when I was 19.

Overall, I think my friends on average would be slightly older than younger.

Cupcake_Crisis

I have a few friends pushing 30, and a few only hitting 20 now. Im 21 myself, so the majority are between 20-24. I variety It doesnt really matter, i have fun with them all!

partyndbs

21 and my best friends are 19 and 17. just how it worked out live in same estate.